Read and respond by Kathleen Houle-Jackson

Reminder:

kathleen_houlejackson — 2023-11-27 18:32:59 UTC

Post 2 to 3 quotes that resonated with you here. Try to identify what made you think, what you struggled with, and what you'll take away from the reading. Then reply to one other colleagues post.

Coaching

2023-12-07 15:47:05 UTC

Leadership is not about solving problems for people. It is about growing and developing people, so they are empowered and get skills to solve their problems better on their own.

The Second Arrow

2023-12-07 15:53:31 UTC

In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. The second arrow, however, is our reaction to the first arrow.

Empathy Vs. Compassion

2023-12-07 15:56:52 UTC

The feeling of empathy can be addictive.

Beware

2023-12-07 15:57:15 UTC

Beware the second arrow.

empathetic hijack

2023-12-07 15:57:17 UTC

you are not stepping away from the person, you are stepping away from the problem so you can better see it in perspective. p. 65

"By stepping away, you are not stepping away from the person, you are stepping away from the problem."

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Recharging

2023-12-07 15:57:36 UTC

We need to pay attention to the things that have meaning, that bring us joy, that make us feel like we are making a difference.

"When navigating the inner critic, the key is to bring that same level of compassion to ourselves"

2023-12-07 15:58:22 UTC

"Our ability to accept rather than reject, is the difference between inner peace or long and exhausting inner battles."

2023-12-07 15:58:32 UTC

You can only have the capacity to take care of others when you are healthy and strong. pg. 76

2023-12-07 15:59:02 UTC

Pay attention to how you talk to yourself. The fact that something is true does not justify our critic using it as ammunition to undermine our self-worth.

2023-12-07 15:59:18 UTC

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If as leaders we are oriented toward empathy, we will tend to hold people less accountable, stretch people less, and not share hard feedback.

2023-12-07 16:00:03 UTC

Leadership is not about solving problems for people. It is about growing and developing, so they are empowered and get skills to solve their problems better on their own.

Emotional Resonance

2023-12-07 16:00:05 UTC

Forget about your managerial status and be a fellow human on the path of common humanity.

2023-12-07 16:00:25 UTC

The voice and narrative in our heads are often the only things that stand between us and our success.

"With this second arrow comes the possibility of choice."

2023-12-07 16:00:37 UTC

Strategies for using empathy resonated with me.

"Coach and mentor them to find their OWN answers to their challenges."

2023-12-07 16:00:45 UTC

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Part of being a leader is accepting positive and negative feedback and activating a growth mindset to reflect, learn, and move forward, and try to not let it not bother you.

What do you need?

2023-12-07 23:12:55 UTC

The first step toward being helped is to feel heard and seen. When you ask this simple question you have already initiated the path to solve the issue.

2023-12-07 23:13:16 UTC

The feeling of empathy can be addictive

Recharge Your Batteries

2023-12-07 23:15:48 UTC

It is critical that we know what replenishes our energy and that we are wise enough to make time for it.

2023-12-07 23:23:13 UTC

If you have a problem and you can do something about it, what reason is there to worry.

Empathy Versus Compassion

2023-12-07 23:24:31 UTC

Embrace the wisdom of compassion p.64

2023-12-07 23:25:22 UTC

Pay attention to your inner critic, but give yourself the same level of campassion you give others.

Overcoming the Empathetic Hijack

2023-12-07 23:25:27 UTC

Coach the person to find their own solution.

2023-12-07 23:26:59 UTC

By stepping away, we are not stepping away from the person, You are stepping away from the problem so you can better see it in perspective and help solve it.

Ask what they need:

2023-12-07 23:27:47 UTC

The first step toward being helped is to feel heard and seen. When you ask the simple question, " What do you need?" you have already initiated the path to solve the issue by giving the person an opportunity to reflect on what might be needed. Their response will inform you better on what you can do to support them.

2023-12-07 23:28:05 UTC

Many problems don't need a solution, but rather to just be heard and seen.

2023-12-07 23:28:32 UTC

Leaders need to find ways of taying resilient, grounded, and in tune with ourselves.

Do it for you- Do it for others

2023-12-07 23:30:34 UTC

Having our own oxygen mask on enables us to pause and take a breath, so that we can be more intentional as leaders. But in bringing more wisdom and compassion into our leadership, we need to understand that BUSYNESS can kill our heart.