https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy Post a response to this prompt: In our country, divorce has become more prevalent. Why do so many marriages fail? Conversely, what are some qualities of a healthy relationship? Do you hope to marry someday? Why or why not? Feel free to amp up your entry with a symbolic image and/or link to an "on point" resource for your peers to check out. en-us 2018-10-21 11:29:13 UTC 2025-11-19 14:44:27 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296414708 I believe that so many marriages fail because people marry before they are truly ready and/or mature. Also, many people may just get married because before they agree to marriage, they have a baby together, usually at a young age. Currently, divorce is not looked down on compared to how it used to be and it is also now much easier to get a divorce because it seems normal to our society (Link on Divorce statistics is posted below). Some qualities of a healthy relationship include communication, honesty,  and the fact that the couple should have some interests in common. The people in the marriage together should be open and honest while communicating their feelings in order to make their differences work. I do definitely hope to marry someday because I feel as though having a family is a huge part of someone's life. Also, I do not know many divorced families and am constantly surrounded by marriages and families which makes this seem to automatically be my future. I hope to find a partner to help me get through the rest of my life because loving and being loved is how I wish to live the rest of my life, even through the ups and downs. 

]]> 2018-10-24 13:11:13 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296414708 19gramajob https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416114 I think there has been an increase in failed marriages because of people being blinded by their love for each other in the heat of the moment without really thinking about their future relationship. Also, some people get married hastily because of pressure from their friends' marriages. Divorce is more frequent because I believe that people see divorce as common, if not tied to marriage, so if a partner feels uncomfortable or unhappy they can use divorce as a quick exit. Some qualities of a healthy relationship, that may be lacking, is communication, compromise, honesty, and genuine interest in each other's lives. In the future, when the time is right, I do plan to get married. I do wish for a genuine relationship and have a real connection with someone and our possible children. ]]> 2018-10-24 13:13:39 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416114 19adamsz https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416121 Divorce is not looked down upon as much as it used to be. Back in Wilde's time, divorce would have been scandalous, but now, it's the norm. There was a study conducted recently that said people need a major change in life every 3-5 years, which would explain why the divorce rates are so high. I also believe that we, as a society, have lost some of the ability to communicate face to face, making relationships hard. In my experience, I am surrounded by good marriages. My parents just celebrated their 25th anniversary, and I believe that can be credited to their similar interests. They both like to explore nature, listen to similar music, and have the same values. Marriage has never been a question for me. I've always seen getting married and having kids as a given. I feel that finding your compliment is a major accomplishment in life.]]> 2018-10-24 13:13:40 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416121 19furtadom https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416149 It seems that so many marriages end in divorce simply because so many marriages end in divorce. It's inevitable that some disagreements will arise in any relationship, but before divorces were so common, people would feel inclined to fix those problems and continue on together. Now, many people run at the sight of conflict in hope for the ideal relationship without any problems. A healthy relationship is one where both sides don't avoid conflict but rather seek out any points of disagreement to discuss and overcome. I do hope to marry eventually but I don't feel as if it's necessary to be married. Marriage should be something that comes naturally out of an actual want to be with a person for the rest of your life, not something that someone feels forced into artificially.]]> 2018-10-24 13:13:44 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416149 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416176 I think that failed marriage is so prevalent today because of  the couple being unready and unprepared to become married. Failed marriages are usually due to money problems, infidelity, and arguing. I believe that people don't really marry for love anymore and that people marry just to be married. In the future this leads to the problems aforementioned. Some qualities of a healthy relationship are unconditional love, respect, and most importantly, the ability to communicate with each other.  I hope to marry someday. I have always seen myself marrying and raising kids in the future. I know predicting the future is impossible, I do not want to get a divorce. I have seen many failed marriages (40-50% of married couples in the US become divorced) in my life and I DO NOT want to be a part of one. This is a reason I will only marry when I am truly sure I love the woman I am marrying. ]]> 2018-10-24 13:13:46 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416176 19hanashiann https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416188 I think marriages fail more often than marriages that make it to the end because people are either just settling or get married before they have fully matured. Also, I think divorces occur more often because it has been accepted into society as a norm. Before, divorces were unheard of or if they did happen, the separated couple was disgraced. Today, divorce is seen as an easy way to get out of a bad decision, and sometimes couples do it without a second thought. On the other hand, some qualities of a healthy relationship is trust in one's  partner, having mental support between the couple, love and communication. They also don't avoid problems and work them out. In the future, I do plan to get married but definitely not anytime soon. But before I do, I want to already have a life established for myself, one where I can support myself fully. ]]> 2018-10-24 13:13:47 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416188 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416285  I feel marriages today are rushed. A couple gets together very quickly, without truly exploring each other or finding how compatible they really are. I feel a healthy relationship requires a long time in the "dating" phase, being completely certain that the person you propose to or accept a proposal from is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Life can become very stressful and it is important to find someone you know you can work through and over come this stress with.  I hope to marry someday because I feel having a family and taking on life with someone else is important. However, its just as important to make sure this person is the perfect match and will make your life better, not worse or more stressful. ]]> 2018-10-24 13:13:58 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416285 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416420 I think there is an increase in divorce because people marry to early before they are ready. I also believe that there is an increase in divorce because it is not looked upon the same way as it used to be. In the past, divorce was considered improper, but now it has become much more normal and common. I believe that some qualities of a healthy relationship are communication, compromise, and honesty. Communication is important because often times, one person feels one way and the other feels a different way leading to argument. Honesty is also very important because lying will make what you do much worse. If you are honest with each other, you develop a trust. It is also very important to compromise. Although many couples have similar interests, not everyone is the same, so naturally they may like different things. The relationship has to be 2 sided with both being considered equal. In the future, I hope to get married one day, however I want to truly make sure I am in love. As the increasing number of divorces are happening, I don't want to be another one.

