2.     From my experience/perspective as (identity) ...

3.     I’m afraid I may offend someone, and please let know if I do, but ...

4.     It feels risky to say this and/but ... 

5.     I’m not sure if this will make any sense, and/but ...

6.     I just felt something shift in the room. I’m wondering if anyone else did.

7.     It seems as though some people may have had a reaction to that. Can you help me understand why?

8.     Can you help me understand whether what I’m thinking right now might be problematic?

9.     This is what I understand you to be saying: ... Is that accurate?

10.  I've been wondering about something since we started this discussion: ...

11.  I have always heard that ... . What is an anti-racist perspective on that? 

12.  The author is arguing that only whites can be racist (etc.) ... . Can you help me understand that?

13.  Is ... a good example of what the author was saying?

14.  How would you respond to ... from a social justice framework?

15.  I am having a “yeah but.” Can you help me work through it?

16.  Given the reality of inequitable power, how does ...? 

17.  How does ... affect relationships between ... ? 

18.  This perspective is new to me, but I’m wondering if it is accurate to say that ... ?