Authenticity in a socialised world by Shuli Goh

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Shuli: humans are afraid of judgement and disconnection from others, especially if they do not have a secure sense of self

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Shuli: with my inner circle of people i trust who make me feel accepted, understood and supported for who I am ( :

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Shuli: When we don't excessively alter our behaviours and censor our true thoughts, especially on issues that are important to us just to fit in or please others, we will grow our sense of security in ourselves. That helps us to know who we are, who we want to surround ourselves with and what work is most suited to our strengths!

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We are afraid that people may judge us or not accept us for who we are.

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afraid of not being accepted

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yu xuan: with my chosen family

In my reading corner with my Doggy

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Because human beings are evil. And selfish. And unpredictable.

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The pressure to live up to other's expectation. Especially being a people-pleaser.

Being by myself in my on environment

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When someone gives me the permission to do so.

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anastasia: not being stable or secure within oneself makes us more prone to falling into the pressures of others' behaviours. then we lose ourselves if what we want to do seems different

When we live in a more liberal and non-judgmental society

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By myself because only then I am safe.

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anastasia: with my mom and close friend

by not bending down to social or peer pressure and influence

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understand that we are our unique selves, with our differences. Even if some do not like us, someone eventually will

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with my family and circle of close friends
in my room

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Joyce: Church and family

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By myself.

Even with the closest around me, I do not want to let them down with flaws and all even though I know they will accept me for who I am. Don't want to be an additional burden to their lives.

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We need to be more forgiving of ourselves, and not be too hard on ourselves. We should also stop worrying about what others think of us. We are mostly accountable to ourselves. Practice this with trusted friends.

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if humans can be less judgmental and not putting others down for who they are

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yu xuan: by not judging others first and practice i guess? trust people and they get more trustable

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anastasia: aim to be a 1st rate version of yourself, instead of trying to be a 2nd rate version of someone else. Basically have more faith in who you are and associate yourself with people or things that help you bring out that inner you

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It's easier to put up a facade and maintain it for face value especially to mere acquaintances or people we seldom interact.

Fear of judgement and being accepted in any social norm is a very common factor

Trust

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But it is the most dangerous thing we can ever do right?

Either of 2 ways, fruitful and meritorious or disastrous.

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the idea of changing ourselves to fit into society has been ingrained into our brains and nowadays it is rephrased as 'adapting' to our environment so we slowly lose our authenticity that way

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Joyce: afraid of being judged

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In my room

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By building self confidence and respect. When making friends we need to be able to be ourselves if we want to truly connect with them.

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Accept that everyone and anyone has their strengths, weaknesses and their imperfections. Less stress on oneself to maintain a facade of perfectionism and to allow ourselves to be humans.

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Jovial: sometimes, being true to what you know is right means that you go against the crowd

Because of the culture of Fear instilled in a society. Fear of not being good enough, fear of not meeting expectations, fear of being judged, fear of ostracism brought upon by a judgmental and mostly hypocritical society

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minimally one should feel safe around themselves but sadly that may not even be the case due to poor environment or social pressures

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Lesser suppression on "free" speech

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in my room, my family and online where nobody knows me

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With my close group of friends or with my family.

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maybe when others start to react/respond to how individuals act around them. If they feel that it is a negative response, then they would shy away and they would grow to be what others expect them to be.

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identify our values and develop self-confidence