PerDev | October 11 by BB16 VELUZ, Emanuel Andrei M.

Restrained Voices

2023-10-11 13:19:14 UTC

Villaverde, Sofia Valerie E.
I had been so used to walking on eggshells around others that I couldn't spout hurtful words and break a civil relationship. I had been ignoring the voices in my mind for so long; it was growing tiresome. I'd remain tight-lipped, not minding that I was uncomfortable about it. If I were to be careful of something, it would be someone, myself. I want to strive to care about my inner peace more than I care about others' inner peace.

Empathy

2023-10-11 13:38:55 UTC

Being aware of others is something to consider more. Personally, self-awareness is something I've already mastered, but I always wonder why it still doesn't work out as planned. It's because I am not aware of the feelings and thoughts of other people. Empathizing is a skill I should try to develop, especially with the near future of the college world.

- Rayven Posmasdero

Bluntness

2023-10-11 14:09:55 UTC

I noticed that I have a very sharp tongue, because I always say what I wanna say without considering outcomes, so I need to remind myself to think before speaking. I also need to find a way to effectively communicate my emotions because most of the I prefer to bottle it.

Quixotic Presumptions

2023-10-11 14:25:39 UTC

Later these days, I often find myself in the same situation, stuck with the same thought pattern of disappointment due to my “unrealistic” expectations leading to an imbalanced perspective between others. These situations often led to me undermining others and somehow completely brushing them off of my mind. Now, the lesson slowly made me realize that expecting others to always line up with me can create unnecessary tension for them hampering effective communication. Acknowledging my tendency to use judgemental words is also one of the key tools for the betterment of my interactions with others. By being aware of how others feel about me, I can start putting conscious effort to be more patient, understanding and respectful of my peers to foster an environment containing mutual respect.

- Arvi Cabangon

Impulsivity

regaladoczarinajolie — 2023-10-11 14:35:25 UTC

There were instances that I would act improperly or speak hurtful words due to the overwhelming emotions I felt in the moment, struggling to manage my emotions effectively because no one had ever complained about it. However, I have come to realize, after learning that handling emotions can significantly impact the outcome of events, I see that I could have done a better job of controlling them. I would now exercise greater restraint in how I handled my emotions and would also take into account the company I was keeping. I'm under the impression that, whatever the circumstance, I should handle it with far more composure and grace.

Expression

2023-10-11 14:40:39 UTC

Knowing our outer expressions are sometimes not the same as our inner expressions makes me wonder what people are truly feeling, that they may look happy on the outside but feel miserable in the inside. Our choice on how we will show our emotions could have a big impact on our surroundings, meaning our emotions can influence others. This also means that we should be mindful on how we react to certain situations, expressing our thoughts and emotions with no management and understanding could lead to negative consequences.

Martyr for Others

jhenaarlannerefazo — 2023-10-11 14:56:58 UTC

I've always strived to empathize with others, trying to understand their perspectives, regardless of what is right or wrong in their actions—burying myself while uplifting others. Embracing emotional competence has become a driving force for my personal growth, and I've paved my journey toward self-development by looking through the unique lenses of different people. However, I've come to realize that it's not just about understanding them; it's also about what's best for me and my own sense of identity and competence. For genuine connections and meaningful relationships with others, one must first know oneself and strive to be the best version of who they are, with this, you allow others to appreciate you for you and love you in return.

- Refazo, Ma. Jhena Arlanne M.

RECKLESSNESS

2023-10-11 15:06:45 UTC

As someone quite of a handful when it comes to either expressing their overwhlming emotions, it is sometimes hard to "sugarcoat" your words to fit the atmosphere of your surroundings. It's really hard to not let your emotions deal with your mentality since it does not only affect you but it also affects other people who are aware of what has been bothering you or even worse, a stranger that doesn't even know you. Recklessness can be verbal but also physical, sometimes I'm always distracted or rather deserted in my own world to the point that I just don't care about other people around me. I'm still learning how to adjust to certain social groups in order to not initiate uncomfortability but then again, change takes time and constant efforts.

Self-Respect

2023-10-11 15:11:41 UTC

Part of personal development is learning to respect others, including yourself. Recently, I have been learning to do this because, for a while, I did not focus on what I could do but rather, what I cannot and should do. This has affected terribly, so far as to affect my studies. So, as students, it is okay for us to be proud of what we can do and what we have accomplished as it is a part of self love.

Control of your own emotions and impulses

2023-10-11 15:25:06 UTC

As a teenager, it's important to understand the importance of managing impulsive reactions to your emotions. In the heat of the moment, it can be all too easy to react without thinking, and this can lead to negative consequences that you might later regret. Whether it's an argument with a friend, a stressful school situation, or a disagreement at home, taking a moment to pause and reflect before responding can make a world of difference. It allows you to gain perspective, consider the potential outcomes of your actions, and choose a more thoughtful, constructive response. This simple act of self-control not only helps you avoid impulsive mistakes, but it also promotes better communication and more positive interactions with others, both of which are essential in developing good relationships and reaching your goals. So, remember that taking that small pause to reflect before reacting can be an effective method for managing adolescence.

