WGTDD Ch. 15 by Susan Jill Dickinson https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv 1. Why is it unwise for teachers to have students "trade and grade" each other's schoolwork? 2. How should teachers apply the "most comfortable/least comfortable ground rule when dealing with belligerent parents? en-us 2016-11-28 14:49:48 UTC 2017-04-06 16:18:00 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/icons/Apple.png When I was growing up we would grade each others papers. I always felt bad if I did not make a good grade, and the child that graded knew the grade. Even though kids back then did not say anything to me, or were ugly it still was not a good feeling. I have had some upset parents when we have had conferences. Usually I let them talk and vent what is bothering them. Then I try to encourage them as a parent. I just let them know that I understand what they are saying, and I am hearing them. Then I usually tell them to hear my side of the story. After that things usually calm down. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140224863 Denney]]> 2016-11-28 16:04:27 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140224863 The "trade and grade" is the long-familiar practice of having students swap papers and mark each other's answers. Why do we do this? Well, the reason make sense. It's convenient for the teacher. However, if we follow the model of great teachers and ask what the purpose is, we may decide to use class time far differently. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140267035
If a teacher argues with a belligerent parent, who feels uncomfortable?  Not the parent.  Hostile parents love to argue; it's their niche.  That's one good reason never to argue with difficult people.  They have a lot  more practice at it.  However, another reason  is that part of our job  as teachers is to teach people appropriate ways to behave, not just help them refine the inappropriate skills they already have in abundance.

Arrington

]]> 2016-11-28 17:44:41 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140267035 vshirah https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140277045 Trade and grade is not a good idea. You can't count on the grade being correct. You would have to go back and regrade to be sure. You really couldn't share the test with a parent that was concerned with their child's performance because of the uncertainty of the grading either.  

If a parent is belligerent there may be a good reason. Listen to them and see if you can both understand the anger. It will make them feel validated if you argue back with them and they win with that anger. If you point out the reasons you may have made a decision they are not satisfied with they may change their attitude. I usually "kill them with kindness" and point out what a great parent they are for caring. They get confused and listen. It doesn't always work but it is worth a try. :)  
V. Shirah]]> 2016-11-28 18:11:43 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140277045 I remember doing the "trade and grade" papers all the time in school. Now, I realize it was probably to make things easier on the teacher, but I recall students being picked on if they didn't do well. It is a more negative practice, then positive. Children need to feel successful, and letting their peers know they aren't on a particular test just kills their self esteem. A child isn't going to strive to do better if they are feeling down. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140283759      I agree with others, some people/parents just like to argue or be difficult. I have always done my best to be polite, and to handle every encounter with respect. It has worked out in my favor 99.9% of the time. 
Freeman ]]> 2016-11-28 18:26:20 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140283759 Trade and grade has never been an option in my classroom. Students feel uncomfortable having others see their mistakes and areas of weakness. It doesn't benefit the students who made mistakes. We all learn from our mistakes and going over a test with students allows them the opportunity to figure out their problems and learn something from them. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140341280 When dealing with belligerent parents, teachers should model appropriate behavior by not arguing with  them. If the teacher listens with respect and genuine concern, they will not be the least comfortable, the parent will. Allowing parents to share their feelings and then working on a plan together, often solves the problem and hopefully both parties will leave feeling comfortable. 
Donna Courtney]]> 2016-11-28 21:02:37 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140341280 Trade and grade can become very uncomfortable for the students who are struggling, who may not want their peers to see their mistakes or to have their low grade seen. Your better students may not like attention drawn to them if their high grade is recognized. jtravis5 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140641491 Difficult people love to argue, and they are usually never the ones who feel uncomfortable. Never argue with a parent. Model appropriate repair behaviors as discussed in an earlier chapter. If we keep our cool, then we will not be the uncomfortable party. The goal is to leave the situation with everyone feeling comfortable.
Travis
 