]]> 2018-10-24 13:14:13 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296416420 19messierl https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296427796 I think that the reason many marriages fail today because people are not ready to switch from the mindset of only focusing their attention on themselves to putting another person's needs before their own. A healthy relationship would be a relationship that is bound together by love, affection, adoration, respect, happiness and determination. Conversely, I also believe that, within  a healthy relationship, the couple should have arguments and difficult discussions because not everyone will agree with everything another person believes. If there are no arguments, then there are no important discussions being had, which is vital in a healthy relationship. I do hope to marry someday because I wish to find someone to share my life with who loves me as much as my family does. I fortunately have parents that are not divorced, therefore, that impacted the way I see marriage. So I do hope to be happily married in the future like my parents. 

]]> 2018-10-24 13:32:15 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296427796 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296430994 I think that many marriages fall due to a lack of communication and marrying too soon. In today's society cell phones are a tremendous part of our lives and sometimes they can distract us from proper communication because we are constantly texting and using social media. Without this proper communication I feel like people seem to get irritated more easily because people don't know how to talk things out anymore and compromise. Also, many young people today seem to be in such a rush to get married. I think people need to wait a long period of time to really get to know what you want and if you really want to spend your life with this person. Many people I think, are afraid to be alone in the world and want to rush into marriage not realizing the consequences t may have in the future. I believe that healthy qualities of a relationship are problem solving, communication, and being positive about things. I do hope to marry one day, but at the right time when I know that it is my best decision. I want to get married so that I can have a family of my own one day. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/notes-self/201310/8-keys-healthy-relationships

]]> 2018-10-24 13:37:14 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296430994 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296432048 I feel many marriages fail due to couples getting married at such a young age. They don't give enough time in their relationship to REALLY know they're significant other. Some qualities of a healthy relationship are having good communication between the two, because when you can talk to your partner about anything that's a hint that the relationship is strong. Another quality is honesty and loyalty, because when you're honest with each other, it helps the couple feel comfortable with one another. Loyalty is very important, because it gives the couple the feeling of trust. I hope to marry and have kids one day, however I know when I should and shouldn't get married, because of the advice given to me by my parents. 

]]> 2018-10-24 13:38:55 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296432048 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296432587 I think that marriages fail more often then being successful because people either rush into the relationships fast, or they are too young to be committed. I mean think about it, when people get into second or even third marriages they are often more successful because people learned from their mistakes prior and actually have an effort to make it work. Also they are older. Mostly second marriages start 10 years after their first so they are around 30-40 on average. Another factor could be the technology now a days. In the past, marriages often always worked out because people had trust. But now with phones and social media it is easy to cheat and connect with people you shouldn’t. I know from personal experience that’s how my parents relationship ended; so I was raised knowing how bad phones are in relationships. I hope to marry someday. Preferably when i’m 25 so I can have my first child when i’m around 25 but of course, if life changes this goal than so be it. I know that I will make it a priority for good communication and respect. Of course... TRUST!!!]]> 2018-10-24 13:39:44 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296432587 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296435351 Based on the current state of society, I believe marriages fails due to two individuals moving too fast in their relationship unaware of the true meaning of it, and the lack of morals throughout different families. Couples who believe they are bound to be together despite knowing each other for such little time often leads to divorce. The failure of parents to implement morals into their children is another reason marriage is uncommon because, people are beginning to believe adultery is normal. Some qualities of a healthy relationship are communication, honesty, respect, and trust. These qualities all have different meaning in a relationship. I do not hope to marry someday, as I do not view it as special or the definition of love. Getting married is a choice from someone, who wants to be financially and emotionally tied with a person, however you don't need to be married to be happy, as I view it overrated.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201706/the-rise-and-fall-divorce
this link is interesting because it explains the history of marriage and how it has changed throughout time.



]]> 2018-10-24 13:43:40 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/296435351 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/297124150 Marriages fail today because of the societal acceptance of divorce. In past times divorce had a stigma around it that exile was inevitable and being shunned was a bi product of divorce. Additionally, matrimony was considered a sacrament. The ties to religion meant that divorce could mean falling out of favor with god. Today divorce is accepted as marriage has faltered from a sacrament and rather a social institution. Divorce provides an easy way out of marriage during a society full of instant gratification and commitment deficits. Healthy relationships need communication. The human race excels because of our advanced ability to communicate with each other. Thus relationships inventively thrive through those same communication skills. Anything can be figured out, understood, appreciated, respected, or changed through conversation. As toddlers humans attempt to communicate before we learn to walk so it's about time we apply the same concept to relationships. Couples need to communicate before they take the step of marriage.

When reading the article, replace the words "walk" with marriage and "baby" with relationship. It doesn't fit together in some instances but overall it's an interesting perspective. ]]> 2018-10-25 18:32:12 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/297124150 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/g10rh3kiw4zy/wish/297699407 This is pure speculation, but I assume that divorce is prevalent because marriage has become less valued (possibly due to the rise of the social acceptance of promiscuity, or the fact that people tend to view love as more of a feeling than a commitment), and that so many marriages fail these days because of a sort of domino effect (that is, people from broken families are more likely to get divorced themselves). I think that a few qualities of a healthy relationship are friendship, commitment, and honesty. I do hope to get married someday because that would mean I had found a kind of mutual understanding with someone about life and stuff.

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