- Jarvis Emmanuel P. Razon

Timing

2023-10-11 15:54:23 UTC

Being able to know what I'm feeling and why I'm feeling it is one thing. Being able to convey it properly is another. Being able to say it at the right time to the right person is a whole different field.

As someone with severe low esteem, I find it so easy to criticize myself, but it makes myself project that low self esteem onto others and subtly belittle them even when I don't mean to. I'll often find myself unintentionally hating a part of someone that I could've easily looked past, even if I don't really find them hateable.
Harboring ill feelings towards a peer pressures me to "put them in their place" even when I don't have the slightest right to, nor do I have the intent to do so in the first place, so when the time comes that I'll have an outlet for these emotions to be communicated directly to that person, I'd refuse to acknowledge any other rational thought and result in a fight between us, only because it wasnt the right time to convey that.

- Mia Isabel P. Rama

Denial

2023-10-11 16:09:20 UTC

I am aware of what I feel but oftentimes, I am afraid to admit it to other people even in myself. As I cannot hide my emotions all the time, feelings become evident in my actions and when asked, “im okay” will always be the answer. I sometimes find it a burden for other people to worry and care about what I am dealing with when they have nothing to do with it. I am also afraid to be judged by the thought that I might be too sensitive or too shallow to be affected by those things. And I just recently realized that these emotions I feel are valid no matter how small or big as it may seem to me because these emotions are a reflection of truth. It reflects me, it is essential for my personal growth and emotional resilience, and it is valid as long as I am not harming others.

- Razel Recio

KMS: Know MySelf

2023-10-11 16:09:20 UTC

Persecuted by my own mind, I've never been one to fully open my thoughts to others, always trying to hide everything in hopes that these negative emotions would all silently bury itself away at the back of my mind never to resurface. But the more I bury, the more I'm overwhelmed by the overbearing emotions deeply tucked within waiting to come bursting up. So here I've come to realize that, I, myself need to show me some empathy too. Because I've come to understand my own emotional needs, I am able to carefully handle my state of mind. I know the feeling of cooping up feelings only to feel overwhelmed by it later on and taking it all out on others, don't let buried emotions negatively affect the relationships you've worked so hard to forge.

Balmes, Alyanna D.

Just because you can feel every burden does not mean they are all yours to carry.

bb16veluzemanuel — 2023-10-11 16:13:14 UTC

As a student, I often felt the immense weight of my responsibilities, expectations, and dreams pressing upon my shoulders. The desire to excel, to meet the highest standards, drove me to carry it all, convinced that every burden was mine alone to bear. But this wisdom reminds me that I don't need to shoulder the world's weight single-handedly. It whispers to my heart that it's okay to reach out when the load becomes too heavy, to share my dreams and fears, to admit vulnerability. It's the symphony of collaboration, the realization that in joining forces, we can overcome even the most daunting challenges.

DAYS OF DISQUIET, NIGHTS OF RAGE

2023-10-11 16:49:42 UTC

DAYS OF DISQUIET, NIGHTS OF RAGE

The world will break you a hundred times, so hope a hundred more. Hope so much that despite being under the emotionally laborious toil of living in a society that undervalues you, you stand firm, you choose to remain — the sun will rise again and there will be another hour to come into grips that you are human, that no one is saved from the mortal coil of simply being able to feel, after all, to hope is to grapple with struggle, hoping is inherent in our shared humanity.

Yet, hope just enough that the fresh stitches of an amateursish surgery that tried to fill-out a heart with hesitant beats remind you that you are a poetic-worthy interpretation, that you are malleable, that you may be chipped but you are not falling apart from the seams — let hope find you through the cracks and blemishes your fragile, fragile self.

Take heed however, hope is a virulent maelstrom of self preservation waiting to carry you when you fall apart, validating your short comings, giving you comfort in the safety of stagnation, a double-edged sword of a roaringly optimistic view, veering into the violent territory of complacency — poignant as it is, hope is not so easy to let go of, microdose it.

So, when you stumble upon hope in the labyrinthine pathways of Quesay or in the streets of your old hometown, hold it, allow yourself navigate the ending where you finally find your way home and the ancient terror inside you is stomped out for good, hope more, hope enough, hope hundredfold to change where you stand right now.

— alyssa cortez ★

Emotional self-care

2023-10-11 21:59:33 UTC

When I learned that bottling up my feelings and not expressing myself could make me feel worse, I realized I need to be more open about what I'm going through. Now I know that ignoring my emotions and pretending to be fine when I'm struggling inside doesn't help, so I'm trying to be more honest about how I really feel. Since realizing that my moods are affected by how I deal with emotions, I'm working on finding healthier ways to process my feelings like talking to friends or writing in a journal. I understand now that my mental health can suffer if I don't handle my emotions in constructive ways, so I want to be more mindful about addressing my feelings in positive ways going forward.

