What Kind of Parents Are We? What Patterns of Parenting Did We Experience as Children? by LNET

Two in one

2020-06-15 16:50:41 UTC

I want to believe that I follow an authoritative style of parenting. It is very important for me to support, give warmth, and care to my children. I try to explain the reasons for the prohibitions and the need for certain actions, both my own and my children.
Unfortunately, I am sometimes an authoritarian parent. For various reasons, by and large, I have enough patience, but sometimes I explode (though, having previously explained the reason))).
Perhaps I should mention that I raise children alone, with my father the eldest son (22 years old), we divorced when my son was 4 years old, and the father of his second son (15 years old) died 8 years ago. I myself am a temperamental, strong, and independent person, brought up by an authoritarian mother and a permissive dad, I do not like either one of the other parenting styles. I promised myself not to be like my parents. But in the light of the above details, I want to admit that it’s sometimes difficult to be both dad and mom in one bottle) ... Therefore, I, most likely, dad) but also mom, of course, too. Hopefully authoritative, not authoritarian)

La importancia de la familia y la crianza.

2020-09-09 03:22:19 UTC

A la edad de 3 años mis padres se separaron, la crianza con mi mamá fue permisiva y un poco autoritaria ya que nunca tuve la imagen paterna y tampoco una disciplina en la casa o una imagen paterna. Sin embargo, ella trataba de educarme lo mejor posible, me consentía mucho. En la adolescencia mi mamá estaba sobre protegiéndome demasiado al punto que me sentía asfixiada y me tocaba revelarme para conocer del mundo. Fue una época difícil y todo esto afecto mis relaciones amorosas, como lo dije anteriormente no tuve una imagen paterna y no podía relacionarme bien con mi entorno o terminaba cada rato con los novios que tenia porque me eran infieles. Pero bueno le doy gracias a Dios porque aprendí de todas las experiencias que viví.

I believe that our children should be treated as an integral part of the family and share with them and ask their opinion about things related to them. I think once we decide for them they will want to rebel. I think it is necessary to explain to children the logic behind decisions and always consult with them.

artzizohar — 2021-01-10 08:16:02 UTC

2021-01-18 00:19:28 UTC

parents style

2021-01-22 01:59:20 UTC

My parents bounced back and forth between permissive and authoritarian parenting styles, and as an adult, I live with the learned behaviours as a result of both. They did their best, but I endeavour to be an authoritative parent for my kids. I hope to do better than they did.

Me as a parent vs. my Parents

2021-01-25 21:41:34 UTC

My childhood was difficult for reasons I will not detail here. Due to these circumstances, my parents had to combine authoritative and authoritarian Styles alternately. It can be said that my mother was authoritarian, and my father was authoritative. I advocate more of the authoritative parenting style, but I find myself more authoritarian in the last year than I want to be due to the corona because there is more need for control and the boundaries are stricter than before.

my parents are very worm and caring, they gave me all the physical conditions I needed, I felt always loved and safe, but they didn't know how to interact, and didn't teach me well and balanced ways to express myself

2021-02-01 17:14:42 UTC

My childhood was the best, but my parents were always very authoritative parents. Now looking back, I can see how they behaved but at the time I didn't realize. As a mother, I am very permissive, but I don't know why, I can't give my kids limits. I had so many limits my whole life, but I just can't control them. I struggle because of this because I'm afraid about their future. Because of this, I decided to send my son to the Tzavah and this was the best decision ever. He got there, the limits that I could never give him. And he needed it so bad. It's so difficult to know what the best for our children is! I just want to be ready for life, be happy and succeed.

2021-03-14 19:27:58 UTC

myself as a parent I choose authoritative parenting style it was very hard to achieve because my son is autistic at the age of 4.5 so it took a wile until we could have a conversation. As a child I experienced authoritarian parenting style from my mother and because of that I always was afraid to harm ,my son ,I only realized now why I was so afraid. Because of the way of my outbringing

alinashapochnik — 2021-05-29 20:26:34 UTC

Parenting styles

2021-06-11 10:31:55 UTC

My mother was very authoritarian and did not give allowances for mistakes. On the other side my dad was mostly away but was very calm and authoritative. I have learned a lot from the two parents and would not want to be authoritarian to my kids. However, I believe that the limits my parents set for me have also helped despite that I ended up being fearful of authority for a long time.

