https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo Think of a decision from your past that you regret. Knowing what you know now about being proactive, how would you change it? How could you have used the 4 tools (Self Awareness, Conscience, Imagination, Willpower). What do you think the outcome would have been if you had been proactive? Must be 8-10 formal sentences! DON'T FORGET TO INCLUDE YOUR NAME! en-us 2018-11-23 05:13:11 UTC 2018-12-14 16:39:15 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324262  A past regret of mine  is one time breaking the battery cover on my Xbox controller because I raged after getting eliminated on Fortnite Battle Royale. I got 88th place and I got so mad that I threw my Xbox controller and the battery cover clip fell off. from what I know now about being proactive I could have said, "it's OK I'll just catch a W next game" or maybe just set my controller down and take a break. I could have used the 4 tools by imagining how my game would be affected with a broken controller. I could have listened to my conscience and realized that throwing my controller would have damaged the controller and the wall and it would cost a lot of money to fix. I should have used willpower to not do it.]]> 2018-11-23 19:33:25 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324262 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324264 As a kid I was extremely shy, I was bullied badly although kindergarten to grade 3 but I never stuck up to any of them because I was scared that would give them something else to make fun of me for. This story was my way of sticking up fro myself but now thinking about it was one of the worst decisions I have made. One day in grade 3 it was lunch and some of the girls that were sitting around me started mocking me for anything I did. I got extremely hurt by all the comments that they were making about me. The girl that was sitting beside me stood up to mock how I was walked. In that moment I got angry so I snapped and pulled her chair far back so when she went to sit down she would fall. My plan sadly succeeded but she wiped out and hit her head. What I was not expecting was for her to start balling me. The teacher ran in and started screaming at me for being a terrible person for 5 minutes straight until I started crying in the middle of the room while everyone stared at me. The teacher did not stop their, she kept yelling at me until I ran out of the room and to the bathroom. Being of that age and dealing with things like this is hard but I know I could have handled this much better. I should have stayed calm and tried my best to ignore whatever they were saying. None go this would have happened if I stayed put and not reacted like I did. The "4 tools" would have been extremely helpful to me back then. First I would take self awareness. I know that I was feeling hurt and like I wanted revenge but I was also sad. My sadness turned into anger which is why I pulled the chair out from behind her. If I thought about it more I would have realized that in 5 years I would be looking back upon this moment and thinking about how terrible of a decision it was. Something that I should have used is my willpower. If I used my willpower I would have ignored them and realized that everything was going to be okay. If I was proactive I would have a be better at not retolerating when people make fun of me. Now whenever anyone says something remotely mean to me I get upset and want to get them back. That is not a good quality. Everything happens for a reason but I really regret doing this
-Sarah 

]]> 2018-11-23 19:33:25 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324264 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324277 I try to be as collective as I can, but sometimes I just deteriorate. I vividly remember a moment this year where I just lost it. I was having a bad day, I know thats a lame excuse, and I shined my anger upon everyone else. It was my first day doing the morning announcements in early September I believe and I was proud of myself for taking that leap out of my comfort zone. Unknowingly, my voice was extremely loud, people couldn't understand what I was saying and it sounded like the speaker was going to burst out of the wall. After walking to class with a smile on my face, I was confronted many times by people saying that my voice was way to loud and those comments followed with impersonations. I was embarrassed and confused. I made up excuses like, "I wasn't even close to the microphone, its just really loud" which of course wasn't true, but I wanted to shy away from the truth. I was overreacting and worried I would be teased, which is pretty stupid looking back now, I shouldn't and I don't care about that. When the recess bell rung I walked outside pretending like nothing ever happened. One of my friends confronted me and said "you know your voice was really loud on the announcements right?" I was sick and fed up with how much I was hearing that so I lashed out on her saying "I get alright, I already heard and don't want to hear about it" then I stormed off. Now, that might not sound so bad, but my tone was obnoxious and snotty.  She then got really upset at me and that made me upset with myself. About a good 20 or so minutes later, I decided that this situation won't go anywhere if I just sit around and hope for her to forgive me so I confronted her. I gave her a formal apology and it took awhile for her to forgive me, but I just stayed patient. Looking back, I think I made the right choice apologizing, but not the right choice being reactive from the start.

