Session 5: Focus on Self-Control (RLTS), Jan-Feb 2024 by DCRC

2024-02-01 18:25:41 UTC

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My goal is to be more flexible in my expectations.

2024-02-09 20:50:42 UTC

I will remember to pause and reflect instead of falling back into my comfort zone as a 'fixer'.

2024-02-09 20:53:05 UTC

I share strategies with staff to help them cope and destress. I remind them of programs that are available through the workplace. I share magazine articles connecting mindfulness and happiness.

Iris B. I really try to validate the feelings of staff and at the same time I try to offer clear expectations.

2024-02-12 00:16:29 UTC

Iris B. Coping strategies appear in the "sometimes" column for me. My goal is to work in that area and strengthen it

2024-02-12 00:18:53 UTC

I am trying the exercise of putting myself in the place of a staff person and set-aside my viewpoint. I am working on responding empathetically from their perspective. That takes some real practice and effort - but it is worth it.

2024-02-12 00:28:32 UTC

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I think I really establish clear expectations with staff. I try to go over the expectations regularly and the beginning of each school year allow them to share their ideas for what the new year will look like. Allowing them to guide the process helps them have buy in to the plans and help create the expectations.

2024-02-12 16:02:47 UTC

My goal is to validate the feelings of staff. Their job is difficult and when they have concerns or are just frustrated, it's important to acknowledge their feelings without trying to problem solve it for them.

2024-02-12 16:03:35 UTC

I will listen, really listen!

2024-02-12 19:37:00 UTC

My goal is to really listen first and not feel that I have to try to fix the situation immediately. Sometimes people just want you to listen and meet them where they are in the moment.

2024-02-12 23:05:59 UTC

Kelly N

kellybarrett5 — 2024-02-13 17:52:08 UTC

I think one of my strengths is validating the feelings of staff. I work really hard to be open to feedback from everyone, and not be reactionary or defensive, even if its negative feedback about me.

This topic is one of my goals; I did not score well in this area, so I am struggling to find my strength!! I need to PAUSE, FOCUS, REFLECT, and the ACT.....like many of the comments, I really try, but I see I need to address self control as a protective factor!

2024-02-13 18:21:26 UTC

"My tongue is the strongest muscle I have" as a child once said to me, I thought that was very powerful

I will work on each item, one at a time and check in with myself often-even seconds after addressing each item. But I want to make sure I also celebrate my (even small) work towards better self control. I really LOVED the "It isn't about the nail" video, it sits on my brain with Pause, Reflect, Focus, and Act.

2024-02-13 18:24:33 UTC

I will take the time, and use empathy statements instead of stories from my experiences, allow staff to be flexible in their comfort zone, and help find strategies together-because together is a great place to be!

2024-02-13 18:26:09 UTC

Kelly N.

kellybarrett5 — 2024-02-14 21:17:47 UTC

I want to offer staff more coping strategies.

Kelly N.

kellybarrett5 — 2024-02-14 21:19:07 UTC

I will pause, reflect, and really think through my responses rather than just responding off the cuff.

ED

2024-02-15 17:29:42 UTC

I encourage others to be flexible! I know one word we loved to hate during the pandemic was "pivot" - but pivot we must!

ED

2024-02-15 17:37:52 UTC

Taking the time to pause and reflect so that I can focus on validating feelings before I jump to fixing the issue! I am so accustomed to putting out one fire quickly so that I can speed off to the next one that I forget how important it is to sit in the discomfort with someone.

ED

2024-02-15 17:38:47 UTC

FLIP IT! I have already used it twice this week.

Michelle

2024-02-15 17:39:01 UTC

I believe one of my strengths in this area is being able to sit with others as they process their emotions. I listen and validate their feelings.

Michelle

2024-02-15 17:43:05 UTC

One of the things I am taking away from this Resilient Leadership series is a deep appreciation for my team. I am blessed to work with a group of individuals who have a high level of emotional intelligence and, in general, demonstrate healthy coping strategies. One of my goals is to lean into what they are already doing well in this area and celebrate the strategies I see being used.

Michelle

2024-02-15 17:50:29 UTC

As I notice team members modeling healthy coping strategies, I will acknowledge it individually. When appropriate, I will also invite them to reflect with the team, so we can all benefit from learning new tools for building our resilience.