Understanding the Self by SU MIN KIM https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j About Sumin Kim :-) en-us 2021-04-24 11:02:37 UTC 2023-03-26 00:45:21 UTC hello@padlet.com "Real self is not an end goal, but a process of becoming." suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454485155 - Carl Rogers]]> 2021-04-24 11:15:52 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454485155 Sign Vehicles suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454497635 carriers of information about a person such as appearance, gesture, language and objects

Based from my Instagram, I love meeting people, going outside, traveling and I am mindful of how I look to others! I rarely wear glasses when going outside, maybe because I feel ugly(?)]]> 2021-04-24 11:27:39 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454497635 It's natural to wear masks! suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454500110 2021-04-24 11:30:25 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454500110 IU - Celebrity ♬ suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454514224 Don't forget among the cloudly dark
You're a star painted with a left hand
Can't you see how beautiful
A true uniqeness can be
You are my celebrity

Don't forget during the lond winter
A flower can bloom between the frozen cracks
Can't you see how beautiful
Tomorrow's spring is to be
You are my celebrity

= no matter what, you're a special celebrity just the way you are for me ; unconditional positive regard

]]> 2021-04-24 11:44:36 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454514224 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454528183 2021-04-24 12:00:11 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454528183 I am who I am and I have the need to be. suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454539736 - Little Prince]]> 2021-04-24 12:11:30 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454539736 Prologue suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454542467 The concept that was most relatable for me in this module was the concept of “wearing mask.”  It is not a fault to hide my feelings, but is actually natural and necessary to properly live out each day in our society. My favorite phrase was by Carl Rogers – "Real self is not an end goal, but a process of becoming." It helped and somehow comforted me because I had a pressure to accurately know about myself and present myself fancily to others when in fact, I still really do not know who I am. When someone asks, I can share a lot about my friends, but I do not have much to say about myself. This module removed such burden and gave me the realization that maybe these current stages of pondering who I am is part of my identity as well! Also, I am constantly changing each second, so I do not have to define myself with a single word.

]]> 2021-04-24 12:14:21 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1454542467 I decide how my day is! suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481560798 Encountering the all kinds of events, I can decide how to feel and be affected from it. My mood of the day depends on my mindset!]]> 2021-05-02 00:50:35 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481560798 Start of Chapt 1 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481561564 2021-05-02 00:51:58 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481561564 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481562352 But still, we don't have to think positively all the time since negative emotions are extremely important as well!. Negative emotions help us to avoid unfavorable situations and protect us from harms.]]> 2021-05-02 00:53:17 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481562352 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481565597 A lecture related not only to emotions but overall aspects in life :-)]]> 2021-05-02 00:58:47 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481565597 Find Positive Meaning - Be Open - Do Good suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481567489 Our positive inputs must be translated to positive outputs, practicing good into actions]]> 2021-05-02 01:02:02 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481567489 Chapter 1 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481568922 From this module, I realized that person's way of accepting circumstances does not only influence his daily emotions, but his attitude which eventually becomes a habit and furthermore forms personality -  the way how one behaves in his life. I once heard that person's outward beauty from 30s is his own responsibility. It doesn't mean that one should fall under societal beauty standards, but the impression one gives will be shaped on his face from 30s based on the facial expression one usually makes. If he smiles most of the time, his lip ends will face upward, while if one usually frowns, his forehead will have wrinkles. Similarly, our mental and psychological faces will also be shaped based on our feelings as we keep on living. My parents used to require my siblings and I to write a "gratitude diary" listing down at least 5 thankful things that happened in the day before going to sleep. The diary not only consisted special big events, but normal daily things such as: the sky was beautiful today, my friend greeted me in the morning with a smile, my mom cooked delicious dinner, and I got low grades in a quiz today but I can improve on the next time. After writing "gratitude diary", no day was a bad day.]]> 2021-05-02 01:04:22 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481568922 Start of Chapter 2 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481569493 2021-05-02 01:05:16 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1481569493 Ask time to time to oneself in times of uncertainty suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511772452 Aren't I trying to  escape the situation just because I feel uncomfortable tacking it via?
1.denial
2. displacement
3. projection
4. reaction formation
5. rationalization
6. sublimation