Now knowing how to be proactive, I would defiantly change the situation by approaching it in a respectful manner. Instead of saying "I get alright, I already heard and don't want to hear about it" I could say, "Ya I heard, but whatever It's fine. It was my first time and now I know what to focus on." You see, a proactive person doesn't let things get to him/her and they don't react explosively. Here in this moment I was uber reactive and I didn't think before I spoke. If I weren't reactive then my friend and I wouldn't have gone through this huge argument, but if this situation didn't go as it did then I would have never learned anything from it and something similar would happen further down the road. I guess theres always a pro and con to things. 

I wish I new about the 4 tools before this all happened and maybe it could have had a better outcome. Below, are how I would accommodate the 4 tools into my past situation. 

Self Awareness: Hearing everyone talk about how my voice was too loud on the announcements really bothered me, but I kept that inside. Knowing how bothered I was, I should have been aware that I might not be able to hold my thoughts in any longer and I of course gave it all out on a friend. If I would have used self awareness then I would have thought to myself, this is really bothering me and I know myself best, when something bothers me I could easily lash out. I could have went somewhere quiet while I reflected upon my current emotions and get them in check before walking back out again. Like I mentioned before, I know myself best and I am the one in control of my own emotions, so I should recognize that so that I'm always putting my best self forward.

Concience: I used my conscience in both negative and positive ways in this situation. My negative self conscience was telling me that I am sick of hearing all of these comments. It was saying to "show everyone how fed up you are" so that they don't mess with you again. I of course listened to my negative conscience and took everyone of its advice. This also came with the excuses. After words when I cooled down and realized what I have done, my positive self conscience peaked through. It told me to make things right and that nothing ever gets solved by not doing anything. When I gathered up the bravery to recognize my actions it felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me. Maybe it was the little red conscience devil flying off of my shoulder. 

Imagination: If I used my imagination, I would have been thinking ahead of all possible outcomes of my actions. This was never taken into consideration at all and I regret that. I should have thought about the consequence of yelling at someone especially someone who is important to me. 

Willpower: I've mentioned this many times, but I always try to put forth my best self. I strive to achieve goals that are not always reached which is because of my lack of will power. I let things take advantage of me and I don't fight it through. Willpower or self resistance would have been a perfect practice to have done in this situation since I wasn't able to keep my emotions in control. If I would have used my willpower, then I would have resisted the temptation to make an outburst or lash out at others and that wouldn't have lead to an argument between my friend.


