Name: NURWADHINI YUSSERI

Matric numbers:247637

Email: nurwadhini7@gmail.com

CCUB1061 facilitator: sr aisya irdina

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

✨ Full of Life & Curiosity!✨

Hi ! 🤗

Meet wadhini, a bright and passionate student currently pursuing Human Sciences at CFS IIUM. With an insatiable love for learning about people, society, and the world, she’s on a journey to understand the complexities of human nature.

Her favorite color?Maroon!🎀Not just because it’s elegant, but because it enhances her natural skin tone, making her feel even more confident and radiant.

💡 Fun Fact: Despite being friendly and outgoing, wadhini has an unusual fear—men!Growing up in an all-girls school, she’s still adjusting to the idea of interacting with them. But hey, life is all about stepping out of your comfort zone, right?

With a heart full of dreams and a mind eager to explore, wadhini is ready to embrace all the adventures that come her way! 🚀

Student must seek knowledge sincerely for the sake of Allah, not for fame, wealth, or status. The Prophet ﷺ said:

"Whoever seeks knowledge to compete with the scholars, to argue with the ignorant, or to turn people’s faces toward him, Allah will enter him into Hellfire." (Ibn Majah, 253)

Respecting Teachers (Adab dengan Guru)

2*Respecting teachers is a sign of humility. Imam Al-Shafi'i said:

"I would turn the pages of my book so softly in front of my teacher out of respect for him, so he would not hear it."

3*Finding a Good Companion in Islam

• Having a good companion is essential in life because friends influence our character, faith, and actions. In Islam, choosing righteous friends is highly emphasized, as they can lead us toward goodness or misguide us.

4*Good Habits in Seeking Knowledge

• Seeking knowledge is a noble act in Islam and is highly encouraged. To maximize the benefits of learning, one must develop good habits that lead to success and personal growth.

5*The Concept of DUIT in Seeking Knowledge

DUIT

• (Do’a, Usaha, Istiqamah, Tawakkal and Redha) is a practical guide for success, especially in seeking knowledge. This approach integrates both spiritual and physical efforts, ensuring that learning is not only productive but also blessed by Allah.

The Five Pillars of Islam are the core beliefs and practices that every Muslim must follow. They serve as the foundation of a Muslim’s faith and actions, guiding them towards a righteous and disciplined life.

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1. Shahadah (Faith) – The Declaration of Faith

- Meaning: Believing and declaring that “There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is His Messenger.”

-Quran:

_“Allah bears witness that there is no god but Him, as do the angels and those who have knowledge, upholding justice...”_ (Surah Aal-Imran, 3:18)

- Importance:

- It is the first and most fundamental pillar of Islam.

- It distinguishes Muslims from non-Muslims.

- It must be believed with full sincerity in the heart and declared with conviction.

✅ Practical Application: Always remember and affirm the oneness of Allah and the Prophethood of Muhammad ﷺ in daily life.

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2. Salah (Prayer) – Performing the Five Daily Prayers

- Meaning:Muslims must pray five times a day at specific times:

1. Fajr (before dawn)

2. Dhuhr(midday)

3. Asr(afternoon)

4. Maghrib (after sunset)

5. Isha (night)

- Quran:

_“Indeed, prayer has been prescribed upon the believers at fixed times.”_ (Surah An-Nisa, 4:103)

- Hadith:

_“The first deed for which a person will be called to account on the Day of Judgment is his prayer.”_ (Tirmidhi, 413)

✅ Practical Application:Ensure that prayers are performed on time, with sincerity and full concentration.

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3. Zakat (Charity) – Giving to Those in Need

- Meaning: Muslims must give 2.5% of their yearly savings to the poor and needy.

- Quran:

_“Establish prayer and give zakat, and whatever good you put forward for yourselves – you will find it with Allah.”_ (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:110)

- Importance:

- Purifies wealth and helps those in need.

- Reduces greed and promotes social justice.

- Strengthens unity and compassion in the community.

✅ Practical Application:Regularly donate to charity and help those in need, even beyond the required Zakat.

