This is my 8th year at CNG and I am a CNG alumni. CNG is my second home!

Please reach out if I can support your families in any way.

This is my fourth year at CNG. I have worked with children and teenagers in the US, the UK, and Kenya before coming back to Colombia.

I have been working in education for 15 years. This is my 8th year in CNG and it has been an amazing experience because I have been able to work in different roles inside and outside the classroom.

The first days of school are full of excitement, nerves, and new beginnings. For children, it’s a big transition—and one of the most powerful ways we can support them is by showing that their story matters, both at school and at home.

Parenting is a journey filled with questions, learning curves, and countless small moments that shape our children’s sense of self. More than perfect answers or big gestures, what children need most is our presence.

When we take time to listen—really listen—to what our children are saying (and sometimes not saying), we communicate a powerful message: You matter. Your voice matters. I’m here with you.

Research shows that children who feel consistently seen and heard by their parents develop stronger self-esteem, better coping skills, and deeper trust in their relationships. The everyday check-ins, bedtime chats, and shared routines are where resilience is built.

Parenting doesn’t mean having it all figured out. It means showing up, being curious about your child’s world, and staying open to growth—together.

This week, try setting aside just five minutes each day for uninterrupted connection with your child. No phone, no multitasking—just you and them. Ask about their new teachers, their friends, or what they're most excited (or nervous) about the new school year. Those small pockets of presence add up to something children carry with them for a lifetime.

Please don't hesitate to reach out if we can support your family in any way!

Warmly, 

ES Counseling Team

Grade 3 - Juliana Andrade juliana.andrade@cng.edu

Grade 4 - Maria Isabel Angel maria.angel@cng.edu

Grade 5 - Diana Ujueta dujueta@cng.edu

As caregivers, it's natural to want to help and protect our children—but it's just as important to give them space to grow. Finding a balance between supporting and encouraging independence helps children build confidence, responsibility, and resilience.

Try giving your child small responsibilities at home, letting them make age-appropriate choices, and guiding (rather than solving) when they face challenges. These small steps help them learn to trust themselves—and know you trust them too.

Here are a few ways we can strike this balance at home and at school:

• Give them small jobs they can manage—like packing their own backpack, setting the table, or feeding a pet.
  

• Let them make choices—what to wear, which book to read, or how to spend their free time.
  

• Encourage problem-solving—instead of solving a conflict for them, guide them to think through what they could say or do.
  

• Celebrate effort, not just results—let them know you’re proud of their hard work and perseverance, not just when things go perfectly.

With love and guidance, our kids can become both confident and caring individuals.

Warmly,

ES Counseling Team

We hope this message finds you well. As your child navigates the exciting journey of elementary school, you may have noticed changes in their friendships. With the transition to a new grade and the arrival of new classmates, it is natural for friendship groups to shift. These transitions often encourage children to open their circle of friends, explore new relationships, and discover peers who share their evolving interests. While these changes can bring challenging feelings, they also provide important opportunities for growth—helping children build flexibility, practice inclusivity, and strengthen the social skills that will serve them for years to come. Rest assured—this is entirely natural and a vital part of their social and emotional development.

Friendship changes are a normal and healthy part of childhood. As children grow, they begin exploring their identities, interests, and emotional worlds. During this phase, friendships naturally evolve, with some deepening and others fading. As they test boundaries and seek shared interests, their social circles shift. This process—though occasionally emotional—helps them develop essential qualities like belonging, empathy, and resilience. 

Understanding these patterns helps parents appreciate that feelings of sadness or uncertainty—when friends come and go—are part of growth, not a cause for alarm.

How You Can Support Your Child Through Friendship Changes

• Stay connected and build trust
  Engage your child in regular, open conversations about their friendships in a warm, listening way. Creating safe, non-judgmental spaces encourages them to share honestly.

• Model empathy and inclusive behavior
  Children learn from seeing how we treat others. Demonstrating kindness, inclusivity, and respect in your interactions helps them practice these qualities with peers.

• Provide opportunities for positive social experiences
  Encourage your child to join clubs, activities, or playdates where they can connect with peers who share similar interests.

• Teach skills for navigating conflict and change
  Support your child in using “I” statements (“I felt sad when...”), practicing turn-taking, and thinking about ways to repair misunderstandings.

• Celebrate emotional growth and social competence
  Praise efforts like showing empathy, trying to include others, or reaching out to new classmates.

• Recognize that friendships can be fluid and diverse
  Remind your child that not every peer needs to be a “best friend.” Many types of connections—close, casual, or activity-based—contribute to belonging and well-being.

