https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w Include a key passage with a citation. Be prepared to discuss! en-us 2021-11-17 13:07:17 UTC 2021-11-19 17:52:26 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/1f35a.png https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897414019 2021-11-17 16:47:45 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897414019 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897414613 "I thought I was doing the right thing, taking the crab with the missing leg. But my mother cried, ' No! No! Big one, you eat it. I cannot finish"" (Tan 202).]]> 2021-11-17 16:47:56 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897414613 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897415264 "That's the way Chinese mothers show they love their children, not through hugs and kisses but with stern offerings of steamed dumplings, duck's gizzards, and crab" (Tan 226)]]> 2021-11-17 16:48:12 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897415264 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897417661 "Why are you here? Why are you crying? Something has happened! ... Hate? Why do you think I hate your future husband?" (Tan 200)]]> 2021-11-17 16:49:09 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897417661 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897418412 "My mother seemed to be doing again, making me see black where I once saw white. In her hands, I always became the pawn. I could only run away. And she was the queen able to move in all directions, relentless in her pursuit, always able to find my weakest spot." (Tan 199) ]]> 2021-11-17 16:49:26 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897418412 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897418562 Lena should have seen that her relationship with Harold was more of a business agreement before she married him.]]> 2021-11-17 16:49:29 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897418562 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897419629 "My mother knows how to hit a nerve. And the pain I feel is worse than any other kind of misery. Because what she does always comes as a shock, exactly like an electric jolt, that grounds itself permanently in my memory. I still remember the first time I felt it" (Tan 186). ]]> 2021-11-17 16:49:52 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897419629 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897419931 "And seeing the garden in this forgotten condition reminded me of something I once read in a fortune cookie: When a husband stops paying attention to the garden, he's thinking of pulling up roots. When was the last time Ted pruned the rosemary back? When was the last time he squirted Snail B-Gone around the flower beds" (Tan 214).]]> 2021-11-17 16:49:59 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897419931 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897420812 "My mother looked at me and smiled. "Only you pick that crab. Nobody else take it. I already know this. Everybody else want best quality. You thinking different.'" (Tan 233)]]> 2021-11-17 16:50:19 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897420812 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897420845 Waverly is just immature and petty even though she's just a reflection of her mother]]> 2021-11-17 16:50:19 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897420845 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897422226 "and then i see my mother sitting by the open window, her dark silhouette against the night sky, She turns around in her chair, but i can't see her face. "Fallen down" she says simply. She doesn't apologize. "It doesn't matter," i say, and i start to pick up the broken glass shards. "I knew it would happen". "then why don't you stop it? asks my mother. And it's such a simple question (Tan 181).]]> 2021-11-17 16:50:48 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897422226 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897426198 "'A girl is like a young tree," she said. "You must stand tall and listen to your mother standing next to you. That is the only way to grow strong and straight. But if you bend to listen to other people, you will grow crooked and weak. You will fall to the ground with the first strong wind. And then you will be like a weed, growing wild in any direction, running along the ground until someone pulls you out and throws you away"' (Tan 212).]]> 2021-11-17 16:52:11 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897426198 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897428357 "Or maybe we shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Maybe Harold is a bad man. Maybe I've made him this way" (Tan 180).]]> 2021-11-17 16:53:00 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897428357 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897429749 "And when I got into the car, I still had the glow of that feeling and I touched his hand and said, 'Harold, I love you.' And he looked in the rearview mirror, backing up the car, and said, 'I love you too. Did you lock the door?' And just like that, I started to think, It's just not enough" (Tan 174).]]> 2021-11-17 16:53:30 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897429749 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897431402 Waverly could've at least told Ted what dinner was like in Chinese culture. I know Ted could've researched himself but like how was he supposed to know that all of the things he was doing was unacceptable?? Waverly shouldn't have been that upset because she didn't try to help him.]]> 2021-11-17 16:54:10 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897431402 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897431525 "At first I thought it was because I was raised with all this Chinese humility," Rose said. "Or maybe it was because when you're Chinese you're supposed to accept everything, flow with the Tao and not make waves. But my therapist said, Why do you blame your culture, your ethnicity? An I remembered reading an article about baby boomers, how we expect the best and when we get it we worry that maybe we should've expected more, because it's all diminishing returns after a certain age.]]> 2021-11-17 16:54:12 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897431525 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897433046 2021-11-17 16:54:49 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897433046 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897433858 All the men in this book (except for rich) are terrible but the daughters are to blame for how toxic all of their relationships turned. All the warning signs were there, they just didn't want to confront the truth. ]]> 2021-11-17 16:55:08 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897433858 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897435515 A key theme in this chapter is the impact that a person's words can have on their lives and emotions. Rose says, "The power of [An-mei's] words was that strong" (Tan 185). Even though An-mei doesn't realize it, what she says truly affects Rose. At the end of the chapter, Rose says, "The power of my words was that strong" (Tan 196). This is when she told Ted she was keeping the house which made him scared and confused, showing that like her mother, words can have an effect on someone.]]> 2021-11-17 16:55:36 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897435515 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897436643 2021-11-17 16:55:56 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897436643 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897437121 "Over the next few weeks and later months and years, i continued to play, but never with that same feeling of supreme confidence. i fought hard, with fear and desperation. when I won, i was grateful, relieved. and when i lost, i was filled with growing dread, and then terror that i was no longer a prodigy, that i had lost the gift and had turned into someone quite ordinary." Tan (190) ]]> 2021-11-17 16:56:06 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897437121 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897437567 Everyone needs to stop thinking about themselves and how to one up each other and truly look into why their relationships are failing]]> 2021-11-17 16:56:16 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897437567 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897447285 "To this day, I believe my mothers has the mysterious ability to see things before they happen... She only sees bad things that happen to our family. One time when I was growing up in San Francisco, she looked at the way our new apartment sat too steeply on the hill. She said the new baby in her womb would fall out dead, and it did" (Tan 161). There's more examples of how she predicted bad things that happened for her family on the bottom of 161 and 162.]]> 2021-11-17 17:00:03 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897447285 https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897461249 june caused her own embarrassment when she brought up Waverly's firm owing her ]]> 2021-11-17 17:05:16 UTC https://padlet.com/steph_faucette/bttsbjowykuzrg4w/wish/1897461249