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Mohd Nazrin bin Mansor (1151300775)

2018-12-26 08:21:45 UTC

The outdated rule in my society is you must give present to someone during their birthday. I think the rule is outdated because nowadays people prefer to wish rather than giving something. I think the rule should change to you must wish someone during their birthday to suit the scenario today.

Iymun Bashir (1132702565)

2018-12-26 09:20:20 UTC

Grand Weddings/Arranged Marriages/Career Path - Pakistan

Many cultures around the world have arranged marriages and by no means is this a totally bad thing. There is this misconception, especially in the west, that arranged marriages = forced marriage... this is not true.

Statistics show that even today, there are great number of arranged marriages that are successful and the couple grow to be happy. But of course, there is the sad reality that some arranged marriages are indeed forced marriages due
to things like family pressure and such.

Personally, I don't think the concept of an arranged marriage is bad, but I do dislike how engrained it is in our culture, especially for women. It is kind of expected for the arrangement to happen and there is a bit of a stigma and turning away when men/women seek out love marriages.

This is something I believe should change as a marriage should be done as the couple involved want: arranged by parents/family if you want or if you meet someone on your own and form a relationship.

On the topic of weddings, another common tradition of many cultures is those of grand weddings... inviting huge amount of people, spending insane amounts of money, large venue, many days to the entire wedding procedures and so on.

This is something that many families demand from a new couple and is something I vehemently disagree with. A wedding should be at the purview of the couple being married. They should be the ones to decide how big a wedding is, who to invite, how much they want to spend and so on... not the family or friends.

Dealing with such arrangements can involve the local government in way. Maybe providing the new couple that ability or legal means to reject/deny large wedding unless they themselves agree to it. Or by requiring large weddings to have the explicit signed/legal approval of both sides of the family so that one family can't pressure the other.

Speaking of family pressure and influence, a tradition that sees itself persisting till this day is that of the parents, especially the father, pressuring and basically deciding the career future of their kids. Now there is nothing wrong with a parent's advice and guidance, I mean, who better to get it
from... but some parents like to force their kids into the typical two choices: doctor or engineer.

The landscape of the working environment has greatly changed since the days of our parents/grandparents... back then, it was more that by becoming a doctor or engineer you were getting into the high paying and safe career. Parents take on from their own experience and knowledge and it can be seen wit how many kids are basically forced into the
parent's choice rather than their own.

These days, there are so many more options and paths that one can take to a job that is not only well paid, but secure and of meaning to the person. Parents need to be explained and educated that there current job market and choice of career is so vast, a child can go into whatever career path they want.

This education can come from expanded efforts by local governments to advertise the many open career paths, introducing more information sessions to schools for parents and graduating students to have access to, local career explanation events or career fairs at schools or local areas for families to attend.

Ameen Sidhik (1181302364)

ameen_sidhik — 2018-12-26 10:37:05 UTC

Dowry System in India

India is the worlds largest populated democratic country and it has the strongest constitution and laws than any other country. Laws are created to replace the unevenly old, traditional methods which make citizens life easier. Eventhough laws changed the old system, there are still some old practices that give headache amongst the people of India and one of them is the Dowry System.

Dowry System was practiced during the pre-colonial Era. After Independence, India created several laws to prevent the giving and taking of Dowry. As years passed, it is still happening in India. There are many cases where Dowry lead many families to Bankrupt, atlast leading to suicide. Prevention and banning of Dowry is now becoming a very important part of the Indian society. If I will be the handler for preventing dowry, i will perform some effective measures to prevent Dowry. People should stand together and raise their voice with unity. Nothing is effective if there is no unity.

1) Awareness: People should be well known and be aware to prevent their family from dowry. If the grooms family demand specific amount of Money, leave their offerings and back out from that marriage case. In some cases, there will be demand for dowry after marriage. Due to this, the bride has to face harassment both physically and mentally. Do not bear the pain. Be brave, get out of grooms house and file a complaint against him.

2)Advicing: There are families who demands dowry without grooms concern. Under such circumstances, the groom should convince and advise his parents to opt out of Dowry.

3)Dowry Pledge: Marriage is a gift from Allah. Do not make it a troubled one by demanding dowry. We all should pledge to disband dowry. We should remove and clear all our greedy needs.It is said that, a man who marries his bride without drowry, he is a real man with dignity and honour.

Remember, every dowry demand is a threat, so walk away.

Thank You,
Ameen Sidhik(1181302364)

1142702621 Muhammad Shafiq Rahmat

1142702621 — 2018-12-26 13:13:41 UTC

Toll in Wedding Ceremony

In Malay's culture of certain states, we have this thing called 'toll' during wedding ceremonies. This 'toll' is usually done when the groom wants to enter the bride's house to meet the bride who is waiting on the aisle. There will be children and women waiting at the door asking the groom to give them money (toll). Once the groom paid, then he can meet his wife.

This custom is considered to be outdated. Most of the wedding ceremonies nowadays are not doing this custom anymore. This custom is considered a burden to the groom as he will need to prepare extra money whilst also paying for other things.

muhammad hariz (1171102874)

2018-12-26 14:24:51 UTC

mother of the bride has the power in everything when it comes the her daughter's wedding

Mother are given so much power to make decision on;
who the girl should married,
what car he must have,
how much must the guy pay for the bride,
and how big the banquet will be.
I am totally disagree with this culture of malay. In Malaysia, all malay is considered as muslim and this much power given to the mother is no where in Islamic teaching. As a Muslim, father should be the one that make the decision as they are the 'wali' for the girl. We are not in the era of P. Ramli anymore where parent choose who the girl should married too.
I think that
1)Young people should be given more space and freedom to choose their soulmate.
2) father should be more dominant
3) the ceremony should be based on the couple capability and not on "the mother's wedding dream".