]]> 2016-11-29 19:40:15 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/140641491 Trade and grade can create a lot of upset students. It's better do it yourself. It's not worth creating an environment that causes students to be embarrassed or panic stricken. ktempleton3 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/141268707 Belligerent people can not be reasoned with. They are going to continue being loud and obnoxious until they feel like you are listening and ready to take action. The best course of action is just listen and let them vent. Just kill them with kindness. 
Templeton]]> 2016-12-01 21:35:26 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/141268707 tlramey https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/141359689 Trade and grade can make the students uncomfortable for your struggling and honor roll students.  
Do not argue with people. Model appropriate behavior so that everyone feels comfortable. ]]> 2016-12-02 13:04:23 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/141359689 A student's performance on tests is private between the student and the teacher. There is no time that a teacher should make any child feel uncomfortable or be made to feel like they are not as good as others. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/142381709
When a belligerent parent baits a teacher into engaging in an argument, that teacher has just fallen into the parent's trap.  Teacher's are usually never the winners and they have given parent's a reason to believe that they somehow now have a power over teachers.
K McDaniel]]> 2016-12-07 18:31:36 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/142381709 Creating a climate of respect in the classroom is rather hard when the trade and grade method is used by teachers. Students preform at different levels and some students do not understand that others don't make the same grades and this has lead to students becoming disrespected by classmates. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/142437547
 When dealing with belligerent parents it is always best to model the best behavior model, which is to stay calm and listen.  Once you have them clam down, then ask ,what can we do to help make things better for your child? I try to let them know that your child is impotant to me and we will work together to make their time at school the best experience that they can have each day in class.
DeBorah Darrington]]> 2016-12-07 22:14:14 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/142437547 snewgaard https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/142897267 Trade and grade creates an environment of embarrassment. Besides, the point in grading something is for your own benefit to see how the child is progressing. Trade and grade isn't effective in teaching the child what they didn't understand.

Belligerent parents feel misunderstood and not heard. Let them know that you are willing to listen and try to find a compromise.

Newgaard]]> 2016-12-09 19:36:44 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/142897267 Ch. 15 tdubose https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/143132563 "Trade and grade" can be humiliating for lower achievers.  Remember, high achievers do not thrive off of humiliation therefore, the teacher who dallies in this method of grading is not fostering a nurturing classroom.
Great teachers are a positive model in difficult situations.  The teacher can not appear superior to the parent.  The teacher should create an environment take and give...both sides giving and taking advice from the other.  Great teachers make parents feel like their partner, their equal in what is best for the child.

T.DuBose]]> 2016-12-12 14:57:33 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/143132563 Trade and grade makes most students uncomfortable. This chapter points out that those who are the least comfortable are the ones that change, however we cannot predict the change they will make. Is the teachers comfort worth the effect it has on their class? When dealing with belligerent parents, the teacher needs to stay calm and listen. Let them know you care about their child and concerns. If we are the most comfortable party in the situation, the parent will be the one to change their behavior. thelton https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/143226679 Pre-K]]> 2016-12-12 19:39:52 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/143226679 Trade and grade can be degrading to a student. Even if a student makes a great grade they may feel uncomfortable having others see their performance. cbyrd7 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/144828325 When dealing with parents treat them good regardless of there communication approach. Address the positive aspect of a situation. Listen and show real concern for the situation. Do not respond emotionally, respond rationally. Model the expected behavior for the parent. They hopefully will generalize the behavior and respond accordingly. 
C. Byrd]]> 2016-12-27 20:12:39 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/144828325 Great teachers know how to keep the classroom learning flow going and ignore small infractions that disrupt learning. Every situation does not require our attention. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/145147630 J. Parham]]> 2017-01-03 18:47:45 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/145147630 It is unwise for teachers to use the trade and grade method for several reasons. First and foremost it embarrasses the children when items are missed. It is also a waste of class time. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/148542665 Teachers should always be calm and communicate positively to parents, especially beligerent ones.  AIways listen and reinsure that both parties have the child's best interest in mind.  Ask for advice and give advice. I have been fortunate enough to say I have never had a belligerent parent leave my classroom.