]]> 2018-11-23 19:33:36 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324277 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324284 A past decision that I regret is letting what people say get to my head.  Since I was young, people have been mean and rude to me, and I have just let them walk all over me.  I would just either cry or walk away, and I should have done something about it; and the thing is, I never told my parents and I just had it bottled up inside of me.
If I was to go back in time and be proactive, I would have told my parents and stood up for myself against the bullies. ]]> 2018-11-23 19:33:38 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324284 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324353 One big decision I regret in my life was when I was in grade 6 and made fun of someone for something they can't control. I was being awful and not trying to understand the position they were in. Now that I look at it, I regret it so much and wish I can go back in the past and change it. If I had known about proactivity then, I would first try to understand and put my feet into their shoes. Next, I would ask how they are and how they feel and make sure their alright. Then, I would be more open minded and help them with the struggle they are going through then just right away assuming things. I was not being self aware of myself because I didn't really think about it or try to understand. I also acted in a very bad way right away and didn't give the person a chance to explain. My conscience were not really allowing me to do anything but judge the person and act horribly. My imagination was very dull and didn't allow me to see what can go wronge or how my actions can effect someone. And lastly, ]]> 2018-11-23 19:34:27 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324353 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324363 Life is full of ups and downs. 10 years ago, I would sometimes shout at my mom because I thought she was being rude to me, meanwhile she wasn't. She would pretend she would leave me. I would cry after that and then she would come back. 
Now that I think of it, I should have thought of it a different way and knew that she was trying to make me a better person. If I wasn't such a 3 year old brat, who knows how more positive of a person I would've been. Clearly, that was a very dumb decision.
Self Awareness - I thought my mom was being rude to me back in the day, because I thought people that would shout at me would be considered "stupid and whiny." In reality, she was trying to make me a mature person.
Consciousness - My inner voice told me, "Hey! Don't do that. Your mom is telling you what's right and what's wrong! Believe it!" As a 3 year old brat, I didn't believe it.
Imagination -  If that were to happen again, it would play out a whole different way. No crying or pretending to leave. Just a warning signal. That's all.
Willpower - I have the power to choose my decisions. My part of my brain told me to go Reactive. The other side was the other way around (Proactive way).
If I had been Proactive, none of it would have ever happened and I would simply apologize. End of story after that. ]]> 2018-11-23 19:34:36 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324363 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324376 I regret choking my Xbox controller on the ground from getting mad playing NBA 2k15 and getting mad when my younger sister turns off for Xbox.  in proactive i would calm down and stop playing for a few minutes. I also regret yelling at my sisters and getting my parents mad at me. i also regret being mean to my sisters and my parents and my dogs.]]> 2018-11-23 19:34:46 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324376 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324379 I don't have many big regrets, but when I do I often end up really regretting it.
Something from the past I regret is when instead of thinking and talking something out, I instead opted to hold a grudge and become bitter to somebody I disagreed with. I could have thought of the 4 tools I could've used to be proactive to instead mend the argument in place of making it worse. With the tools I could have changed what happened and made it better for both people. I could have used Self awareness to realize what I was doing by being so angry and put an end to it, so that I didn't end up doing what I did. With Conscience I could have rethought my actions and fixed the mistakes that led up to that. If I used imagination I could've thought of a way to fix it and mend my situation instead of staying angry. I could have used Willpower to stop myself from resorting to impulse rather than ignoring my better mind and fighting.]]> 2018-11-23 19:34:48 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324379 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324382 A Past Regret:

As a little kid, I did many incredibly stupid things, but one event in particular, I especially regret. In the second grade, I was really unhappy for a couple weeks, and I just wanted to leave everything so I ran away from school. I didn't even think anything through at all, and I told the secretaries that I had an appointment, and then I left school without anyone knowing. Then, I walked around the neighborhood, until I realized that I missed home and I finally understood how stupid and unreasonable I was being. So I went home and confessed to my parents and after a few days, everything went back to normal. Clearly, I was not being a proactive person, so if I could go back to that one situation, I would have thought about how ridiculous the idea was, and I would have realized that things were not difficult for me, I was overreacting, and I could have talked to my parents about it instead of reacting the way I did. I would have used self-awareness by thinking through what I was about to do and realize that it was not a successful log-term decision. I would use conscience to listen to my inner voice and know that I didn't think any of it through, and I only focused on my anger. I didn't think about the future and how it would effect me if I hadn't gone back home and if I was still there, living in some random street. I clearly didn't use my imagination or the statement of "will it mater in 5 minutes, 5 months, or 5 years." If I had left and never come back, five months from then would have changed my life completely. The five year mark would have been last year, and I wouldn't have learned how to multiply, divide, add fractions, or anything else. I would have been those unfortunate people on the streets who ask for donations or help of some sort. I would have been a completely different person than I am today. I wouldn't of had my dream of becoming a writer, I wouldn't have had friendships with half of my friends, I would have missed significant years of education and achievements all because I was angry and too reactive. I didn't think of the future at all, I barely remember what I was thinking or why I was so angry and upset. I only thought of myself in the present, and I didn't think about who I would hurt and how everyone would have changed because of me leaving. I had the power to choose if it was a good idea or not, I had the power to choose if I wanted to be that person who ran away from all her problems all because of something that I don't even remember. Luckily, the only thing I don't regret about that day is that I chose to come home after a while. You would think that i went to a neighborhood far away from here, but I only made it past Avondale and around that area until I finally began to realize the ridiculousness of my actions and eventually come home. Once I was back, I understood that it wasn't a big deal, and that I would never do something like that ever again and I would think rationally.

