Help, please! by https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease Made with the best of intentions en-us 2019-10-31 12:10:08 UTC 2024-10-14 09:06:29 UTC hello@padlet.com alexeoiteacher https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861252049 I know that I have a tendency to hold a grudge but I just can't forget something bad a friend did to me recently. She has a selfish streak and doesn't care sometimes how much she hurts my feelings. I am finding it increasingly hard to keep my temper with her but perhaps it might be better to lose my temper and let her know how I really feel?

]]> 2020-10-26 11:35:36 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861252049 alexeoiteacher https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861254207 I have always tried to put others first and not to think of myself. I believe you should not lose your patience with your friends but if someone seems to enjoy making a fool out of you in front of other people, do those rules of friendship still apply?]]> 2020-10-26 11:36:51 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861254207 alexeoiteacher https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861256749 I'm a little shy but not painfully shy but sometimes I think I give the impression that I am unfriendly. How can I convince people that I'm good company and worth getting to know?]]> 2020-10-26 11:38:16 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861256749 alexeoiteacher https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861260576 Should I talk about personal matters to my closest colleague at work? She's not very good at keeping secrets and she has a very vivid imagination. She always promises not to tell other people, but I'm not sure she always keeps her word.]]> 2020-10-26 11:40:20 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861260576 alexeoiteacher https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861264919 My boyfriend has a really friendly, outgoing personality and a great sense of humor. He's intelligent and has a razor-sharp mind. The perfect man. We've been together now for a year, and I like him a lot, but I don't love him anymore. Should I be brutally honest with him and tell him?]]> 2020-10-26 11:42:20 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861264919 alexeoiteacher https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861267936 I think a friend is destroying himself with drugs. I feel a __________ of responsibility towards him. He has always been f________ loyal to me in good and bad times, which is a wonderful a_______ of his personality. I feel I ought to contact the police or social services but I don't want to make a s__________ decision which I will regret later.]]> 2020-10-26 11:43:46 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/861267936 Always people must show you respect https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/865140399 I think you always ought to make other people respect you at any time, on any place. Always. So you should tell these supposed friends you are fed up on their making a fool out of you. Maybe you don't want to do it in front of other people, as they do, but in a private, but serious enough conversation. This way you will show to them what respecting a friend should be.]]> 2020-10-27 10:40:59 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/865140399 It's OK to speak your mind but... himynameisagus https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868942268 Dear Stefan,
I could start by suggesting you to find a new friend but let's face it: we are grown ups and time is a precious thing. As Sweet Brown once said, 'ain't nobody got time for that!'. When finding yourself in a similar situation, try to own the moment: keep calm and hold your horses before saying something you may regret later. Breath and explain yourself while managing your temper - you do not want to loose that friendship forever! As you may know already, acting like crazy maniacs rarely gets us to any solution. If only we could go back in time and say things differently, right?]]> 2020-10-28 09:24:36 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868942268 Wear a Pikachu mask! himynameisagus https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868942996 Hey, Tom!
If you have the impression of being an undesired guest at parties, my guess is that you are not using enough Pokémon gear nor any Pikachu mask. Trust me, they do the job (and you'll see the amazing ice-breakers they are). Say goodbye to Tom the Tedious Toddler and become the real party rocking Tremendous Tom everybody needs. Remember you could just start by wearing that old Bulbasaur t-shirt and a yellow hygienic mask - no need to go broke! If you find it hard to buy some Official Pocket Monsters accesories, you might need to improve your social skills to the degree of becoming an essential asset in every kind of social event or casual meeting you may be facing soon regardless of what you wear.  Nonetheless, set realistic goals to yourself if you choose to be a regular, ordinary cool dude at parties.
You are welcome ;)]]> 2020-10-28 09:25:00 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868942996 No, no and utterly NO. himynameisagus https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868943733 Let's face it: you do not want anyone judging how bad at Tom you were during that karaoke afterwork party. My advise would be trying to spread false rumors and fake updates in your sexual life so you'll always be in control (well, sort of). I would NEVER advise you to go full on best-friends-mode with anybody at the office. Nor at your own place.
You can thank me later, dear Jan.]]> 2020-10-28 09:25:24 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868943733 Do not lie to him... himynameisagus https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868944197 ...nor to yourself. Be honest to us: you met someone else. It is mandatory that you do the right thing as soon as possible.]]> 2020-10-28 09:25:40 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868944197 Jesus is in MDMA. himynameisagus https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868944625 Dear Gary,
It's natural to care about your closest ones but maybe your friend is simply finding love and joy in MDMA and ecstasy pills and, perhaps, the casual joint after school. Pay attention to any mood swings on weekdays: they could tell if he's summuning our Lord and Savior on a daily basis - and we want him to have fun just on the weekends. And, by the way, it is not recommended at all to call the  police or anyone else before talking with him.
Peace out!]]> 2020-10-28 09:25:54 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/868944625 The truth is out there. https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/869124488 Hi Stefan, how are things going?
The problem you are facing now with is absolutely the same I suffered from some time ago, and it’s sometimes unbearable, the first thing that comes to your mind is hit her back, without thinking it twice.
It’s certainly the natural response of any human being who is fed up with this stupid behaviour.
If I were in your shoes, now that I have learned that these people, as a general rule, keep on doing the same thing, I mean hurting those around them, just because it’s their nature, you must make it clear how much she’s hurting you.
You're gonna want to get rid of the problem, because if you continue to bottle up your own feeling eventually you won’t put up more with the rage and frustration, and it might be much worse.
What about if you decide to tell her the whole truth, moreover I would advise you to do it the sooner the better, some people in your same situation have lived to tell the tale, see you soon.