Defense mechanism might protect yourself, but sometimes, directly facing and fighting over the problem becomes the key to solution.]]> 2021-05-11 02:04:22 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511772452 Memory if Sweet, Experience if Bitter suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511784117 Everything happens for a reason. If what  you've gone through was happy, then keep it as a memory that you can reminisce and gain positive energy anytime. If what happened to you was painful and exhausting, then serve it as an experience which gave you realizations to become a more mature better person.]]> 2021-05-11 02:08:50 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511784117 Family: loving people suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511807203 Regardless of form, all collection of loving individuals is a family! And the stronger members have the responsibility to make a happy family and protect the weaker members.]]> 2021-05-11 02:17:53 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511807203 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511828013 It is natural for id, ego and superego to function, but what makes me myself is that I can choose my decisions!]]> 2021-05-11 02:26:27 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511828013 I am the owner of myself because I have control over my mind and body suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511851880 2021-05-11 02:36:04 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511851880 Cheeze - Today's Mood suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511880705 The forecast said today’s weather will be
Cloudless sunny
Why did dark clouds get lost
All over my head
No one knows
Today’s mood

There’s a gloomy day sometimes
Follow the way wind blows
With light steps I don’t care anymore

So now wherever I need a minute
A minute to do something else
And I smile just as today’s mood

]]> 2021-05-11 02:47:27 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511880705 Chapter 2 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511889247 Studying the modules of Chapter 2, I came to think how complex and strange people are considering the psychodynamic perspective. Yet, people  find meaning of life, take a role in society, form families, and strive for happiness. Over the recent years, the trend in Korea is "healing" - comforting the most competitive generation saying that "it is okay not to be okay" and "self-esteem is important so love yourself first before others." Being exposed to such kind of books, YouTube videos and social media contents, I am not so sure whether I am rationalizing my laziness as self-care. Every moment in youth is a opportunity, but youth tends to forget this. I would like to grab the every opportunity that comes to me since youth is shining and I only live once :)]]> 2021-05-11 02:51:00 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511889247 Start of Chapter 3! suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511892094 2021-05-11 02:52:16 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1511892094 Family suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552504843 my takeaway: Our parents are also their first time to become parents! So it is natural for them to make mistakes as we do. However, as a family, we can always accept and understand each other with love, try our best to care for one another, and become a happy organization. It is role of parents to form a upright family with healthy mindset, but children should not take their efforts as granted.]]> 2021-05-24 03:51:03 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552504843 Friends suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552505906 my takeaway: friends and barkadas are opportunities to meet different people outside from one's comfort zone, and learn how to cooperate with others despite differences in opinions finding the best agreeing point. However, having an upright foundation is very important that one can correct other friend in case of trouble, or even say no in things that are wrong. One does not have to follow whatever their friends do. Becoming a positive influence for one another is essential.]]> 2021-05-24 03:51:38 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552505906 Romatic Relationships suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552506044 my takeaway: Loving myself is first before loving another. Knowing myself must be the basis of getting to know another person. Misunderstanding  sacrifice as love, and devoting all of one's capabilities or opportunities  to the loved one is not healthy especially in these youth stages where we are still forming our identity.]]> 2021-05-24 03:51:42 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552506044 Respect is the Key suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552557713 I believe that the solution for all differences - gender, social class culture, etc - is respect. When we respect and accept one another's variety and think in a way that these differences make our world more dynamic and fun, then peace will be achieved. ]]> 2021-05-24 04:19:20 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552557713 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552572114 2021-05-24 04:26:21 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552572114 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552576645 Somehow sarcastic cartoon but I brought it to point out difference in perspectives haha :')

I recently saw a lot of comments in beauty vlogs like "Don't fit yourself to Asian beauty standards! You're already pretty the way you are! Prioritize your inner beauty!" and etc. 
I personally think that these kinds of comments are another kind of  discrimination as well. 

If one's way of self-care is through working hard for appearance, then let one do it! Everyone's notion of gaining self confidence is different. Don't force your opinion as the only answer and hinder other's development. Respect and support would be the help, not discouraging words.]]> 2021-05-24 04:28:31 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552576645 Chapter 3 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552590013 Our society is full of differences and gaps, but the key for all problems arising can be respect. And we have family, friends and (optional) romantic relationships to work together on the way for peace. I think that perfect peace cannot be achieved, and if it is, then it is notion of power-imbalanced society. Our population is composed of various and special individuals that difference in opinions are natural! When the gov't or powerful authority claims perfect peace, then it signifies that someone's opinions are neglected. The objections, complaints and opposing ideas are the triggering points of development for a better world.]]> 2021-05-24 04:35:04 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552590013 suminkim2 https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552591140 2021-05-24 04:35:35 UTC https://padlet.com/suminkim2/emzhden8i8lfxa0j/wish/1552591140