Theology Onlne Activity by Alyssa Eclavea https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity Christian courtship/dating, and engagement. en-us 2019-04-28 14:01:15 UTC 2019-05-01 16:15:39 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padletuploads.blob.core.windows.net/prod/80264060/cdf38ae2d21ee13c036196e76c1eb262/Backback.png alyssaeclavea08 https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/354770916
  • I remember back in grade school, we were told of what men from back then do to court the women that they like. There were harana, bringing of things to give for the family, getting to know the family, and the like. After courting, once the girl said yes, then comes the dating - where they go out and enjoy each other’s company. 
  • Asking a person to date you is not an easy decision to make since this would mark as the start of a life-long journey with him/her. This is why it is important to get to know the other person at a deeper level, it is also important not to rush this stage. There are also some parts in the 1st article that I don’t completely agree with. There is something about setting a timeline on the given stage and the dos and don’ts of it because I feel like it’s scripted since you are acting based on set of standards. It feels as if the real you won’t show if there are rules mandating you. Take for example the friendship stage, it said the it should not last longer than 1-2 months. But what if you are not ready yet? Should you just end the friendship just because of this highlight? I don’t think that giving a standard timeline should be given for friendship, courtship, engagement stage because people are different from one another. One might take longer or shorter time than the other. One might do things different from another so I think giving such guidelines are too dictating and would hinder one from showing its true self.
  • The friendship stage is merely the getting to know part. It is advised that the two should not show affection with each other. On this part, I agree with it since this would prevent situations that would send mixed signals to the other person. The courtship stage is where you look at the things about the other person that would qualify him/her to be your spouse. There were things said here about the things that the couple should not do and with most of them that I don’t agree. The engagement stage is the very crucial part for me since this might be one of the most important decisions one would take. This is the part where you decide if that person is really the one you want to spend you whole life with. 
  • In modern times, I don’t think there is much difference with the understanding about these concepts. However there is a difference with how it practiced today. If before, people are stricter in following such guidelines, today, they are more lenient and are able to fully express their true intentions. I am not saying that people from then are not able to express their intentions, I just think that they are being hindered to show FULLY their intentions since they are following what people believed as the right thing to do. Now, with people not really caring about those guidelines, they are able to show true intentions and can see the real colors of the other person at an early time.