- Ivan Dencel Ramos

Hannah Sophia Gagalang

2023-10-11 22:10:54 UTC

I used to think that being frank is better than being fake and hiding under our emotions, I thought that expressing ourselves would be the hardest thing to do, but after this lesson, I realized that grace under pressure was it. From now on, I would try to put myself in other people’s shoes and understand them whilst not neglecting my own feelings; I would put an optimistic mindset in times of stress to avoid breaking down and impulsive reactions; Hurting other people’s feelings and with mine is something that scared me but I always remind myself that it’s ok and forgiving myself and others should be an option because all of us are constantly improving and growing; that under all our imperfections is someone who is willing to be the best version of themselves.

Guiding principles for self-improvement

2023-10-11 22:16:05 UTC

Practicing caution in our actions and words, especially when we're not feeling like ourselves. Showing professionalism, even when dealing with people we don't like, proves our ability to move beyond our personal biases and treat others respectfully. Resolving conflicts through non-violent means not only promotes peaceful interactions but also showcases our maturity in handling challenging situations. These principles empower us to become better versions of ourselves, in which it promotes self improvement and creates a good relationship with others. Additionally, when we manage our emotions effectively, it also enhances our consideration and compassion toward others.

- nathan crodua

Klark Curl S. Quejada

2023-10-11 22:39:55 UTC

Just like every other adolescents people encounter in today's world and era, I tend to bottle up all my emotions and keep it only to myself. Sometimes, I do vent or rant to friends who I trust most. I think that this is the way how I keep handling my emotions. With these in mind, I've learned how to handle these emotions pretty well with the help of my bestfriend. She tells me advices and suggestions that pretty much helped me throughout the years. I've learned to become a proficient listener which I think also helps with how I handle my emotions and others emotions as well. Through expressing our emotions and presence towards what they said and how they feel, by not invalidating their emotions and being understanding of their state, they'll feel gradually better and pick themselves up piece by piece to complete yet another masterpiece of them, or simply; the best version of themselves!

Balance(?)

jeseliancausapin — 2023-10-11 22:59:16 UTC

My heart and mind have always been against each other in every situation I have experienced. It’s very rare to see that they agree with each other. They both have their own pros and cons; however, I need to find a way to balance them both.

I have always been that person who follows the heart, and sometimes my heart is the reason why I get hurt. My heart is selfless and puts others before myself. I have always experienced hardships, as long as the people I value don't experience them. But sometimes it’s not reciprocated. Sometimes the ending is that I was always taken for granted.

However, as time passed, I started to listen to the brain, but its choices were always so difficult. It doesn’t match up to what I want, but I know it’s the right choice. It’s always telling me to find my self-value. But if I did, since I have always been the person who follows my heart, people tend to think that I am selfish for prioritizing myself.

If I follow my heart, it satisfies me because I get to make other people happy, but sometimes it is not appreciated. However, if I followed my brain, I would get the chance to avoid pain from others and see my own worth, but it would still be hard for me since it would not satisfy my needs.

Now, I want and need to find a way to balance them both. I need to find a way where my heart and mind are both in favor. It should be that I get to satisfy my heart while having to value myself as my brain wants. It won't be easy, but it’s a process.

Bibble: Wacala

matthewlogoqshs — 2023-10-11 23:06:34 UTC

Expressing emotions can be hard for some. I myself have had difficulties expressing some of my emotions that is why people often perceive me as someone who lacks emotions. Most of the time, I follow what’s in my head, which is a good thing but, too much is not good therefore I also have to learn how to express my feelings more. Showing emotions is innate within humans, some may feel that they differ as they do think that not everyone feels or expresses like them.

Sometimes, following your heart is also good, because in that sense, you let yourself feel things, release the negativity and express yourself truly. Bottling up emotions inside you suppresses every emotion on top of each other which would then lead to an outburst in the future.

According to psychologist Perpetua Neo, when someone is asked why can’t they trust their feelings, it is because of resentment from their past experiences. He said that we must try to incorporate these feelings with our rational thoughts which would help us express ourselves better. With that said, I try to follow what he said as I did have difficulties in the past. Now, I can say that I try to grow and express myself more.

As an expression person...

2023-10-11 23:33:28 UTC

I am more careful of expressing my emotions. As an expressive person, I tend to overshare or overexpress my emotions in every situation. It is totally different from overreacting, as for me overexpressing is not an exaggerated reaction but more on expressing myself too much. For example, I am stressed with school workloads and other extracurricular activities, right away I will rant it out or express how I feel about the situation. There are times that I believe there is a better way for me to handle my emotions rather than just letting it out immediately. It is not my intention to say that expressing your emotions is a bad thing but we should first analyze how we feel before letting it out.

