https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA The Secret in the Bag en-us 2020-05-04 10:00:39 UTC 2025-12-29 17:41:14 UTC hello@padlet.com susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657020 Relationship between my sis and my mum not too good. There are some things that they do I feel could improve so that the relationship is not so strained. I want to mediate but I hold back as I don’t like confrontation as they could be rather assertive/aggressive at times. Still very hesitant how to go about it. ]]> 2020-07-29 02:53:53 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657020 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657058 During year end Appraisal, RO gave some feedback that due to relative peer ranking, there are certain areas which are lacking or not consistent in work performance. Hence a poor ranking is possible. My heart sank because I feel that what was said was untrue. However I also understand that there is no point in trying to argue or to verify what was being said because they have already decided. I have never been rank badly after teaching for so many years. It was a terrible feeling. ]]> 2020-07-29 02:53:56 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657058 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657594 I had a colleague, who has strong narcissistic personality traits. I have no idea why, but she devised ways and means to pull me down and put me down whenever she could. Many of her passive-aggressive attacks were done in private (when people were somehow not around or not aware) and in a way were concrete evidence could not be obtained (either it happened too fast or too out of the blue before one could even respond). She also tried ways and means to change other’s opinions of me, and spun many untrue stories to people who could make a difference.To me, it was very hurtful as I sincerely treated her as a colleague whom I respected and cared for. Yet, things turned out this way. Still trying to move on and rebuild broken relationships and regain strength. However, I could not really speak up about this because I felt that not many would understand. On the surface, she seemed like a very nice and helpful person, but under that façade, it was not the case. She is also the type of person who cannot take any feedback for improvement – she would rather not know that she has AFIs, as all of us have. ]]> 2020-07-29 02:54:33 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657594 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657665 The incident happened about 1 year ago, student A is a special student who was given special permission to be out of class as and when he likes to.  One day, he was caught using his phone in one of the lesson. Knowing that he is special, teacher B contacted the DM and asked if he was given special permission to be using his phone in class. To the teacher’s surprise, the DM sent a student who was in the detention room up instead of having another teacher up to sort out the problem. There was nothing the student could do and was being sent back down. Student A then received a text from the DM, requesting him to go to the detention room. Student A got angry and push the teacher in the classroom. The matter was made known to the P, however, teacher B was asked to be the adult and the bigger person in the scenario and the matter was left hanging to date.]]> 2020-07-29 02:54:40 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657665 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657702 My mum is considering subsidizing me to buy a house in SG. When we discussed earlier on this issue, she suggested to buy HDB first because it’s cheap, but she also wants to buy the house for investment because I can rent out one room to help me pay the loan. But for me, I think for living, condo is better and my friend who is a real estate agent also suggest that if for investment, condo is a better choice. I don’t dare to speak up because I don’t want to add burden to my mum and she would blame me. It happened in these few months. I have the complicated feeling as I have what I want but I don’t dare to talk about this with her as she is the one who pay the most of the house. ]]> 2020-07-29 02:54:43 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657702 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657732 This incident happened just now during the tea break. I realized that my cubicle is not condusive thus I wanted to move to a discussion room in the library to allow me to focus. I am aware that I need to make a prior booking and need to seek clearance before using it. However, since this is last minute and the rooms are available, I seek the help of the librarian to allow me to use it.  I was ‘lectured’ by the librarian before being allowed to use it.  Was lectured about prior booking and “should there be someone who needs to use it, you will be asked to leave! ]]> 2020-07-29 02:54:46 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657732 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657777 I was a curious child. Whenever I asked questions, the adults would chastised me into silence]]> 2020-07-29 02:54:50 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657777 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657836 I can’t remember a time I couldn’t speak up about something important to me.From what I can remember, things which are important and I need to tell someone about it, I would speak up, if not it will bug me and affect my ability to function daily.]]> 2020-07-29 02:54:55 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657836 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657872 During recent meeting, RO assign tasks to me even though it is obviously not under my scope. RO always listens and given in to another very assertive co-worker whom most people try not to get in her way. I just don’t feel like speaking up, to question, etc. I remain silent and show my not too happy face.. ]]> 2020-07-29 02:54:57 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657872 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657898 A student had a huge meltdown during class and it has become a frequent occurence. As a result, the Year Head and School Leader decided that each time this happens, they will just "park" the student at the counselling room so that the rest of the class can continue with lesson. It feels like they are treating the counselling room as a full day childcare centre and they are not keen for the student to go back to class. It has been 3 weeks and there seems to be no way to turn the situation around. ]]> 2020-07-29 02:55:00 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657898 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657922 Honestly I can't remember the event.. I always 
speak out! Perhaps I speak too much!

]]> 2020-07-29 02:55:02 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664657922 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664695566 I feel I am given a lot of work and I hardly have time for marking but the RO and SLs think it is all within my portfolio. I decided that since I am outnumbered and outmuscled, that I will just shut up.   ]]> 2020-07-29 03:49:45 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/664695566 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/1148811584 During a camp, the school gate was locked using a numbered lock for that weekend. Only the teachers were aware of the pin and we were not supposed to inform the students/adult volunteers - for security reasons. However, a few teachers informed their adult leaders because they didn’t like the hassle of fetching them at the gate. I knew it was wrong but I was not comfortable with confrontations so I did not highlight how unsafe it was to do that.]]> 2021-02-01 14:17:05 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/1148811584 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/1151268961 A colleague I was not close with was making racist remarks  about  the students and their families. It was difficult for me  to voice out the inappropriateness of the  remark  and I just let the conversation continue. I felt bad that I didn’t have the “courage” to stand up for my own beliefs and for doing what’s “right”. I tried to rehearse in my mind on how to voice it out the next time if it happens again with the same colleague.]]> 2021-02-01 23:04:11 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/1151268961 susanlimwp https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/1151436822 There was a disagreement between the boss and the staff in previous job. We couldn’t come to terms. My boss banged the table and ended the conversation and said he is the boss and the decision is final. The meeting ended. ]]> 2021-02-02 00:42:42 UTC https://padlet.com/susanlimwp/MAA/wish/1151436822