My Mom

sariba416 — 2021-06-28 13:50:42 UTC

My mom had a very authoritarian approach to parenting. Her go to lines were "I said so and that's all you need to know", "Never question a mother", and if you ever did dare ask, it was a challenge to her authority and you were punished/treated as such.

I hope to be a better mom to my children.

Authoritative Parenting Style

2021-07-31 06:00:25 UTC

My parents were very disciplined with me, but they gave me a very happy and fulfilling childhood. I am currently very independent.

Authoritative

leoralevey — 2022-01-29 00:02:36 UTC

My mom was authoritative and my father was more permissive. I had a great childhood with supportive and loving parents. My mom was the one who gave me structure and I was also close to my father, but I knew my mom had boundaries and I knew what to expect.

my childhood was great , and my parents tretead me in a way which is amazing , our relationship was based on respect and understanding. which made from me a good charachter and person.

2022-02-04 11:00:56 UTC

My parents were authoritarian and abusive.

2022-07-22 16:22:52 UTC

I have a lot of self-esteem issues and extreme anxiety as a result.

When I'm a parent, I'm going to exhibit the authoritative parenting style and my children will be much happier as kids and adults.

Authoritative Parenting Style

2022-08-25 10:43:47 UTC

violent household

2023-01-21 12:46:56 UTC

i grew up in a very violent house hold, my father was very violent towards my mother, therefore i have very bad trust issues and i had problems being in a relationship.
this made me an over protective mother and made me protect my family and my household very much

Me as a parent vs my parents

2023-01-21 12:51:59 UTC

My parents treated me with so much care and love, I always felt secured and safe being with my family that made my personality the way I am now, always find the positive in me no matter what, although I still remember the punishment of not going out with friends or not watching T.V, even at that moment I didn't want to have this punishment because as a child I want everything I wanted with no limitation, when I was a child I didn't understand the reason, as a mom now I totally understand the value of these things and I think I liked it. As a parent I'm raising my daughter the same way.

my parents

2023-01-23 18:53:03 UTC

they used punishments. and i think we also use it, "go to your room", and things like that.

my parents followed their own scenario i guess, my Mom's job was to ensure that everyone is safe and not ignoring social norms too much :)(she comes from generations of educators in her family) and my Dad (who is an artist) was taking care of our artistic selves from the earliest childhood. He wanted us to explore, create and be happy. So I can't complain, we had lots of fun.

2023-01-29 13:23:22 UTC

My parent and me as a parent

2023-02-04 12:25:14 UTC

My parent were loving and would do anything for me. The were the Helicopter-parent and will solve any problem I encountered. They would also punish me when needed. I am trying to give my kids more independence and let them make mistakes and learn from it. I try to teach them how to solve their own problems with me there to support them.

Liberal vs. Protective

2023-02-07 01:51:38 UTC

I grew up in a very liberal home (a bit hippie), there was no censorship whatsoever. I always got very honest open answers from my parents about every topic that came up. This is very positive, but it was also a little too liberal to my taste. There were certain things and topics I would have wanted to be shielded from at an earlier age. There was also a lot of sharing about financial and other challenges. Perhaps this is why as a parent I tend to be much more protective. I do give my children a lot of freedom to do things, but I shield them much more, I don’t share all the “adult issues” with them, etc. They sometime complain about that. It’s tough I guess to reach a good balance.
However, my parents did set boundaries in things that mattered and they were still more authoritative than permissive, which is what I aim to be as well.

A mixed bag

2023-02-26 13:51:20 UTC

I grew up with elements of all of these, with the exception of permissive parenting. My parents really did try to create an environment of care and love, and in a lot of ways, they succeeded. But they also had very heavy authoritarian tendencies, as well as their own baggage they didn't sort out, which I believe carried over into how they parented. In a lot of situations, it was a mix of many things all at the same time: support and kindness, which then turned into anger, which then turned into problem solving, which then turned into blame, which then turned into tears, which then turned into consolation, which then turned into shouting... it's taken time to unpack and learn how to respond appropriately as an adult.

such a touching chapter in this course. I was raised with a permissive mother. And the consequences are well shown...