#perdev #qshs #life #husayquesay

Unuttered

2023-10-11 23:34:17 UTC

I find it hard to express my true emotions. I always overthink of the possible consequences of my actions and words and this habit made me stoic. I should keep an eye to my own emotions and convince myself that my emotions is valid. I should give my own emotions a chance to be heard and I should stop suppressing my own emotions to please others.

-John Cris C. Perez

Controlled to be careful

2023-10-11 23:39:40 UTC

Braza, Roland Marco N.
XI- Auriga

Being able to control my negative emotions more in new problems and dilemmas of my life. Recently, I had issues about controlling my feelings which ultimately led me to arguments with the people in my life. Sometimes, it is better to keep it to yourself first to be able to process what you are feeling, the roots of it, and the action or response towards the situation.

The Plot Thickens

2023-10-11 23:41:29 UTC

Things would explode when my emotions, problems and stress became packed and collided with one another, which would have an impact on myself and those around me.

Even if I'm stressed out and overloaded, I should be more cautious and mindful of my circumstances, I should know when to let my emotions out and to also know to whom I should tell them to avoid making things worse. If I don't know what to do with the problems anymore, I might lose my composure, control, or even my sanity, therefore I should at least try to keep it together even things are in bad conditions.

Because if I let my problems take over me, that's when the plot thickens, that's when things get more complex. That's when my decisions in life could destroy me physically or mentally in many ways, whether hurting, punishing or isolating myself from people I know who are there for me.

The Truth Untold

zeusantonnaguilarqshs — 2023-10-12 00:14:47 UTC

When it comes to managing our own emotions, it is inevitable to experience both positive and negative feelings that may have an impact on our mental, spiritual, physical, and social well-being. As a young adolescent approaching 18, I have come to realize the importance of acknowledging and understanding the emotions I experience. Instead of placing blame on others, it is beneficial to reflect on the causes of these emotions and recognize that all of them are natural and acceptable and this self-awareness helps in calming oneself and once I have identified and comprehended my emotions, I can determine how best to express them. Additionally, seeking assistance in challenging situations is crucial because there are times when we cannot easily overcome difficult emotions. If feelings of sadness or worry persist for an extended period or if there is a risk of self-harm or harm to others, seeking extra support may be necessary.

Being Passive

2023-10-12 00:47:14 UTC

I am not a person who likes to confront people, especially if I am not close with them, for fear of offending them and not being able to mend our relationship. But I realized that open communication is a must in order to understand each other. I must be assertive, direct but still with consideration for their feelings when I express myself.

-Paula Mae Q. Saralde, 11-Andromeda

Like Coke is to Mentos

2023-10-12 00:57:16 UTC

Unfortunately, I bottle my emotions up. In this way I am compelled to always be on the losing side. Consequently, when I explode, I have no control of what I am expressing. Because of this, I want to be more communicative especially to the people I am close to because they are the ones who can understand me better than most people. To summarize, ~~bottling up~~ is not an option, communication is the best solution for a confusion between emotions.

-Brent Al Nathaniel A. Panganiban

Are you a slave to your emotions?

2023-10-12 01:11:00 UTC

Handling emotions can be challenging, especially for those who are naturally emotional like me. I feel like I'm a slave to my emotions because I sometimes really can't handle them, controlling tears when hurt or suppressing anger can be very difficult when you are in a situation and are overwhelmed with emotions.

Emotions can influence your judgment, so it's crucial to be mindful of their impact not only on yourself but also on others. Remember that others are humans and have emotions too; one way to avoid conflicts with others through emotion is to first be calm and have open communication, which is vital for maintaining healthy relationships.

In summary, while it may be tough, let us not be slaves to our emotions and manage our emotions to make better decisions and maintain positive interactions with others. :>

-Trisha Mae Tiffany M. Solo

I Am Feeling

2023-10-12 01:16:09 UTC

More often than not, my feelings get the best of me. I cry, I laugh, and I shout to express what I feel inside. Our way of handling emotions can greatly affect our actions, and for me, the 'thing' I should be more careful about is myself, because when I'm hurt, I tend to inflict pain on others too, whether it's through words or actions. I should be more careful with my words, my actions, and my way of handling emotions because, after all, I'm not the only one who feels; others do too.

Take a slow, deep breath.

2023-10-12 01:26:52 UTC

I, Joshua Miguel M. Mateo, am a slave to impulsive emotions so much so that my personal relationships end up in hot water most of the time. I know that I should also use my head in heated situations and take a step back and reevaluate the best course of actions. I shouldn’t let my strong but misguided emotions ruin my relationships and as such I should be careful and reel myself back whenever my strong emotions show themselves.

Heartstrings Loaned

2023-10-12 01:32:21 UTC

Being the pillar of support in every situation is like navigating an intricate maze, where I need to find a way to make sense of it all. At times, the desire to prioritize the emotions of others drains my emotional power.