]]> 2020-10-28 11:08:20 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/869124488 Brutally honest https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/869388866 I have no doubts that he is definitely a good man, but considering your situation, since you are pretty sure of your feelings I wouldn't advise you to keep the relationship on. So if you are sure about it, you should have the guts to tell him the truth for once. We don´t want this issue to drag on for years,right?.
So...Once you make the decision, you are gonna want to take the plunge,the sooner the better ,then I'm sure you will feel relieved.]]> 2020-10-28 12:58:24 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/869388866 https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/869444299 Hey !
Why don't you get rid of this idea? It's pretty clear that is a burden on you. If I were on your shoes, instead of getting stuck by pessimistic thoughts, I would try to replace them with positive ones about my qualities. It's  a good way to ease the stress and boost your mood. Maybe you'll never be a social butterfly, but a cool dude to have a drink with, sure. It might be a good time to change, Tom . Any plans for tonight?  :-)

]]> 2020-10-28 13:12:26 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/869444299 IT DOESN'T SEEM A GOOD IDEA https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/870625047 I understand that you want to create that sense of togetherness, but I'm positive you don't want to have the entire office talking about your life. I guess that when you two are having lunch, you feel like telling her your stuff, but bearing in mind how hard keeping a secret is for her, I would stop myself from revealing too much.This will help you to keep gossips at bay. Better safe than sorry. 
LOURDES]]> 2020-10-28 17:22:40 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/870625047 Be true to yourself https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/872482477 It’s a really difficult situation. But sometimes life is as tough as it is, and also it is not that long. So, if I were in your shoes, I would be true to myself, and tell him the truth, whatever painful it could be for him. If he is so smart as you state, sometime down the line he will be thankful to you for having being honest.]]> 2020-10-29 09:11:27 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/872482477 Maybe social services are better https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/872602264 I agree that you’re wanna want to talk to him any time soon, before taking any snap decision. On the other hand, it might not be so wise calling the police, I think that maybe social services are much more fitted to deal with those kind of issues. And if, eventually, your friend’s decision is to continue taking drugs, you must respect that. Sometimes, for no reason, people decide to hurt themselves and there’s not much we can do about it.

]]> 2020-10-29 10:20:57 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/872602264 A FRIENDSHIP FOREVER.... https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/882123956
Dear Stefan,
To begin with, I´d say that you should breathe in quietly and then you ought to think slowly about what was wrong between you and your friend. Sometimes, there is a series of situations which make people  behave in a wrong way. So have you ever refflected about the main reason which leads your friend to behave in this way? To be honest, If I were you, I´ll try to talk to her seriously about this embarrassing situation, it might help her to see the bright side of it and at the same time she could realize that she is losing  our friendship little by little without noticing it. On the other hand, it´d be better if you put on her shoes and helping her to overcome this problem. I strongly believe, the real value of a friendship is to have someone who stands by you overall when things get worse so my slogan is " In order to prevent your frienship from getting worse, there's nothing better than  supporting to your friend through thick and thin. I´m completely sure  it will guarantee that your friendship goes on .

Bye!]]> 2020-11-02 13:10:10 UTC https://padlet.com/alexeoiteacher/helpplease/wish/882123956