https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j Please post some thoughts on this video. What resonates most with you? en-us 2019-04-29 15:43:59 UTC 2021-07-11 16:29:57 UTC hello@padlet.com mlrduclos https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355193773 I really liked this video. I think I never really realized the difference between Shame and Guilt before; I thought they were the same thing. It's interesting to think about the things we say to our students and just how impactful they can be on them. I can remember myself being shamed by teachers and how much it hurt. From these experiences I vowed that I would not be that teacher. However, I've made mistakes and hurt people but have always apologized and learned and grew from each mistake. This goes hand in hand with how need to be hyper conscious of our behaviours and ensure that we are teaching empathy. ]]> 2019-04-29 19:54:49 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355193773 mbaetz https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194028 I think we all get frustrated from time to time and taking the time to step back and figure out the best words to use so we don't cross that line into shaming.  We should want to build classrooms where kids can risk and their is a culture of courage.  I have been trying to impress upon the kids that this is the place to make mistakes and experiment.  The classroom is a laboratory where they get to learn, try something new, and risk just a little.]]> 2019-04-29 19:55:41 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194028 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194089 As I was watching the video I was thinking that as a teacher it is so important to model and show that it is ok to make mistakes.  Making mistakes and learning from them is so important.  In the class it is really hard to get students to engage, asks questions, share their thoughts and ideas they do not want to make themselves vulnerable. As teachers how do we make it safe? This is something that I struggle with. I love to encourage responses from students but sometimes their answers really are not correct finding a creative way to let them know that I appreciate their willingness to share but also ensuring that the wrong information isn't being passed along can be a tricky act.  ]]> 2019-04-29 19:55:54 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194089 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194158 As a person who wears her heart on her sleeve, I enjoyed learning about how to teach people who might not yet be as open and to learn more about how they may feel in a school setting. I appreciated how she broke down different ways we can be impacted by the world around me and I really like how she mentioned we as teachers can be both the "good guy" and the "bad guy". I'm going to remember that and work on being more patient for sure. I think talking about the different shields with students would be so valuable and would be a great component of Health or CPP. Some students are less introspective than others and helping them develop a vocabulary to articulate how they respond to conflict could be very powerful. Ultimately, I enjoyed learning about the nuances between various negative emotions and I like the idea of her child being messy in their behaviour but not defined that. I'd like to transfer that to students failing a course. They may be failing a credit, but they aren't failures as people. I think that's my next step.  -Sarah]]> 2019-04-29 19:56:10 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194158 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194254 One part of the video I enjoyed was when she discussed 'the culture of courage or creating a space that may be the only space for a student has to take of their armour.' I think it is important for students to feel comfortable in class to be willing to take risks to reach their potential. I also liked the reminder of how powerful our words as educators can be and how we need to be cautious of the things we say to students so we do not become that awful memory from their time at school. -Jeff ]]> 2019-04-29 19:56:32 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194254 mlrduclos https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194676 To me, it's more than just telling kids it's okay to make mistakes. We have to build a culture where mistakes are inevitable and it's not okay to make mistakes it's BEST to make mistakes because that is the only way to learn. This all goes back to being vulnerable as well. ]]> 2019-04-29 19:58:03 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355194676 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355195029 The words we choose to use towards ourselves and more importantly the words we choose to help our students, children and people in general can be taken so different depending on who you are talking to. Makes a difference how you decide to respond to a situation, especially to little people like my class. Very wise words.]]> 2019-04-29 19:59:23 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355195029 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355195156 The Daring Classrooms video definitely got me thinking, notably about the difference between guilt and shame. It's crazy how the wording of something can change everything, addressing a specific behaviour rather than someone's character as a whole. I think that many of my students struggle with confidence (which isn't anything unusual for middle school students) and this video really inspired me to remind them that they are all special and have the potential to be successful individuals, and at the same time, are allowed to make mistakes, not just in their class work but also in how they interact with each other. My students are amazing people and I want them to feel like they are surrounded by other amazing people, that being their teachers and classmates. Sorry if I got super deep there... I'm tired - Josh  ]]> 2019-04-29 19:59:51 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355195156 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355195297 As teachers, we need to be mindful in the way in which we talk to students, staff and members of our community. We all know this, but understanding the difference between humiliation, shame and guilt is important and will allow us to foster and develop positive relationships. Though we may become frustrated and disappointed in our students actions, as we want them to do their best and be their best, we often need to take a step back and see how they are feeling in situations of vulnerability; encouraging mistakes and offering strategies that can best help. ]]> 2019-04-29 20:00:16 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355195297 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355195963 I've heard from Brene Brown before, and always appreciate her perspective on the importance of vulnerability. My life fundamentally changed when I found people with whom I was able to be my authentic self, and the experience of being truly vulnerable allowed me to grow in a really big way.