]]> 2018-11-23 19:34:51 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324382 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324401  Rylee- I regret yelling at my mom when she was just trying to help me get up and ready for school.

Emily- I regret yelling and giving my mom attitude, when she's just trying to help. I used to have a very closed off time and i'd just doubt myself saying "I can't do this." or "I'm so stupid." very often my mom would try to make me feel better or help me with my homework and i'd just freak out because I hate being controlled or being told what to do. If I knew about being proactive I would try to control my emotions and respectfully say "Thank you but I don't need any help i'll ask if I do" I can now genuinely say this no longer happens and I started using proactivity without even knowing.

]]> 2018-11-23 19:35:02 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324401 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324420 A past regret I had was being afraid to try skiing. When I was younger my parents took me to a ski resort and tried to put me in skiis. I refused to go outside so I just stayed inside drinking hot chocolate for the whole day. I love to ski now and I wish to have started at an earlier age so that I would have more experience. I wish I tried skiing with a more open and positive mindset. Maybe if I tried a few steps down the bunny hill I would have had a new view of skiing. If I was more aware that my parents planned a fun day and that I could learn a new life skill I would take a brave step out of my comfort zone. If I used my willpower I could've chose to ski knowing I had the power to choose. If I was more self aware I could have taken a moment to look over the situation and make a mature choice. I might have let my imagination control my thoughts and created fear in my mind about skiing. ]]> 2018-11-23 19:35:11 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324420 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324423 The thing that I would most regret would be when my friend told me that someone said they didn't like me when really they were saying that about someone else and I got mad at the person who said it about me. What I could have done to be more proactive was I could have said to the person was are you sure they said that? or where did you hear that from? I could have said to the person who said it about me was, do you like me? or did something make you not like me? With using self awareness I could have been aware with what was happening more clearly. Using conscience I could have heard what the person said personally or listened to my friend and noted if I heard and form of lying. My imagination could have pictured, is that something that person would say? or I could have thought of all the possible ways to react. Using willpower (self control) I could have took deep breaths and thought is through. The outcome if I had proactive would have been that the person would have respected me and I would have thought it through more and not have made it such a big deal.]]> 2018-11-23 19:35:13 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324423 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324439 I regret pushing my sister into a corner of the wall, she had to get stitches and now she has a scar on her forehead. I wish I would have known about proactive in the past because then  I would have took a moment to think about it before it happened. ]]> 2018-11-23 19:35:24 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324439 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324452 The one thing that I would go back in time and change is when I was about 11 my sister and I had a really big fight which lead me smashing her very expensive glasses. I was very upset with her and didn't think before I acted which ended up being a very bad decision that I made.If I could redo that moment I would press the pause button and think about what I was going to do and ask myself if it was really necessary to break her glasses.If I would have Listened to my conscience I would have  made the right and proper decision everything could have been handled way better then how it was.If I would have imagined how the situation could end up if I broke her glasses,how she would have been really upset and had no glasses for a whole 2 weeks I would have never broke them]]> 2018-11-23 19:35:31 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324452 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324533 My Past Regret would be waiting to the last minute to finish my self portrait last year because I almost didn't hand it in on time so it looked a bit worse than I would have wanted it to turn out and what I could have done instead was I could have Imagined how it would affect my marks and how my drawings look, I could have also thought about how Ms. Gill would think of me after I handed it in so late and if she thought I was a good student.

