SIP Group 3 by https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c en-us 2021-05-20 08:12:44 UTC 2021-08-07 15:20:36 UTC hello@padlet.com From Problem Statement zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542951504 2021-05-20 08:13:48 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542951504 How can we help teenagers transition from an ideal family to a divorced family? zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542953382 Above is the issue/problem]]> 2021-05-20 08:14:34 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542953382 To Data Point zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542957740 2021-05-20 08:16:28 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542957740 transition raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542971926 didn't really affected me much because of my young age]]> 2021-05-20 08:21:46 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542971926 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542978254 focus on their studies and school when it happened

]]> 2021-05-20 08:24:13 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542978254 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542980626 I only know when its a bit later, when i was 13 then i know what happened ]]> 2021-05-20 08:25:07 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542980626 To Cluster and Insights zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542981137 2021-05-20 08:25:20 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542981137 Cluster: Fear Of Judgement (Green) zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542983878 Insight 1: I'm scared that being in a divorced family is not normal

Insight 2: I don't want to be treated differently compared to other normal people]]> 2021-05-20 08:26:21 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542983878 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542986114 At first i was scared but after i shared with some people, i realised its kind of common in SG (having a broken family)]]> 2021-05-20 08:27:11 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542986114 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542987370 friends didn't really judge them for having a broken family

]]> 2021-05-20 08:27:38 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542987370 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542987818 I wish that my father would be more in my life]]> 2021-05-20 08:27:49 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542987818 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542989571 i didn't want to be treated differently with the other friends]]> 2021-05-20 08:28:36 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542989571 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542990783 Er, not really cause like usually they will work, and they will come back very late so they didn’t really have much time spending with me.

]]> 2021-05-20 08:29:06 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542990783 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542995457 I always think about how it would've been growing up with a mom, can tell secrets and talk about boys together]]> 2021-05-20 08:31:03 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542995457 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542998347 i wanted academic support to cope with the transition]]> 2021-05-20 08:32:15 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542998347 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542999862 I don’t have any problems like having food on the table or any problems ]]> 2021-05-20 08:32:55 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1542999862 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543000509 My father still provided me with everything. Like it never really felt like i didn't have a motherly figure in my life.]]> 2021-05-20 08:33:12 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543000509 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543003440 I want a listening ear to share about their story]]> 2021-05-20 08:34:28 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543003440 To user needs: zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543009405 2021-05-20 08:37:06 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543009405 USER NEEDS: zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543011297 1. Need emotional and academic support
2. Need more awareness on the issue (To prevent them from being judged)]]> 2021-05-20 08:37:56 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543011297 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543035258 i thought my father is busy doing something that's why he's always not there]]> 2021-05-20 08:48:26 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1543035258 How can we help kids/teenagers transition from an ideal family to a divorced family https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560528666 Above is the issue/problem ]]> 2021-05-26 07:08:35 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560528666 Transition https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560533715 Not really drastic as I live with my grandparents so it doesn't really affect me until a few weeks that my parents were not living together]]> 2021-05-26 07:10:44 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560533715 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560541709 At first I felt confused because at the young age of 5, I don't know what is going on ]]> 2021-05-26 07:14:05 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560541709 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560548715 initially I felt that my dad was being selfish for prioritizing his interest over the needs of the family ]]> 2021-05-26 07:17:29 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560548715 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560558483 as well as I want to forgive my dad it is a long process to forget what happened in the past ]]> 2021-05-26 07:20:36 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560558483 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560569377 everything went by very fast all I knew the next moment was I was about to have a new mom, back then I was very young so I had no say I just had to go with the flow ]]> 2021-05-26 07:25:07 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560569377 To Data Point https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560577485 2021-05-26 07:29:10 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560577485 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560582888 I treat my grandparents as my own parents as they are the one who have been taking care of me since young occasionally my mom will come by too ]]> 2021-05-26 07:31:14 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560582888 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560586306 even though i grew up without a father, having my grandparents and mom is already more than what I could ask for ]]> 2021-05-26 07:32:58 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560586306 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560593651 I am not afraid to share the news as it's getting more frequent as broken families surface, it just normally just brush under the carpet ]]> 2021-05-26 07:36:39 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560593651 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560596172 I had some classmates who were going through the same phase as me where their parents were going through a divorce too]]> 2021-05-26 07:38:00 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560596172 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560601508 we try to motivate each other to do better as there is normally a stereotype that broken family has no sufficient income and lots of problem at home so we try to get out of this social stigma and try to improve ourselves]]> 2021-05-26 07:40:38 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560601508 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560606561 it would be a wild experience, I have always thought what if I followed my dad instead of my mom ]]> 2021-05-26 07:42:51 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560606561 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560610104 I don't think it would be great as I am not comfortable with my step-mom's side of family ]]> 2021-05-26 07:44:33 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560610104 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560634626 Erm, at first it was like, it didn’t really like affect me that much cause like I was still like very young at the time ]]> 2021-05-26 07:57:20 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560634626 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560636797 Er, it didn’t really like take a tow on me, because I didn’t really had like much connection to my father compared to my mom. So, like, even though we are missing like a father figure at home, like it’s still okay, not really that much of a burden.
 