2023-03-05 08:34:08 UTC

discipline is to love

2023-04-10 11:03:28 UTC

I'm 22 years old. My parents have been caregivers for children aged 0-3 for twelve years and I work with them. I can say that the person I am today is because I had parents who taught, educated, disciplined and loved me. They have always been by my side, directing me to realize what is right and what is wrong. In somewhat difficult phases, in early childhood, they established limits and rules at home. I always had time to go to sleep, time to eat, time to study, time to play and time to spend with family. It made all the difference in my growth. At school I had no trouble following rules and sticking to them. on outings of my parents with friends, I participated. this made it easier for me to develop and communicate with people, regardless of age. I love talking to more experienced people, seniors, adults and children. I feel like I have a lot to learn from each of them.

My experience in growing up with my parents..

2024-01-24 22:55:52 UTC

My parents style of parenting was characterized by providing a nurturing supportive and caring environment, where we were always encouraged to have open communication and express our feelings. They fostered a sense of autonomy and independence for me and to my brothers, allowing us to explore and make choices within reasonable boundaries.

Also my parents recognized and respected the unique qualities and interests of each one of us, this is the reason why each one of us ended up pursuing his passion in life and creating his own unique identity and personality. Me in pursing: philosophy, anthropology and education. My first brother in pursuing: economics and human recourses, and my second brother in pursuing: art (a painter and in visual communication) and education. It's important to note that my brothers are identical twins, who chose two different paths in life - but are still very very close and have a wonderful relationship.

I hope that I will be able to implement that one day in my parenting :)

My Thoughts About Parenting- Sapir Avraham

2025-06-12 14:19:32 UTC

I am not a parent yet, but I think that parenting has a big influence on a child’s personality and confidence. From my experience as a child, I saw how important it is for parents to give both love and clear boundaries. I believe that good parenting is about being supportive but also teaching children how to deal with challenges. In the future, I hope to take the good things I learned and give them to my own children.

dysfunctional upbringing

2025-06-13 12:38:42 UTC

I grew up in a very disfunctional family that was charecterized by violence both physical and emotional. I became a parent 3 years ago and I'm very conscious of not repeating the cycle of violence. It's not easy. I have a child with special needs and I'm raising her on my own. We are facing a lot of challenges, and it can be overwhelming. But overall I'm a mama bear who will fight for my child and make sure that she will grow knowing her worth and have opportunities that I didn't have growing up.

my parents

2025-06-14 13:15:18 UTC

I think my parents had an authoritative parenting style. They were loving and protective, set clear rules, but also listened to me and supported me. I always felt safe and cared for.

My Parents

2025-06-17 08:24:11 UTC

I think I grew up in an authoritative household. My parents were strict and set clear boundries. There was not a lot of touchy feely stuff. We were looked after and fed but there was not alot of sharing of thoughts and feelings. My father did not like such things at all.

My Experience

2025-06-17 18:37:29 UTC

When I was a child, my parents were caring and always made sure I was loved. They listened to me, but they also had rules to protect me. Sometimes they were strict, but I always knew it was because they wanted the best for me. Because of them, I learned how to be responsible and respected by everyone. One day when I become a parent, I want to be patient, understanding, and close to my kids. I want to be the safe place for them and protect them, also teach them right from wrong. I think it's important to give love, but also to set limits.

Bar Oster

2025-06-19 17:52:47 UTC

I’m still not a mother, but I often think about the kind of parent I might become someday. Growing up, I noticed certain patterns in how my parents raised me. Some things I appreciated deeply, like their support and encouragement, and other things were more challenging, like strict rules or expectations that sometimes felt overwhelming.

Even though I’m not a mother now, I realize these experiences have already shaped how I understand relationships, care, and discipline. I hope that when the time comes, I will take the positive parts of my upbringing and try to improve on the parts that were harder for me. I’m still learning and thinking about what kind of parent I want to be.

2025-06-23 18:37:57 UTC

As a child, I experienced a parenting style that was warm, supportive, and structured. My parents set clear boundaries but always listened to me and showed empathy. I believe in being involved, respectful, and balanced. I want to give children the same sense of safety, love, and guidance that I received.

Parenting vs. My experience

2025-07-18 09:44:29 UTC

I gow up in an enviorment of rules and deciplin and less phisical love from my parents. This made my brother to parent is children with almost no rules and show them only love. I of myself a more meddiate parent, I give my dougther bondries and do tell her not to do something bad but also do it with a lot of love lisening and phisicl touch.