]]> 2018-11-23 19:36:13 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324533 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324563 I regret when I didn't run for running club when my Dad said I had to and Mr. Pisek wanted me to. In that situation my Dad was disappointed in me and I think Mr. Pisek was too. As I ran home I could've paused and thought it through. If I was proactive in this situation, I could have been more self aware that I need to run and make those who believe in me proud.]]> 2018-11-23 19:36:40 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324563 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324607 Past regret: In hockey I used to get very angry for the smallest reasons.  And in a game someone pushed my teammate and I skated from the blue line and cross checked him from behind.  To be proactive I could´ve thought about what the outcome of the play was.  Because this play may have affected if we won or lost the game.  Also,  I could´ve thought about the health of the player and what would happen to him.  The last reason is I had a chance of getting suspended,  this affects how much I´ll grow as a hockey player and it could affect how tired my teammates get because they´ll have to double shift. I could´ve used will power to control myself and think about the consequences and stop myself from following through with it.  In the situation my conscience isn´t always right so I can overcome it and stop my initial thought.  During the game it is very fast paced not giving me enough time to imagine the consequences and outcomes of my actions. This action also impacted how rough the rest of the game was. If i was more proactive I would´ve thought about what I was gonna do and not follow through with my initial thought. This would make a better result because I would not be getting a penalty affecting the rest of the game. I would not be putting the opposing players health at risk. And lastly, It would make the rest of the game much more enjoyable and not constant fights. In this reflection I realized that giving myself time to think it benefits my actions in a good way.  ]]> 2018-11-23 19:37:06 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324607 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324656 In the past I regret getting mad at my brother because he said that I was bad at hockey. So we started fighting each other and he got a ball and threw it at me really hard so then i tried to hit him with my hockey stick. Now I realized how much I took that statement. I realize that I could've hurt my brother a lot more than he hurt me. Me and my brother always remember that situation and we always laugh together of how serious I took it. Now me and my brother get along really good now but before we use to hate each other and now we are basically glued together everywhere we go now.]]> 2018-11-23 19:37:40 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324656 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324667 I reacted poorly by fighting when my brothers made fun of me and it did not end well for me considering they are 4 and 6 years older than me. If I was proactive, I would have  said "please do not say that to me I don't appreciate what you said." I could of been more self aware by  know that I am normally reactive to my brothers.  I could of used my conscience by taking some time to think about what I did. I could of used my imagination by thinking of what would happen if I did something bad and not doing something bad. I did not have willpower in that situation.]]> 2018-11-23 19:37:46 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324667 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324717 My past regret was when I disrupted the class in french last year. I should have thought about what i was doing and stoped myself. I also should've showed will power by not following my friends and talking in class. If I used my conscience and listened to that voice telling me not to do it I wouldn't have gotten in trouble. I have to be be self-aware, because if I was I would have seen how silly and idiotic I was acting.

]]> 2018-11-23 19:38:18 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307324717 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307325165 At the beginning of the year my friends from Westdale asked me after the first day of school why I moved schools. I exploded because they had been bullying me previously so they would obviously know why I would have moved. I started screaming and saying things that are really hard to take back. The consequences of this are that I am not friends with anyone there anymore. If I had known about proactivity I would have acted calmly and tried to forget about them bullying me and moved on. ]]> 2018-11-23 19:42:41 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307325165 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307334219 Due to the fact I was unable to edit my initial paragraph, I have copied and pasted mine over on to a new one. Please mark this one.

