What do we say to ourselves? What do we say to our close friends? by Kate Tapper https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz Building compassionate resilience, UCL, 26 January 2023 en-us 2023-01-24 15:40:40 UTC 2026-03-02 19:35:27 UTC hello@padlet.com Priority https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457429585 Clock is ticking (degree period), no time to prioritise me ]]> 2023-01-26 10:56:18 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457429585 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457430453 Why are you still struggling about this? 
You shouldn't be feeling this way]]> 2023-01-26 10:56:47 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457430453 Priority https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457430592 Prioritise yourself]]> 2023-01-26 10:56:56 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457430592 Overthink and ruminating; perfectionism https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457430915 2023-01-26 10:57:13 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457430915 Your own doing https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457431502 I am here because of what I have or not done. It is a little my fault]]> 2023-01-26 10:57:49 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457431502 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457431596 Just be there and listen]]> 2023-01-26 10:57:55 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457431596 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457431935 Why can't you do this?]]> 2023-01-26 10:58:14 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457431935 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432231 How is it that time already?]]> 2023-01-26 10:58:26 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432231 Positive thinking https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432271 The tension will pass away quickly, I just need to create a balance.

]]> 2023-01-26 10:58:29 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432271 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432527 that we believe in and care about them and believe they can overcome hardship]]> 2023-01-26 10:58:48 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432527 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432701 Fine to say no sometimes ]]> 2023-01-26 10:58:53 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432701 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432885 offering practical help (non-directive|)]]> 2023-01-26 10:59:08 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432885 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432943 Look at X person, they're managing]]> 2023-01-26 10:59:12 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457432943 Happens to most https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457433318 Worry not, things happen. lets come up with a plan]]> 2023-01-26 10:59:33 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457433318 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457433690 Why can't I cope with this?]]> 2023-01-26 10:59:54 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457433690 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457433821 How you're feeling is normal.]]> 2023-01-26 11:00:05 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457433821 I think I can do more and am not working hard enough. https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457433936 2023-01-26 11:00:13 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457433936 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434066 setting high demands on self]]> 2023-01-26 11:00:22 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434066 I would say that you are not a machine and need to take time out for yourself and put yourself first. https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434288 2023-01-26 11:00:36 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434288 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434344 I should be able to deal with this]]> 2023-01-26 11:00:41 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434344 Let yourself go https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434412 If you already put lots of effort, calm down and things will sort themselves out.]]> 2023-01-26 11:00:46 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434412 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434503 Take time. Ask for help. Talk. I will listen.]]> 2023-01-26 11:00:51 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434503 What have you done wrong in this situation? https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434540 2023-01-26 11:00:53 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457434540 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457435254 Not giving ourselves space to make mistakes.]]> 2023-01-26 11:01:22 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457435254 Remember to take regular breaks. https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457435445 2023-01-26 11:01:36 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457435445 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457435473 You’re just having a hard time at the moment, it will pass]]> 2023-01-26 11:01:39 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457435473 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457435927 Be very judgemental.]]> 2023-01-26 11:02:07 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457435927 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457436418 Are you able to look after yourself? (checking they're making time for themselves)]]> 2023-01-26 11:02:31 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457436418 Putting ourselves in their shoes https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457437158 relating it to stuff we've been through 
You're doing the best you can
Don't beat yourself up
You're not alone]]> 2023-01-26 11:03:25 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457437158 https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457437877 I think I'm not very good at this, no matter what others say.]]> 2023-01-26 11:04:04 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457437877 I'm not capable of doing x... Or I am not worthy of having x... https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457438173 2023-01-26 11:04:24 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2457438173 This moment does not define who you are https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2892215913 2024-02-22 10:43:28 UTC https://padlet.com/katebuddevelopment/8g2v0pd89tf1o8qz/wish/2892215913