Just as I have learned to validate others' feelings, I will also have to learn to create my own strong emotional base, ensuring that my own emotional reservoir remains full. I balance my own heart and mind while still doing the right thing. As my emotional development will be a lifelong journey, I'll be a trusted confidant, fostering self-awareness and being in harmony with my own feelings.

- Patricia Ysabelle Medina

2023-10-12 01:35:06 UTC

I've been having a hard time expressing my emotions lately, whether it be positive or negative. It's one of the few things that I realized that I need to work on in order to see improvements in myself.

I realized that it's ok to fully express what you are feeling since letting out those emotions can be a form of therapy, which can help improve your mood and well-being.

Hiding those negative emotions can lead to a build-up of those emotions that could cause damage to your way of thinking. It is best to let them out when you can than carry such heavy burden for a long time.

- Vincent De Rama

Explosions

2023-10-12 01:37:51 UTC

I've always been one to supress my emotions, and this leads to my negative emotions exploding when the inconveniences start to pile up. These built up emotions bother me from day to night, and enables me to sometimes hurt people close to me as I start to think irrationally. But a the lesson and a certain someone taught me to not bottle these emotions, and to express them in a healthy manner to avoid lashing out at people who dont deserve it.

I am a growing teen, but that does not excuse any toxic behavior. All these experiences are hard, and mostly unfair but I shouldn't torture myself and hurt those who only seek to help. As I grow physically, I also wish to grow to be a healthy person with the people that I love.

THE IMAGINARY FENCE 🪞🍂

2023-10-12 01:39:19 UTC

It's difficult to speak up when you're frightened to hurt someone. I find it difficult to explain to others that professionalism and our ones have certain boundaries. My emotions get harmed when I conceal feelings that lead to an impact on my emotional triggers. I learned from the lesson that taking care of one's emotions is also important. Working outside the box could be challenging, nevertheless, it is necessary for my ability to manage my emotions.

☕️🍂 Amanda Thea J. Mendoza

_^10.11.2023

"Emotional boundaries weave self-respect into connections."

2023-10-12 01:39:19 UTC

In the vast landscape of emotions, I've discovered the importance of setting boundaries to navigate the complex web of feelings. Imagine a situation where a friend pours out their sorrow, burdening my shoulders. While I empathize, I now recognize the need to shield myself from absorbing their entire emotional storm. It's like sensing a thunderstorm's thrilling force but hiding behind a wall to avoid getting struck by lightning. I've learned to encourage others while protecting my own emotional surroundings by embracing this metaphor, ensuring that I remain a steady and dependable presence in our interactions.

- Kaylie Rosas Vecinal

Bottling my Emotions and Feelings

2023-10-12 01:41:19 UTC

Most of the people around me know me as a happy and cheerful person. But little do they know, there's something else behind that smile that i'm wearing. I'm not that completely open when it comes to my emotions. I think because of my experiences and traumas? I don't like to completely open up myself to someone because i'm afraid they would judge me. Na kesyo my reason is too shallow for me to react that way, and many more judgements.. And i guess i should avoid this because when the time comes na "naipon" yung emotions ko, i start to explode and I can't control my emotions once i explode..

Projection

2023-10-12 01:42:32 UTC

I can say that my emotional management skills have been positively progressive so far, but I still sometimes fail to avoid my wrong and unintentional projection of my frustrations onto those who are around me. I know that I should be more mindful of what and who my personal problems and frustrations involve, and I am working on that. Ultimately, I learned that I should be more careful of how I present myself (with my words and actions) whenever I’m in a negative state of mind, so as to not cause unnecessary consequences for myself and others with my decisions.

Managing Emotions

2023-10-12 01:43:13 UTC

The main realization I had was that when I'm experiencing a negative emotion it can weigh on me so heavily that it affects how I act throughout the day. I will tunnel vision where my only priority would be to get rid of the emotion I'm experiencing as quickly as possible which more often than not hinders me from fulfilling basic daily tasks or responsibilities. This made me realize that I need to be more careful about the outward effect of my emotions as it also keeps me from recovering as quickly as I could've if I didn't drop everything the moment that I felt a stressor. I need to be able to maintain my composure in negative situations so that I'm able to determine the best possible course of action instead of only relying on impulse.

Jennifer Heather Anne R. Pornasdoro

Dissociation

2023-10-12 01:49:15 UTC

When I am overwhelmed by my emotion I tend to zone out in order to process my emotions and not lash out. Due to this, this coping mechanism now happens frequently and zone out at random. I should be careful on how I deal with my emotions and find new ways to deal with my triggers that is more healthier and productive.

Isolating myself when I'm mad yet choosing not to address the situation.

