Conflict Resolution by Cikgu Zai

Discuss about the scenario.

dianmalaynium — 2025-03-04 09:28:05 UTC

Imagine you are the my son (DM) in the scenario. How would you resolve the conflict with me? Discuss the following questions in groups and write down your ideas on the padlet. Be prepared to share your answers with the class.

1) What do you think are your mother’s concerns and feelings?

2) What are your needs and feelings?

3) What kind of “I” statements could you use to describe your needs and feelings?

4) What are some possible solutions to resolve this conflict?

Group 1 (Harshika, Eesha, Alyssa and Kaylea)

2025-03-06 01:01:58 UTC

I think that the mother felt worried and concerned about the son’s safety and his discipline.

Group 4

2025-03-06 01:02:05 UTC

Mdm Zaidah was concerned bout her son’s safety and was angry that her son did not not tell her that he was coming home late. He stayed past his curfew. He did not mention his whereabouts and was very irresponsible.

Group 2

2025-03-06 01:02:17 UTC

I think my mother is concerned about why i am staying out so late and who i am with at night because she is scared that i might be in danger

Group 3

2025-03-06 01:02:26 UTC

My mother would be hesitant why I would be staying out so late, as specially because it is exam season. She may also be concerned about my safety and wellbeing.

Grp 7 Reanne, Iffah, Aadhya, Nicole

2025-03-06 01:02:59 UTC

mdm Zaidah feels very worried because it was already 12am, which is her son’s curfew and he wasn’t back yet.

Group 5(Sarah, Kaitlyn, Verabelle, Victoria)

2025-03-06 01:03:35 UTC

Her concerns are whether her son is okay, what is he doing, who is he with? This is because she wants to know that he is well especially because it’s late at night and could be dangerous and he did not say where he went.

Group6

2025-03-06 01:03:50 UTC

i think she really cares for her son and just wants her son to be safe. She is afraid something might have happened to him as it was already very late

Iris, Cleo, Nova and Emily

2025-03-06 01:04:00 UTC

Mdm Zaidah would be very worried and she would be overthinking different scenarios about the safety of her son. She would be also worried about her son’s discipline

Group 1 (Harshika, Eesha, Alyssa and Kaylea)

2025-03-06 01:04:05 UTC

Needs:

Quality time with friends

Vent to friends about frustrations

Feelings:

Confined to rules

Frustrated

Group 10 (Luanne, Kimberly, Manognya)

2025-03-06 01:04:07 UTC

-I am sorry that I vented out my frustrations on you but I hope that my efforts in apologising will be seen and understood

-I hope you will talk to me about your feelings so we can better understand each others perspective

-I felt defensive when you started accusing me and it felt like an interrogation so instead of trying to see from your perspective, I lashed out and I’m sorry.

Group 4

2025-03-06 01:04:10 UTC

The son needed space because he is 18 and he feels happy around his friends because they might have relieved his stress from his school work. He needs his mother to understand that.

Group 9 - Hannah, Yun Qi, Faith

2025-03-06 01:04:17 UTC

I think my mother would be worried for my well-being and safety as it is already very late and sleeping late could cause you to fall sick and hanging outside too late could also result in accidents or endanger your safety.

Group 2

2025-03-06 01:05:12 UTC

I needed personal time and space with myself to study without distractions, i also want to spend time with my friends so that we can catch up on each other. I was feeling annoyed and hurt because i feel that my parents dont understand me.

Group 5(Sarah, Kaitlyn, Verabelle, Victoria)

2025-03-06 01:05:21 UTC

The son needs his own personal time and heart to heart talks that he has with his friends, for support and consolation. So that he does not crash out and can express his emotions in a responsible way. Also because he is a teenager and wants his own things, freedom

group 1

2025-03-06 01:05:46 UTC

i feel regretful for staying back so late, and i feel bad for going over the curfew
i feel apologetic
i feel that i need quality time with my friends, as i am at an age where i have a lot of frustration

Group 3

2025-03-06 01:05:55 UTC

Sometimes I need personal space to study with my friends and have heart to heart talks with my friends because I find it hard to open up freely with my parents. I would feel stressed during this exam season and need support. I would also feel hurt that my parents did not trust me to handle my time well.

Group 7 Iffah, Reanne, Aadhya, Nicole

2025-03-06 01:06:13 UTC

“I feel bad for not being cooperative with my mum and not being home on time”

“I feel worried as my mum has not talked to me for a really long time”

“I have tried many ways to apologise to my mum to resolve the conflict”

Group 10 (Luanne, Kimberly, Manognya)

2025-03-06 01:06:19 UTC

-I would like to talk to you about it

-I hope you can understand me

-maybe we can make it up to each other

Group 9 - Hannah, Yun Qi, Faith

2025-03-06 01:06:34 UTC

I feel very stressed and suffocated as I am already 18 and you are still treating me like a child. I can handle myself and sometimes I just want to spend time with my friends to make more connections and strengthen my relationships with them.

