https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan 10% Happier en-us 2019-12-23 15:37:41 UTC 2026-02-21 13:24:19 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/1f4da.png hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426602754 In the Preface, Harris talks about the practical take-away ... how is this of use to me?  So, what are the reasons you joined this book discussion?  How are you hoping to benefit?


]]> 2019-12-23 15:42:09 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426602754 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426602986 Harris comments that "the balance between stress and contentment was life's biggest riddle."  What are some of your methods for trying to achieve balance?



]]> 2019-12-23 15:45:50 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426602986 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426607419 Please share tips about how you are taking better care of yourself "with a steady regimen of exercise, sleep, healthy food and temperance"]]> 2019-12-23 16:41:06 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426607419 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426834980 While interviewing parishioners, Harris describes them as "elated and empowered." How/when have you felt elated or empowered in your job or life in general?]]> 2019-12-27 00:03:20 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426834980 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426835661 Dan Harris talks about how a cultural and philosophical gap between he & Ted would make you think a connection was impossible.  What are some unlikely friendships or work relationships that have surprised you?]]> 2019-12-27 00:12:48 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426835661 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426836206 Dan's wife, Bianca, is annoyed by his attachment to his blackberry. How do you take your work home or how does it interfere with your personal time?]]> 2019-12-27 00:20:33 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/426836206 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/428904834 To paraphrase: The ego thrives on drama, keeping our old resentments & grievances alive through compulsive thought ... obsessing with the past & future at the expense of the present.  
What are ways that you stay in the present?
 ]]> 2020-01-08 13:53:48 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/428904834 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/433396993 Per Tolle, our lives are governed by the voice in our heads. At a recent EOPO conference, JJ DeGeronimo also talked about the voice in our heads. What is your "voice" like and how do you control it or use it to your advantage?"]]> 2020-01-19 14:46:22 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/433396993 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/433397370 An ex-girlfriend told Harris, "When you have one foot in the future and the other in the past, you **** on the present. He describes hurling through the day, checking things off his to-do list, picturing completion instead of enjoying the process. What are ways you can enjoy the process of your work?]]> 2020-01-19 14:49:43 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/433397370 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/436045964 In line with the concept in this chapter that, "it's not just thinking - it's thinking coupled with action," what are self help books or experiences that have been helpful to you?

]]> 2020-01-25 23:14:08 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/436045964 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/436046621 What have you tried that has NOT been helpful?

]]> 2020-01-25 23:22:31 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/436046621 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/436046988 What are your thoughts on the book and this discussion so far?

]]> 2020-01-25 23:27:43 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/436046988 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/439331266 The title of this chapter just sounds awful. What are your thoughts about Epstein's concept that "the human tendency" is "to lurch headlong from one pleasurable experience to the next without ever achieving satisfaction?"]]> 2020-02-02 18:15:23 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/439331266 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/439334117 Comment on Harris'  understanding that "the Buddha's main thesis was that in a world where everything is constantly changing, we suffer because we cling to things that won't last."]]> 2020-02-02 18:32:59 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/439334117 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/439335763 How do you relate to Harris' question, "Wasn't the Buddhist emphasis on LETTING GO a recipe for passivity ... saying we shouldn't strive or we shouldn't be attached to our loved ones?]]> 2020-02-02 18:43:03 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/439335763 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/442811795 Have you tried the 3 steps to meditation?  If so, thoughts, successes? Is this a strategy that helps you overcome negative thinking?

]]> 2020-02-10 01:29:57 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/442811795 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/442813348 Mindfulness is a real buzzword in schools right now. What is your definition of mindfulness?]]> 2020-02-10 01:35:24 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/442813348 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/442814952 If mindfulness creates "some space in your head so you can ... RESPOND  rather than simply REACT"  and you can't control what comes into your mind, but you have the SUPERPOWER to control how you handle it, then what are some of your experiences?