1151300694

2018-12-26 14:52:03 UTC

In my community, when there's a death of someone which we called an arwah, the family of the arwah will conduct a ceremony known as tahlil as in Islam. I as a Muslim does not against the practice of tahlil, instead I think it's good for the dead (as my belief in Islam, the recitation of the Al-Quran verses can help him/her in the afterlife). But in Malay culture within my community, usually the family of the arwah will prepare a feast for the people that came to the ceremony to recite some of the Al-Quran verses for arwah. This is okay for me, if the family has a strong financial capabilities, but what about for the less fortunate families whom not just lost one of their family member but have to spend a huge amount of money for the food? Instead why not we as an ummah and community prepare the feast for the arwah instead of his/her family.

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jminemz — 2018-12-26 14:56:29 UTC

The culture that i consider as an outdated one in my community is tribal preference
In my community tribes tend form groups to degrade other tribes which causes hate and miss communication
If its up to me i will demolish tribes names so they won’t be spreading hate amongst other people

Tan Chin Goon 1141328053

2018-12-26 15:07:40 UTC

I can say that using the pestle and mortar to grind food into small pieces is outdated despite still being used today (mostly on rural areas....). This is because it will take a bit longer to grind food to make spices or curry. The blender is modern and an effective way to grind food than the pestle and mortar. However, we still must respect the tradition done by our ancestors....

1151103104

2018-12-26 15:08:45 UTC

In malay culture, if you are a younger sibling and you wish to get married but you have an older sister that is not married yet, you have to buy her some thing that is gold, either bracelet, earring or anything as long as its gold. I dont think we need to inherit this tradition in future generation.

Noor Syakirah Bt Ruslan Hadi 1142702432

noorsyakirah_ruslan — 2018-12-26 16:22:44 UTC

There is this one culture that Malay used to do which is "Mandi Bunga" or floral bath. The floral bath is a traditional cleansing ritual practiced to ward off evil and illness and to bring good fortune and luck by the Malays in Malaysia. Usually, the Malays will perform this before their wedding day. -Besides flowers, Kaffir Lime ( Limau Purut ) and pomelo ( Som-O ) leaves are commonly used ingredients in the mandi bunga ritual. The Malays believe that bathing with kaffir lime can dispel evil and bad luck. The fruit is cut and blended with plain water and flower petals and then bathe with as part of spiritual cleansing.

In my opinion, it is outdated and also deviating from Islam's teaching since this is considered as "khurafat" or superstition. We as muslims must believe in qada' and qadar for everything that happens to us. Besides, we must believe that everything happens for a reason. However, we can still practice this culture as long as our intention is not against Islam's teaching.

1151301244 Wafa Mohd Haslan

xifuwafa — 2018-12-26 16:25:27 UTC

In Asian culture and Malay culture specifically, the child has to hold their tongue from saying back things to the elder when the parent is saying, scolding them or raise their voice for whatever the reason is. Even when the parents went to the length of being abusive, the child has to shut their mouth and just accept whatever is happening to them. The child is NOT expected to stand their ground even when they are right because they have to obey and accept the punishment.

This is a very toxic culture that is rooted in our society; this experience traumatised the child and they suppressed and bottled up their feelings until they are grown enough to repeat the process. Creating a non-endless cycle of abuse and pent up feelings.

I wish new parents will listen to their children and let them explain their side of stories. Your children are NOT your punching bag.

I call nonsense on this toxic culture and wishing my fellow peers will not do it to their future children.

Thenuel bin Teli 1171102878

thenuelteli19 — 2018-12-26 17:45:53 UTC

In Melanau culture, (race in Sarawak) on the funeral day, the eldest people will play an instrumental music that called "seputum". They believe that by playing that music they can avoid from a continuous dead in their family member.This instrumental music is played by 3 to 4 person. They need to maintain the rythm by using the long wood. Nowadays, this culture has been lost in time as the generation is going through the changes.

Ismat Mohamed Siddig 1171100453

2018-12-26 18:15:41 UTC

Funerals in Sudan

I am a Sudanese person who lived in Saudi Arabia. In Sudan, Funerals are usually 3 days and people who are related to the deceased gather around and pay their condolences which is a good thing. In general, funerals take around 2-3 days as maximum. What I see as an outdated custom is when people overstay their welcome; By that i mean when people who usually come from further away places such as villages and small town on the outskirts of the capital or a larger city and stay for a week or sometimes even more. I do understand their case that says they should be able to stay for a longer period of time but in my opinion i think it abuses the kindness and welcoming of the sudanese people.

The Saudis on the other hand have an unspoken rule or custom, where people who want to visit the close family of the deceased and pay their condolences have a 3 day window. It is known in Saudi Arabia that you shouldn’t visit the family of the deceased to pay respects after 3 days.

I think we as Sudanese people should take a page out of the Saudi culture and start having a 3-day maximum for a funeral no matter how important or how close the visitors are to the deceased.

Mohamed Elorbany 1171101384

mohamedelorbany — 2018-12-26 18:24:02 UTC

Wedding in Egypt
The morning after the wedding in Egypt the bride's mom and dad goes to visit her daughter and brings food with them to check on their daughter and how was her wedding night
for me i think this is an old fashion as it is invading their private life
i think if they want to check up on them maybe after a couple of days or even the next morning but using the phone or texts

1142700755 Chan Chin Keong

c4championk4king — 2018-12-27 03:27:16 UTC

Bowing

To indicate deep respect and appreciation the Chinese may make the traditional gesture of cupping a fist with the other hand and bringing the hands towards the forehead while the head is gently bowed. Originally deep veneration was practiced with the kowtow, bowing to the ground, although this is now only practiced in a religious context.