Life is full of choices and options, with various paths and roads to take that leads you to the future. Although, if you take the wrong path, it won't be easy to go back. I've made many mistakes in the past, and many I regret. I've been a very reactive person which caused dents in my relationships. Around two years ago, in grade six, science fair was just around the corner. I was being burdened with stress and pressure, and on the break of tears whenever I heard a single word about homework. I was struggling and was lost in confusion. So I distracted myself with my current interests. Video games. Everyday when I'd come home from school I'd lock myself in my room, and was being absorbed into the virtual world and shunned all needed tasks and assignments from school. Things weren't being accomplished and my parents soon began to notice my strange behavior. I left science fair to the last second, and of course my parents were disappointed. They expressed their thoughts and concerns to me, revealing what reality I was actually living in. Tears were shed that night, but I had found the solution to my problem after communicating with my parents.

There was still at least a month before science fair. Hope was not lost. When the time did come, I ended up finishing a worthy project and even made it to regionals. I won around $100 and gained overjoyed parents. The next year I earned the same amount of money from science fair regional, and even earned the physics award from Brock. In the past, many decisions I could have made may have aided me with a even greater outcome.

I'm not a time traveler, and I never will be. If I could change the past however, I would have distinguish the initial headache in the first place. If I could say something to my past self, I'd mention about what's most important. Get off your computer and think about the future. What do you think your parents reaction will be? People's views will change of you after this dilemma? What's your purpose?

Thus blending us into self-awareness. In the past, I wish I would have been more aware of what I strive to achieve. My goal presently is to achieve high marks in school to make my parents proud. Back then I was cocky and egotistical about weather I cared about my marks or not. If I took the time to just think about what I really wanted, it may not have led me to that tragic day. Acknowledging my true intentions and feelings would have made a big difference in the past. If I were to apply my consciences to the problem, I would have still acknowledge the 'negative' luring thoughts. It's not always easy to be positive when you're stressed out, so acknowledging the difficulty's in a problem is also necessary.  After thinking about the negative,  I could have found a better solutions to them and fix my incident. Moving on to imagination, when I'm in a sticky situation, I tend to imagine the worst in it. A pessimistic view. In the past, I got rid of this issue by distracting myself with video games, making my problem worst. To fix this, I wish I had spoken to my parents about my woes as a new possibility. To try to see some light in the darkness. Finally, willpower. It's my decision to make the choices I chose, and willpower is a key aspect in this past obstacle. If I had decided to get off the computer, stop gaming, and focus on the task at hand, this issue would've been resolved. To be able to think about my future and what way I can achieve it is what strength I needed. 

If I was proactive in the past, I may of had a much more immense outcome then my previous one. I wouldn't of had to go through all the stress and mental pain. Although, our past hardships build us up, and without that experience I may not of had the mindset I have today. We learn from our mistakes and I know now that I must be cautious with falling into the trap of addictive games. ]]> 2018-11-23 21:09:44 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307334219 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307341933 The same thing that Madison had happened to me, this is the one for markings!

A past decision that I regret is letting what people say get to my head.  Since I was young, people have been mean and rude to me, and I have just let them walk all over me.  I would just either cry or walk away, and I should have done something about it; and the thing is, I never told my parents and I just had it bottled up inside of me.
If I was to go back in time and be proactive, I would have told my parents and stood up for myself against the mean kids.  
I could have used Self Awareness by feeling the impact, I could have used Conscience by really releasing what they were doing to me and how I felt,  I could have used Imagination seeing what my wellbeing would be like if these kids weren't so mean, and I could have used willpower to stand up for myself and  choosen no!
I think if I would have been proactive, I would have stopped to kids earlier and made my point very clear.]]> 2018-11-23 22:17:20 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307341933 mahrousr https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307351942 One big decision I regret in my life was when I was in grade 6 and made fun of someone for something they can't control. I was being awful and not trying to understand the position they were in. Now that I look at it, I regret it so much and wish I can go back in the past and change it. 

If I had known about proactivity then, I would first try to understand and put my feet into their shoes. Next, I would ask how they are and how they feel and make sure their alright. Then, I would be more open minded and help them with the struggle they are going through then just right away assuming things.