2023-10-12 01:54:26 UTC

When I'm upset, usually because my boundaries are crossed, I tend to isolate myself without addressing the issue. This often leads to me snapping when I've reached my breaking point. Upon reflecting on how it affects not only me but also the people around me, I have come to the realization that I should learn how to voice my concerns more often but in moderation to avoid misunderstandings. Regardless, I stand by my decision to cut off those who consistently crossed my boundaries, and I have no regrets about it.

♡ Katrina Cueto

Under The Influence

2023-10-12 01:54:45 UTC

When cortisol wages and the indelible surge of emotions take over, by default, we let the burning red rage colonize the billions of atoms that make up the human body. In every minute instance that I feel the intoxicating urge to succumb to such strong feelings, I somehow always forget to remind myself to just breathe. Take a step back and calm down.

I am not the best in handling my emotions; I would often prefer to let my feelings steer the wheel. So in every waking moment, I have to be careful in abiding the (mis)guiding light of impulse— and in return, I’ll regret nothing.

Iris Raiza D. Arias

Unlocking Emotions for Better Relationships

2023-10-12 01:54:49 UTC

Since then, I've realized that I tend to internalize my emotions, keeping them hidden from my friends, which, in turn, makes it challenging for them to approach me during times of distress. This has led to the erosion and distancing of some of my relationships. Upon self-reflection regarding my emotional coping mechanisms, I've come to understand that it is more beneficial to confide in someone rather than suppress my feelings. Consequently, I should also be more careful in my interactions with others when I find myself in a foul mood.

Aryen Marguerite C. Panergo

RELATIONSHIPS

2023-10-12 01:56:35 UTC

How I handle my emotions significantly impacts both me and those around, as it can either improve or worsen a situation. It's essential that I carefully weigh not only my own emotions but also empathize with and comprehend the feelings of others involved, avoiding self-criticism and judgment, and striving to see and understand their perspectives. I value relationships a lot, which is why I must carefully understand how to properly express my thoughts and emotions in a manner that doesn't harm but instead improve them.

Limbo, Chezkha Maia R.

Vaughn Xander Z. Imperial

2023-10-12 01:59:22 UTC

After the lesson, I realize maybe I should be more careful of when I should prevent my emotions from being bottled up or suppressed. Since it is ignoring the pain rather than actually resolving it. At times making me question if my happiness is genuine or if I am lying to myself that I'm fine. I should probably watch my tone and behavior as well, since if I am experiencing a negative emotion towards something or someone, I behave passive-aggressively, or if there is no source, I seem apathetic. Lastly, when I am angered by someone saying I am not good enough, I work hard to succeed out of spite, even at the cost of my physical and mental health. Due to this I realize I should prioritize my wellbeing and know to not give in to my anger and hurt myself trying to succeed.

jolomacariola — 2023-10-12 01:59:23 UTC

I have become a captive to my own emotions.

Even the tiniest inconvenience can send me spiraling down a path of negativity in a surge of emotions. An untimely realization I have made was that I let my emotions dictate my actions more than I should — being in a terrible mood would discourage me from doing anything, with my mind encaging itself in a rut for the remainder of the day. After a bit of thinking, I have come to learn the weight of my emotions. Learning to keep my emotions under constant check isn't the easiest thing in the world, but it's a challenge I'm ready to enjoy at every step of the way.

Rubias | 11 - Andromeda

The Puppet of Emotions

2023-10-12 02:01:21 UTC

Dealing with our emotions is not as easy as it sounds, and as we try handling different situations, emotions overlap with the ability of our mind to think critically about the scenarios that we are currently facing. Most of the time, I deal with my emotions by ranting my thoughts to the people I know without realizing that it does influence their feelings and emotions too. As we became aware that this can affect us in different ways, we should be careful when choosing the ways to control our emotions, how to cope with stress from our environment, and how to mind our actions, that is, to think critically before acting or expressing our emotions. I should keep in mind that others feelings are valid and should be valued, and as we express ours, we should be considerate of expressing ours too. Just like a puppeteer, we should control the puppet representing our emotions.

Losing Face

2023-10-12 02:01:46 UTC

Whenever I try to regulate my emotions, keep them rational in a situation that needs me to be the bigger person, I always fear that I lose face. As I tend to fight for what I think is right, and stand up for myself whenever I feel wronged, I come out to most people as someone who has anger issues. They aren't wrong. But this fear of mine has reached the point that I fear speaking because even if I think about the next words I utter, I might insult someone's situation again. I might offend someone again. I might get into another fight that I will come out as the villain because of the person that I'm speaking to does not understand my intentions properly. I do not necessarily say yes and shut my mouth the rest of the conversation, but I tend to rather not speak at all that to speak and be misunderstood. Less talk, less mistakes. My mother taught me that well, and that has resonated to my life's everyday situation more than I needed it to be. I no longer wish to lose my face.

Paje, Aila Rialor P.
11 - Auriga
10-12-2023

2023-10-12 02:02:40 UTC

Pascual, Richard Neric M.