Chloe Choe Wei Ee (1142702148)

2018-12-27 03:52:40 UTC

In the Chinese culture, the families are forbidden to celebrate Chinese New Year for a whole year if a member have passed. They should not visit or be visited by others during this festive season as it is considered to be a morning ritual and so that no bad luck will pass from one family to another. This is one of the Chinese superstition that I believe is considered to be outdated in this era. Chinese New Year is a celebration of the new year based on the Chinese calendar and should not be affected by any other rituals. If given the mandate to revise this custom, no restrictions should be given to anyone in celebrating the Chinese New Year as the purpose of one occasion differs from another.

Cheam Tat Wah (1151301767)

1151301767 — 2018-12-27 03:59:34 UTC

One of the culture that I consider outdated is that during the first day of Chinese New Year, Chinese are not allow to wash their hair. I think this should be changed as the night before Chinese people will have reunion dinner, praying and children are playing with fireworks. On the first day of Chinese New Year, we will visit to relative house, so hygiene is important as to show respect to ourselves and others.

1171102882 Shazril

2018-12-27 04:01:15 UTC

In Malay culture, we do have a lot of traditional games such as konda kondi and galah panjang. But nowadays, all those games considered outdated because of the modern lifestyle. People prefer to live with gadget rather than dealing with the reality. We become more passive and less interaction between us. Moreover, people living in town or city don't really have much space to play all these games. So, it disappear slowly in Malay culture and the are people who don't even know what are actually those games. I would correct it by reducing the use of gadget and be more active on physical activities.

Ushalvn Raj A/L Kogularaja (1171103007

2018-12-27 04:48:30 UTC

In Indian culture, there is a saying that “receiving money, food and other items is considered as unlucky”. I consider this outdated as luck is something unseen and it is only used as a scare tactic to make young people to use right hand at all times. As we are in a much changed world, this form of unsupported beliefs should be eliminated. I would revise this saying as “receiving money,food and other items with your left hand can be disrespectful towards people offering you the item”

Tan Wen Kang 1151302903

1151302903 — 2018-12-27 06:26:05 UTC

In Chinese culture, during moon festival some family will sit around a table in the compound eating mooncake and watching the moon. Then the parents will tell the children not to point our finger to the moon. If we do that the moon will cut our ear down. But for a moon come to us to cut our ear is impossible. Thats why its slowly outdated as the new generation who are believe in it is getting less

Choe Choon Kit 1132702962

2018-12-27 06:48:59 UTC

Traditional Chinese weddings taboos:
Before the wedding, there are many things that can hinder the wedding and cause it to be postpone, some are unavoidable and unexpected events such as when a family member passes away. The result is that the wedding has to be postpone to a later date about 100 days and this might not be so flexible in today's modern day where date of the wedding dinner, hotel rooms, guest list, etc. has all been plan and set way before this time period.
I would revise it by reducing this time period or just abolish it. I personally experience this as my brother had to revise the wedding day 3 months later after my grandma's passing, because he had to respect his mother-in-law practices.

Muhammad Syawal Bin Nasarudin 1151301595

2018-12-27 07:03:14 UTC

One custom that I consider outdated is for the Malay Muslim when praying in jemaah, the imam is expected to have beautiful and soothing voice when reciting the Quran and recite long doa and zikir after the prayer.

It put unnecessary burden to someone. This is why I think the Malay Muslim is more reluctant to praying in jemaah or appointed as the imam than the Arab Muslim.

The focus should be on gaining the 27 times more reward when praying in jemaah. So, if you a Malay Muslim and are only able to recite surah 3 qul, keep calm and just be the imam.

Mahmoud Khalouf 1151304457

2018-12-27 08:51:30 UTC

In syria the period between engagement and marriage takes from 3 month to 1 year and mostly 1 year so people get engage in the summer so they have to get married in the next summer. it is kind of precocious to ensure that the couple will have enough time to get to know each other to avoid future problem after marriage.

this rule is outdated because the long waiting will affect the relation after marriage.

maybe one month to three month is enough for the couple to be ready for the marriage.

Gan Qi Hong 1142700510

ganqihong96 — 2018-12-27 09:07:48 UTC

One of the traditional chinese culture I think is ourdated is where married daughter are not allowed to go back to their parents home during first day of Chinese New Year. There is a sentence saying a daughter who are married are equivalent to a pail of water splashed out, where we cant collect back the water. So i think, instead of prohibiting a woman to go back to their parents homes on first day of chinese new year, we need to modify this in order to celebrate chinese new year together no matter which home are you at.

Mohd Mu'aazullah Bin Yaakob 1151302320

2018-12-27 09:10:53 UTC

Usually for the ancient Malay community, it must to makeup the virgin women who will be married about three days before the wedding ceremony. The virgin will be prepared by a handyman and will manage all the work of preparing the bride. The idea of preparing is that the woman who wants to be married needs to be shaved and shape of her eyebrows then, the teeth of the virgin will be sharpened with a type of stone so that the size and position of teeth can be seen evenly. All of this is done by old-fashioned elders with a good purpose, which is to add beauty to the virgin women. There are still Malays who adhere to the proverb, "Better your children die than your tradition".

Hasyimah Binti Rosselan

2018-12-27 11:44:13 UTC

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In Malay Culture, one of the custom that we can consider outdate is 'Melenggang Perut'.
this custom is apply to pregnant woman with the age between 7 to 8 months of age.
This ceremony will be carried out by a midwife to remove the incident that will befall the pregnant woman before her deliver the baby and at the same time to correcting the baby's condition in the abdomen. I think this method actually not necessary because nowadays many technology method can handle the baby's situation.

