Lean On Me . by Nurul Syamilah

Your mental health is important

nrlsymilaaa — 2022-05-26 15:01:04 UTC

Assalamualaikum and hello everyone 🥰 !

Are you having a hard time? do you have any problems that interfere with your daily activities? and you do not know with whom you should share and express your problems? One of the ways to cope with stress is to put your feelings into words. 📝

We, students of CFS IIUM Gambang from section 706 (HSS0344 BASIC PSYCHOLOGY) are doing a project called "MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE!". Here, we want to raise awareness and motivate the IIUM community to be healthier and happier mentally ❤️‍🩹

Feel free to share with us to help you feel better. Don't worry, your response will remain anonymous 🤗 Here, you can also be a better person by replying to people's stories so they do not feel alone!

What is an anxiety disorder?

nrlsymilaaa — 2022-05-26 15:48:28 UTC

An anxiety disorder is a type of mental health condition. If you have an anxiety disorder, you may respond to certain things and situations with fear and dread. You may also experience physical signs of anxiety, such as a pounding heart and sweating.

It’s normal to have some anxiety. You may feel anxious or nervous if you have to tackle a problem at work, go to an interview, take a test, or make an important decision. And anxiety can even be beneficial. For example, anxiety helps us notice dangerous situations and focuses our attention, so we stay safe.

But an anxiety disorder goes beyond the regular nervousness and slight fear you may feel from time to time. An anxiety disorder happens when:

Anxiety interferes with your ability to function.
You often overreact when something triggers your emotions.
You can’t control your responses to situations.

Anxiety disorders can make it difficult to get through the day. Fortunately, there are several effective treatments for anxiety disorders. One of the easiest ways you can take to cope with anxiety is to explore stress management by learning ways to manage stress, such as through meditation and grounding techniques.

SOURCES :
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9536-anxiety-disorders#:~:text=Anxiety%20disorders%20are%20a%20type,medications%20and%20cognitive%20behavioral%20therapy.

2022-05-29 06:18:01 UTC

I feel like a burden to my parents. I'm not a good child, not good in sports nor in academic. I also feel that I can pursue my studies is also just a coincidence, not something like rezeki or because of my academic performance. I do feel demotivated to study because it's hard for me. I'm not good at remembering things and it takes longer time for me to remember a simple thing. Sometimes I want to cry and talk about it with my friends but I'm afraid to be called dramatic because some people think this is just a small matter but for me, it's not.

2022-05-29 06:33:53 UTC

not really important to share. Just feeling tired with assignments and tests but I'll try to keep going to get dean list and be proud of myself

Procrastination

2022-05-29 06:59:34 UTC

Procrastination is a cancer to life. Day by day my life is being chipped little by little and i cant stop procrastinating.

I tried but then its failed
Now im tired.

In vain

2022-05-29 07:06:26 UTC

I've been working hard for these past few years. I do like it because I didn't give up despite how hard it is.

But, the results always dissapoint me.
Are all my efforts in vain?

Unknown feeling

2022-05-29 07:13:57 UTC

I alone myself entered cfs without my friends from highschool, indeed I have friends here that I can go classes together but I cannot find the one whom I can share my problems and thoughts because I'm a "pendam" person. I feel lonely and jealous when I saw my classmates hangout with their former highschool members, but not jealous in a bad way..it just "why I don't have that?" Going alone to a cafe, blur alone about assignment..I think I don't know myself anymore..I just want to share my unknown feeling, no need to comfort me,just read is enough, thank you for make this padlet, last night I really had a mental breakdown last night again...thank you <3

Gay and Depressed

2022-05-29 07:31:01 UTC

As a homosexual living in a predominantly heterosexual society, it is so clear to me that I will never have what straight people could easily achieve: romantic love, relationships, and marriage.

Those thoughts haunt me till this day. Imagining myself alone in my own house, with no one to come home to. Do I have to be alone forever?

