Cyber Bullying Reflection 2018 Group 2 by Nancy White https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2 What best practices stuck out to you after reading the articles from Stopcyberbullying.gov and Healthychildren.org? en-us 2018-02-04 16:10:15 UTC 2019-10-18 22:34:31 UTC hello@padlet.com Cyber Bullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239895181 I think that parents are afraid to "over-parent" which leads to children feeling that they have more freedom, or that their parents may not care or worry about what they (the kids) are doing. I think ensuring that there is face to face time with your child to truly discuss the day and their interactions that happen with other students and teachers is important.
Parents and teacher need to pay attention to the body language that children/students use when reading things on their device and step in when it is concerning. Parents and teachers are often very intutive when it comes to "reading" a child. I think sticking with your gut is important, especially when the is coming from a good place of wanting to ensure a childs wellbeing.]]> 2018-03-08 20:08:03 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239895181 Start with an open door policy and education. https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239913575 I am thinking of my own kids.  Before they have access to a phone, we talk about things to be wary of, and teach them things to look out for and when they should talk with an adult. I also thing it is important to establish and open door policy with your kids.... such as knowing their passwords and setting up the expectation that you may look at their posts, texts, etc. You care about them and watch out for them... even on the digital playground.

]]> 2018-03-08 20:46:59 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239913575 Let's start talking https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239915091 We have a new medium and a new outlet for communication and community like we have never seen before. Our digital natives are so very quick to swipe, like and reply that often we forget we need to teach them how to interact in this new space just as we teach guidance lessons. While I think the articles pointed out that parents need to have a strong pulse on what their children are doing online, I also believe that we can incorporate better support for students who are interacting online.  ]]> 2018-03-08 20:50:09 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239915091 I am just glad my kids are older and can effectively manage if they are bullied online. Even though they are in college, we have had discussions on cyber bullies. I think this happens even in the primary grades. Something to keep on my radar. https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239915734 2018-03-08 20:51:25 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239915734 Cyberbullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239917406 At times I feel strongly about preventing my own kids from having personal devices or phones, so seeing that one form of cyberbullying is the exclusion of kiddos who don't have devices made an impact on me. ]]> 2018-03-08 20:55:42 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239917406 Cyberbullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239920653 When my kids got cell phones we signed a contract that outlined the expectations we had of them and what they could expect from us. They knew from the start that we would be monitoring their texts and social media. With 7 years between my oldest and middle child I am amazed at how much more my high school student has to manage compared to just 7 years ago. I hear a lot from parents about their childrens' privacy. My children don't expect to have digital privacy, they need and expect me to help them navigate. They don't always recognize danger. Look how much I have learned today....and I am way beyond high school!]]> 2018-03-08 21:04:21 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239920653 https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239921485 What stuck with me is the sheer number of methods that are out there for children to be cyber bullied. I think often parents don't want to cross lines or lose their child's trust, and effectively "under parent" as stated above. This can lead to such damaging situations for children. They need our guidance and help in understanding how to navigate this cyber world.

]]> 2018-03-08 21:06:30 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239921485 Cyberbullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239922897 I worry that parents are so busy or online themselves that they do not monitor what their children do when online. I hope parents are becoming more diligent with their children and taking their online parenting role seriously.

]]> 2018-03-08 21:10:05 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239922897 Share real situations https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239929970 My husband and I converse with our kids about real life circumstances of bad use of technology impacting other people. This awareness of reality impacts their perceptions more than I can by myself.]]> 2018-03-08 21:30:13 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/239929970 Cyberbullying patty_kreidel https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/265779700 I knew cyberbullying was a problem but it's probably more widespread than I thought. My first reaction would be to take my childs device or delete accounts such as facebook. After reading the article, I see that is a bad idea. That only leads to the child feeling as if they are being punished. So, the solution is to have open communication with your child so they will hopefully tell you when this happens. We also need to teach about this in the schools so students are aware that what they say online is a permanent record and can cause great harm.]]> 2018-06-06 02:52:16 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/265779700 Cyberbullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/266218922 What struck me was they said not to take away the device or the access to where the child is being bullied, or the child may not want to share if it happens because they may feel that they are being punished. I never thought of it that way. It is interesting how different things can be interpreted, especially when I would want to take it away until the situation could be addressed and fixed, to stop the hurt for my child. We try hard to do all the things that are discussed as ways to help stop bullying from even starting, it is a non-stop though once your child has access to phones, facebook, etc. We follow the guidelines of age for different websites, like 14 for Facebook and monitor the phone conversations, but it is difficult as they are so smart and capable and able to add/delete things from the phone or site so that we cannot see, even though we had discussions about openness & not to delete etc. It is so hard to keep them safe and it is a constant in your face all the time possible occurrence. We restrict access in our home. No tech after a certain time and not in the rooms either.