1132702977

2018-12-27 12:00:18 UTC

EITHER MEDICINE OR ENGINEERING NO OTHER CHOICE. This is the usual case when a son or daughter is about to go to university. This kind of view is in Yemeni culture or most probably in Asian culture in general. It is not right to align everyone in the same line with disregard to their abilities and skills.
If i would revise it, i would let everyone choose for him/herself and guide him/her if needed.

Leong Chern Yang 1142701871

2018-12-27 12:49:39 UTC

One of the Chinese tradition which I think is outdated is that everyone in a Chinese wedding feasts has to wait until the every guest has reached only then the ceremony can start. Even though it is still commonly practised by the community, I personally think it is a practise that is outdated and encourages everyone to have a mindset that the ceremony to delay, so it is okay for them to be late. Possibly forcing the ceremony to end hastily in order to accommodate the schedule. My current solution to address this issue is that I do my part as a guest, be punctual to every ceremony I am invited to.

V.Kalaivanan 1142702580

2018-12-27 13:49:55 UTC

In Indian weddings, ppl throw rice to the married coupled as the act is meant to literally shower the new couple with an abundance of fertility and good fortune.Might we suggest rose petals, instead? Why waste food

1142702381 Tan Han Yi

2018-12-27 16:27:40 UTC

One of the Chinese culture that i think it is outdated is that some families insist to have a big wedding banquet and make the banquet as big as possible and the parent will be very unhappy if the newly married couple refuse to have wedding banquet. To me, sometimes this is something excessive and really tiring for the newly-married couple to satisfy their family. It is quite tiring because usually they need to attend the wedding banquet for both bride and bridegroom side. Besides of wedding banquet, normally there are a lot Chinese ritual that need to be done on the newly married couple at the wedding night. There are also many thinks to prepare and deal with at the wedding day. It is quite often to hear that either bride or bridegroom is sick the next day due to over-exhausted. So, to me, i think it is better for the family to let the newly married couple to decide whether they want to have wedding banquet or not and how big they want the banquet to be (because some people like the banquet to be small and only for those close relative and friends).

Loh Xin Xiang 1151301906

2018-12-28 01:45:44 UTC

In chinese culture, there is a tendency to get new clothes and new things for Chinese New Year as a mean to usher in the new year. I consider this tradition outdated and superstitious in nature. It is not wise to spend so much especially on new clothes just for Chinese New Year. If you still have nice clothes available, I don'' t think it is necessary to get new ones.

Lim Kar Wun 1142702516

karwunlim — 2018-12-28 02:26:58 UTC

In the past CNY, black colour shirt(bad luck) is forbidden to wear. The reason is the new generation does not care about the colour restriction. They just want to make themselves look nicer. If I correct them, I will allow them to wear any colour of shirt. But the first day of CNY should be in red(good luck) .

Annamalai

2018-12-28 02:49:27 UTC

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According to Indian Culture, we are not allowed to cut nail at night. I feel the reason for this was is because last time there was no light at night and there is a chance that the person may hurt himself in the process. Hence, if I were to change it then I'll allow nails to be cut at night as long as there is light.

KOH HONG YANG 1142701623

1142701623 — 2018-12-28 03:53:06 UTC

In Chinese New Year, we are not allowed to sweep or take out garbage from our house. The act of sweeping on this day is associated with sweeping wealth away. Taking out garbage symbolizes dumping out the good luck or good fortune from the house.
To me, I think this is an outdated Chinese tradition.

Muhamad Umar Mokhtar Ashaari Bin Muhamad 1142700073

2018-12-28 04:49:57 UTC

In the Malay culture, before getting married there is this rules where parents from both parties will be conducting an investigation among the couples pair. And during the investigation parents on the male couple side will judge the character of his couple by her hands. For as, if the palms of her hands are rough, its to be assumed that she had done a lot of house work. While on the male side of judgement, he will be judge based on his family status and wealth.

For this context, I do feel that this rule are outdated because currently in this era of technology growth, I don't think that its right to judge a woman by the palm of her hands, and man based on their wealth.

Tan Yau Wai 1151301882

1151301882 — 2018-12-28 05:45:38 UTC

On the first and second day of Chinese New Year, chinese are forbidden to wash their hair and clothes because elders believe that this could wash away their good fortune. I think this custom is outdated and superstitious, and it is literally impossible to not wash your hair for two days, especially in Malaysia. By the way, younger generation are no longer following this custom.

Muhammad Hassan 1171102877 FOE

1171102877 — 2018-12-28 07:48:11 UTC

In Malay weddings, people especially in the southern areas of Malaysia Peninsular had tolls at the wedding before they can proceed to see the bride. Tolls can involved some money and some poems that need to done by the groom. If the tolls doesn't burdened the groom, it is okay but usually it is burdensome especially in nowadays economy. Luckily, many people realized that these cultures was outdated and many prefer minimalist-style or budget style of wedding.

Muhammad Fariz bin Azmi 1171102848

2018-12-28 10:51:09 UTC

In malay culture, if one person in a house die, after the dead person was buried, the members must keep the house's lights turn on for certain days. This is because old malay people believe that "roh orang mati" or the spirit of dead people will come visit his/her house. So to welcoming his/her visit, the members must make sure the house always bright. but for me that culture was outdated, malay people nowadays are more open and according to islam, dead people have their own journey in afterlife so that the spirit will stay in another world and never come to his /her house.