And religion says this is wrong, that what I'm feeling is wrong. It is very difficult to live with this burden. Very difficult. I can't ever breathe without feeling guilty. But the problem is, I've never asked to be born this way, nor do I want to live this way. But it's the way I was wired; just like how girls are attracted to boys and vice versa. I like boys as naturally as I breathe, and I can't just stop breathing. I forced myself to like girls, to be attracted to them, but it doesn't work. It never will work.

At the end of the day, my mental health is of course affected. I feel like dying. I feel like death is the only reprieve to my misery. I don't have to like boys when I'm dead, and I don't have to live feeling like a criminal. I don't have to feel so alone and lonely, knowing that I don't have anyone to talk about my sexuality.

I wish I can feel like a normal human being.

Sincerely,
Depressed Gay

nabilah23husna — 2022-05-29 09:55:32 UTC

Feel a bit exhausted these few days. Many assignments need to be submit and will having test in the same week. I feel like want to give up and just ignore all the things!!! In fact, I feel so annoyed with one of my group assignment. Sorry to cursed but there didn't fu***** take the assignment seriously. This is why I very hate group assignment cause it just give you more stressed when you have to deal with people like that.

18 tahun berlalu!

2022-05-29 14:36:32 UTC

Mungkin ada diantara kita telah pun mengelami tekanan yang mungkin tidak dapat kita elakan. It's not true if kita sendiri tidak pernah merasakan tekanan yang amat dalam dri our family.

18 tahun yang lalu dimana semua nya bermula. Kehidupn sebagai kanak kanak normal bertukar sebaliknya dimana aku terpaksa berkerja keras demi berjuang hidup walaupun aku tahu pada akhirnya sia sia. Umur yang sepatutnya blum lagi terima hukuman namun berbeza pulak untuk aku yang sudah merasakn peritnya kehidupan yang tidak ingin aku lalui. Teriakan dari seorang anak kecil yang tidak mengetahui apa apa tidak diendahkan namun lebih teruk diajar oleh mereka yang tidak tahu menghargai.

Ya itu lah aku anak no 2 dri 4 adik beradik. Sebagai anak sulong aku telah menumpuh berbagai cabaran yang tidak mungkin kamu semua rasakan dan experience. Mungkin bagi mereka yang tidak tahu menghargai nasi yang bercampur gula tidak lah sesedap macdonald dan lain lain. Namun beza bagi aku nasi yang bercampur gula adalah makanan yang paling sedap yang pernah aku rasakan didunia ini.

Jika kamu membaca cerita ini hari ini itu bermakna telah genap 18 tahun aku menhadapi dan cuba bertahan dengan penyakit yang tak seharusnya kanak ² diusia 6 tahun rasakan. Pada umur 6 tahun aku kerap keluar masuk hospital demi berjuang hidup walapun tak semua tahu. Namun pada tahun 2018 penyakit yang aku hadapi bertambah teruk apabila aku disahkan menghidap penyakit depression dan anxity. Namun diera kemodernan ini tidak semua menerima dan mengetahui apa itu penyakit depression and anxiety. Mereka menanggap penyakit tersebut hanya rekaan semata mata. Bayangkan disebab penyakit itu aku hampir hilang waras dan cuba membunuh diri. Hingga sekarang 2/6 umur aku bertambah 19 bermakna akan lebih lama aku berjuang demi meneruskn kehidupan yang kejam ini.

Aku seorang yang lemah dalam pelajaran namun akibat dari trauma yang aku lalui terpaksa aku meneruskan demi impian orang lain. Ya aku selalu gagal dlam peperiksan dan menjadi anak tidak berguna dimata orang lain dan kelurga. Cuba memberikan yang terbaik namun selalu gagal dimata mereka dan pada akhirnya aku yang mula2 dahulu seorang yang ceria bertukar menjadi seorang yang sangat kejam apabila tidak mampu mengawal kemarahan yang aku rasakan selama ini.