In closing, while changing friendships can sometimes feel unsettling for children (and even for parents), these experiences are a normal and meaningful part of growing up. Each shift in a friendship circle offers children the chance to practice resilience, discover who they are, and learn how to form healthy, lasting relationships. With your steady support and encouragement, your child is developing the empathy, adaptability, and confidence they need to thrive socially both now and in the future.

We will be here to support you and your children along the way. 

Warm regards,

ES Counselors

When we think about friendship, we often imagine laughter, fun, and support. But just as important as the happy moments are the disagreements and conflicts that naturally happen along the way. In fact, conflict is not only normal—it’s an important part of growing up and learning how to build strong, healthy relationships.

Why is conflict important?

• It teaches problem-solving. When children disagree, they get a chance to practice skills like compromise, negotiation, and finding win-win solutions.

• It builds resilience. Working through a conflict helps children realize that bumps in a friendship don’t have to end the relationship—they can actually make it stronger.

• It develops empathy. Disagreements give children opportunities to see things from another perspective and consider how their words and actions affect others.

• It fosters independence. With guidance, children learn to manage their own social challenges instead of relying solely on adults to “fix it” for them.

How can we support children through conflict?

1. Normalize it. Remind children that even the best friends disagree sometimes.

2. Coach, don’t solve. Guide them with questions like, “What do you think your friend was feeling?” or “What could you try next time?”

3. Encourage repair. Help children understand the power of a genuine apology and making amends.

4. Celebrate growth. Point out when they use positive strategies—this reinforces that they are learning important life skills.

Friendship during the elementary years is full of learning experiences. By supporting children through conflict instead of avoiding it, we help them develop the social and emotional tools they’ll carry into middle school, high school, and beyond.

Have a great weekend and please reach out if we can support in any way. 

As caretakers, we often carry a lot on our shoulders. Between school, work, and daily responsibilities, stress can build up quickly. When that happens, we sometimes find ourselves more impatient, less present, or even reacting in ways we regret. This is normal—but it also reminds us how important it is to take care of ourselves.

At school, we frequently talk to students about the importance of having self regulation strategies. The same is true for us as adults. By finding healthy ways to manage our own stress, we not only feel better, but we also connect more meaningfully with our children and model resilience for them.

Here are some helpful strategies to “reset” and take care of ourselves as parents, according to Clinical Psychologist Dr. Laura Markham:

Stress-Busting Strategies for Parents

• Simplify your schedule → It’s okay to say no. Connection with your children matters more than a perfect dinner or spotless house.

• Prioritize sleep → Even going to bed early a few times a week can restore energy and lift your mood.

• Move your body → A short daily walk, stretching, or exercise lowers stress hormones and improves mood.

• Give yourself and your child grace → Kids are learning, and parents don’t need to be perfect. Laughter and connection help more than punishment.

• Pause before reacting → When stressed, focus first on calming down. Loving guidance is most effective when given calmly.

• Practice gratitude → Naming what you’re thankful for—alone or with your family—shifts focus toward optimism.

• Seek support → Parenting is hard. Share with friends, or connect with someone who understands.

• Reconnect with meaning → Whether through nature, faith, or quiet reflection, taking time for what inspires you brings peace.

Parenting is a journey filled with both challenges and joys. By taking time to care for ourselves, we give our children the best of us—not just what’s left of us.

Thank you for reading and have a great weekend!

Warmly, 

ES Counselors

Superfamilias no solo brinda información útil, sino que propone actividades para hacer en casa, con materiales descargables, videos y audios que pueden explorarse al ritmo de cada familia. 

Cada capítulo de superfamilias incluye una cartilla informativa con actividades en formato de texto y de audio y cápsulas de video para guiarles en cada una de las actividades.

This week, let’s take a moment to discuss compassion—something small that can make a big difference in our lives and the lives of others.

According to Stanford University, compassion is “the feeling that arises when you are confronted with another’s suffering and feel motivated to relieve that suffering.” In other words, it’s more than just noticing when someone’s having a tough time—it’s caring enough to want to help.

Dr. Kristin Neff, a leading researcher on self-compassion, defines it as “being open to the suffering of oneself and others, with a desire to alleviate it.” So compassion isn’t just something we show others—it’s also something we can give ourselves when we’re having a hard day.

Why is compassion important in elementary school?
Because it helps kids build stronger friendships, solve conflicts in kinder ways, and feel more connected to their classmates. 

If you’re interested in further exploring this topic and skill, here’s a podcast episode you might enjoy listening to. 

We hope you find this useful.

Warmly,

Each episode addresses the physical, emotional, and social changes that happen from around ages 8 to 18 and beyond—everything from hormones and body changes to relationships, identity, and communication.

It’s designed not just for kids experiencing these changes, but also for the adults supporting them, offering guidance on how to have those “awkward” conversations with empathy and confidence.