]]> 2020-02-10 01:41:50 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/442814952 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/445983813 Goldstein's opinion regarding DESIRE is that we are conditioned to believe that the more pleasant experiences we have, the happier we'll be. Why is that such a bad thing, Harris questions. Goldstein explains, "The key is not to get carried away by desire; we need to manage it with wisdom and mindfulness." So, how can we apply this to our professional lives?]]> 2020-02-15 21:28:17 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/445983813 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/445986864 Day 5 of the Retreat, Goldstein addresses the Buddhist concept that "life is suffering" by explaining that the concept is more accurately that "everything in the world is unsatisfying and unreliable because it won't last" and we are living in anticipation of the next  pleasant experience.  If we could be more aligned with what is true, it would bring us greater happiness.  Happiness is self-generated, not contingent on exogenous forces. How do we apply this to our work lives?

]]> 2020-02-15 21:57:23 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/445986864 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/445990939 (a) As the retreat concludes, Goldstein urges them not to spend too much time thinking about the stuff they have to do when they  get back to the real world.  Harris challenges that advice on the basis that not all thoughts are irrelevant.  They conclude that it is "ok to worry, plot and plan ... until it's not useful anymore."  (b) As Harris is driving away, he says "the habits of a lifetime reassert themselves with astonishing speed."  How do you balance your habits so that they are useful, but not stressful?

]]> 2020-02-15 22:40:54 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/445990939 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/446423975 Instead of answering one of the questions, try this relaxation exercise for at least 5 minutes and report back what you thought:

Lay on your back.  Completely stretch your legs out and your arms straight above your head, so you are as tall/long as possible.  Breathe deep.  To focus, on every breath in, repeat to yourself, "I breathe in."  On every breath out, repeat, "I breathe out."  Put a hand on your abdomen and feel it rise and fall.]]> 2020-02-17 15:59:43 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/446423975 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/450194689 Post Retreat, when talking to people about meditation, Harris says he was trying to "defend my reputation, to make sure people didn't think I was a loon."  Have you ever felt that way?  Explain.

]]> 2020-02-25 16:27:31 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/450194689 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/450211641 In an interview with Joseph Goldstein, they discuss the notion that "everything  we experience in this world goes through on filter - our minds..."  Do you feel that you're now more aware of the voice in your head?]]> 2020-02-25 16:46:11 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/450211641 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/450213361 Have you learned anything from 10% Happier that has helped you be 10% Happier? For example, creating space between stimulus and response.]]> 2020-02-25 16:48:13 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/450213361 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/450218905 Try something from the Appendix and share your thoughts.]]> 2020-02-25 16:54:40 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/450218905 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/452680528 What did you think after reading about the different research studies about meditation?]]> 2020-03-01 23:27:56 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/452680528 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/452682180 One of our conference presenters talked about mindfulness breaks as they do in this chapter.  What is something that you do to take a break ... something that relaxes and distracts you?]]> 2020-03-01 23:35:48 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/452682180 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/452683029 How can you become a better leader, more focused and/or more creative? ]]> 2020-03-01 23:40:18 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/452683029 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/453087239 In Chapter 4 Question 1, members shared some self help techniques. Have you tried something that someone else recommended?]]> 2020-03-02 17:04:15 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/453087239 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/453624631 Saw this and thought of you all.
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]]> 2020-03-11 22:01:48 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458761436 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458763667 Is being nice a daily, conscious priority for you? How so?]]> 2020-03-11 22:08:36 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458763667 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458767719 "People will take advantage of you if they're reading you as too Zen."  Have you ever experienced this?]]> 2020-03-11 22:20:58 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458767719 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458769912 Harris often talked about finding the balance between "the price of security" and the "wisdom of insecurity." In this final chapter he says he finds "nonattachment to results" as the middle path he was seeking. The last piece of the puzzle.  Are you able to drop the attachment in your job realizing that you have limited control over what happens?]]> 2020-03-11 22:27:50 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458769912 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458771084 "There's a reason they call Buddhism 'advanced common sense;' it's all about methodically confronting obvious-but-often-overlooked truths until something in you shifts."  Have you experienced any SHIFTS as a result of reading "10% Happier?"]]> 2020-03-11 22:32:06 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/458771084 hoffmandanaj https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/459101807 I can't tell you what would make you happy and keep you happy. Can you?]]> 2020-03-12 12:49:27 UTC https://padlet.com/hoffmandanaj/e9438rq0taan/wish/459101807