]]> 2018-06-08 01:43:28 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/266218922 shannon_walker5 https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/266889778 The part of cyberstalking struck a cord with me. I had a student who had to have a police tracker put on her phone because anonymous threats were being made to her. Her school work deteriorated, she was so nervous, she even went to a mental facility. I have two young daughters (3 years and 1 year) and I worry about what the future will be like for them.]]> 2018-06-12 19:26:41 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/266889778 Cyber-bullying-Jordan Hoffert https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267108419 After reading the articles and watching the video on cyberbullying, I learned few new bits of information. 

In our school monthly newsletter we post information from Common Sense Media for familes. I loved how the Cyberbullying? article talked about not punishing the child by taking away their device. It is important that we teach them to communicate so they can get the proper help. I also liked how the article talked about making sure the parent was getting the support they needed in a difficult situation. 

I loved how they compared regular bullying with cyber-bullying. One area I don't think I send enough time on with my students is that one of the differences is that cyber-bullying allows for mean posts to be spread by not just the bullying. This way many people are becoming bullies. This is something that typically would not happen in a face to face bullying situation. ]]> 2018-06-13 23:30:41 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267108419 These points were made in the stopbullying.gov article on the reason why cyberbullying is such a problem: https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267229866 "Persistent – Digital devices offer an ability to immediately and continuously communicate 24 hours a day, so it can be difficult for children experiencing cyberbullying to find relief.
Hard to Notice – Because teachers and parents may not overhear or see cyberbullying taking place, it is harder to recognize." 
These points really stood out to me because there really is a hidden world online that kids become a part of, and if parents aren't keeping up with monitoring what their students are doing online, they can miss incredibly important hints and clues about the inner lives of their students. The students can also lose their "safe place" at home or in other social circles because they are always connected to the online community and the impression formed of them there.  I had a school group, a church group and a horseback riding group of friends when I was in high school.  Life was not great for me at school, but the people in the other groups had no access to the way I was treated at school and I found such freedom in having friends who didn't know me from that context.  It would be tough to deal with that overlap today!
]]> 2018-06-14 15:07:32 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267229866 Teach empathy first! sue138465 https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267430108 I am a strong believer in teaching empathy very early on. Teaching your child to treat others as they want to be treated is so important as well. The school should encourage anonymous reporting of cyber bullies. There should be a Zero tolerance policy for any racial remarks or sex remarks. Sexting should have criminal consequences. I really hope someday cell phones are banned from school property. ]]> 2018-06-16 06:10:22 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267430108 sue138465 https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267430233 H]]> 2018-06-16 06:18:30 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267430233 Cyberbullying - Jordia Moorman https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267470867 There were some new terms on the video that I was not aware of like fraping. Because I deal directly with issues stemming from cyberbullying almost on the daily, it is important for me to be as up-to-date on terms and actions via social media as pssoible. Sometimes I feel like I am always and will always be behind. Thankfully the students are more than willing to catch me up to speed on social media things that they may be struggling with so that I can better help them problem solve. The other piece that resonated in one of the articles was it being harder to recognize. I have lost count of the student's who come in and tell me that they have been experiencing cyberbullying for an extended period of time and no one knew becisse they had not disclosed. Often the reason is that if they tell it would make it worse OR they just wanted to handle it on their own. Until they couldn't. Always breaks my heart that they have been in anguish so long without help. 