Group 4

2025-03-06 01:06:36 UTC

I need space,l want you to understand my needs

I am sorry l did not tell you about my whereabouts as l know you might have been really worried.I was really stressed l did not realise l had not texted you as l was locked in.

I love you!

group1

2025-03-06 01:07:16 UTC

son should apologise to his mother and have a heart to heart talk with each other. in the future, son can update mother about his whereabouts so that she is less worried about him and knows he’s safe. so this way, they understand each others perspectives.

Group 8 (Iris, Nova, Emily, Cleo)

2025-03-06 01:07:16 UTC

The son was upset because he needed space and he was also offended because his rants were left on read and ignored. He also annoyed that his mother thinks that he is doing something else other than studying.

Group 6

2025-03-06 01:07:22 UTC

I am sorry that I crashed out

I hope that you would understand my feelings

I think that you would open up to me more often

Group 7 Iffah, Reanne, Aadhya, Nicole

2025-03-06 01:07:42 UTC

I feel stressed because I need to study, and I also want to talk heart to heart with my friends and parents, however my parents are not there when I need them so I went pout to talk to my friends.

Group 2

2025-03-06 01:07:52 UTC

-I’m sorry for not updating you about where i am and why i came home so late.

-i stayed out late because i was studying with my friends. I shouldn’t have ranted to you when you were only concerned with my safety. Please forgive me!!! I love you mom ❤️

Group 3

2025-03-06 01:08:17 UTC

-I am upset that my parents did not trust me

-I need my personal space

-I felt frustrated when they were questioning me because I felt like I didn’t do anything wrong

-I feel sad that you are ignoring me and would like to resolve matters

Group 4

2025-03-06 01:08:25 UTC

Both parties can have a truce and they can set boundaries between themselves.They can also apologise to each other and specifically the son first.They can talk it out and express their concerns and worries.They can spend time together more.

Group 5 ( Sarah, Kaitlyn, Verabelle, Victoria )

hanisaquokka143 — 2025-03-06 01:09:00 UTC

I am sorry for not updating you when I should have
I understand that you are concerned for my safety and think something might go wrong
I felt very frustrated as I was trying to have a heart to heart talk with amsyar. Hence, I felt defensive as you thought I was doing something wrong.
I understand that me crashing out is an unreasonable thing to do as you were just concerned
I hope that you can forgive me for my actions and start talking to me again.

Group6

2025-03-06 01:09:15 UTC

they could talk to each other an open up their expectations of each other and I hope that we could talk to each other instead of ignoring so that we don’t outburst on our feelings

Group 7 Iffah, Reanne, Aadhya, Nicole

2025-03-06 01:09:22 UTC

Have a heart to heart conversation with each other, to resolve the problem.

Group 10 (Luanne, Kimberly,Manognya)

2025-03-06 01:09:23 UTC

-she was concerned about me coming back so late

-worried about my safety

-she was worried about her child going down the wrong path, getting hurt and doing things he will regret in the future

Group 2

2025-03-06 01:09:38 UTC

apologise
Try to understand her point of view
Talk it out and tell her how you feel

Group6

2025-03-06 01:09:47 UTC

Son was out with his friends studying and might have felt upset when his mother kept nagging at him. I think son wanted his own personal space with his friends as it is his exam period and might be feeling very stressed. Maybe he just wanted someone to talk to

Group 9 Hannah, Yunqi, Faith

2025-03-06 01:09:51 UTC

-I’m sorry that I came home past curfew but I needed a breather

-I feel too controlled

-I’m growing and I have things I want to do as well

-I feel stressed because I have so much to do

-I know you trust me not to do any funny things and I won’t do it

Group 3

2025-03-06 01:10:09 UTC

-try to talk about feelings instead of ignoring the situation and beating around the bush.

-have a one on one talk to avoid future misunderstandings.

-try to talk more freely and be more open with parents.

Iris, Cleo, nova, emily

2025-03-06 01:10:29 UTC

-I am sorry for not informing you that I am coming home late and making you worried

-however I want you to understand that I need space too and have my own needs

-I feel sad that you have ignored my rants and that you do not trust me.

Group 5(Sarah, Kaitlyn, Verabelle, Victoria)

2025-03-06 01:10:40 UTC

I think to resolve the solutions, the son can talk with his family during dinner, start with small conversations than go into the topic.

I think that tactical way to resolve the problem. Both parties can express how they feel. They can put themselves in each others shoes. This allows them to understand each otheres perspective

Group 10 (Luanne Kimberly manognya

2025-03-06 01:10:52 UTC

-I need her to understand why I was out late and I was not doing anything wrong

-I am old enough to make my own decisions

Group 9 Hannah, Yunqi, Faith

2025-03-06 01:10:53 UTC

-You can try to have a heart to heart talk with your parents to resolve it and you can also apologise to your parents for lashing out and promise that you will try to come home before 12am the next time you go out