Deepti Balakrishnan (1181302187)

2018-12-28 11:30:41 UTC

In Indian culture, if a black cat crosses the road or walks in front of you, it means there will be something negative happening to your loved ones or to yourself. People think it is a curse. I feel this is just a superstition and I feel this is outdated because it isnt in the God's book and it is just a man made believe.

Liew Huey Ting 1142700924

1142700924 — 2018-12-28 12:58:23 UTC

Custom that I consider outdated is that we are not allowed to use an umbrella in indoor as it will bring bad luck. I think it's outdated because it is just a superstitious of elders, there is no prove on that. If I were given the mandate to revise them, I will allow people to use an umbrella in indoor.

Soo Joon Yee 1142701650

2018-12-28 14:29:38 UTC

In Chinese culture, while eating, we are not allowed to insert the chopsticks into the rice straightly as it is extremely rude. This is due to when the chopstick insert into the rice straightly, it looks like burning incense which we only do so to the deceased in front of the tomb. People think that this is a curse. I think this is outdated as although it's somehow looks similar, there is no intention to disrespect others and the curse is only a superstitious.

Won Yong Xiong (1142700878)

2018-12-28 14:38:34 UTC

In many Asian households, elders are deemed to be the most respectful people in a family. Regardless of their thinking and actions, the younger generation should never oppose or disagree to the elders' advice. This is a backward culture that I believe should be revised as one's maturity is not judged by their age and respect is a two-way value. Some of the customs created by the ancestors are excessively conservative as compared to the living lifestyle of this day; even the technologies evolved so should the practice of the cultures.

Sleiman,Abdulaziz (1181302001)

2018-12-28 15:10:52 UTC

The Arabs are known for their pleasant family gatherings on food tables, but the bad is that the great extravagance in cooking and variety of foods and dishes ,where most of the food is throwing after they finish.

I believe that they should minimize the amount of food in each sitting session.

Sleiman,Khaled Mohamad (1141326319)

2018-12-28 15:34:15 UTC

In my community , a bad habit is the Lack of respect for time, instead of managing and investing it . "We will meet afternoon " a common phrase in our society, summarizes our lack of concern and respect for time and dates. I think people should respect the others’s times and that needs time, start from schools , educate the new generation , Awareness of the importance of time.

Muhammad Shahril Nizam bin Abdullah (1171102891

2018-12-28 16:46:05 UTC

In malay community, the culture that I have found outdated was the culture of not going out at night and come back in midnight. Previously, this culture is assumed to be the most compulsory rule for children and teenagers. The reason is because the parents wanted to avoid unwanted problems happened when they go out at night either alone or with friends. Usually, the children will go out at night with parents only. Nevertheless, this rule or culture seems to be neglected as the time goes and become outdated especially to those teenagers who have finished their secondary school and to students in which currently having their school break. Why I assumed that this is outdated? It is because parents nowadays are usually busy with their work and sometimes they got back home during midnight, therefore the children feel that it is okay to go outside at night and hanging out with friends.
Hence, if I were given a mandate to revise it, I will do a lot of campaigns to promote parenting skills towards 'busy' parents. Besides, as a teenager, I will share with them the beneficial things that we can do at home.

1171302115

2018-12-28 17:24:21 UTC

It is common to Malay muslim In our homeland, when death occurs in a family, the deceased's family member will provide food and drink. Normally, the deceased's family will cook and prepare the foods according to the number of people who are present at the funeral or according to the number of people involved in helping them. In short, entertaining food and drink after death has been the task of death by the deceased, whether they are rich or poor. If they aren't doing it, they will be seen by the surrounding people for not following the customs.
For me customs like this does not have to be continued in our country anymore. In Islam also states that we can not burdened the family of the deceased because of the misfortune that has happened to their family. It is better for us to give them food and needs instead of received it from deceased's family to lighten their burden, especially that the family is in poverty.

Poh Hao Yang

1181302543 — 2018-12-29 08:54:31 UTC

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In Chinese culture, when we have any kind of event we must are required to burn incense. This practice is consider outdated and not environmentally friendly. If i were given the mandate to revise them i will limit the number of incense needed for praying and others just pray with their hand.

1151103727

2018-12-29 10:06:34 UTC

Early marriage is a widespread problem in Bangladesh, which has the world’s worst record on child marriage: according to UNICEF, nearly two-thirds of girls are married before the age of eighteen. More than a quarter of girls are married before they reach fifteen.
This is one of the outdated custom and culture in Bangladesh. I think the girls should have their opinion about marriage. The parents should atleast follow the rules and get their daughter married at the age of 18.

Jasser Sherif 1141126603

1141126603 — 2018-12-29 11:08:36 UTC

in many households, elders are considered to be the most respectful people. regardless of their ways of thinking and actions, the youngsters can never oppose them. I believe that this is backward thinking. moreover, the respect should be mutual and in a discussion an understanding has to be reached from both sides. However, sometimes the elders are correct as they have more experience and more knowledge but the respect and understanding has to be met.
Also there is another outdated customs, some say if a black cat passes infront of you it is considered as bad luck or something negative will happen. I feel that this is superstition and people should stop believing these superstitions as it is silly and might make people thing negatively

Patrick Lam Kar Jun 1142702502

patricklam761 — 2018-12-29 14:08:40 UTC

In Chinese tradition culture, we always burn incense, joss paper or the paper-made 'stuffs' during the event of worshiping the ancestor or any festival event. It is believed that by burning those joss paper or incense only that those can be passed to our ancestor or god who lived 'above' us. However those gas can cause air pollution just like cars, smoking and more.The air pollution around temples has been documented to have harmful effects on health. I think we should have a new way of worshiping that will not cause any side effect to us
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Muhamad Iqbal 1171102522

1171102522 — 2018-12-29 16:08:05 UTC

In many cases where my parents are invited to weddings I am forced to go even though I do not have a clue who the betrothed are. In the end we just end up going to eat and not talking to anyone or even congratulating the newlyweds.

