Esch and Consent by Ms.Finkbeiner https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0 If you were Esch’s close friend or older sibling/cousin, what advice would you have for her? What would you want her to know? en-us 2016-11-18 17:18:47 UTC 2016-11-18 20:47:44 UTC hello@padlet.com I would tell her to tell the truth fbrandstrader08 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833044 I would want her to know that I am here to talk to especially if it came down to stuff like this 

]]> 2016-11-18 20:35:13 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833044 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833087 I would tell her that she is not alone 

]]> 2016-11-18 20:35:34 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833087 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833117 I would let her know that she needs to tell someone close to her what happened. 

]]> 2016-11-18 20:35:48 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833117 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833135 If I was a close friend or sibling I would ask Esch if she's okay and how is she handling it. I would also tell her that it's not okay just to go with having sex with someone if you don't feel comfortable doing it . wait until you're old enough and to understand what consent is.]]> 2016-11-18 20:35:55 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833135 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833136 I would tell her that rape does not define you it defines the person who raped you and that no mater what happens you will always be you and to stand strong for yourself

]]> 2016-11-18 20:35:57 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833136 I would tell her that she is too young to be having intercourse and she is not in the position to be going consent. I would also educate her on giving or not giving consent when she gets old enough https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833141 2016-11-18 20:35:59 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833141 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833147 Always protest for your rules for your body. Your flesh belongs to nobody else, and any who refute do not have your best interest in heart.]]> 2016-11-18 20:36:02 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833147 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833155 I would tell her she shouldn't be afraid of saying "no". She should tell it her family She has to realize that she is just 12 years old and she can say "no" to somebody who wants to have sex with her. She doesn't have to give consent.]]> 2016-11-18 20:36:05 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833155 Advice for Esch https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833160 I would tell her that she needs to be strong enough to say no, she knows its the right thing to do but she needs to be able to do that]]> 2016-11-18 20:36:06 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833160 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833183 that she shouldnt feel the need to have sex with a guy just because they want too. and that everything will turn out okay

]]> 2016-11-18 20:36:18 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833183 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833236 I would tell her that it wasn't her fault and that she shouldn't feel guilty for it. I would tell her that sex is also for her, not just for the guy and that she has the right to feel pleasure.]]> 2016-11-18 20:36:40 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833236 i would tell her that i was always there for her no matter what. And that there's no need to feel guilty it wasn't her fault. she isn't forced to do anything she doesn't wanna do https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833241 2016-11-18 20:36:41 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833241 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833244 I’d want her to know that she is not alone. She shouldn’t remain  silent, because it is illegal what Marquise did, and it is not good to hold all that weight of such an injustice to you and your being inside. In days like ours, where crimes like rape are so prevalent and way too often go unpunished, we HAVE to  TALK about it. We can not shy away from these incidents.  Because silence, is in many cases, the loudest scream.

]]> 2016-11-18 20:36:42 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833244 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833256 If I was close to Esch I would tell her to prevent every guy having sex with her. I would also tell her that she should definitely talk to other people if she is sexually assaulted and that she should tell her family immediately that she is pregnant.]]> 2016-11-18 20:36:46 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833256 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833284 I would tell Esch that the things happening to her aren't okay and that she should report it, but if she didn't then I would still be there for her.

]]> 2016-11-18 20:36:59 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833284 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833327 I would her that here for her ]]> 2016-11-18 20:37:14 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833327 I would tell her that she isn't alone... simple as that. I would let her know she isn't any of the names people may call her and her most important things are her integrity and self worth https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833357 2016-11-18 20:37:28 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833357 aschulz23 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833372 I would want her to know she has the right not to give consent whatsoever at any point in time she feels unsafe around someone who is sexually drawn to her.]]> 2016-11-18 20:37:34 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833372 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833398 i would tell her that i am here for her 

]]> 2016-11-18 20:37:44 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833398 I would have her get busy https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833399 Educate her on stuff and make sure she always has condoms handy and talk about consent and keep an  eye out in case the Marquise situation comes round again to make sure it sin't rape this time and if it is help her report it. Give her the courage

]]> 2016-11-18 20:37:44 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833399 I would ask her https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833425 Do you need comfort? Do you feel violated or worse? You can always talk to me if you need to, about advice or just for comfort. ]]> 2016-11-18 20:37:54 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833425 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833534 I would tell Esch that even though Marquise wants to do all of this, it should not change her mind on whether to do it or not. ]]> 2016-11-18 20:38:43 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833534 I would tell her that she didn't do anything wrong. msoffer https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833537 2016-11-18 20:38:44 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138833537 i would tell her that she didn't do anything wrong and i believe her jbrown741 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138834112 2016-11-18 20:42:57 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138834112 id try to get her to see a therapist and a police officer. id be worried about her having ptsd and id want to help get marquisse caught for what he did msoffer https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138834325 2016-11-18 20:43:58 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138834325 https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138834364 2016-11-18 20:44:13 UTC https://padlet.com/kfinkbeiner/b95afujhr0l0/wish/138834364