In moments when life brings challenges, we are reminded of how important it is to belong to a caring and supportive community. Schools are not only places for learning—they are also spaces where empathy, compassion, and connection help us all find comfort and strength.

Children learn these values from what they see and experience around them. When they witness kindness, when they see adults offering support, and when they feel safe to share their own emotions, they learn that community is a source of resilience. These moments teach them that even when life feels heavy, they are not alone.

As we continue to care for one another, we invite families to take small but meaningful steps to strengthen our community ties:

 Simple Ways to Nurture Connection

• Reach out – A kind word, message, or gesture can mean more than we realize.

• Be present – Sometimes just listening is the greatest support we can offer.

• Model empathy – Show your child how to respond with understanding when others are hurting.

• Create space for emotions – Encourage open conversations about feelings at home; remind children it’s okay to feel sad, worried, or unsure.

• Celebrate together – Noticing everyday joys and milestones helps balance difficult times with moments of gratitude.

Our community’s greatest strength lies in the way we come together—with generosity, respect, and care for one another. Thank you for continuing to be such an essential part of the warmth that makes our school feel like family.

As always, know we are here to support you.

One of the toughest things for us as caregivers is to see our children struggle or fall short of their goals. Yet, such moments often become the most meaningful opportunities for learning and connection. The following article, adapted from author Rachel Reiff Ellis, offers guidance on how to lean into your child’s setbacks—not by rescuing them, but by gently supporting their growth. We hope this will offer some helpful language and strategies to foster resilience in your child.

Failure Can Be a Gift: How to Get Out of the Way and Build Resilience

It’s never pleasant to see your child disappointed—whether they fail a test, miss out on a team, or don’t get into the program they hoped for. Our instinct is often to step in, fix things, or shield them. But in doing so, we may inadvertently teach them that they can’t handle struggles on their own.

Psychologist David Anderson describes how “helicopter” or “snowplow” parenting—where parents try to smooth every obstacle—can lead to increased anxiety and a message to children that they lack competence. Shielding kids from failure may reduce their opportunities to develop grit, confidence, and problem-solving skills.

Nurturing a Growth Mindset

Rather than treating abilities as fixed, a growth mindset encourages children to see themselves as capable of learning and improvement. When kids face challenges—rather than being shielded from them—they begin finding strategies, experimenting, and persevering. These are exactly the traits that serve them across life.

Tips for Parents Facing Their Child’s Setbacks

1. Pause and ask, don’t react.  Before responding to poor grades or disappointments, take a breath. Ask open questions like, “How do you see this?” This invites deeper thinking and makes space for reflection.

2. Skip the blame. Avoid attributing the failure to external causes (e.g. “the teacher was unfair”)—that suggests your child has no control. Instead, shift the focus toward what can change or be done differently next time.

3. Allow them to wrestle (safely). If your child needs to figure something out—whether a project, a tool, or a plan—give them room to try, hesitate, and try again. As long as frustration is manageable, struggle helps build resilience.

4. Separate actions from identity. Help your child understand that failure is a moment, not a definition of who they are. Likewise, success isn’t proof they’re perfect. Character grows in pursuing goals, even when progress is hard.

5. Be emotionally present. You don’t have to fix things. Simply being there—saying, “I may not have the answer, but I’m with you”—offers connection and reassurance.

Thank you for your partnership and, as always, we are here for you. 

ES Counselors

One of the tricky parts of parenting AND teaching is remembering that children don’t always ask for help in the way we might expect. In fact, many times, their “help-seeking” looks like whining, arguing, or even acting out.

• A child who throws a tantrum over homework may actually be saying, “This feels too hard, and I need support.”

• A child who snaps at a sibling might really mean, “I’m tired and I don’t know how to calm down.”

• And the child who slams the door after school may be silently asking, “Do you see how overwhelmed I am?”

It’s easy for us as adults to react to the behavior on the surface. But if we pause and look underneath, we often discover a need for connection, guidance, or reassurance.

Here are a few simple ways to reframe “wrong-way” help-seeking:

• Listen for the need, not just the behavior. Ask yourself: What might my child really be trying to tell me?

• Name the feeling. Saying, “It looks like you’re frustrated with this assignment,” helps children feel understood.

• Offer choices. Sometimes, giving two simple options (“Would you like me to sit with you for the first problem, or do you want to try it alone and then check in?”) empowers them to accept help in a safe way.

Children are still learning how to recognize and express their emotions. When we respond with curiosity instead of judgment, we not only meet their immediate need—we also teach them healthier ways to ask for support in the future.

Because at the end of the day, even if it comes out sideways, what our children are really saying is: “I need you.”