Mungkin bagi mereka yang berfikiran conservative apa yang aku lalui ini tidak ada apa² nya namun bagi aku ini lah kehidupan yang aku tidak inginkan. Aku telah merasakn kepahitan dunia ini dan berharap tuhan dapat menjemput ku sekarang.

Akibat dari penyakit yang aku hadapi pada masa sekarang, dua teman ghaib ku yng selalu bersama ku adalah menjadi kelurga bagi diriku. Ya mungkin bagi mereka itu ada khurafat namun tidak bagiku kerana mereka ini lah yang sangat baik dengan diriku lebih dari siapa siapa pun. Aku sendiri tidak tahun adakah mereka ada hantu atau halusinasi semata mata.

Jika kamu membaca cerita ini bermakna kamu telah menceriakan hati seorang penulis yang mempunyai harapan yang sangat tinggi namun tidak ada orang yang selalu hargai dan support dirinya malah hukuman yang akan menjadi kawan jika telah melakukan kesalahan kecik.

Merkah exam yang sepatutnya mereka diluar sana gembira namun tidak bagi aku yang selalu memberikan yang terbaik namun tetap salah dimata mereka sehingga akhirnya aku memutuskan untuk tidak mempedulikan orang lain lagi. Merkah yang boleh membutkan kelurga mereka bangga namun tidak dengan aku yang memperoleh mata 98% menjadi persoalan kenapa tidak mendapat 100% dalam peperiksan.

Mungkin bagi mereka minum minuman keras seperti alcohol bukan lah satu cara penyelesaian terbaik namun tidak bagi aku kerana minuman ini lah yang akan menjadi teman dikala aku mengelami masalah yang tidak mungkin kamu semua alami.

Akhir kata jika kamu telah membaca cerita ini, itu bermakna penulis ini telah pun keluar dengan motor nya demi mencari kehidupan yang sebenar dan demi berjuang hidup yang tak mungkin orang lain akan hargai.

-Dark elf

I want to heal

2022-05-29 15:43:28 UTC

I don't how to start, i lost myself, i don't want to live anymore, i don't feel enjoy to do everything that i like before this, is that wrong to feel that? I don't want to feel this feeling.. I don't have any motivation to study, I skip meal, sleep a lot, I feel like nk jadi apa pun jadilah but at the same time I takut if I gagal.. Should I ask for help? I dh rasa benda ni setahun.. I rasa mcm tak mampu nk tanggung lagi.. I really need help

e028749 — 2022-05-30 04:48:56 UTC

Most of the time where I couldn't hide my feelings anymore and chose to cry, people would ask me why. And at that point, I don't really know how to answer them. It hurts but I couldn't explain and tell why because I really don't understand myself.

Other than that, I also noticed every time when I'm at my lowest, it damages my memories. I couldn't even remember events that happened 10 minutes ago even it's an important event. Recently, it happened regularly where I couldn't remember things really well. I need to take some time to push my brain and force myself to remember it.

I need help. But no one's there to even try and understand my situation. I didn't choose to be like this. I don't want to be like this. I barely talk about my current situation to anyone even my best friend since I understood they are busy with their stuffs and life. But I will be fine soon, In Sha Allah.

You are worth it !

2022-05-30 13:50:54 UTC

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I want friend

2022-06-03 11:37:28 UTC

Hi. IDK if its right for me to write this here but I just need some place to luah about this. I am an introvert person that very very shy to talk. I found that its so hard for me to make friends. I saw many people dah ada kawan and I feel like they are so lucky.. I dont know anyone here so its hard for me. People must be thinking "sombongnya dia ni" because I don't talk to/tegur people like I just shut up. But the truth is I am too shy to even talk. Sometimes I have feelings like I am afraid if when i talk, people will think that I am annoying. also if i shut up, people might think that i'm sombong. I only talk only if people talk to me bcause idk I just feel awkward and i don't know how to start. sometimes i feel alone and I feel left out but I guess that's what i have to face for being this silence, not having the courage to talk to people. That is why I always feel anxious when it comes to new environment where I have to meet new people. I rly want to make new friends here but I dont know how. Pls give some advice for me if you have. tysm