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4. Sawm (Fasting) – Observing the Fast in Ramadan

- Meaning:Muslims fast during the month of Ramadan, from dawn until sunset, abstaining from food, drink, and sinful actions.

- Quran:

_“O you who believe! Fasting has been prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, so that you may attain Taqwa (piety).”_ (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:183)

- Hadith:

_“Whoever fasts during Ramadan with faith and seeking reward from Allah, all his past sins will be forgiven.”_ (Bukhari, 38)

✅ *Practical Application:* Observe fasting with sincerity, and use the month to increase worship, patience, and self-discipline.

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5. Hajj (Pilgrimage) – Visiting the Kaaba in Makkah

- Meaning:Every Muslim who is physically and financially able must perform Hajj at least once in a lifetime.

- Quran:

_“And Hajj (pilgrimage) to the House (Kaaba) is a duty that mankind owes to Allah, for those who can afford the journey.”_ (Surah Aal-Imran, 3:97)

- Hadith:

_“Whoever performs Hajj for Allah’s sake and avoids sin, he will return as pure as a newborn baby.”_ (Bukhari, 1521)

✅ Practical Application: Even if unable to perform Hajj, learn about its significance and help those who are preparing for it.

In Islam, Iman (faith) is built upon six fundamental beliefs, known as the Six Pillars of Iman. These beliefs define a Muslim’s faith and guide their understanding of the unseen world and their relationship with Allah.

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1. Belief in Allah (Iman Billah) – The Oneness of God

- Meaning: Believing that Allah is the only true God, with no partners, children, or equals.

- Quran:

“He is Allah, the One and Only. Allah, the Eternal Refuge. He neither begets nor is born. And there is none like unto Him.” (Surah Al-Ikhlas, 112:1-4)

- Includes:

- Belief in Tawhid (Oneness of Allah).

- Accepting His Names and Attributes without distortion.

- Worshipping only Allah and seeking His guidance alone.

✅ Practical Application: Strengthen your connection with Allah through prayers, remembrance (dhikr), and reading the Quran.

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2. Belief in Angels (Iman Bil Mala’ika) – Allah’s Servants of Light

- Meaning: Believing that angels are created from light, obey Allah completely, and carry out His commands.

- Quran:

“They do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do as they are commanded.” (Surah At-Tahrim, 66:6)

- Important Angels:

- Jibril (Gabriel) – Brings revelation to the prophets.

- Mikail (Michael) – Controls rain and sustenance.

- Israfil – Blows the trumpet on the Day of Judgment.

- Malik – Guardian of Hell.

- Raqib & Atid – Record human deeds.

✅ Practical Application: Be mindful that angels are always recording your deeds, so strive to do good and avoid sins.

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3. Belief in the Divine Books (Iman Bil Kutub) – Allah’s Guidance to Humanity

- Meaning: Believing in the holy scriptures revealed by Allah to guide mankind.

- Quran:

“Indeed, We sent down the Torah, in which was guidance and light…” (Surah Al-Ma’idah, 5:44)

- Books Sent by Allah:

- Tawrah (Torah) – Given to Prophet Musa (Moses).

- Zabur (Psalms) – Given to Prophet Dawud (David).

- Injil (Gospel) – Given to Prophet Isa (Jesus).

- Quran – The final and complete revelation given to Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

✅ Practical Application: Follow the Quran as the ultimate guide and read it daily for wisdom and spiritual growth.

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4. Belief in the Prophets (Iman Bil Rusul) – Messengers of Allah

- Meaning: Believing that Allah sent prophets to guide humanity, ending with Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

- Quran:

“And We certainly sent into every nation a messenger, saying, ‘Worship Allah and avoid false gods.’” (Surah An-Nahl, 16:36)

- Major Prophets:

- Adam – The first human and prophet.

- Nuh (Noah) – Warned his people of the great flood.

- Ibrahim (Abraham) – Father of monotheism.

- Musa (Moses) – Given the Tawrah.

- Isa (Jesus) – Given the Injil.

- Muhammad ﷺ – The last and final messenger of Allah.

✅ Practical Application: Follow Prophet Muhammad’s ﷺ teachings and learn from the lives of past prophets.