Have a wonderful October Break,

ES Counseling Team

Children can be deeply affected by the events happening around them — both big and small. Changes such as moving to a new classroom, welcoming a new sibling, family stress, or even a favorite friend moving away can all influence how a child feels and behaves at school. Kids may not always have the words to explain what’s bothering them, so their feelings might show up as clinginess, irritability, or a sudden drop in motivation. Recognizing these signs early helps adults provide comfort and support before worries grow bigger.

Here are a few ways parents can help:

• Listen and reassure: Let your child know their feelings are okay and that you’ll work together to make school feel easier.

• Keep routines steady: Predictable mornings, after-school time, and bedtime help children feel calm and secure.

• Connect with the school: We can partner to create a plan that helps your child feel more comfortable and confident.

Helpful Resources for Parents:

• Child Mind Institute — Practical tips for easing school worries and building confidence.

• American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP) — Clear information about helping children manage strong feelings.

• Anxiety Canada — Tools and strategies to help kids handle everyday worries.

Remember, with patience, understanding, and teamwork, most children overcome their school worries and grow more confident every day.

Warm regards,

ES Counseling Team

Friendships are such an important part of childhood! Through play and connection, children learn about sharing, empathy, and teamwork. But just as important as kindness and inclusion is learning how to set healthy boundaries—understanding what feels comfortable and what doesn’t, and respecting those limits in others.

Why boundaries matter:

When children understand boundaries, they learn that it’s okay to speak up for themselves, say “no” when something doesn’t feel right, and recognize when others need space. These skills help prevent misunderstandings, reduce conflict, and support emotional well-being. Setting boundaries helps children build confidence and develop relationships based on mutual respect and trust.

How Families can support at home:

- Model boundaries in everyday life. Use gentle examples—like explaining that you need quiet time after work or that you ask before borrowing something—to show that boundaries are normal and healthy.

- Encourage open communication. Help your child practice expressing their feelings with words such as “I don’t like that” or “I need a break.”

- Role-play social situations. Act out friendship challenges, such as a friend not sharing or wanting to play a different game. Talk about how to respond respectfully while still standing up for oneself.

- Praise boundary-respecting behavior. Notice when your child listens to a friend’s “no,” shares space, or expresses their own needs calmly.

- Talk about consent and personal space. Even simple reminders like “Ask before hugging” or “Let’s make sure everyone wants to play this game” reinforce respect and awareness.

At school, we encourage students to use “I statements,” listen to each other’s feelings, and ask for permission before joining in play or touching someone’s belongings. Together, home and school can help children learn that healthy friendships are built on kindness, communication, and clear boundaries.

By teaching these skills early, we’re giving children lifelong tools for building positive relationships—with friends, family, and beyond

Have a wonderful weekend ahead and please reach out if we can support in any way!

ES Counselors

In today’s world, our children are growing up surrounded by screens — devices that open the door to endless learning, creativity, and connection. But with that access also comes responsibility, guidance, and the need for family involvement. As parents and caregivers, we play a key role in shaping how children learn to use technology wisely, respectfully, and safely.

Teaching digital citizenship is not only about keeping children safe online; it’s also about helping them understand that their behavior in the digital world should reflect the same values we expect in CNG — Respect, Responsibility, Integrity and Caring. 

Family Involvement Is KEY

At the elementary level, children still need strong adult supervision and clear boundaries when it comes to device use. It’s important to remember that the devices belong to the adults, not the children. You are the owners, and your role includes deciding when, where, and how those devices are used. Children should know that their online activity — whether it’s browsing, chatting, gaming, or using apps — is something you will periodically review and discuss together.

Set aside moments to talk openly about what they’re seeing and doing online. Encourage them to come to you if they encounter something that feels uncomfortable, confusing, or hurtful. These conversations build trust and teach responsibility far more effectively than monitoring alone.

Helpful Family Tools

Here are a few resources that can support healthy digital habits at home:

• Device Monitoring and Blockers

  • Google Family Link – allows parents to manage apps, screen time, and device settings.

  • Apple Screen Time – helps track usage and set downtime or app limits.

  • Qustodio – offers a comprehensive parental control system for multiple devices.

    
    

• Family Media Contracts

  • The Common Sense Media Family Media Agreement is an excellent tool to start conversations about rules, boundaries, and mutual expectations regarding technology use.

  • You can personalize the contract to your family’s values — such as screen-free times, bedtime routines, and respectful communication online.

    
    

• Articles and Guides

  • Common Sense Media – Digital Citizenship

  • Child Mind Institute: Media and Technology Basics

  • National Online Safety – Parent Guides

Building good digital habits is a shared journey between home and school. We encourage you to remain informed, stay curious about your child’s online world, and keep communication open. By setting limits with warmth, monitoring with care, and modeling balance ourselves, we help our children develop the skills to navigate the digital world safely and responsibly.