Teaching is already an incredibly vulnerable experience. You're in front of a bunch of people who often don't want to be there, and you have to do your best to present your knowledge and information to them in a way they can understand. If they don't get it, or if they act up in class, there is a huge tendency for me at least to feel like I'm a failure. Like I am not good at this, or that I didn't do enough for my students and their education will suffer as a result. This video made me think of "The Courage to Teach", which is one of my all-time favourite books on teaching. Being authentic and vulnerable is one of the most important things to cultivate as a teacher, because the more we model behaviour like that the more likely it is that our students will be willing to emulate it.

We want our students to tell us when they're struggling, and to tell us when they don't understand, and for them to feel like it's ok to say that, we have to (to some extent) show that we are willing to own our mistakes and shortcomings. I am not all-knowing, and when my students see me say things like "Oh ya, you're right, I need a four there instead of a six. Thanks for pointing that out!", they see that I am willing to own a mistake, and then move on without it defining me.

I'm grateful that my teachers growing up did not frequently use shaming practices on me. I try my best to never make my students feel like they aren't enough in my classroom, or that they are beyond help. My favourite part of this video in particular was when Brene talked about how if someone is using one of the shields to escape shame then they are not in a position to learn and move past it. I've definitely seen students who will hide and try to escape shame and in the process remove themselves from the learning process going on in the classroom. I'm not 100% sure how to convince them to shift away from those practices, but I'd like to hear more about it for sure. ]]> 2019-04-29 20:02:29 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355195963 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355196641 I really enjoyed this presentation because as someone who grew up feeling the shame and the humiliation from not only a teacher but a few people I looked up to it is nice to know that our children are going to grow up with people who care enough and are doing something about it.It all starts with us!and our future generations will thrive with all of on the same page.Plus she was just a joy to listen to😀]]> 2019-04-29 20:04:51 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355196641 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355197058 One of the biggest takeaways I had from Brene Brown's presentation was the concept of understanding the difference between shame and guilt. I felt like Brene's emphasis on building a classroom that was resilient to shame is an important idea. The fact that we will inevitably encounter shame in our lives, especially when dealing with moldable students looking to find their way amongst their peers, it is important that we understand how to deal with and avoid a culture of shame and fear. Shaming individuals absolutely kills an individual's sense of worth and it can absolutely have a long-lasting effect. I've had a few coaches and teachers in the past go out of their way to shame teammates/classmates (sometimes I was the target), and it sucks the life out of the room.

I also really enjoyed her story about the date night. I've had the same thoughts go through my head, where I'm having what seems to be a perfect time, but I inevitably picture the night going sideways because it has to revert back to the norm. I like what she said about just appreciating the moments and actively engaging in gratitude. Just appreciating every step, instead of worrying about any potential stumbling blocks. -Gregor]]> 2019-04-29 20:06:19 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355197058 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355198023 So many things in Brene Brown's work resonate with me. I really like the connections she makes with courage and vulnerability. Her example of having a classroom full of turtles without their shells was a powerful image. If we can create a safe space for students to come out of their shells then, only then, will our students be able to learn. The differences in shame (I am a bad person), guilt (I did something bad), embarrassment (sharing a shameful moment), and humiliation (I did not deserve that) were also very helpful. I also appreciated her explanation of the different shame shields that a person can have - moving towards, away, or against. Understanding these behaviours can help us understand ourselves and our students better so that we can break down barriers and encourage a safe learning environment. Finally, I appreciate her words on how gratitude is the only way to experience true joy without falling into the rabbit hole of catastrophe. ]]> 2019-04-29 20:10:15 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355198023 https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355199214 Working with younger kids who have very limited life experience and emotional resilience their behaviour often looks exaggerated. It isn’t, they are still growing and learning, we need to be empathetic and respectful even when things seem trivial to us. ]]> 2019-04-29 20:14:29 UTC https://padlet.com/mlrduclos/gonotknxl87j/wish/355199214