Liu Yik Hsiang 1142700174

2018-12-30 01:36:33 UTC

In Chinese culture, the burning joss paper is outdated. They believe they can pass money to their ancestor by burning the joss paper. Actually burning the joss paper will cause air pollution. I advise them to pray with their hand which can reduce the pollution.

Nor Afrina Zahari 1151100838

2018-12-30 07:34:33 UTC

In Malay's wedding why the bride and groom need to prepare the the gifts for each other in odd numbers. Why not they just give the rings only? All the gifts end up they use too. They should keep secret what the gifts they prepare for each other and should not show to people by putting on the trays. For me, doing this thing considered as show off.

Shaikh Hassan Rizwan (1151104700): Dowry System in Marriages (Pakistan).

2018-12-30 10:57:44 UTC

In Pakistan the dowry system is, in my opinion is the most outdated and unnecessary culture. Not only it is a burden on the bride's family but is also one of the main reason of marriages being cancelled. During the period of the new government, there are news regarding the dowry system being banned. Furthermore even without a clear order from the government, the new generation of Pakistan is rising against this outrageous custom.

Syakir Azim ( 1171102631)

2018-12-30 13:05:26 UTC

1. During an open house, the child of the parent that is hosting is told to not eat the food that the parent has made as it is considered rude to the guests. This rule is outdated because guest come to mainly greet and have conversations.

In my opinion, if the child is really hungry he shouldn't be abstained from eating the food. Also, the child should not eat all the food.

Nurul Faizah Binti Mishak (1171302053)

2018-12-30 13:06:13 UTC

"Langkah bendul"

In Malay culture, when a man want to marry with a woman who got an eldest sister who has not been married yet, he need to give the sister a gift or present in order to get married. This culture shows that the groom respect the eldest sister and ask permission to let the younger sister get marry first.

For me, i think this culture is outdated as when we are holding a wedding ceremony, a lot of expenses need to be used. By giving the present, it increase more the expenses and give trouble to the groom.

Ba-Ajajah, Ayman Khaled (1161302846)

2018-12-30 13:32:25 UTC

"Education is the solution." Thus, the global consensus of warriors against the issue of early marriage, one voice is confident in the ability of education to change the reality of women in countries where girls are still deprived of completing their education and forced to marry before the age of eighteen.

Around 14 million child get married around the globe In some Arab countries Child marriage is legal. This marriage has catastrophic consequences for girls, including an increased risk of complications during pregnancy, such as preeclampsia and fetal weakness, leading to a higher mortality rate among newborns. This may lead to the inability to have children or to have deformed children, Which afflicts women and causes them several diseases, such as breast cancer and cervical cancer, and increased divorce among married couples at an early age. As well as girls who are victims of physical assaults.

Zafir Naim Bin Zulkifli 1142702599

1142702599 — 2018-12-30 14:28:45 UTC

Based on Malay culture, most of elders will always keep reminding their young ones about do's and don'ts in the jungle. For example, asking permission for excretion or defecation and plant plucking.

The reason these custom is outdated because its hardened the job for rescuer to find the missing person in the jungle as the person did not leave any sign for the rescuer to trace.

Eman Abdelmoniem Osman 1141127778

emanrxosman — 2018-12-30 14:43:29 UTC

Chastity is considered one of the main virtues of Sudanese culture. Among other things, it is seen as a defining characteristic that a woman should have, and unchaste women are persecuted socially and, in cases where they are caught being 'unchaste', legally.
Female genital mutilation (FGM) is a widely practiced custom in Sudan. In rural areas, people are guided by this custom such that the majority of women have undergone FGM. This custom is practiced because the general mentality in these areas is that a woman shall remain 'untouched' until marriage, and since FGM results in the supposed removal of the female libido, it is seen as the method of ensuring a woman remains chaste.
There is no scientific evidence that FGM is healthy or beneficial. In fact, most scientific research has found that it results in a wide variety of diseases and conditions that stump a woman's sexual growth and health, leading to their inability to give birth naturally and making them prone to infections. It is even stated in many religious (Muslim) literature that it should not be done, as it does more harm than good.
Given the mandate to revise this custom, I would completely abolish it. I would seek to educate the masses on the dangers of FGM and remind them that the supposed liberal media that shuns FGM is, in fact, correlating to Muslim teachings. The custom of FGM should be removed entirely from the traditions of Sudan, not just for the protection of girls, but also for the health of communities.

Muhammad Al-Haziq bin Ahmad Alhadi 115130087

2018-12-30 15:31:31 UTC

In my opinion, the practice of giving money to 'tuan rumah' during a wedding ceremony.
As the host already invited the guest for celebration, not to mention the amount of gifts given by the guests themselves, I think it's enough by attending the wedding to honor the invitation.
Sometimes I feel like this practice is not necessary since there is already a tradition of giving gifts to the newlyweds. The origin of this practice is quite mysterious as it is unclear where this is started.

Muhammad Arif bin Kamarul Azmi 1181302573

2018-12-31 01:45:46 UTC

In my Malays culture or society, we are forbid to cut our nails at night and sometime consider that action as an evil deed . From Islamic belief, there is nothing wrong with that but some scholar said it is "makruh" a disliked act because of the darkness of night that cause limited eyes vision that can cause miscutting nails or even worse can injured our fingers. I think that is why Malays culture forbid it but I consider that taboo outdated because of nowadays our house brightness at night is equal as in the day perhaps even much brighter. So my suggestion is that you can cut your nails as long as your room has enough light sources. Much better if you can cut your nails on friday to follow the sunnah of our messager Muhammad peace be upon him.