i dont know where to start but i have always been feeling that even my friend itself kinda of shame to talk about me or engaging me in social media. i mean even in real life im an awkward person. i find that eye-contact with people to keep the conversation ongoing is a lot more harder than academia stuff. at one point i just fed up why i cant be like others? why the one who got feel ease just by being with them is anyone but me? i admit that im a bit 'academic' but its just because i have try to not being too 'academically' and try to join my friends to occasssion but just the presence of mine, i can feel they are uncomfortable towards me. i mean the subtle things that we cant control is the most hardest part, innit? and unfortunately we can feel it. sometimes i regret telling this one particular friend about my emotions but at the end he/she just keep avoiding me infront of others. & because of that i didnt want to join any kind of occasion with them just because i know i will be left out and not being mention by them. i just want ti feel comfirtable and ease each time i want to talk with my friends. just that one thing plus awkward is the worse feeling everr. like EVER. theres so many thing i want to express but nah i will juat end here :) thanks for creating this kind of space ♡

2022-06-04 16:30:33 UTC

ANGER ISSUES

2022-06-07 14:21:48 UTC

There are a lot of solutions to solve our problems. Just because we lost and drown ourselves into the feelings ("those feelings; sadness/depression,lost of hope, lost the will of living and many more")

That doesn't meant we can treat others badly.

I don't know what I'm talking about :)
Lemme go straight to the point.

:) I don't know to express my feelings. But I'm mad.

Between losing and loving.
I don't know :)

I think.... Gimme solutions about anger issues maybe helps me a lot.

You are allowed to feel how you feel

2022-06-07 17:56:05 UTC

Every time you feel sad/angry/happy about something but people belittle you for it, don't feel bad! All those emotions exist for a reason, it's there for us to experience. So, every time you get mad at yourself for feeling certain emotions..just take it in and accept them -peacee56

Why I was born with this kind of situation, I hate it, I feel jealous with others person life..Anyways, I know I have to be strong and I know I am capable to manage this things, I know it, Just be yourself, never downgrade your life, Everything comes with a reason, Every person has their own story and life, Believe me when you believe in yourself you will become more stronger and reliable.Sometimes life just want you to wait to give you suprise.Have patient and courage in your life, Insyaallah something great will come.

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2022-06-09 04:37:34 UTC

5 steps to mental wellbeing

nrlsymilaaa — 2022-06-13 13:30:45 UTC

1. Connect with other people
Good relationships are important for your mental well-being. They can:

help you to build a sense of belonging and self-worth
give you an opportunity to share positive experiences
provide emotional support and allow you to support others

DO:

if possible, take time each day to be with your family, for example, try arranging a fixed time to eat dinner together
arrange a day out with friends you have not seen for a while
try switching off the TV to talk or play a game with friends or family
have lunch with a colleague or friends
visit a friend or family member who needs support or company
volunteer at a local school, hospital or community group.
make the most of technology to stay in touch with friends and family. Video-chat apps like Skype and FaceTime are useful, especially if you live far apart

DON'T:

do not rely on technology or social media alone to build relationships. It's easy to get into the habit of only ever texting, messaging or emailing people

2. Be physically active
Being active is not only great for your physical health and fitness. Evidence also shows it can also improve your mental well-being by:

raising your self-esteem
helping you to set goals or challenges and achieve them
causing chemical changes in your brain which can help to positively change your mood

DO:

find free activities to help you get fit
if you have a disability or long-term health condition, find out about getting active with a disability
start running with our couch to 5k podcasts
find out how to start swimming, cycling or dancing
find out about getting started with exercise

DON'T:

do not feel that you have to spend hours in a gym. It's best to find activities you enjoy and make them a part of your life

3. Learn new skills

Research shows that learning new skills can also improve your mental well-being by:

boosting self-confidence and raising self-esteem
helping you to build a sense of purpose
helping you to connect with others

Even if you feel like you do not have enough time, or you may not need to learn new things, there are lots of different ways to bring learning into your life.