I realized and understood that any extensive accumulation of emotions within me results in irrational thinking and that remaining an a calm collective manner is essential for critical thinking. In a way, it is not wise for me dwell too much on emotion and to experience hightened stimuli or triggers due to my volatile emotional state. I have to remember to remove stress, to stay calm, to keep my peace if mind so that I can continue to live with a rational sense of thought and refrain from and unstable behavior.

Broken Mirrorball Resilience☆

2023-10-12 02:05:09 UTC

. . • ☆ . ° . ♪ • °. ♫

In the symphony of life, I began to understand that my approach to emotions carries weighty consequences, it’s a journey through the labyrinth of self-awareness, discovering that while it's essential to be a little selfish for self-preservation, as an excessive focus on oneself can lead to isolation.

Our lives can sometimes mirror the shimmering facets of a disco ball, scattering light in all directions, center of attention, but when the radiance fades, we're left hanging there, shattered and unnoticed, just like a broken mirrorball.

The art of emotions isn't just about being the center of attention—it's about being our true selves, even when the spotlight dims.

Emotions are like the spectrum of colors refracted by a disco ball's shards, each piece holding a different emotion, reflecting joy, sorrow, love, and anger, to keep this emotional disco ball whole, we must acknowledge that sometimes, we simply have to face our emotions, as painful as they may be, as it’s in the moments when we gather our broken pieces and repair our emotional mirrorball that we find the resilience to continue dancing to life's rhythm.

Each shattered fragment tells us a story, and when we're under the spotlight once more, we can display our vibrant selves.

╭── ⋅ ✩ ⋅ ──╮

Andres Francisco A. Cortez
11 - Andromeda

Self-awareness

2023-10-12 02:06:08 UTC

Some of my closest friends frequently comment that I seem always agitated. After giving it some thought, I concluded that my emotional regulation issues are the cause for my behavior. I've decided to be more introspective about my emotional life because of the potential consequences of my actions. To better my emotional and mental health, I need to invest time and energy into learning about myself so that I can recognize and change negative emotional patterns, develop more adaptive coping mechanisms, and grow as a person. Keeping my feelings in check will allow me to live a more serene, more fulfilling life.

Doormat

2023-10-12 02:10:43 UTC

Throughout my entire life, I've put the emotions and feelings of others before mine. In most the decisions that I've made, I've barely given thought to what I exactly want to happen and prioritized what other people think should happen. Partly because I am unable to express and vocalize these thoughts in my head and also because of the fear of being judged by others. I've always given way to others in the name of pleasing them and avoiding confrontation but my recent experiences made me realize that these feelings I've repressed through the years have been building up and resulted in me thinking more impulsively. But on the flipside, I'm gradually learning to express my feelings more, especially to those around me that I trust. And our recent lesson has made me contemplate on giving my feelings some priority.

- Ursolino, Lei Calvin L.

TEMPER

xandreisumande — 2023-10-12 02:11:03 UTC

Understanding the possible consequences of not handling my emotions properly has taught me to be more careful when it comes to managing my anger and make rational decisions even in difficult situations. I've realized that being aware of my triggers and taking a moment to think can significantly change the way I handle situations. By consistently practicing my patience and understanding, I have learned to approach challenges with a calmer mindset. Overall, these helped me to foster better relationships.

Speaking my opinions to the Public

2023-10-12 02:15:09 UTC

I am a very indecisive person and have the tendency to speak out my opinion to ask for help, thinking that no one really cares. With this I realize that some people are willing to listen and that I should just find the right people, right words and right time for myself to speak.

Perfection

2023-10-12 02:17:51 UTC

I used to have this ocd-esque perfectionism. The smallest of inconveniences would bother me, as if there was an exact picture in my head, guiding me as I put the puzzle pieces back into place. This would pose as a weakness of mine as I would constantly fix a small error as long as it fits my ideal description, sacrificing practicality and time. This gave me complete satisfaction, but at the expense of being totally frustrated when things don't go my way.

But nowadays, I am a lot more reserved in approaching things in life. I learned that seeing things the way they were originally intended was way more fulfilling than hyperfixing on the tiniest of details, allowing me to focus on the bigger picture more.

Passion, a curse or a blessing ?

2023-10-12 02:45:01 UTC

To have an immense passion, it is expected for one to experience emotions deeply. It can be a huge advantage and disadvantage for having such passion. Experiencing emotions with a huge intensity can lead to a reaction of an intensity so similar. With this in mind, it’d be best to rationalise one’s self and try to take a breather to have a better understanding of the situation before taking any further action. To think of it, if one were to express their emotions in aspects such as writing or drawing or any expression of these emotions in a tangible form would be a great way to look back on the experience and to rationalise.

- Pabillar, Ray Emmanuel J.