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5. Belief in the Day of Judgment (Iman Bil Yawm Al-Qiyamah) – Life After Death

- Meaning: Believing that every human will be resurrected and judged by Allah for their deeds.

- Quran:

“Indeed, the Hour is coming – no doubt about it – but most of mankind do not believe.” (Surah Ghafir, 40:59)

- Stages of the Afterlife:

- Barzakh – The waiting period in the grave.

- Qiyamah – The Day of Judgment.

- Mizan – The weighing of deeds.

- Sirat (Bridge Over Hellfire) – The path leading to Paradise or Hell.

- Jannah (Paradise) – The eternal home for the righteous.

- Jahannam (Hell) – The punishment for disbelievers and sinners.

✅ Practical Application: Live righteously, prepare for the afterlife, and always seek forgiveness from Allah.

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6. Belief in Qadar (Predestination) – Allah’s Divine Decree

- Meaning: Believing that everything happens according to Allah’s knowledge and plan, whether good or bad.

- Quran:

“Indeed, We have created everything with predestination.” (Surah Al-Qamar, 54:49)

- Hadith:

“Know that if the entire world gathered to benefit you, they could not do so unless Allah had written it for you.” (Tirmidhi, 2516)

- Aspects of Qadar:

1. Allah’s Knowledge – He knows everything.

2. Allah’s Writing – Everything is written in Al-Lawh Al-Mahfuz (Preserved Tablet).

3. Allah’s Will – Nothing happens without His permission.

4. Allah’s Creation – He is the creator of all actions.

✅ Practical Application: Accept life’s challenges with patience, trust Allah’s plan, and work hard while relying on Him.

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Ihsan comes from the Arabic root حسن (hasuna), which means goodness, excellence, and perfection. In Islam, Ihsan is about doing everything in the best possible way, whether in worship, relationships, studies, or personal conduct.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ defined Ihsan in a hadith:

“Ihsan is to worship Allah as if you see Him, for if you do not see Him, He surely sees you.” (Bukhari & Muslim)

Ihsan is not just about actions but also about the intention and sincerity behind those actions. Let’s explore how Ihsan applies in daily life:

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1. Ihsan in Worshipping Allah (عبادة الله بإحسان)

- Meaning: Performing acts of worship with sincerity, focus, and excellence.

- Quran:

“And do good (Ihsan); indeed, Allah loves the doers of good.” (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:195)

- Examples of Ihsan in Worship:

- Praying with full concentration (khushu'), not rushing.

- Fasting with sincerity, avoiding not just food but also bad habits.

- Reading the Quran with understanding and reflection, not just reciting.

✅ Practical Application:

- Before praying, remind yourself that Allah is watching you.

- Avoid distractions during salah (prayer) and focus on its meaning.

- Improve your worship by learning and applying the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

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2. Ihsan in Relationships (إحسان في العلاقات)

- Meaning: Treating others with kindness, respect, and fairness.

- Hadith:

“The best of you are those who are best to their families.” (Tirmidhi, 3895)

- Examples of Ihsan in Relationships:

- Speaking gently to parents, teachers, and elders.

- Helping friends and family without expecting anything in return.

- Resolving conflicts peacefully and with wisdom.

- Being trustworthy and honest in dealings with others.

✅ Practical Application:

- Listen when others speak instead of interrupting.

- Show patience and forgiveness, even when others are rude.

- Avoid backbiting and speak positively about others.

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3. Ihsan in Studies (إحسان في طلب العلم)

- Meaning: Studying with dedication, discipline, and sincerity, seeking knowledge for the sake of Allah.

- Quran:

“Say, ‘Are those who know equal to those who do not know?’” (Surah Az-Zumar, 39:9)

- Examples of Ihsan in Studies:

- Being diligent in learning and avoiding procrastination.

- Seeking knowledge not just for exams but for self-improvement.

- Sharing knowledge to benefit others, not just keeping it for personal success.

✅ Practical Application:

- Study with the right intention – to benefit yourself and society.

- Avoid cheating and dishonesty in exams or assignments.

