What is the boundary you are trying to establish in this scenario? (e.g. physical, financial, resources (such as time) etc.)

Why do people find it difficult to set boundaries?

How will you communicate clear boundaries in the given scenario?

What is the boundary you are trying to establish in this scenario? (e.g. physical, financial, resources (such as time) etc.)

Why do people find it difficult to set boundaries?

How will you communicate clear boundaries in the given scenario?

What is the boundary you are trying to establish in this scenario? (e.g. physical, financial, resources (such as time) etc.)

Why do people find it difficult to set boundaries?

How will you communicate clear boundaries in the given scenario?

What is the boundary you are trying to establish in this scenario? (e.g. physical, financial, resources (such as time) etc.)

Why do people find it difficult to set boundaries?

How will you communicate clear boundaries in the given scenario?

financial

bcs they are friends and they dont want to feel bad about not wanting to support their friends and it may make the relationship awkward or tense

confront them and say if they cant pay you back by this time you are not willing to help cover them the next time

physical boundary

afraid to lose friendship, like to please other people

its okay for us to study together but its not okay for us to study at your house one to one at night because it makes me feel uncomfortable.

digital boundaries -> tell the perpetrators to respect her boundaries and stop bullying the victim

they don't know the extent/damage that their actions can inflict upon someone

1. tell them to stop doing what they're doing (bullying in this case)

2. tell them why their actions are not cool

financial

worried about sounding petty or causing friction in the class. afraid people might see them as calculative

ask for the money back nicely because after all we’re both students and i don’t have that much money as well especially if it is more than $50.

Emotional respect

Everyone has different boundaries, some may just be ignorant

Tell the teacher and reach out to Janet privately to see if she’s ok

resources (time)

because it is a very close friend and they dont want to disappoint or make it feel like they are not being a good friend / straining the relationship

i would tell her that i have pw due and feel really stressed, but still attend her party to be there for her, just excusing myself earlier

physical boundary

they are unsure of other's intentions and are afraid of offending them in the case of a misunderstanding

tell them you're uncomfortable with staying over and why you are uncomfortable, but that you are willing to study together, just not stay overnight

Resources (time)

Afraid to hurt others' emotions especially when its related to a special occasion

Apologise sincerely, explain my situation and ask if its possible to postpone or if there are any alternative solutions

borrowing money

try to stop being a people pleaser and be straightforward

of course not

Physical and emotional boundary

Afraid to hurt his feelings and affect the friendship.

Just say it out directly "We are of different genders and I don't feel comfortable studyign at your place. We can always go in a group instead of one on one."

Emotional boundaries

Fear of getting involved and being outnumbered especially since the victim is a quiet student, situation might escalate

Politely but firmly urge friends to stop and explain how their actions are emotionally impacting Janet

emotional boundaries and physical boundaries

be open and honest about how i feel by telling them what is okay and what if not

im not sure. i'll communicate my boundaries more clearly and listen to other people's boundaries too

Dont disturb me when I’m trying to lock in (talking to you FADILA 😡😤)

Tell them directly if they happen to do it

Yea probably, I’ll try to ration when someone feels uncomfortable

emotional and physical boundaries

say NO

no

Emotional respect

Being frank with what I’m comfortable with and what gives me discomfort

I hope not

Respect

I will laugh it off and jokingly say 'Next time don't do it ah, I a bit the hurt you know. But legit leh.'

I texted them online and apologized, should have known better given what she's been through.

Emotional boundary.

Afraid of being viewed as too sensitive or overthinking circumstances.

Call out their behaviour and mention how it's actually harmful to Janet's personal wellbeing.