 I was not being self aware of myself because I didn't really think about it or try to understand. I also acted in a very bad way right away and didn't give the person a chance to explain. My conscience were not really allowing me to do anything but judge the person and act horribly. My imagination was very dull and didn't allow me to see what can go wrong or how my actions can effect that person. And lastly, in the situation I was in, I had every right to choose all my actions and decisions but clearly choose the wrong path and didn’t give myself time to think or the person to explain. I kinda took it how I first felt and how my reaction was and didn’t at all think about it first. I didn’t think before I spoke and I definitely made the wrong choice. 

If I had been proactive then my outcome would’ve been way better and also better for that one person specifically. My life today would definitely not be the same if I hadn’t made that stupid mistake. I apologize deeply to the one person with all my heart. Thank goodness we are still friends till this day and get closer each time. I’d also like to thank this person for being very forgiving and kind. If I had been proactive then I’d never have to think about the awful mistake I made during that time. I’d also like to say that I’m always here for you and will always be by your side no matter what happens. Love you!!


]]> 2018-11-24 01:19:55 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307351942 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307445535 A past decision that I regret is eating pasta for my lunch. I’m just kidding! An accurate choice that I regret is that just about a month ago after school. Charlotte, my younger sister was not doing what my parents asked her to, so I started yelling at her to try to get her to do what needed to be done. I screamed at her and kept telling her what has to be done. But really she is in grade 5 and can manage herself. I was being extra reactive and worrying about her too much and not myself. Now knowing about being proactive, I would have just let her do her own thing and let my parents deal with her consequences because it is really not my role to yell at her and punish her. I would have just let her be unproductive and I would just focus on my own behaviors, then, soon my parents could get home and deal with it. Self awareness would have really helped me control myself in this situation. If I used my self awareness I would have just worried about myself. During this situation I had an angel and a devil weighing out my decisions! Of course the bad had to take over my consciousness and told me to yell at her because she's not doing what she was asked to. So I pulled the trigger and yelled at her instead of listening to my good side and letting mom and dad give her consequences. Imagination was not in check at this time! I didn’t push pause and just kept going with what I was saying. If my imagination was where it was supposed to be, then I would have pushed pause right as I was about to yell at her. I should have used my consciousness and said what I am about to do is not appropriate and is not my problem. Using your imagination and pushing pause is similar to thinking before we do something. Doing this would definitely take a fair amount of will power because it's not easy when you are all fired up about something to question yourself and ask, “is this my role to do this? Will the think that is bugging me matter in 5 minutes, 5 months, or 5 five years?”  I know for myself it's extremely hard to question what i'm about to do when I am so angry about it! So, a definite goal for me to improve on is to always think twice before reacting quickly on something.]]> 2018-11-24 23:40:15 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307445535 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307462928 A past decision I strongly regret occurred at the very beginning of the school. After the first day of school my friends from Westdale asked me "why did you go to Power Glen?". I was angry because they had previously been rude to me and bullied me. I yelled at them and said a lot of things I regret now that I look back on the situation. They were the reason I moved schools so of course they know why I moved. The consequences of my actions is the loss of many friendships. If I had known about proactivity I would have tried to move past their actions and answered normally and stayed friends with all of the kids at Westdale. I could have used "self awareness" I would've looked to the future and seen that I am sad now that I am no longer friends with any of those kids. If I had used "conscience" I would have realized that the things I was saying could potentially hurt the Westdale kids feelings. If I would have used "imagination" I could have seen that the outcome of the situation was not beneficial for anyone and ended up making things awkward for everyone. Finally, If I would have used "willpower" I would have been strong enough to pass through the bullying and be able to lead a normal life at Westdale. The outcome with proactivity would have me with more friends and I would be a much happier person. I would be able to spread more positivity onto others because I would be happier.]]