- Make du’a for knowledge, as Prophet Muhammad ﷺ used to do:

“O Allah, grant me beneficial knowledge.” (Ibn Majah, 925)

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4. Ihsan in Personal Conduct (إحسان في السلوك الشخصي)

- Meaning: Living with integrity, honesty, and self-discipline in all aspects of life.

- Hadith:

“Indeed, Allah has prescribed Ihsan in everything.” (Muslim, 1955)

- Examples of Ihsan in Personal Conduct:

- Being honest in words and actions, even when no one is watching.

- Practicing self-discipline, avoiding laziness and bad habits.

- Taking care of personal hygiene and cleanliness.

- Always striving to improve oneself in character and manners.

✅ Practical Application:

- Avoid wasting time and use it productively.

- Control anger and react with patience and wisdom.

- Be grateful to Allah and express gratitude to others.

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1) Adab towards Parents

• "Wahai ayahku" from the story of Prophet Ibrahim
  This refers to the story of Prophet Ibrahim (Abraham) in the Qur'an where he calls out to his father with respect and love, even when his father was not following the right path. The lesson here is showing respect and calling our parents with kind words, even if they do not agree with our beliefs or actions.

• Calling parents with kind terms
  This emphasizes the importance of addressing our parents with respectful and loving words. Instead of calling them in harsh or rude tones, use terms of endearment, such as "Mama," "Abah," or other affectionate terms in your culture. This helps create a loving and respectful relationship.

• Don’t retaliate against your parents' wrongdoings
  Even if parents make mistakes or treat us unfairly, we should not respond with anger or retaliation. In Islam, the concept of patience (sabr) is highly valued when dealing with such situations. We should always show patience and understanding, as they are the ones who raised us.

• Pray for them
  One of the best ways to show kindness and respect to our parents is by making dua (prayers) for them. Asking Allah to give them health, happiness, and forgiveness is a beautiful act of devotion.

2) Adab towards Neighbors

• Greet with Salam
  Saying "Salam" (peace) is a simple yet meaningful way to greet our neighbors, creating an atmosphere of peace and kindness. Islam teaches us to spread peace wherever we go.

• Cover the faults of neighbors
  Protecting the dignity of our neighbors by not gossiping about their flaws or weaknesses is an important moral principle. This includes not spreading rumors or talking behind their backs.

• Help or visit your neighbors
  Being considerate and helping neighbors when they need assistance is a noble act. Visiting them, especially during times of illness or hardship, strengthens community bonds and shows care.

• Always be gentle
  We should treat our neighbors with respect and kindness, avoiding harsh words or actions. Being gentle and thoughtful in our interactions with them fosters a sense of harmony and cooperation.

• Be humble
  Humility is crucial in our interactions with neighbors. This means not being proud or superior to others, but treating everyone with equal respect regardless of their background or status.

3) Adab towards Friends

• Smile and be cheerful
  One of the easiest ways to build strong friendships is by showing a friendly face. Smiling when you see your friends or when you greet them creates a positive atmosphere and makes people feel comfortable.

• Don’t be arrogant
  Being humble and not acting superior to your friends is important. Treating everyone as equals without arrogance helps to strengthen the bond of friendship.

• Do not whisper when there are three people
  When you are with two other people, avoid whispering or speaking in a way that excludes one of the friends. It can make them feel left out or uncomfortable. Always make sure to include everyone in the conversation.

• Avoid mocking or making fun of others
  Islam teaches us to avoid mocking or insulting our friends. Respecting each other’s differences and being supportive is crucial in maintaining good friendships.

• Mutual forgiveness
  In any relationship, misunderstandings can happen. Being ready to forgive each other and not hold grudges is key to preserving lasting friendships.

• Listen to your friends' problems
  Being a good listener is an important trait in any friendship. Listening carefully to your friend’s problems and offering support helps to show that you care and value their feelings.

Other than that,

It also increased my knowledge by gaining new insights into Islamic practices, history, and values, as well as learning how to apply them in daily life.

Please having each person prepare a sirah or a lesson to share can make the usrah more interactive and personal. It encourages everyone to engage actively, and also gives a chance for different perspectives to be shared.