]]> 2018-06-17 00:30:36 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267470867 Trying to reply to post, not working! Sigh. ( by Jordia Moorman) https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267471078 I had a parent come in concerned about her sons' iPad usage/dependence. They had decided to take his iPad away at night as we had suggested since he was on the device instead of sleeping. One night, the father woke up in time to look down from the bed and see this son belly-crawling on the floor in the middle of the night trying to retrieve his iPad from his parent's nightstand. From that point on, we made an agreement to have the student leave the iPad at school each night and have him pick it up before his first class each morning. It was just too much temptation for him even after setting up boundaries for at home screen time. Their house was reportedly much more peaceful after that decision was made. :)]]> 2018-06-17 00:40:21 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267471078 We all need to start treating others as we want to be treated. I feel that being on the computer and expressing your feelings is a false sense of privacy when in fact their is no true privacy online. https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267677974 2018-06-18 19:26:23 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267677974 CyberBullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267847954 After reading through the two resources provided it really stuck with me that involvement is key. Making your child feel that you are spying on them or just making sure they are doing the right thing isn't the right approach but rather taking the approach of protection and teaching has a greater impact. ]]> 2018-06-19 19:31:08 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267847954 Cyberbullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267866007 I really liked the article "Tips for Teachers" as it went through warning signs of children who are victims of cyberbullying and also provided tips on how to manage the situation. I definitely think kids need improved empathy skills to prevent bullying and better technology boundaries to not always have to be connected to social media. 

]]> 2018-06-19 23:13:38 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267866007 Connections - Autumn autumn_cave https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267882137 I have an 11 year old boy that is active in online gaming. We limit his list to friends we know (not even friends of friends). We have discussed grooming and how there are horrible people out there doing horrible things. At first, it was awkward to talk about these things, but over the last year it has become common place and part of the process of raising a digital native in my opinion. He also got his own phone for middle school. He does not have access to any social media. Although he pouts, we told him texting and online gaming with friends is enough right now. ]]> 2018-06-20 02:09:51 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267882137 Top 10 - Dawn Edgar https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267883802 The Top 10 Forms of cyberbullying was quite an eye opener for me. I had never known names for some of the mean things kids can do with cyberbullying so I think this was very informative and would be a quick and easy resource for kids and parents. ]]> 2018-06-20 02:26:02 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/267883802 Past and Today https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268009166 Just reading about cyberbullying makes me very thankful for the childhood I had.  Yes, I am dating myself, but when you live in the country and only have three tv stations you spend most of your free time reading and playing outside with dogs and horses. They don’t bully.  It is hard to imagine what my life would have been like growing up in today’s world.  ]]> 2018-06-20 21:29:45 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268009166 Cyberbullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268108630 I think the video was interesting because it let me know about types of cyberbullying that I wasn't aware of. Some I knew, but didn't know the name - like fraping. The video and the two articles really do a nice job of summing up what cyberbullying is. I also think it's interesting that we have seen such an increase in students with anxiety along with the evolution of social media. I wonder if there is a correlation between anxiety, social media, and cyberbullying?]]> 2018-06-21 14:12:53 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268108630 Temporary Tech https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268172777 By: Meredith Miller
It is so concerning that alot of the communication in tech can be "temporary" with kids...there is alot of posting, then editing, or deleting, that happens, and no matter what we do as teachers or as parents, some kids are going to take that opportunity to say what they won't in person and apps like SnapChat seem to help that along. 

]]> 2018-06-22 02:15:26 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268172777 Happened to Me ! https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268256898 I was cyber bullied a few years back.  I had made some posts on a neutral website, someone with a fake profile bullied me in the comments.  I ended up calling the police, deleting my posts, and getting away from social media. ]]> 2018-06-22 19:38:44 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268256898 Cyberbullying - Stacie https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268257625 It resonated with me that the rules for cyberbullying are actually similar to rules about bullying in the physical world. Much like slander and libel are illegal, it's important that students understand that they cannot damage someone else's reputation or make them feel unsafe by harassing them.  And, I always tell students that if they think this is just a "school" thing or because "teachers think it's important", that isn't true: you can be fired from a job, sued, or even encounter legal trouble as an adult for these same behaviors so they need to learn now how to behave appropriately online.  ]]> 2018-06-22 19:53:02 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268257625 Cyberbullying - Julie Schraml julie_schraml https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268258020 What really stood out to me was the number of students who report that they have experienced some form of cyberbullying in the past 12 months. 21% (1 out of 5 approximately) is way too many. What also scared me was that cyberbullying may not be covered under state bullying laws.

Cyberbullying can go viral in the blink of an eye, and can be a permanent fixture on the web. The victim and the bully can be affected by the event for a lifetime. It is terrifying to realize how much cyberbullying must go on that we are not even aware of due to the temporary and anonymous nature of some social media apps. So many children must be hurting that we don't even know.