Thank you for reading. As you know, we are here for you.

ES Counselors

Recording: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1i2AdyrJSyEu_67qDdt3g4N8IQTZWe8Le/view?usp=sharing

As we approach the holiday season, We would like to wish you and your loved ones a joyful holiday break, safe travels, and a Happy New Year! This time of year is often filled with excitement, celebrations, and special moments together, and we hope it brings rest and connection for your family.

Supporting Children During Holiday Changes

While holidays can be fun, they can also bring changes in routine that may feel overwhelming for children. Travel, visitors, different schedules, and lots of stimulation can impact behavior and emotions. A few gentle reminders to support your child during this time include:

• Keep key routines when possible (sleep, meals, and quiet time)

• Prepare children ahead of time by talking about plans and what to expect

• Offer choices to help children feel a sense of control

• Name and validate emotions, especially big feelings like excitement or frustration

• Build in downtime, even during busy days

These small supports can help children feel safe, regulated, and ready to enjoy the season.

Thank you for your continued partnership and support. We look forward to welcoming students back refreshed and ready for a wonderful start to the new year.

Warm wishes,

ES Counseling Team

Esta conferencia abordará los riesgos del consumo de cigarrillos electrónicos en niñas, niños y adolescentes, así como estrategias para prevenir su uso desde el rol de las familias y educadores.

En esta conferencia, exploraremos estrategias prácticas para proteger la salud mental de niñas y niños, identificando los riesgos y oportunidades en línea, para una navegación segura.

We hope this message finds you and your loved ones well. In recent days, many of us have been following news about political events in Venezuela and beyond. It is natural for adults to feel unsettled during times of political tension and uncertainty — and children are no exception. Even if children may not always express it in words, they can pick up on the emotions, conversations, images, and sounds around them, which may lead to feelings of anxiety, confusion, or fear.

Children tend to take emotional cues from the adults around them, and the way we respond makes a significant difference in how they make sense of what they hear and see. Providing age-appropriate, reassuring support can help children feel safe, understood, and capable of coping effectively.

Here are some helpful strategies families can use to support children during times of political upheaval and sustained media coverage:

1. Listen and Validate Feelings
First and foremost, create space for your child to talk about their thoughts and concerns. Invite them to share what they have heard, what worries them, and how it makes them feel. Validate their emotions by acknowledging that it is okay to feel uneasy, confused, or sad — these are normal reactions when children encounter difficult news. 

2. Provide Honest, Age-Appropriate Information
Offer simple, clear explanations that match your child’s developmental level. Avoid overwhelming them with graphic details or adult-level commentary. Briefly explain what is happening using calm, reassuring language. Let them ask questions and answer them honestly, while emphasizing safety and context. 

3. Limit News Exposure
Excessive exposure to media — especially graphic images or constant updates — can heighten anxiety in children. Consider establishing specific times to check news together and avoid having televisions or social media running in common areas, particularly around bedtime. 

4. Maintain Routines and Predictability
Consistent daily routines — regular meals, bedtime, school tasks, and family time — provide children with a sense of stability. Familiar schedules and rituals help ground children and remind them that many parts of their world remain safe and predictable. 

5. Model Calm and Reassurance
Children absorb emotional cues from the adults they trust. When parents and caregivers speak calmly, practice deep breathing, or share reassuring affirmations, children are more likely to feel secure. It helps to tell them, “I know this news can feel worrying, but we are safe, and we can talk about how we feel together.” 

6. Foster Emotional Regulation and Coping Skills
Support your child in developing tools to manage strong feelings. Deep breathing, drawing, journaling, reading together, or engaging in physical activity can help children process emotions and alleviate stress. Encouraging children to express themselves through art or writing also gives them a constructive outlet. 

7. Highlight Hope and Positive Action
Help children focus on aspects of life they can influence, such as kindness, friendship, and community support. You might share examples of people helping others or explore ways your family can contribute to positive change together. This can shift attention from fear to hope and empowerment. 

8. Continue to Offer Love and Emotional Support
Amid uncertainty, consistent affection, reassurance, and presence help children feel safe. Simple gestures like family meals, reading together, or shared play can strengthen emotional connection and provide comfort. 

During challenging times, our school community remains dedicated to partnering with families to provide caring, stable, and supportive environments for all students.

Don't hesitate to reach out to us if you need additional support.

Warm regards,

ES Counselors

Big feelings can show up at school in many ways — tears, frustration, silliness, or even silence. One of the most powerful tools we can give children is the language to name what they’re feeling.