📖 Surah Al-‘Ankabūt (29:45)

> "اتْلُ مَا أُوحِيَ إِلَيْكَ مِنَ الْكِتَابِ وَأَقِمِ الصَّلَاةَ ۖ إِنَّ الصَّلَاةَ تَنْهَىٰ عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنكَرِ ۗ وَلَذِكْرُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ مَا تَصْنَعُونَ"

"Recite what has been revealed to you of the Book and establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing. And the remembrance of Allah is greater. And Allah knows what you do."

➡️Ṣalāh trains the soul to stay away from sins and immorality, building inner strength and spiritual discipline.

2. Ṣawm (Puasa)

📖 Surah Al-Baqarah (2:183)

> "يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الصِّيَامُ كَمَا كُتِبَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ"

"O you who have believed, fasting is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you that you may become righteous."

➡️ Fasting instills self-control, patience, and taqwā (God-consciousness), refining both body and soul.

3. Zakāh (Zakat)

📖 Surah At-Tawbah (9:103)

> "خُذْ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ صَدَقَةً تُطَهِّرُهُمْ وَتُزَكِّيهِم بِهَا وَصَلِّ عَلَيْهِمْ ۖ إِنَّ صَلَاتَكَ سَكَنٌ لَّهُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ"

"Take, [O Muhammad], from their wealth a charity by which you purify them and cause them increase, and invoke Allah’s blessings upon them. Indeed, your prayers are reassurance for them. And Allah is Hearing and Knowing."

➡️ Zakāh purifies one’s wealth and soul, removes stinginess, and nurtures social empathy and generosity.

4. Ḥajj (Haji)

📖 Surah Al-Baqarah (2:197)

> "الْحَجُّ أَشْهُرٌ مَّعْلُومَاتٌ ۚ فَمَن فَرَضَ فِيهِنَّ الْحَجَّ فَلَا رَفَثَ وَلَا فُسُوقَ وَلَا جِدَالَ فِي الْحَجِّ ۗ وَمَا تَفْعَلُوا مِنْ خَيْرٍ يَعْلَمْهُ اللَّهُ ۗ وَتَزَوَّدُوا فَإِنَّ خَيْرَ الزَّادِ التَّقْوَىٰ ۚ وَاتَّقُونِ يَا أُولِي الْأَلْبَابِ"

"Hajj is [during] well-known months, so whoever has made Hajj obligatory upon himself therein [by entering the state of Ihram], there is [to be for him] no sexual relations and no disobedience and no disputing during Hajj. And whatever good you do , Allah knows it. And take provisions, but indeed, the best provision is righteousness. So fear Me, O you of understanding."

➡️ Hajj teaches patience, sacrifice, and submission, and fosters unity among Muslims while nurturing taqwā.

1. Ṭahārah (Purification)

✅Physical purification through wuḍū’ (ablution) or tayammum (dry ablution) is essential before ṣalāh.

-It symbolizes inner cleanliness and spiritual readiness to stand before Allah.

-A pure body reflects a heart that desires to connect sincerely with its Creator.

2. Conditions for the Validity (Ṣiḥḥah) of Prayer

✅Includes the proper time, facing the qiblah, and wearing clean and appropriate clothing.

✅One must also fulfill all pillars (arkān) of ṣalāh: intention (niyyah), standing, recitation, bowing, prostration, etc.

✅Neglecting any of these may render the prayer invalid or deficient.

3. Types and Flexibility of Ṣalāh

Islam provides concessions for different situations:

✅Musafir (traveler): Allowed to shorten (qaṣr) and combine (jamaʿ) prayers.

✅Illness: Can pray sitting, lying down, or with gestures based on capability.

✅Sunnah/Nafl prayers: Bring additional spiritual reward and help develop khushūʿ.

-Understanding these variations helps maintain prayer in all circumstances.

4. Khushūʿ (Focus and Humility)

Khushūʿ is the essence of a meaningful prayer , a state of deep humility, awareness, and submission.

However, khushūʿ will not arise if the external and internal preparation is neglected.

Performing prayer hastily, without proper purification, understanding, or focus, deprives the soul of spiritual benefit.

