https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell A few key things to a good relationship and healthy traits en-us 2018-09-10 22:16:01 UTC 2026-01-30 22:46:46 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/icons/Shakinghands.png jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279637088 If you give 90% in the relationship and the still treat you like rubage it isn't working. 
If you give your all to make this work then that should go both ways and they should be trying too. 
If anyone cares about you at all they would be respectful and want to keep you in their life. Keep that in mind when venturing into any relationship. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:21:42 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279637088 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639043 You should never feel unsafe around your partner and if you do then something is wrong. 
If yo feel like this, reflect on this relationship an make sure you have good interactions and that you trust and are okay with being around this person or people. 
An example of an unhealthy trait is your partner pressuring you into sex or doing other things that you are uncomfortable doing but they don't respect that.]]> 2018-09-10 22:36:47 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639043 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639103 If your partner ever hits you then you should GET OUT. 
No fight should ever escalate to where someone hits you or uses words that personally wound you. 
It is abuse and no matter how many times they poligize and say they can change they will always be an abuser. 
In times like these, know that it is time to listen to your family and friends opinions about how you need to leave that toxic relationship. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:37:16 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639103 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639170 When fighting be able to compromise, but stand up for yourself.
Actively listen to the other person(s) side.
Don't think their needs are above your own. 
Check out this resource about conflict resolution ]]> 2018-09-10 22:37:32 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639170 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639244 Just as the good times should outweigh the bad the time spent with one another should be enjoyable. 
Don't feel you owe anyone anything. 
You are your own person and can enjoy your time with some and not others. Be able to recognize this fact and keep you relationships healthy. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:38:03 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639244 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639335 You should be able to lean on you other half. 
The people in the relationship should want to hold the other person up not bring them down. 
Be able to extend a hand down to bring others up and not just stand on them to bring yourself up. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:38:52 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639335 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639368 Don't just have someone which you just talk about yourself to. 
Always keep in mind they have a life too and have some of the same struggles that you do and want to talk about it just as much as you do. 
Be an active listener and be genuinely involved in one another's lives, don't just wait to talk. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:39:07 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639368 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639609 Don't merge everything together. 
Have your own email or bank account so you don't have to worry about theft or an overprotective person hiding important info from you. 
You must be your own person and that involves having your own things. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:41:11 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639609 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639636 Have faith that your partner can go out and have a good time without cheating on you or do anything that will hurt themselves or others. 
There should never be a time when you can't trust your partner with sensitive information. 
When you do intimate activities with them you should be comfortable and confident in their character to where you trust them with this stuff. 
More information on Trust and its important in the link below]]> 2018-09-10 22:41:25 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639636 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639671 Don't hide things from your partner. 
The truth might hurt but when it comes out later it will hurt more then. 
Be able to talk about the hard stuff or your relationship won't go anywhere. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:41:37 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639671 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639884 You should trust whoever you are involved and allow for them to go out and be their own person. 
Have more then one person in your life so you have outlets and other things to look forward to in your life. 
If your partner tells you they are going out with their friends and you prominently refuse because you are jealous and want them for yourself then this relationship isn't good for wither of you. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:42:40 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639884 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639988 You can't keep things hidden about past relationships. 
You need to tell your partners about past sexual relationships and anything that hurt them. 
The importance of telling your partner what goes on in day to day life so you're both kept in the loop about each other's lives. 
This link will explain in more detail how important this is]]> 2018-09-10 22:43:20 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279639988 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279640155 If you hear way too much hate about your relationships you should think about if this is good for you. 
Other people have an outside view and can give you different and influential information. 
Take in advice but be able to not care about what some say but don't always completely disregard what they say ]]> 2018-09-10 22:44:21 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279640155 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279640222 You should think back on the times you have spent with these people and know for sure these interactions are mainly positive. 
You can't get away from all fights but be sure those are in the minority. 
You shouldn't hate  to see your friends or partner. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:44:43 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279640222 jcriswell21 https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279640307 Just as you can have relationships with people, having a good relationship with things that can hurt you is vital too. 
Alcohol is a drug and should be treated as such but within our society alcohol is treated as something minor, but be aware of the damage it can do and keep that in mind when you are drinking. 
Other drugs are something that all should be wary about and even if it makes you feel better, know that the feeling will not last and you will be left in the dust with an addiction. 
Stay educated about the effects drugs can have on you and the proper way to handle them. 
Most of the time the overuse of these things is a cry for help, so don't be afraid to reach out. ]]> 2018-09-10 22:45:18 UTC https://padlet.com/jcriswell21/FACS_allysoncriswell/wish/279640307