When children can say “I’m disappointed,” “I’m nervous,” or “I need help,” they’re more likely to regulate their emotions and ask for support appropriately.

How families can support at home:

• Name feelings out loud: “It looks like you’re feeling frustrated that playtime is over.”

• Normalize emotions: Let children know all feelings are okay — it’s what we do with them that matters.

• Model coping strategies: Take deep breaths together, count to five, or take a short break.

Building emotional awareness takes time, but every conversation helps children grow in confidence, resilience, and self-understanding. 

As always, feel free to reach out if you have questions or would like additional resources.

As a follow-up, we would like to highlight something essential: this tool is just as valuable for adults as it is for children.

What Is the Window of Tolerance?

The concept of the Window of Tolerance, developed by psychiatrist Dan Siegel, describes the zone in which our nervous system feels regulated. When we are inside our window, we can think clearly, solve problems, connect with others, and respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.

When we move above our window, we experience hyper-activation (fight-or-flight).
When we move below our window, we experience hypo-activation (shutdown or freeze).

Children borrow regulation from the adults around them. For that reason, expanding and caring for our own window of tolerance is one of the most powerful ways we can support them.

Signs of Hyper-Activation in Adults

You may notice:

• Irritability or snapping quickly

• Racing thoughts

• Feeling overwhelmed or anxious

• Tight muscles, shallow breathing

• Urgency to “fix” or control

  
  

Strategies for Hyper-Activation

1. Slow the Body First
The nervous system responds to physiology. Try:

• Inhale for 4, exhale for 6 (longer exhales calm the system)

• Step outside for fresh air

• Splash cool water on your face

2. Lower Stimulation
Reduce noise, screens, or multitasking. Even five minutes of quiet can help your system reset.

3. Emotional Tapping (EFT)
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), commonly known as tapping, is a gentle regulation strategy that combines light tapping on acupressure points with simple statements that acknowledge how you are feeling.

The rhythmic tapping can help calm the stress response while allowing you to process emotion without becoming overwhelmed. For example, you might say:
“Even though I feel overwhelmed right now, I am doing the best I can.”

Tapping can be done privately and takes only a few minutes. Many adults find it helpful because it is both physical and emotional at the same time.

4. Pause Before Responding
If possible, say: “I need a minute.” Modeling this teaches children that strong feelings can be managed without escalation.

Signs of Hypo-Activation in Adults

You may notice:

• Feeling numb or disconnected

• Low energy or heaviness

• Difficulty concentrating

• Wanting to withdraw

• Feeling emotionally “flat”

  
  

Strategies for Hypo-Activation

1. Gentle Activation
The goal is not intensity, but gradual re-engagement:

• Stand up and stretch

• Take a brief walk

• Turn on brighter lights

2. Sensory Input

• Hold a warm cup of tea

• Play uplifting music

• Use movement (light bouncing, shaking arms out)

3. Small, Achievable Tasks
Completing one manageable task can restore a sense of agency and momentum.

4. Social Connection
Brief connection — even a short message or conversation — can gently bring the nervous system back into engagement.

Building a Family Regulation Plan

Just as we discussed for children, families can create shared language around regulation:

• “Are we inside or outside our window right now?”

• “Do we need to calm down or energize?”

• “What strategy helps you most?”

When adults model noticing and naming their own states — “I’m feeling overwhelmed, I’m going to take a few slow breaths” — children learn that emotions are manageable, not frightening.

A Final Thought

Regulation is not about staying calm all the time. It is about recognizing when we are outside our window and having tools to return. This is lifelong work. When we practice these strategies ourselves, we expand our own window — and in doing so, we quietly widen our children’s as well.

As always, we are here to continue this conversation and to support your family in building practical, compassionate strategies for emotional wellbeing.

• Workshop Recording: VIDEO
  

• Window of Tolerance: WINDOW OF TOLERANCE
  

• Mood Meter: MOOD METER
  

We hope these tools and strategies are helpful at home as you continue supporting your children’s emotional awareness and regulation.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or if we can support you in any other way.
ES Counselors

Today’s children are growing up in a world where information is instantly available. With just a few clicks, they can access videos, news, opinions, games, and social media content from around the globe. While the internet offers wonderful opportunities for learning and connection, it also exposes children to content they may not yet be developmentally ready to interpret or understand.

At the elementary level, children are still building critical thinking skills. They may struggle to:

• Distinguish between fact and opinion

• Recognize misinformation or exaggerated content

• Understand advertising strategies and persuasive messages

• Interpret complex or emotionally charged topics

• Identify when images or videos are edited or unrealistic

Without guidance, children may draw conclusions based on incomplete or inaccurate information. What they see online can significantly shape their perception of:

• Themselves – influencing self-esteem, body image, and self-worth

• Others – forming stereotypes or unrealistic expectations

• The world – creating fear, confusion, or misunderstanding about real-life events

Because children often take information at face value, we all must help them process and reflect on what they encounter online.

