Brightworks PD: Toxic Rain Cloud Reflections by Christina Villarreal https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt Think about an example in your own life when you were either impacted by one of these toxic rain clouds or when you unknowingly perpetuated one of these clouds. (at home, school, church, organization, etc.) What happened? Where? How did you feel? en-us 2022-10-12 20:41:04 UTC 2022-10-12 22:34:20 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/2601.png https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740010 Toxic masculinity as an aspect of mens sports teams. Don’t want to speak specifics but it felt unsafe enough (emotionally) that I came up with reasons (I told myself) to quit playing team sports ]]> 2022-10-12 22:22:56 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740010 conversation with young students https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740490 when we began discussing immigration in class, a student immediately asserted that most were illegal. important to realize how consistent and pervasive stereotypes are and to have a difficult discussion probing and hopefully refuting that idea]]> 2022-10-12 22:23:43 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740490 Homophobia https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740494 Unfortunately this happened to me more than once. It wasn't uncommon for presenting visually queer to attract physical violence where I grew up. I had insults regularly, and on two occasions, beer bottles thrown at me (and my partner at the time) from trucks driving by when we would hold hands. I still look over my shoulder and check my surroundings when my hand is held in public.]]> 2022-10-12 22:23:43 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740494 I was deeply bothered by the "incident' in the LA City Council. It hurt me to my core particularly because it happened in the POC community, particularly because colorism is such a plague. I know racism and colorism are insidious, but it still hurts. https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740812 2022-10-12 22:24:15 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740812 My first day of school in the United States my teacher introduced me to the class by saying I had a "different" name and talked kinda funny because I had an accent https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740953 2022-10-12 22:24:31 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337740953 content warning: mentions of sexual assault https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337741877 Having conversations with men about famous athletes/celebrities where their sexual assaults were ignored/presumed not to matter in the face of their career, feeling how much they didn't really consider women to be full people ]]> 2022-10-12 22:26:08 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337741877 As a student, being forced to read textbooks that celebrate colonialism and ignore indigenous perspectives. As an educator, being expected to carry on this national myth. https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337742417 2022-10-12 22:27:04 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337742417 Today, I overheard a student saying the phrase "crazy homeless people." He was generalizing and suggesting that large numbers of homeless people are also struggling with mental health issues. One of the collaborators called the student in and asked him to explain what he meant, and then let him know that generalizing about groups of people is something to avoid. The collaborator also let the student know that the word "crazy" stigmatizes and inaccurately represents mental health challenges https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337742580 2022-10-12 22:27:23 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337742580 How to be a male https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337742614 I remember from an early age feeling pressure to behave in certain ways because I was male, and being shamed when not doing it "right". Some behaviors that I felt pressure to enact were to:
- Shame other males for showing weakness or feminine traits 
- Be aggressive and violent in response to challenge or "disrespect"
- Treat and speak about females as objects 

I feel those same pressures today in many male-dominated spaces. Yuck.]]> 2022-10-12 22:27:26 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337742614 https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337742985 Today we watched a video about Asia to get ready to go to the Asian art museum tomorrow. A student made fun of the gentleman who was pictured on the play screen for a video by saying “that farmer looks really dumb, why do we need to learn about farmers anyway?” An Asian American student called him out for saying something that was racist because he was putting down someone of another race. I brought up the ideas of stereotypes and we talked about how stereotype limit individuals by placing assumptions about what people are like based on the groups they identify with. It felt like an authentic moment of reflecting on the impact of what was said.]]> 2022-10-12 22:28:06 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337742985 https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337743033 I have a family member who I just found out is trans. He moved out of state and has cut off contact with his family in fear of their anger. I want to tell him he has family that cares for him, but I don't have any means of communication, yet. It makes me sad that members of my family can't/won't see him for who he is.]]> 2022-10-12 22:28:12 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337743033 White Supremacy https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337743044 I feel that in many intersections in my life but in the field of education and in my role as an educator I have not fully enough examined the ways in which white supremacy has showed up in either my self or the organizations I represent. My belief that I had explored myself completely often was a dodge from facing hard truths or doing vital deeper work within the student communities I worked with and too many times I stood silently by or helped perpetuate through my actions or inactions these power structures. Sadly this has happened many times and only through a full examination have I been able to show up more fully and ready to truly engage with the dismantling work that always exists. I have a life time of diligence ahead to commit to.]]> 2022-10-12 22:28:13 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337743044 Toxic Masculinity https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337743222 Growing up in a home filled with men, there was this idea that being a strong and tough male equated to dominance. On top of that, this ideology was also reinforced in my school, society and in the various sports I consumed. I always felt uneasy and detached about this prescribed characteristic, but as a youngster I never had language nor vocabulary for it. There weren’t many spaces or situations when conversations would challenge or educate us on toxic masculinity. Still healing and dismantling the TM tendencies today. ]]> 2022-10-12 22:28:34 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337743222 Outdoor school https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337744068 While teaching out of the park, the school’s presence had a large impact on individuals who were living in park. Our exploration, play and even bathroom frequency disrupted the lives of members who in some cases had been there decades. Once I was approached by someone who was clearly upset and held me responsible for the impact of the increased pedestrian traffic in the park. It made me feel a sense of guilt and I still struggle with how I use the park and who I see as truly the stewards of this place. ]]> 2022-10-12 22:30:00 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337744068 You don't "look like a lesbian" https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337744816 While dating a woman that many stereotyped as "looking like a lesbian" and living in a small conservative town I would often over hear others make comments about her and use homophobic language to describe her as they didn't assume we were a couple. When I would confront them about their comments they would just say "but you don't look like a lesbian." So many conversations had to be had. ]]> 2022-10-12 22:31:18 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337744816 "Walkability" is a phrase I've used too much to suggest changes that should be made to urban spaces. I now understand this phrase to be ableist https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337744864 2022-10-12 22:31:23 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337744864 https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337746586 When woking in construction toxic masculinity was very destructive to my health as well destructive to my attitude towards my employer. I would often injure my self on the job site. It would mostly happen when i was trying to keep up with the younger carpenters who would make unkind comments about my age. Often this would result in a injury to myself due to their comments taking my focus off my work and my ruminating over there unkind words.]]> 2022-10-12 22:34:20 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/dfres1nsvnnxwpnt/wish/2337746586