    • ]]>     2019-04-28 14:01:15 UTC https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/354770916     1. Before I read the 2 articles: courtship and dating were somehow have the same meaning for me. They have the same meaning but different use, depending on the nobility of the one who is using the word in a sentence or in a conversation. From what I have experience, courtship is mostly used by professors who are teaching ethics, theology, etc. that are in the topic about love. While the “dating” term, is mostly used by my close friends to describe the relationship of two persons. 2. I have learned the difference of the most common interchangeably terms, specifically the two words: dating and courtship. I have learned the conditions and signs to have a good relationship and a successful marriage. And lastly, I have learned the different stages of courtship. 3. Dating is simply a get to know stage of one another. A stage wherein, you are finding some attractive traits of someone that you like to see on someone. And those traits might lead you to fall for him or her. Furthermore, courtship, is more serious than dating. Courtship is the stage wherein, you gauge if he or she is worthy to be your husband or wife. It is more serious because its ending part are two. These are: Dissolution of their relationship, or marriage. Deciding to marry someone is a very serious matter, because it is a vow and a commitment at the same time, to be with her or him for your whole life. 4. From what I observed and experience, the concept of courtship is understood by the in todays time. However, they are not being practiced since couples are more free to express themselves and do what they want today. Unlike before, parents were strict about protecting their sons and daughters about relationships. But today, even though they have understood the significance and what courtship really is; it is not being practiced. jerometangi https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/354772039 2019-04-28 14:10:38 UTC https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/354772039 1.)In my opinion, there’s a big difference between courtship and dating. In courtship, usually a boy or a man tries to win a girl’s or a lady’s heart by courting her like giving flowers, chocolates, fetching her or walking her to her home and here in our country part of courting is “harana” until the woman says “yes” to the man. In dating, the man and woman already have the mutual feelings and tries their relationship if it will work out or not and is a long erm relationship.2.) Based from the articles, I’ve learned that courtship and dating is used interchangeably they have their distinct differences like dating is a decision that will start a long-term commitment and relationship between two persons and having the opportunity to know them deeply. I’ve also learned about the guides to a successful relationship but if a couple’s relationship doesn’t abide by it, it doesn’t mean that their relationship will not be successful because there’s no exact rules that is the same for everyone to have a successful relationship. Each person is different as well as relationships.3.)There are several differences between dating and courtship. Dating is somehow shallow in the sense that it is the get to know each other stage since two persons tries to know basic things about each other, likes and dislikes, favorites and other attractive characteristics which makes them attracted even more to each other. On the other hand, courtship is deeper and a lot more of a serious matter. This is the stage wherein they prove each other that she is deserving and worthy of each other’s love, commitment, loyalty and to be his or her partner or even husband or wife. There are only two outcomes for this which are marriage or break-up.4.)According to my observation, nowadays most people engage in relationships called “mutual understanding” where in for me it is somehow very alike with dating but there can be different reasons for that. Some have different ways of courting and have different views in courtship. Some are more open and a bit liberated than before which is traditional so it seems easier to look for a pair or go into a relationship. Only very few practices traditional courtship compared before. huilingavigailng https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/355714668 2019-05-01 08:08:04 UTC https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/355714668 1. Before I read the 2 articles, dating and courtship almost have the same value for me. In both stages, the two person involved always try to satisfy the other and get to know each other. When you court someone, there may be a chance that the other person could reject you but in dating, there could be instances where the two person involved are already committed to each other. 2. I have learned that there are differences between dating and courtship in a way that courtship has a deeper meaning attached to it for the Christians; some people even have a negative connotation for the term dating. But, these words should not be interchanged because they are different and they indicate two different places towards marriage. You can date someone without having any intention to marry that person; you can date someone just for entertainment and just for the sake of having some company but when you court someone, you intend to be with that person for a lifetime. To enter into courtship means to put exclusivity in the relationship and it means committing to the person. I also learned about the stages of courtship3. The key difference is that when you date someone, you can still be unsure of the person and not take that person seriously but when you start to to court the person, you decide to commit to the person and you know that the person is the one. The friendship and dating part is the part where you get to know the person, you enjoy each other’s company. It it the part where you discover simple facts about the person and their interests. When you court, you prove your worth to each other through faithfulness, respect, and most importantly, commitment. 4. Based on my observation and experiences, modern people treat dating and courtship as almost the same. As we all know, people today are more open and liberated. People today are now more understanding on the part that different people have different beliefs towards traditions. Although the concept of courtship is understood, some still believe that it is not about the setup between the two person but rather, the intentions. vnssabylon https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/355823802 2019-05-01 15:05:18 UTC https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/355823802 trisha_duque_acct https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/355860700 1. For me, dating is the getting to know stage wherein two persons try learn about each other so they could be acquainted and later on be comfortable and enjoy each other's company. I also think this is a good way of establishing a rapport when two individuals wanted have a serious relationship. On the other hand, courting is the stage wherein after getting to know each other a boy tries to pursue the the girl he loves because he wanted to be committed to that person. 
     
     2. After reading the articles, I learned that dating and courtship are completely two different things. That dating is more of a recreational thing while courtship is something that is viewed as purposeful and serious to the point that you consider that person to be your lifetime partner. 
     
     3. The key differences between the two is that Christian dating/courtship is considering the possibilities that he/she could be your lifetime partner. While engagement is when a person decided that he/she wants to spent the rest of his/her life with that person. 
     
     4. From what I observed, most teenagers view dating as something you can do online by meeting random strangers on social media or on online dating applications. Moreover, I also observed that most people still practice courtship; however, it is not in a traditional way like going into the girl's house and ask for the permission of the parents. ]]>     2019-05-01 16:15:39 UTC https://padlet.com/alyssaeclavea08/Theologyonlineactivity/wish/355860700