This is a shared responsibility between home and school. When we work together and communicate openly, we can provide children with consistent messages about responsible internet use and critical thinking.

Thank you for partnering with us to support our students’ healthy development in the digital age.

Here is an interesting resource for families to explore in the website Be Internet Awesome by Google.

A recent article published in Puberty: The Wonder Years titled “What to Say When Students Repeat TikTok Myths About Puberty and Bodies,” highlights how common this is and offers simple, practical strategies for adults to respond when children repeat things they’ve heard online. 

The good news is that you don’t need to be a health expert to help guide these conversations. Using clear, accurate language and a supportive tone can make a big difference.

The article introduces an easy framework—Question, Correct, and Connect—to help adults respond calmly and confidently when a child shares something they’ve heard online. It also provides examples of common myths and ways to address them in age-appropriate ways.

We encourage you to take a few minutes to read the article here and explore the tips it offers. 

It’s a helpful resource for supporting open conversations at home and helping children build healthy, accurate understandings about their bodies.

Warm regards,

ES Counseling Team

As parents, one of our deepest instincts is to protect our children. We want to keep them safe, happy, and free from discomfort. This is a beautiful and natural part of caregiving. At the same time, an important reflection we can hold is: Are we parenting primarily for comfort, or are we also parenting for confidence?

Parenting for comfort often focuses on reducing distress in the moment—stepping in quickly, solving problems, or shielding children from disappointment. While this can bring immediate relief, it may also limit opportunities for children to build resilience.

Parenting for confidence invites us to support children in facing challenges rather than removing them. It means allowing space for manageable struggles, guiding problem-solving, and trusting in their growing abilities.

Life naturally brings challenges—within friendships, academics, and later in college and work environments. When children are consistently protected from difficulty, they may begin to doubt their own capacity to cope. Over time, this can contribute to insecurity or dependence. In contrast, when children experience challenges with support, they begin to internalize an important belief: “I can handle hard things.”

This does not mean stepping back entirely. It is about finding a thoughtful balance between support and independence.

Strategies to Nurture Confidence in the Face of Challenges

1. Pause before stepping in
When your child is struggling, give them a moment to think and try before offering help. This builds problem-solving skills and persistence.

2. Validate feelings, then guide action
Acknowledge emotions (“That sounds frustrating”) while gently shifting toward solutions (“What could you try next?”).

3. Focus on effort, not just outcomes
Highlight perseverance, creativity, and courage rather than only success. This helps children value growth over perfection.

4. Encourage problem-solving
Ask open-ended questions:

• What are some options?

• What might happen if you try that?

• What has worked before?

5. Normalize mistakes
Help children see mistakes as part of learning, not something to avoid. This reduces fear and builds resilience.

6. Allow manageable discomfort
Small frustrations—waiting, losing a game, resolving a peer conflict—are opportunities to practice coping skills in a safe environment.

7. Model confidence and calm
Children learn from observing adults. Demonstrating calm problem-solving and a positive attitude toward challenges is powerful.

8. Celebrate independence
Notice and name moments when your child handles something on their own, even in small ways.

By gradually shifting from always protecting to thoughtfully supporting, we help children develop confidence that extends far beyond the classroom.

Our role is not to remove every obstacle, but to walk alongside our children as they learn to navigate them. In doing so, we nurture resilience, independence, and a lasting sense of self-belief.

Thank you for your continued partnership in supporting your children’s growth and well-being.

We would like to share a gentle observation and invitation for reflection. Since the beginning of the academic year, we have noticed an increased interest among some of our students in skincare products, perfumes, nail polish, and makeup. While this curiosity is a natural part of growing up, it is important to consider how these practices may relate to children’s overall development.

Some personal care products—particularly those designed for adults—may contain substances known as endocrine disruptors. These chemicals can interfere with the body’s hormonal system, which plays an important role in growth and development. Emerging research has linked certain exposures to shifts in developmental timing, including earlier onset of puberty in some children.

For families who would like to learn more, we recommend this article from the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA Pediatrics), which provides a clear and research-based overview of this topic.  

Beyond the physical aspects, we also want to reflect on the emotional and social impact regarding the use of such products. As a school, we value supporting children in growing at their own pace. Introducing routines or concerns that are typically associated with later developmental stages can sometimes bring up questions around appearance, identity, and comparison earlier than expected.

