This situation is complicated, first of all we must understand that unlike men, women mature very quickly, and therefore they understand well with men older than them; You can be clear with your daughter and you must tell her about the consequences of dating a man older than her and you need to explain her the kind of responsibilities he already has, you have to tell her the problem she will face when this man's wife finds out that her husband goes out with a younger girl and is destroying his family.

ü We should highlight that perhaps the separation from you when she was only 7 years old was difficult for her and this could affect her in such a way that her current behavior is showing it.

ü You as a father should show her confidence, tell her that you trust her but that you can not trust people you do not know and that's why she feels afraid that she is dating someone who is much older than her.

ü You must explain to him that this situation has him worried and that could end this situation very badly for all.

ü He could talk about his interests and get involved in his life; If you do not know who you are with or where you are going, you will not be able to follow their steps amicably and that is where the conflict begins, because she will feel that you are being pressured.

ü You should try to speak to him firmly but with respect, you have to clearly talk to your daughter about the relationships between men and women, what goes through the heads of teenagers and what others go through that of older men so that she can understand your concern and understand that the choice you make is not the best for her at that time in her life.

I hope my advise can be useful. 

I’m 22, single and very romantic, yet I can’t relate to women. I grew up with a womanizing father and ever since I can remember he has made comments about women and sex. No man in my family has ever achieved true love and they have all had multiple sex partners and lovers, betraying the confidence of wives and long-term girlfriends. My great grandfather, my grandfather, my uncle and my father share this and some of me thinks that I can’t fight it, that I will become the same. But I struggle. I just can’t talk to women; I can’t play charming around them even when I have a good relationship with them in spaces such as work or college. I have “female friends”, but I can’t break the confidence they have in me by playing the love card. So I’m often the friend of the women I like. My entire romantic concept has been built by culture, by movies like Gone with the Wind or Doctor Zhivago, books like A Farewell to Arms, For Whom the Bells Tolls and long sessions of the Smiths or the Cure.

 

 
 

 

I am very glad to hear from you.

I´ve been thinking about you and I felt really happy to receive you letter. I care about you and I hope my advices will help you to feel better and find the solution to your worries; I am sure you will feel better. 

First of all, it is important that you behave like a grown man, this means that you should be yourself every moment and you have to stop thinking that you are going to become a womanizer, remember that “words have power”.

It is understandable that you may feel confused, unsure or shy when you interact with women, but your amorous future must not be affected by your family womanizing life; you can shape your own future by being authentic and unique. 

Would you like a true love in your life? I am sure that your answer is “yes”, so do not think you could not. I really have to tell you that having relationships is not that easy, but if you really want it, you might be able to succeed in love, showing respect for women, falling in love and having a solid relationship; you will be allowed to show your real feelings if you really want to make a change and feeling free to love someone.

You need to look forward to making your dreams come true and be happy with a woman that deserves your romantic personality. Life is really short and I dare you to be happy, to get out of the “friend zone” and take risks in “the name of love”. 

If you like someone, “jump in with both feet” show her your feelings, I am sure you may be surprised.

I wish you the best “My dear romantic friend” and you will find the real love if you do not hesitate and take the risk to be happy.

I hope to hear soon from you.

Valeria Viña Leonardi,
Your always friend “Agony Aunt”