What does it mean to get along well with someone?

What happens when conflict arises with someone you usually get along with?

Who do you get along well with? Who do you want to get along better with?

How can language help us to get along with each other better?

Feeling comfortable to communicate about problems before they get bigger

Many large conflicts start from not being able to communicate well

Constructive can mean avoiding conflict, like with annoying neighbours - thank them for their kindness instead

Sometimes we need to talk about important issues, debating like “verbal football” - enjoyable?

Before serious topics, we need to warm up - regular communication helps us to get to know each other and establish a base for constructive debate

Learned growing up that getting along means being patient and considering other people without talking, but learning English changed my attitude toward speaking my voice

Communication without verbalization is more common in some cultures, but must be verbalized in others

Ways of using language are sometimes different. Even when we use the same words or language, it depends on the person - if they have a different sense of the words, it could be hard to understand each other;

We naturally differentiate different versions of ourselves depending on the languages and cultures in our context. We know how to get along better appropriately for that language and culture.

We each already have the right language to understand others to deal with conflict well - sharing our stories can help build awareness of our innate abilities to code-switch.

More self-disclosure when speaking in English - to learn to be ourselves in another culture is really important because that is what we can contribute - hearing other people helps us reflect on ourselves

We need to try to talk in the culture the language belongs to, to navigate rationally, and emotionally what is needed to get along

Hard to find vocabulary to talk about emotions in foreign languages, need more practice in explaining emotional states

When you speak other languages, sometimes magic happens. Your native language is so familiar, but speaking another language changes your character and your approach, you open your heart sometimes - or the opposite connecting with your language when feeling isolated or lonely.

Urbanization and changes in culture mean less connection with neighbours, which results in fewer changes to learn to get along.

Cultures and getting along can change over time - used to be that working together was enough, but now deliberately connecting through “small talk” is important to build relationships

There is a time to let it go. We can't always get along with everyone

As time goes on, after we grow up or someone passes away, we start to rethink the relationship - time heals our wounds and helps us to have the other’s perspective

Getting to know deeper about a person and their situation and context is very helpful to getting along, recollecting the stories