We therefore encourage you to:

• Be mindful of the products children are using

• Consult with your healthcare provider when choosing age-appropriate options

• Keep open conversations at home about body care and healthy development

Suggested Guidelines for Choosing Products:

• Avoid products with added fragrances or strong perfumes

• Limit or simply avoid the use of makeup and adult skin care products in younger children

• Check labels for ingredients such as parabens and phthalates when possible

• Choose simple routines (e.g., gentle cleanser and sunscreen, when appropriate) rather than multi-step regimes

• When in doubt, consult your pediatrician or dermatologist

  
  

Our intention is to partner with you in supporting children’s wellbeing—physically, emotionally, and socially—while honoring the natural rhythm of childhood.

Please feel free to reach out if you would like to continue this conversation.

As always, thank you for your partnership. 

Mistakes are a natural and necessary part of learning. Yet many children become frustrated, give up quickly, or say things like “I can’t do it” when something feels hard.

Why it matters:
Children who see mistakes as failures may avoid challenges or doubt their abilities. On the other hand, children who learn that mistakes are part of the learning process develop resilience, confidence, and a willingness to try again.

How families can support a growth mindset at home:

1. Normalize mistakes
Remind your child that everyone makes mistakes—even adults:

• “That didn’t work yet, but you’re learning.”
  This helps reduce fear and builds persistence.

2. Focus on effort, not just results
Instead of saying “You’re so smart,” try:

• “You worked really hard on that.”
  This encourages children to value effort and strategies.

3. Model learning from your own mistakes
Share simple examples:

• “I made a mistake, so I’m going to try a different way.”
  This shows children that mistakes are opportunities to grow.

4. Encourage problem-solving
When your child feels stuck, guide them with questions:

• “What could you try next?”

• “What helped you last time?”
  This builds independence and confidence.

5. Celebrate progress
Highlight small improvements along the way, not just the final outcome.

Remember: Building a growth mindset takes time and practice. With encouragement and the right language, children learn that they are capable of overcoming challenges even when things feel difficult.

Have a great weekend ahead and please reach out if we can support in any way!

As the end of the school year approaches, it’s common for children to experience increased worry about tests, grades, and performance. This is often referred to as academic anxiety, a feeling of stress or fear related to schoolwork or expectations. While a certain level of concern can motivate students, too much anxiety can affect confidence, focus, and overall well-being.

At home, you may notice signs such as avoidance of schoolwork, frequent complaints about stomachaches or headaches, irritability, or negative self-talk like “I’m not good at this.” These are important signals that a child may need extra support.

Here are a few simple ways to help at home:

Focus on effort, not just results. Praise your child’s persistence and hard work rather than only grades.
Keep routines predictable. Consistent schedules for homework, meals, and sleep help children feel secure.
Break tasks into smaller steps. Large assignments can feel overwhelming; help your child tackle one piece at a time.
Encourage open conversations. Let your child share their worries without immediately trying to “fix” them.
Model calm coping strategies. Deep breathing, short breaks, and positive self-talk can go a long way.
Celebrate progress. Acknowledge improvements, no matter how small.

As we move toward the final weeks of the school year, your support and reassurance can make a meaningful difference. Helping children feel capable, understood, and supported builds resilience, not just for school, but for life.

If concerns persist or seem to intensify, don’t hesitate to reach out for support.

Thank you to those who attended our recent Family Workshop on the Peaceful Conflict Resolution Toolkit. It was wonderful to connect with you and share practical strategies to support our students in navigating conflicts in a calm, respectful, and constructive way at home.

For those who were not able to attend — and for anyone who would like to revisit the content — we are sharing the following resources:

Workshop Recording: VIDEO

We hope these tools and strategies are helpful at home as you continue supporting your children in peaceful conflict resolution.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or if we can support you in any other way.
ES Counselors

As adults, we must stay informed about the content our children are exposed to. Awareness allows us to respond thoughtfully rather than reactively. 

Simply telling children to “ignore it” or “stop watching” is not enough. Their brains are not yet fully equipped to evaluate these messages on their own critically.

What can we do?

• Stay curious and informed
  Ask your child what they are seeing online and keep up with common trends and challenges.

• Create open conversations
  Encourage them to share without fear of judgment. Listen first, then guide.

• Teach them to question content
  Practice simple questions together: Is this realistic? Is it healthy? Is someone trying to sell me something?

• Model a balanced perspective
  Avoid negative talk about your own body or food. Children learn from what we say and do.

• Focus on health, not appearance
  Reinforce that food is about nourishment and energy, not just looks.

• Build critical thinking skills over time
  Revisit these conversations often. Skills develop with practice, not one-time talks.

  
  

By guiding them with curiosity, open dialogue, and accurate information, we empower them to make healthier choices and develop a more balanced relationship with food, their bodies, and media. These are skills they will carry with them far beyond childhood.