I had also never heard of the term fraping- impersonating someone on their personal account. ]]> 2018-06-22 20:00:39 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268258020 Cyberbullying - Annette Mangan. Like others here, I was not aware of the term "fraping." My kids are growing up in an age when they never experienced what it was like without cell phones. This is a relatively new territory. However, keeping the lines of communication open with our children and really understanding their thoughts and feelings is huge. We need to be more aware of how they are being bombarded by media, including cyberbullying. I think sometimes we are afraid to ask our children because we don't want to intrude on privacy, but we can't afford NOT to talk to them about all forms of improper use of electronic media. Just like knowing who their friends are, where they are, and what they are doing, we need to know the same information concerning their phones--who they are talking to, what they are talking about, how they feel, etc. I am not above having my children turn in their phones and reading their texts, posts, etc. AND they know it because that is the stipulation for them to have a cell phone in the first place. https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268500572 2018-06-25 18:39:58 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/268500572 Cyberbullying diana_trainor1 https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/323210735 I believe this is so scary because students will hide behind technology and be much more cruel to others. Students might not tell their parents and it is much more hidden. So many students are experiencing cyberbullying and are feeling isolated. Very scary. 
-Diana]]> 2019-01-22 20:17:21 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/323210735 As a mom of teens https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/336631252  this concerns me a lot.  I am concerned with my child getting bullied and bullying.  It's just too easy.  

]]> 2019-02-28 20:26:03 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/336631252 Cyberbullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/346713560 It is important to teach kids about digital citizenship at an early age. I don't have any children myself, but being available for students to talk to me is important. What really stuck out is that it is hard to notice. It is important to keep in mind the signs and watch for changes in your students to determine if cyberbullying could be what is responsible for the changes. ]]> 2019-03-29 22:10:20 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/346713560 It's so important to monitor your child or teens use of technology and be able to have open conversations with them about it. It's so sad that other people think it's ok to cyberbully others this way. I think middle and high schools should have classes about this topic and places for students to reach out to if they are being cyber bullied. https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/346835802

]]> 2019-03-31 00:21:43 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/346835802 Cyber bullying--JH https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/377117410 I think parents need to take a lot of responsibility for their children.  Access to digital media allows for cyber bullying, setting healthy boundaries can help those being bullied as well as those bullying. Parents also need to set the appropriate example for behavior both on and off of digital media.

  I found the inclusion of exclusion as a type of cyber bullying as interesting.  It is a type of bullying that has always been there--making fun of other students because they don't have a certain brand of shoes or clothing--it's interesting to see this being addressed here.]]> 2019-08-26 14:35:47 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/377117410 Anonymity Doesn't do us any favors https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/377253264 Nuff said. People are going to do what they can get away with.]]> 2019-08-26 19:33:15 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/377253264 Cyberbullying is everywhere https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/387856597 I am continually shocked at how much time students spend online. A meme or TikTok video seems to go throughout middle and high schoolers almost immediately. I wish students would understand how quickly something that they say or do would be shared.]]> 2019-09-22 21:09:39 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/387856597 cyberbullying https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/391006846 As a parent, I need to be more aware of what applications my child has on their device and to monitor what is being received as well as what my child is putting out into the world. Being anonymous can be easier online and use of fake names can be more prevalent. The digital age is scarier now and we need to teach our youth proper digital etiquette.]]> 2019-09-29 13:26:26 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/391006846 torri_kling https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/397011062 As a younger teacher, I feel I have a greater understanding of the impacts of cyber bullying because I've been cyber bullied. It hurts when you're excluded from things online or when you're made fun of and feel like you have no recourse for what's going on. And as we all know, once something is on the internet, it lives forever. I'm lucky in that I've never been hurt badly online, and most of it was a joke, but I do have students who have been picked on relentlessly online. Technology is a great resource (and is one that will never go away), but the anonymity it affords makes it easier for cyber bulling to occur. ]]> 2019-10-12 17:17:22 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/397011062 The Takeaway https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/399757136 One thing that really stood out to me is not taking away the access for the one being bullied. I think it is natural to want to cut off access to the issues, but it is not the fault of person being bullied. Instead document and make sure to take action again the bully, not the victim. ]]> 2019-10-18 22:33:28 UTC https://padlet.com/nancy_white/CyberbullyingReflection2/wish/399757136