T. Hughes]]> 2017-01-22 04:33:51 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/148542665 Be an effective teacher and use the ground rule: make the people who do the right thing comfortable. Some decisions will make others uncomfortable. Seek input from students and colleagues. csherrod https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/148607021 Sherrod]]> 2017-01-23 01:04:21 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/148607021 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/157819749 Trade and Grade can be humiliating for struggling students, it is not following privacy policies and I do not trust others to grade my students' papers. I like to see the grades so I will know if progress is being made.
When you are dealing with students listen to their concerns before you speak. Treat them with respect , do not respond emotionally , be positive and reassure them that you have their child's best interest at heart.
Kemp ]]> 2017-03-05 06:18:50 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/157819749 Trade and grade can be a great time saver for teachers, but can also be problematic for students. At , consider how your students feel about decisions that could make them feel uncomfortable. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/158792824
Effective teachers find that the ground rule--make the people who do the right thing feel comfortable--works for them too.
M. Slay]]> 2017-03-08 19:37:59 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/158792824 Trade and grade can be very humiliating especially for low performing students. Even students who make good grades may be uncomfortable with others seeing their scores. It's not an effective classroom practice. ssimison1 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160251785 When dealing with belligerent parents, it is important to stay calm and react in a positive manner. Model the appropriate behavior and try to make the situation as comfortable as possible.
Simison]]> 2017-03-15 14:01:56 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160251785 Great teachers treat everyone as if they were good. Great teachers ask themselves, who is most comfortable, and who is least comfortable, and use that to make their decisions. Their decisions are based on what is good for everyone. nmcdavid https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160265935 N. McDavid]]> 2017-03-15 14:39:17 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160265935 hhmorgan123 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160319299 1. Trade and grade can embarrass students who do not perform as well. It can promote a tense environment in your classroom.
2. When dealing with belligerent parents, teachers should model appropriate behavior by remaining calm and hearing out a parent. By staying calm and kind, we are doing the best we can to make the situation more comfortable. Difficult parents are typically not the ones who feel uncomfortable, so arguing with them will only make them feel justified. It is better to handle the situation with grace, directness, and patience.
Morgan]]> 2017-03-15 17:08:27 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160319299 dsblair https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160323282 Trade and grade can embarrass students who score low or even those who score high on their papers.  Also the students could make mistakes grading another child's paper.  When dealing with a belligerent parent it is always best to listen to what they have to say, but do not argue with the parent. Blair]]> 2017-03-15 17:21:30 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160323282 1. Trade and grade can make students feel uncomfortable if they know that someone else knows their grades. This will cause students to not want to come to school. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160337076 2.  When dealing with belligerent parents, it's important to stay calm and listen. There's usually more going on than just school issues, so you need to try and help sort them out and discuss what can be solved.  
Parmer

]]> 2017-03-15 18:03:43 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160337076 If you want people to change, make them uncomfortable. Make sure the people that do the right thing feel comfortable. Great teachers treat everyone as if they were good. Always model appropriate behavior and seek input from capable students and colleagues. thampton2 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160346349 Hampton]]> 2017-03-15 18:33:36 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160346349 The "trade and grade" rule is considered unwise for teachers to use because the students with low grades are probably not comfortable and those with high grades would rather not have attention called to their performance. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160616210 One way teachers should apply the "most comfortable/least comfortable" ground rule with parents is by not categorizing all of them together, just as we should not do with our students.
If only a few are not honoring policies, etc. then direct the note/problem directly to them and not a mass letter, email, etc.

A. Hester]]> 2017-03-16 17:45:44 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160616210 1.Trade and grade creates an environment of competition and the students who do not perform well get embarrassed. daviskristy436 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160622373 2. Most comfortable/least comfortable rule- be the calm in the storm.
Davis]]> 2017-03-16 18:02:22 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160622373 anaugle1 https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160671683 Trade and grade creates an environment of competition in the classroom. It can cause stress in the lower students. 

When dealing with belligerent parents, we must try and understand where the parent is coming from. We need to stay calm and listen to their concerns. We are all parents, before we are teachers.
Amanda Naugle]]> 2017-03-16 22:14:41 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160671683 Trade and grade makes students feel uncomfortable. It creates and environment of competition in the classroom https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160807106 When dealing with belligerent parents,  it's important to stay calm.  Try to listen to them and sort out the problem.  Never argue back.
J. James]]> 2017-03-17 14:25:40 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160807106 Trade and grade causes humiliation among students with lower achievement. It also causes a competitive environment. The performance of students should be kept private. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160807466
Modeling appropriate behavior and respect is best when dealing with belligerent parents. Let them speak. Never argue back. This will make the parent more uncomfortable. Always stay calm. 

E. Summersell]]> 2017-03-17 14:26:40 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/160807466 cacreel https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/162879122 Trade and grade may make things easier on the teacher, but many students my be hurt by this method.  Lower achieveing students may become embarrassed, and mistakes may be made by a student grading the paper, scores should be kept private.  

When dealing with parents, we must stay as calm as possible and listen.  Let them speak and never argue with them.

Creel]]> 2017-03-27 16:27:52 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/162879122 Trade and grade may be easier but it is not always the best method. Some students may not be truthful. It can also cause the lower to students to be made fun of. This is something that needs to stay private. https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/165191949 Remain calm when dealing with parents. It is very hard sometimes to do. Let them speak and listen to what they have to say. Never argue with them. 
C. Green]]> 2017-04-06 16:15:28 UTC https://padlet.com/sdickinson2/djrey6hdtaqv/wish/165191949