> 2018-11-25 05:24:49 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307462928 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307551686 The one thing I would go back in time and change is when I was about 11 my sister and I had a really big fight which lead me to smash/break her very expensive glasses.I was very  upset with her and didn't think before I acted which ended up being a very bad decision that I made. If I cloud redo that moment I would press the pause button and think about what I was going to do and ask myself if it was really necessary to break her glasses. If I would have listened to my conscience I would have made the right and proper decision everything would have been handled way better then how it was.If I would have imagined how the situation could end up if I broke her glasses,how she would have been really up set and would have had no glasses (which she needed to see) for a whole two I would have never broke them .Using willpower I could have controlled my actions and I would have done the right thing in that situation.If I cloud have used One other tool self awareness I would have stopped to think how my sister would feel if I broke her glasses and I would have considered her feelings.If I were to be proactive I think the situation would have turned out way better and my sister wouldn't have to get a new pair of very expensive glasses. ]]> 2018-11-25 19:26:35 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/307551686 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308422687 I regret when I didn't run for running club when my Dad said I had to and Mr. Pisek wanted me to. In that situation my Dad was disappointed in me and I think Mr. Pisek was too. As I ran home I could've paused and thought it through. If I was proactive in this situation, I could have been more self aware that I need to run and make those who believe in me proud. While this was happening to me, accessing my thoughts and using my conscience to look at what is right could have been more efficient in this situation. I would've realized that I need to have empathy for others. Looking at all possible outcomes and using my imagination ]]> 2018-11-27 17:49:10 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308422687 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308423121 I regret yelling and giving my mom attitude, when she's just trying to help. I used to have a very closed off mind and i'd just doubt myself saying "I can't do this." or "I'm so stupid." very often my mom would try to make me feel better or help me with my homework and i'd just freak out because I hate being controlled or being told what to do. If I knew about being proactive I would try to control my emotions and respectfully say "Thank you but I don't need any help i'll ask if I do" I can now genuinely say this no longer happens and I started using proactivity without even knowing. If I was more self aware at the time I probably would've thought out my actions instead of just reacting to the situation. If I actually gave my conscience a minute to speak I could've listened to myself and let my mom help, i'd realize that she's just trying to help and isn't causing any harm. I should have used my willpower to stop myself from yelling at her. I should have used my imagination to envision the different scenarios. ]]> 2018-11-27 17:49:49 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308423121 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308424081 I regret shutting my sister out of part of my life. If not most of my family was shut out. At this time I thought that nobody cared about or could understand  how I was feeling between school, friends, after school activites and just my self worth in general. I wouldn't tell them anything we did at school or I would lie and tell them my day was great but we didn't do anything inportant. Especailly my sister was shut out. It could be because she was always trying to act like a mom and was bossy contatly. So during this time we barley spoke or interacted with one another. The main reason for this was me not letting anybody know how I felt about my sisters actions. Now I look back and I regret not letting my sister and family help me through times where I thought no one would understand. Now me and my sister are best friends we have secrets that we will never tell our parents. This sisterly bond is so speacil to me, but I wish I would have started it sooner. ]]> 2018-11-27 17:51:11 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308424081 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308425445 Something that I regret from the past would be that always arguing with my parents when they tried to help me with my homework or making a school team. I would of changed that by actually listening to them so I could hear there advice so they can help me be better at some things. I could of been more aware of how rude I was being when I was not trying to get the help that I had needed.]]> 2018-11-27 17:53:01 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308425445 https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308425543 I regret some of the things I did last year. What I mean by that I So me or all of the bad things I did last year. For example getting in trouble, not paying attention in class and being disrespectful to the teacher. The reason I regret the things is because when I leaver the school I want to leave with a good reputation and if I do all the bad things or did all these bad things everyone will know me as the girl that does bad things or the girl that never listens. And I dont want to be know as ¨ẗhat girl¨]]> 2018-11-27 17:53:11 UTC https://padlet.com/ms_n_lee43/91750vlnwvuo/wish/308425543