1161303054

1161303054 — 2018-12-31 04:27:07 UTC

In indian culture, before marriage, the parents of both the bride and groom will meet with an astrologer to check their 'compatibility' and their future. Some 'predictions' are so negative that the marriage never happens.

I think this practice is so outdated and backward. We should be able to be with someone we love and not breakup over what some astrologer thinks.

1141327335

2018-12-31 05:01:53 UTC

In the middle east in general there is a big gap between the new and the old generation, the young should always take advise from the elderly, because they are more experienced.

I think it is true for 80% of the time, but there are some times where it is not true, and the elderly experience doesn't apply to in to day and age

Muhammad yusri azpansyah 1171102835

2018-12-31 05:04:10 UTC

n malay culture , there are certain things that young girls are forbidden to do. For example, sitting at the stair and singing in the kitchen. In malaysia culture, those two actions will lead to no one will purpose them in future.

The real reason behind these actions is actually more than that. No one will come to purpose because when the young girl is singing in the kitchen they will not focus while doing their job like cooking or cutting the food ingredient. If that happened the cook will be prepared well and maybe it will be salty. Furthermore, sitting at the stair is actually they eldest dont want the young girl to daydream and do beneficial works instead

These taboos are actually out to date. Nowadays, singing have become and habit for most youngster hence it is actually something that cannot be avoided. For sitting at the stair, it is no all about day dream but sometime people do that to spend their time outside to see nature.

Hadee bin zaid (1181302570)

hadeeezaid — 2018-12-31 05:40:25 UTC

In my opinion, preparing the dulang to propose someone in malay custon is unnecesary because i feel it is a waste of money. I think it would be best if we follow what Islam has listed on proposing someone. It would be hard for someone who has a low income to prepare for the dulang to someone they want to propose and the person ask for a big amount of dulang.

If i were to rewrite that customs, it would be just following the sharia ways in proposing someone as it is simpler and the use of cost is less

2018-12-31 06:18:38 UTC

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Mohamad Aminuddin bin Mohamad 1151304800

2018-12-31 06:19:32 UTC

I come from the state of Johor where it is very common in a wedding ceremony that a bridegroom always has to ‘bayar tol’ whenever he wanted to get to the bride during the wedding reception ceremony. I found it very unnecessary to practice that kind of culture of giving a token of money to the bridesmaids before you can get to the brides. It is somehow excessive and wasting of money. The bridegroom has already provide dowry for the purpose of marrying the brides and I don’t see that there’s a need to spend more for ‘bayar tol’ to the bridesmaids. Marriage should be modest.

POH CHING QIAN 1142701636

2018-12-31 06:19:54 UTC

in most of the community, people will think other people will do for it. For example, if the traffic lamp is unfunction, no people will call to the relevant department to repair the traffic lamp. They had a mindset that other people will call it or the relevant.department should had the responsibility to do a regular check around the town else they will keep complain about the relevant department is not doing their job.

In my opinion, it's should be our responsibility to take care our area to avoid any inconvenience casued in the future

1141326593

2018-12-31 06:25:43 UTC

There are too many things. In my culture usually elder relatives have a power to control your life. They think that we are not ready to make a decision. And because of that we can't choose what you like to do or what you want to study.

1171102844 - Adam Elyas bin Aliasaa

1171102844 — 2018-12-31 06:38:39 UTC

In my opinion, one of the outdated rules is to not open umbrellas indoors. It is thought that it will upset the spirits and it will bring bad luck. This varies with different culture though. I was amazed to find this common with other cultures even with western countries. However, in the modern times, we should call it what it is: superstition. Why would the spirits be offended? "Look at this guy with his umbrella. This punk thinks he's better than us!"

To be fair, why would you open an umbrella indoors? Maybe the taboo is created to discourage us from this pointless act.

Muhammad Rahimie Bin Rosli 1141128491

1141128491 — 2018-12-31 06:45:45 UTC

In Malay calcture. Every children was told by their elder to rules and regulation when entering jungle. Basically, they were told to ask permission to pay respect to the guardian spirit in the jungle. They also being told to not sit at any rock formation because it is the place where the guardian spirit rest place. There also a rules to not called your friend using nickname. To me this customs is outdated. This actually teach the children to belive in supernatural.

1132702332

2018-12-31 06:58:32 UTC

Ahmad Umaer bin Mohamad

In my opinion, the outdated rules that is still being used a lot today is drawing henna at their hands. In Islam, we have been tought to be modest and the rules that is mentioned is not something that is considered as modest.

1171302255

2018-12-31 07:03:17 UTC

Sharavn Rao A/l Siva Rao

The outdated culture that I will be talking about is cross culture marriage. For example, a person who marries another person from a different culture or religion, will be viewed differently in the eyes of their respective community. IN my opinion, I believe that we should be more open minded and respect other's decision and be happy for them. Instead of tearing them apart, everyone should support their decision and welcome them with open hands. We should not clutter our mind with negative perception about others.

1142702257 Erfan Fiqre Bin Masdi

2018-12-31 07:12:17 UTC

One of the customs that I think is not reasonable today is when malay people wanted to marry. The man has to give a (money) “hantaran” to the woman. The outdated thing is the amount of money that is needed to sent depends on the education of the woman. E.g. If the woman has diploma, the man has to sent approximately RM 5000, this depends on the female’s side of the family and it will rise exponentially with higher education level like degree, master, phd and etcetera. To me this is outdated because the money could be funnel to future investment like buyying house, savings for the future accidents. Furthermore, some people could not afford to accumulate the amount of money needed, because of student loan, small salary and high cost of living. Hence, this will cause them to go into debt so as to get the money, they will borrow money from banks and loan sharks. Additionally, the borrowing of money also have additional charges like interest.