]]> 2021-05-26 07:58:09 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560636797 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560638292 Er, it was kinda like a little bit sad, I just play games to get my mind off it ]]> 2021-05-26 07:58:51 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560638292 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560640717 Ya I was afraid like people will think like wah his family like messed up, then he’s probably like... something wrong with him, that’s why my parents divorced ]]> 2021-05-26 08:00:02 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560640717 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560642880 if people know about it, they shouldn’t judge, I mean I was lucky that no one was judging me and I think if someone was like supporting me, it should be fine, it will make the journey better. ]]> 2021-05-26 08:01:11 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560642880 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560644143 Like, if they are sad and stuff, they can comfort them, cause usually like school stuff, my mom isn’t really good at teaching, and last time it was my father that was teaching, but then got problem, cause now my father isn’t staying with us, so in school I have to ask a lot of help from my friends, to cope with my studies.]]> 2021-05-26 08:01:53 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560644143 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560647450 I would say it wasn’t very easy for me because like living with my father right, and I’m like the only girl in the family, so it’s like my brother, my father and me right, so it was kind of hard because my father…there were a lot of things, there were things like girls needs like tie hair in the morning and stuff like that, that my father didn’t really, couldn’t really perform?

]]> 2021-05-26 08:03:37 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560647450 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560652566 I felt that talking to the counsellor was, it was like good la, like I can share and she don’t know me I don’t know her and I felt safe to like sort of tell her. Like at least I got some adult to tell It to you know, cause I felt that I couldn’t talk to anyone ]]> 2021-05-26 08:06:02 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560652566 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560653936 It’s more of mentally and how would you take it mentally that you are transitioning into. I mean it’s the way you think lor, if you’re not affect about it mentally, then you won’t be affected by it ]]> 2021-05-26 08:06:35 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560653936 zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560658930 Ya, as if like I have something to do with the thing, because I think it was not normal ]]> 2021-05-26 08:09:21 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560658930 Cluster: Transition/Life after separation zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560666846 Insights 1: The process of transitioning didn't really affect me (Purple)

Insights 2: Often thought and needed the father/mother role in the family (Pink)]]> 2021-05-26 08:13:30 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560666846 Cluster: Solutions/Help needed zixunl201 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560676568 Insight 1: Having a person to talk to can help with the emotional needs (Blue)

Insight 2: Help with schoolwork and education]]> 2021-05-26 08:18:32 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1560676568 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564478353 Didn't like my step-mom's side as I heard nasty things about her since I was young, like how she was always talking bad things behind other's back]]> 2021-05-27 08:45:46 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564478353 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564478891 i have been living with my grandparents ,having my other family members support. Hence i think to me, that was already perfect]]> 2021-05-27 08:46:01 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564478891 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564481397 Whenever I visit my dad I would always hope that I don't see her]]> 2021-05-27 08:47:14 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564481397 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564484058 Even when I see my step-mom I don't bother greeting her ]]> 2021-05-27 08:48:38 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564484058 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564494774 Nothing much really change as I was staying with my grandparents since my parents were busy and they didn't want to hire a helper ]]> 2021-05-27 08:54:25 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564494774 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564496261 I didn't really felt sad as I feel that as long as my parents were happy in the end ]]> 2021-05-27 08:55:16 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564496261 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564499508 of course I wanted my parents to stay together forever but I was still young back then so that thought didn't stayed there for too long ]]> 2021-05-27 08:57:05 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564499508 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564502538 when my parents divorce I was feeling pretty lonely in the room as sometimes my parents will come over to check on my since they only stayed 1 block away ]]> 2021-05-27 08:58:52 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564502538 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564507379 it feels empty as usually when you come home you expect to see one of your parents at home to take care of you but in my case my everyday live was just returning to an empty room being all by myself]]> 2021-05-27 09:01:40 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564507379 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564508183 I'm like the only girl in the family so initially it was kinda hard living with him because my father.... there were things like how girls need to tie hair in the morning and stuff like that that my father couldn't really do and perform]]> 2021-05-27 09:02:09 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564508183 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564510363 as time goes by I kind of got used to being alone ]]> 2021-05-27 09:03:26 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564510363 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564511288 I had gadgets like nintendo ds , smartphones as well as laptop so I was pretty much occupied everyday with playing my DS and watching youtube on my laptop ]]> 2021-05-27 09:03:56 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564511288 Cluster: Parents couldn't really do certain things in the child life raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564513515 Insight 1: Parents are unable to help the child do specific task due to the gender stereotypes (Blue)

Insights 2:

]]> 2021-05-27 09:05:09 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564513515 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564518485 in secondary school there was this programmed organized specially for students with divorced parents where they gather them and talk about certain topics but that's about it. I wouldn't say it was much help to be honest]]> 2021-05-27 09:07:50 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564518485 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564522485 I watched a lot of TV drama where the families were going through divorced so I thought it was a norm in real life too hence I was afraid of sharing the news with other people ]]> 2021-05-27 09:10:11 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564522485 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564525189 if the others are going through the same process from a ideal family to a divorced family I think there should be some presence that can be there for you and to help you ]]> 2021-05-27 09:11:54 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564525189 raynon20 https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564525893 would i have grown up differently, like would I have a different personality, because i feel that like my personality might have been different]]> 2021-05-27 09:12:18 UTC https://padlet.com/zixunl201/9048ma7yj99ubs5c/wish/1564525893