One of the key virtues developed through ṣalāh is al-Ṭāʿah (obedience) which is the ability to submit wholeheartedly to Allah's commands, even when faced with hardship or personal desires. It teaches a believer to prioritize divine will over worldly temptations.

Ṣalāh also serves as a form of al-Jihād, not in the physical sense, but as a constant struggle against the ego (nafs) and the distractions of the world. Standing before Allah five times a day disciplines the soul and strengthens inner resilience.

Another profound benefit is muḥāsabah (self-reflection). After every prayer, a sincere believer is encouraged to reflect upon their actions, seek forgiveness, and renew their commitment to improve. Ṣalāh becomes a moment of spiritual reset.

Through consistent prayer, one also develops ʿiffah (self-restraint). The spiritual energy and moral awareness gained from ṣalāh protect a person from sinful behavior, building integrity and control over desires.

Finally, tawaḍḍuʿ (humility) is deeply instilled in the heart of a person who truly experiences khushūʿ. Bowing and prostrating before the Creator remind us of our smallness and dependence on Him, nurturing a humble attitude not only towards Allah but also in interactions with fellow human beings.

➡️ A prayer performed with true khushūʿ refines both the inner self and outward behavior, making one a better servant of Allah and a better person in society.

“Indeed, successful are the believers , those who humble themselves in their prayer.”

Ṣabr (Patience):

Fasting teaches endurance ,not only against hunger and thirst, but also against anger, temptation, and harmful speech. It nurtures resilience in all areas of life.

Takrīm (Respect):

During fasting, we are encouraged to guard our tongues, eyes, and actions. This develops respectful conduct toward others, building a more considerate and peaceful society.

Raḥmah (Compassion):

Feeling hunger helps us understand the struggles of those in need. This empathy leads to increased generosity and care for others.

Fasting is a spiritual training ground that builds a strong will and a soft heart , founded on patience, respect, and compassion.

Tawakkul (Reliance on Allah):

When we give, we reaffirm our trust that sustenance comes from Allah ,not just from our savings or wealth. It frees the heart from worldly attachment.

Ukhuwwah (Brotherhood):

Giving bridges the gap between the rich and the poor. It strengthens love, trust, and solidarity within the community.

What we give never decreases our wealth . Instead, it brings blessing, compassion, and divine mercy.

Ḥajj and ʿUmrah are the ultimate acts of worship, combining spiritual, physical, emotional, and social dimensions. They are a journey of total submission and profound inner transformation.

Al-Taḍḥiyyah (Sacrifice):

Following the legacy of Prophet Ibrahim and his family, we learn to give up worldly comforts for the sake of Allah. The sacrifice of time, wealth, and convenience becomes a declaration of love and devotion.

Taqwā (God-consciousness):

From the moment we intend to go until we return, every act is surrounded by a sense of Allah’s presence. Ḥajj trains us to live our lives in constant awareness of our Creator.

Ḥajj is a holistic training to become a humble, grateful, and surrendered servant of Allah, strengthening our bond with Him and our fellow believers.

In addition, it has broadened my knowledge by offering fresh insights into Islamic practices, history, and values. I’ve also learned practical ways to incorporate these teachings into my daily life, making my faith more grounded and purposeful.

According to the Oxford Learner’s Dictionary, humility means not thinking you are more important or superior than others.

It reflects modesty in attitude and behavior.

🔹 Why We Need to Be Humble

Makes others feel comfortable and appreciated in your presence.

Benefits your career by improving teamwork and receptiveness to feedback.

Leads to wisdom, as humility opens the heart to continuous learning and reflection.

🔹 How to Be Humble

Listen more, speak less to show respect and attentiveness.

Acknowledge your mistakes and weaknesses sincerely.

Treat everyone equally, regardless of their background, wealth, or status.

🔹 Quranic Verse (Surah Al-Furqan: 63)

“And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace.”

This verse reflects the behavior of humble believers who remain calm and peaceful, even when provoked.

🔹 Conclusion

Humility helps shape us into better individuals.

It strengthens relationships, builds respect, and nurtures personal growth.

True humility brings inner peace a

nd spreads harmony to those around us.