Abdulaziz jafar M alghamdi

abdulazizja1421 — 2018-12-31 07:30:19 UTC

(1171303263)
One of the outdated customs in Saudi Arabia is marrying from our cousins from our fathers side. What I mean by that is the man must married his uncle’s daughter, he must.
But nowadays nobody cares about this custom because the generations are getting more educated and they are becoming more open minded as well. For example, my mom and my dad are cousins, and they married under this custom, but now they are telling me to marry any girl I like. If I want my cousin it’s fine, if I want out of the family it’s also fine.

1142700825 Tay Ming Kai

2018-12-31 07:32:17 UTC

On Lantern festival, some of the people will write their name and contact number on the skin of the mandarin and throw it into the river to make friends. This is considered waste of food and I think instead of using mandarin, they should consider another object to replace it.

1161104316

zacharykurian9964 — 2018-12-31 07:38:58 UTC

Zachary Kurian
In my culture there us a saying that if a person whistles at night snakes might come to that person's house. Personally I find this to be outdatedas I have whistle many times at night and nothing has happed

Lim Tze San 1151301085

1151301085 — 2018-12-31 08:03:51 UTC

Some Chinese believe that their house should not be dark at night because it will affect their wealth. God of Wealth will choose to visit the bright room instead of the dark room. Hence, most of them will drive the lights at home all night. I think this culture is outdated and should not be practice anymore as this is waste of electricity and no environmentally friendly. This is just Chinese superstition and no scientific basis.

Farhah Khairunnisa Mohd Fadil (1161101309)

farhahkhairunnisa — 2018-12-31 08:24:23 UTC

In Malay culture, when we are having a meal, we are advisable to not finish all the meal if we are planned to add on because the elders said it is to make our rizq increasing. To me it is so outdated. It does not make any sense and in Islam, there is no rules about someone's rizq regarding to that situation. We need to have faith to the God's plan including our rizq.

Khoo Jong Xian(1142700567)

1142700567 — 2019-01-01 15:48:27 UTC

In Asian culture and Malaysia more specifically, most parents would want their children to be a :
A. Doctor
B. Lawyer
C. Engineer
If you are not any one those then you are a disappointment which explains why I'm here now

How Yong Yao 1142701644

howyy99 — 2019-01-02 05:57:40 UTC

In 15th day of the lunar calendar, Chinese will have "Zhong Yuan" festival known as the Ghost Festival. There are many taboo we need to follow in this festival. One of the customs that I think is outdated is don't dry clothes at night. They said the "good brother" like to attach to cool item. So when we collect the dry clothes, Ghost will follow and come in our home. I think why we need to afraid of ghost if we are not doing anything wrong or bad things

Lee Jia Hui 1142700966

2019-01-02 08:48:55 UTC

In Chinese tradition, woman can't cut or tie any ropes, fix or arrange any cupboard during their pregnancy. Because they believe these activities will offend the "God of Birth" which will affect the baby. However, some of the modern ladies forget or didn't follow such rules anymore. I personally think the successes of giving birth is based on how much we taking care ahout the health and condition of the baby either physically or by heart.

Arian Mohamadi 1171102853

1171102853 — 2019-01-04 13:39:30 UTC

In Persian culture, If you get into a taxi anywhere in Iran, chances are when you try to pay, the driver will refuse to take your money. Walk into a shop to buy something, the same happens.
The cultural practice of "Taarof" is Iran’s own personal brand of etiquette. Truth is that you are not really being given a freebie but rather it’s a form of civility and all you have to do is play along. It’s all about denying your will to please the other person and it extends to pretty much to most social situations.
For instance, say you get invited to dinner. The polite response would be to refuse, only to have your host insist so that you should join them. Three times is usually the charm and the important thing is to end up agreeing.

1142700174LIUYIKHSIANG

2019-01-06 06:17:35 UTC

INCHINESECULTUREBURNINGJOSSPAPERISOUTDATEDBECAUSEOURENVIRONMENTWILLBEPOLLUTEDHAHAHA

Liu Yik Hsiang 1142700174

2019-01-06 09:23:08 UTC

In chinesr culture, burning joss paper is outdated because our environment will be polluted hahaha

Eric Wong Yean Hwang 1142700568

1142700568 — 2019-01-07 06:23:51 UTC

Chinese believe the number ' 4 ' is an unlucky number due to the pronunciation. The number 4 in chinese pronounce as 死(Sǐ), meaning dead. I personally think that it is inappropriate, because numbers are used in everyday life.

Huan Yun Yi 11427021477

1142702147 — 2019-01-28 08:40:06 UTC

Children forced to study to have better results in their test, not for joy and knowledge. So they don't know the delight of study and they will stop study when become an adult.
So, instead of forcing them, study together with the children and having interaction with them. So that they will enjoy it and cause them to self-study during free time.

NG FENG QUAN 1141124224

1141124224 — 2019-01-29 14:43:07 UTC

In the chinese, 4 this number is meaning dead, so many department change 4 change to 3A, this is better in meaning.

Rahman,Abdur 1141326314

1141326314 — 2019-02-10 23:42:12 UTC

In Bangladeshi Culture, we have Bangla New Year said as "Shobho Nobo Borosho" it marks Bangla year. During that day all the shops will be closing there balance sheet asking all the customers to clear their previous transaction so they can start a new book for new fiscal year. Those who visits shops will be treated with sweets and gifts. This custom of closing the balance sheet is now outdated as now business runs mostly on software