2025-07-23 12:33:54 UTC

i grew up with parents who were loving but also wuth clear rules. they supported me and wanted me to succeed. as a perent i would try to follow the same balance.

My Parents

2026-06-08 08:55:16 UTC

They are the best. I gorw up in a supportive, caring house.

Mine

2026-06-09 19:03:48 UTC

I was very spoiled by my parents, they got me after 8 years and I’m thier first child

Authoritative parenting - Carolyn

2026-06-09 19:27:38 UTC

I experienced cgrowing up, as my parents were both supportive and set clear expectations and boundaries. They encouraged open communication, listened to my opinions, and guided me with warmth and consistency. As a parent, I also strive to use an authoritative parenting style by balancing affection and understanding with structure and reasonable rules, while encouraging independence and responsibility in my daughter.

My Experience with parenting

2026-06-12 16:27:47 UTC

I grew up mostly with my mother because my parents are divorced. Even though my family situation was different from others, my childhood was wonderful. My mother was loving, supportive, and always did her best to give me everything I needed. She taught me important values and encouraged me to believe in myself. Because of the way I was raised, I think I will be a caring, patient, and loving parent in the future.

2026-06-13 09:47:29 UTC

I think parenting styles can be different. Some parents are strict and focus on rules, while others are more supportive and give children more freedom.

In my own experience, my parents were a mix of both. They set rules and expected me to be responsible, especially with school and behavior. At the same time, they were caring and supportive when I needed help.

I think this balance helped me learn discipline and also feel supported. From this, I believe good parenting should include both clear rules and emotional support.

Healthy childhood

2026-06-13 10:11:18 UTC

I grew up in a supportive and caring family. My parents taught me the importance of respect responsibility and also education and they gave me guidance and set clear rules but they also Listened to my opinions and encouraged me to make my own decisions and because of this I learned to be an independent and confident girl and in the future I would like to be a supportive parent who listens to her children while also teaching them values and responsibility

2026-06-13 10:54:06 UTC

Growing up, I experienced a parenting style that combined warmth and support with clear expectations and boundaries. My parents encouraged me to be independent while also guiding me when I made mistakes. Looking back, I think this helped me develop responsibility, confidence, and respect for others. Learning about parenting styles in this unit helped me better understand how different approaches can influence a child’s development and self-image.

my childhood

2026-06-13 15:43:14 UTC

I grew up in a family that was both caring and supportive. My parents taught me the importance of respect, responsibility, and kindness. They set clear rules but also listened to my opinions and encouraged me to do my best. Because of their support, I learned to be independent and confident. Looking back, I believe this balance of guidance and warmth helped me develop important values and life skills. In the future, I would like to be a parent who is supportive, patient, and encouraging while also teaching responsibility and respect.

authoritative but warm

2026-06-14 12:09:29 UTC

2026-06-14 15:54:06 UTC

Growing up, I experienced an authoritative parenting style. My parents were caring and supportive, but they also set clear rules and expectations. They encouraged me to be responsible, respectful, and independent. Because of their guidance and warmth, I developed confidence and important life skills. Looking back, I appreciate the balance between support and discipline that helped shape who I am today.

My Experience

2026-06-20 15:02:57 UTC

I experienced the Authoritative Parenting Style. As explained in the unit the parenting style I experienced form both of my parents was containing, friendly, supportive, warm and respectful. There was discipline in my home, but not too hard because my brother and I were "good kids" and friends.

Authoritative Parenting Style

2026-06-22 19:38:03 UTC

I am the eldest daughter in my family. My mom and dad had to figure out how to raise me even without prior experience. However, because they are both rational thinkers with very caring and loving personalities, I grow up with and Authoritative parenting style. My parents showed me the world and always explained every curious question I had (even to this day) and both of them set boundaries for me that's why I grow up with the abikity to differenciate between good and bad, healthy and unhealthy patternes etc.

My experience

2026-06-23 11:42:12 UTC

It is difficult to say what kind of parenting I had. My parents would have spoilt me I think if they had an opportunity, but we weren't as rich. My parents lost their temper from time to time and there were quarrels between us. My mum wanted to be supportive and warm, but as she hadn't had such experience herself (she didn't have a mother) sometimes she didn't know how to help me or my sister. I consider my childhood healthy and I am happy that my parents were the way they were. Althought it wasn't completely authoritative parenting style.