https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh Please type your NAME first then your response: What is your opinion on the Afghan belief that a woman brings shame upon herself and family if she isn’t able to marry? Compare to US or your own culture. 3-5 sentences. en-us 2020-11-18 14:33:52 UTC 2020-12-11 15:33:07 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936853471 I understand why Afghan people want to marry early, since my parent married at a early age. I don't  understand though why waiting a little longer to marry brings shame to the family, rushing into marriage will only led to future problems.]]> 2020-11-18 14:35:01 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936853471 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936854268 2020-11-18 14:35:09 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936854268 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936854927 It doesn't make sense to me, not everyone wants to marry and should not have to. I have however met plenty of people here in the United States that have a lot of pressure on them to get married and get shamed by their family constantly if they dont. I myself have seen it in my own family a few times during reuinions ]]> 2020-11-18 14:35:16 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936854927 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936856230 I believe itś not right. Traditions are meant to be broken. A lady should have the right to marry or choose not to.  It should be the females full decision to marry or not. The man can not rule everything she does, she should be able to make her choice with out being shamed. ]]> 2020-11-18 14:35:29 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936856230 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936857669 I do not think that is a very good thing because what if a women is not able to have kid or she does not want to at the end of the day it is her choice]]> 2020-11-18 14:35:44 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936857669 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936858020 I understand this would be a belief because womans main role in the United States used to be similar to this]]> 2020-11-18 14:35:47 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936858020 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936858284 It doesn't make sense to me because I can view it from an American standpoint. I've been exposed to the typical, loving marriages seen in the US. If a woman doesn't want to marry here it's not shameful, she just doesn't want to marry. They probably value and have a different belief on identifying shame and honor than we do and that's okay. ]]> 2020-11-18 14:35:49 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936858284 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936858319 I feel that a woman should be able to not marry and not be seen as less or bring shame upon her family. Marriage is just a joining of two people, but it isn't & shouldn't be a necessity for respect. When the Afghan culture or any culture uses marriage as a way to judge someone, it doesn't sit right with me because marriage is not something that necessarily ]]> 2020-11-18 14:35:50 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936858319 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936859243 I don't believe that it's shameful, I believe that it should be a decision up to the woman, because marriage isn't for everyone.  As we see with Soraya's mother, General Taheri is very manipulative over her and it's not healthy.

]]> 2020-11-18 14:35:59 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936859243 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936860903 I don't understand why they say it's shameful to not get married. Not everyone wants to get married, so they should be able to decide if they want to or not. There is a few people I know that don't want to get married and I don't think that should be shameful. ]]> 2020-11-18 14:36:14 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936860903 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936860969 I understand that the women being married off has been apart of their culture for a long time but I don't think it should be viewed as dishonorable especially because Afghan women didn't get to choose who they marry. So if no one wants to take their hand in marriage it shouldn't be there fault and they shouldn't be looked down on because of it. ]]> 2020-11-18 14:36:14 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936860969 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936861553 Personally I don understand this because in my life all the female figures in my life are independent, so when I see in other cultures where women have specific roles or they are confined to doing certain things I can relate.]]> 2020-11-18 14:36:19 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936861553 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936863044 I don't think it's shameful for a women that doesn't want to get married. It's their choice if she wants to get married or not, it shouldn't be a cultural thing for women to get married so suddenly. They should also be able to choose who THEY want to marry; they should be able to marry someone who they love and trust.]]> 2020-11-18 14:36:33 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936863044 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936864031 I do not believe in that, i feel as if though it's almost disrespectful towards a woman if you were to shame her for not being able to marry. I believe that you should marry a woman you truly love and want to spend your life with

]]> 2020-11-18 14:36:43 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936864031 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936864554 I don't think it's shameful if a woman cannot marry. i believe that its the women choice if she's ready for marriage. Although that might be there belief, i still think its a choice and should not be forced. like an arranged marriage. ]]> 2020-11-18 14:36:48 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936864554 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936868488 I think every women have right , to marry someone sheś comfortable and actally love , instead of its being a culture thing and law for some places, every women has a right to state her opinion because at the end of the day its still her life.]]> 2020-11-18 14:37:30 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936868488 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936872805 2020-11-18 14:38:15 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936872805 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936875429 I understand why woman would have such a role in other countries because similar to our old beliefs woman had a role of having children in the U.S. and taking care of the house. However I don't know why marriage would be shameful for ones family if they choose not to get married because in my opinion people should have a choice whether to get married or not. I think that a woman should have a choice to get married or not and should get shamed for it.]]> 2020-11-18 14:38:43 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936875429 jonesd20211 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936879978 Marrying off at a young age in my opinion isn’t considered dishonorable. Especially since it’s apart of some cultures]]> 2020-11-18 14:39:32 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936879978 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936882050 The Afghan belief that people who are married should have a child and if they can’t they bring shame is judgmental and unfair. The culture in the U.S that has developed is for you to do whatever you want, date or marry whoever, do what makes you happy. The Afghan Culture is the opposite. These are polar opposite beliefs of which I agree with the U.S cultural beliefs more. Some people naturally can’t give birth so I believe it is unfair to think of them as dishonorable or not good enough because if it: It is due to genetics and so if anyone is it would be their parents who are dishonorable.]]> 2020-11-18 14:39:53 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936882050 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936919590 necessarily something that has to take place.]]> 2020-11-18 14:46:21 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/936919590 morganj2021 https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/1010092543 My opinion on this is that this afghan belief is very unfair and vague. There could be so many reasons why a woman isn’t able to marry. A woman can be in a rough time in her personal life and bringing in a husband may not be the best choice for her at that time.]]> 2020-12-11 15:33:02 UTC https://padlet.com/smustafah/aooajjzgxy4z99zh/wish/1010092543