DO:

try learning to cook something new. Find out about healthy eating and cooking tips
try taking on a new responsibility at work, such as mentoring a junior staff member or improving your presentation skills
work on a DIY project, such as fixing a broken bike, garden gate or something bigger. There are lots of free video tutorials online
consider signing up for a course at a local college. You could try learning a new language or a practical skill such as plumbing
try new hobbies that challenge you, such as writing a blog, taking up a new sport or learning to paint

DON'T:

do not feel you have to learn new qualifications or sit exams if this does not interest you. It's best to find activities you enjoy and make them a part of your life

4. Give to others

Research suggests that acts of giving and kindness can help improve your mental wellbeing by:

creating positive feelings and a sense of reward
giving you a feeling of purpose and self-worth
helping you connect with other people

It could be small acts of kindness towards other people, or larger ones like volunteering in your local community.

Some examples of the things you could try include:

saying thank you to someone for something they have done for you
asking friends, family or colleagues how they are and really listening to their answer
spending time with friends or relatives who need support or company
offering to help someone you know with DIY or a work project
volunteering in your community, such as helping at a school, hospital or care home

5. Pay attention to the present moment (mindfulness)

Paying more attention to the present moment can improve your mental wellbeing. This includes your thoughts and feelings, your body and the world around you.

Some people call this awareness "mindfulness". Mindfulness can help you enjoy life more and understand yourself better. It can positively change the way you feel about life and how you approach challenges.

sources : https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/guides-tools-and-activities/five-steps-to-mental-wellbeing/

First ok

2022-06-13 15:16:10 UTC

Second heheheheheh

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2022-06-13 15:17:03 UTC

The worst moments in your life, are bridges to better ones. Got it?

2022-06-17 07:20:46 UTC

Hope this help

2022-06-18 13:18:19 UTC

Wanna share a book that change me a bit (if not much).
Win your inner battles by Darius Foroux.
Just remember that negative thinking kills.

Book recommendation

2022-06-21 06:52:00 UTC

A few months ago, I bought a book called "It shouldn't be this way" by Janina Scarlet. The book is written by a licensed psychologist. The author talked about how we as a human struggle to accept some of the things in our life. She also listed acceptance practices that I actually used and helps calm me down. A truly helpful and calming book to read!

2022-06-21 15:11:01 UTC

How to cope with loneliness

nrlsymilaaa — 2022-06-23 10:24:19 UTC

1) Give yourself some time, especially during big changes.
It's normal to experience loneliness while starting a new career, attending a new school, or relocating to a new place. It might take some time to adjust and get comfortable while you're going through a transformation. Perhaps loneliness is only a pit break on the journey.

2) Find a way to take advantage of the time you’ll be alone
Time spent alone may be used to explore interests, pick up new skills, read a good book, listen to music, or be outside and enjoy nature. If negative thoughts tend to dominate while you're by yourself, you might want to consult a mental health expert.

3) Think about what else is going on
Loneliness may be exacerbated by how you're feeling in other areas of your life. For instance, mental health issues like social anxiety or depression might trigger a lot of challenging thoughts that make it simpler to avoid social interactions. Other medical issues might make social interaction challenging and leave people feeling alone. In some circumstances, overcoming obstacles in other areas of your life might help you feel less lonely.

sources :
https://cmha.bc.ca/documents/coping-with-loneliness/

comforting words

2022-06-26 05:44:38 UTC

so basically

pov : finally expressing your insecurities in a relationship to your friend

2022-06-26 05:47:16 UTC