The Will to Change

2023-10-12 02:50:17 UTC

Robinhood A. Almase

Emotions are carried upon hands; gashed or mended as they be, it will always be held with such care and raw honesty. It is the windows to our hearts — our loud thumping heart beneath shirts. My journey with life has never been easy, I've embarked on rocky paths before, and so I will for the rest of my life. Therefore I will try to guard my heart with utmost might for it to never slip unwillingly within my firm grasp. I do and will continue to love life because emotions are gifted to me to feel it.

Self-care is not selfish

bmarcirive — 2023-10-12 02:50:36 UTC

I've discovered that looking after others is a top priority for me, but I've also learned the importance of taking care of myself. It's essential to be more careful about not neglecting my own emotions and struggles, and seek support when needed, without worrying about inconveniencing others. I've realized that self-care is not selfish, and it's perfectly fine to open up to trusted friends or seek professional guidance when I need it.

Khian Marasigan

2023-10-12 02:52:36 UTC

I should be aware and be careful of the heavy words that come of my mouth that is caused by my emotions, which are mostly anger. I should also be aware of taking care of my self, and to be sensible of myself and my environment and the effects of my way of handling my emotions.

Need a Chill Pill.

samanthasuarezqshs — 2023-10-12 03:04:38 UTC

I often find myself struggling with my emotions, which can lead to imbalanced responses when interacting with others. At times, I either express my feelings too intensely or bottle them up, making it incredibly challenging to communicate about my emotions. However, I'm actively working on this aspect of myself with the support of my friends and loved ones. I'm striving to accept my thoughts and emotions as they come, rather than attempting to conceal them until I reach a breaking point. I'm learning the importance of kindness in my interactions, as words have the power to hurt, regardless of the intentions behind them.

— Sam Suarez 🍥 🎀 🍡

Avoid making impulsive decisions and Don’t be to harsh on myself. -James Princeton P. Cabais

2023-10-12 03:11:36 UTC

I've recently realized that making impulsive decisions and being harsh on myself are two unhealthy habits that I'm still working on how to break it. Sometimes, i make decisions out of impulse which causes problems for me and everyone around me. I might impulsively buy something I don't need, or say something hurtful to someone I care about. But now, i'm figuring out how to lessen it. Also i'm known for being too hard on myself. I'm starting to understand that these habits are not serving me well. I want to make better decisions and be more compassionate towards myself. I figured that being forgiving of myself. Everyone makes mistakes. When I make a mistake, I'm trying to be kind to myself and learn from it. I'm also trying to forgive myself more quickly. It's taking time to break these habits, but I'm committed to doing so. I know that it will be worth it in the long run.

Anger Management

2023-10-12 03:13:40 UTC

Upon reflecting on this lesson, I've recognized that although I seldom experience anger and it's not easily triggered, my reactions during those moments have at times transgressed acceptable boundaries and it often results into me blurting hurtful words towards my peers and loved ones. The newfound understanding of managing intense emotions has enlightened me. Moving forward, I will be more careful and exercise greater caution and sensitivity in my choice of words when I find myself experiencing anger.

Uruma, Princess Reika E.
11 Andromeda

Be Aware

2023-10-12 03:14:37 UTC

Self-awareness is strongly connected to managing your emotions effectively. Sometimes our emotions can get the better of us. If you think that we're spiraling out of control or being irrational, try assessing yourselves "Is what I'm feeling justifiable? What is the right to do in this kind of situation?". When we are aware of what we're feeling and we have a grasp of what is happening around us, then more often than not, we will be able to approach the situation in a calm manner which, in turn, help in avoiding conflicts with one another.

“Overthinking..”

2023-10-12 04:00:48 UTC

There are times when I’m prone to self-isolation and anxiety when I felt empty or sad or when I simply felt joyous and we become impulsive. When my emotions contradicts my mind, I tend to do impulsive things especially when I’m over-joyed and I think like “go ko na to, minsan lang naman”. (YOLO momentum) that I ignore the truth from the situation itself so I’m trying to have the courage to let go things and validate my emotions towards situations that will help me to attain emotional stability and fulfillment that maybe there is nothing really wrong with me, that I am overweighting too much thinking, but the situation it. Thus, it affects my everyday mood, lose my productivity and exhaust my mental health. With this, I find it difficult to evaluate what I feel especially verbalizing that affects my communication skills but I’m trying to improve it by journaling and choosing wisely trustworthy friends who patiently understand me.

IN MY OWN PRISON

2023-10-12 04:03:47 UTC

When I feel overwhelmed, stressed, and negative overall, I shut the door, isolating myself, voluntarily entering my emotional prison.

Change will start with me; with changing my mindset. I should stop the thinking “I am on my own” because friends are there when I’m struggling and at my lowest, the goal is I should hone my understanding to our boundaries, keep in mind the state of the person im sharing to and slowly set my emotions free. Though this could take some time for me since I have never let them out, but there is always a key to every prison, I am starting to reach out for it and soon I could become a better version of myself.

Zelynne Bustamante
11 - Andromeda