Taught-Unlearn-Practicing (TUB) Board - Conflict by Radicle Root Collective https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2 In the skin you are in, what have you been taught about conflict? What are you longing to unlearn or undo when it comes to conflict? en-us 2022-07-20 15:56:08 UTC 2026-01-31 18:11:09 UTC hello@padlet.com rinnejulie https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2253692536 example here! ]]> 2022-08-02 22:38:05 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2253692536 Avoid conflict; be the peacemaker https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291635 2022-08-03 17:24:40 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291635 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291646 To listen to others even when you don't agree with it.

]]> 2022-08-03 17:24:42 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291646 conflict is bad-dont fight https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291713 2022-08-03 17:24:51 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291713 scariaga https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291801 automatically thinking conflict (via anger, tension) is scary and that I'm responsible for fixing it immediately

]]> 2022-08-03 17:25:05 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291801 If you are in conflict you are a difficult person. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291871 2022-08-03 17:25:14 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291871 Always be agreeable lisamsg01 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291887 2022-08-03 17:25:16 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291887 It's unsafe, harm will happen thisismeha https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291890 2022-08-03 17:25:16 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291890 how to lean into conflict as a potential for change https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291926 2022-08-03 17:25:21 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291926 to talk things out https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291961 2022-08-03 17:25:26 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291961 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291976 Ignore it and avoid it]]> 2022-08-03 17:25:29 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291976 deal with conflict on your own https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291984 2022-08-03 17:25:31 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291984 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291985 To not engage with others who disagree with  me.

]]> 2022-08-03 17:25:31 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254291985 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292037 during conflict be quiet ]]> 2022-08-03 17:25:39 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292037 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292048 Conflict=aggression ]]> 2022-08-03 17:25:39 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292048 Good women do not engage in conflict. Conflict risks connection to community and family https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292059 2022-08-03 17:25:40 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292059 conflict is inconvenient and bothersome to others. ignore it. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292087 2022-08-03 17:25:44 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292087 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292121 to always people please -especially in conflict ( meaning I can't express my needs)]]> 2022-08-03 17:25:48 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292121 I want to embrace my anger https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292145 2022-08-03 17:25:51 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292145 Conflict is bad. Silence is the response. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292176 2022-08-03 17:25:54 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292176 Real Men don't cry, don't back away from confrontation https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292178 2022-08-03 17:25:54 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292178 How to allow conflict to be a connecting experience. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292195 2022-08-03 17:25:55 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292195 Other strategies to resolve conflict rinnejulie https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292207 2022-08-03 17:25:55 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292207 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292221 Conflict is to be avoided at all costs.]]> 2022-08-03 17:25:57 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292221 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292243 you are problematic if you encourage engaging in conflict ]]> 2022-08-03 17:26:00 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292243 Avoiding conflict https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292295 2022-08-03 17:26:07 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292295 You'll be punished if you create conflict. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292316 2022-08-03 17:26:10 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292316 conflict is a failure https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292326 2022-08-03 17:26:11 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292326 It's binary - about who is right and who is wrong thisismeha https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292427 2022-08-03 17:26:20 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292427 Silence as the way. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292436 2022-08-03 17:26:21 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292436 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292473 Be the peacemaker]]> 2022-08-03 17:26:25 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292473 Anger that robs me of real self expression https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292511 2022-08-03 17:26:30 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292511 dont engage in arguments because I was young and didnt know what I was saying and respect my elders and stay silent. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292530 2022-08-03 17:26:32 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292530 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292561 how to uphold my values, principles and integrity in conflict 

]]> 2022-08-03 17:26:36 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292561 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292594 I want to unlearn being reactionary during conflict]]> 2022-08-03 17:26:40 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292594 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292619 Conflict is something that is part of life.

We don't have to agree but we need to respect each other's perspective

]]> 2022-08-03 17:26:42 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292619 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292625 Any questioning of conflict is aggression, and most often, those with the loudest voices are the ones that "win". ]]> 2022-08-03 17:26:43 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292625 conflict is always avoidable (very untrue) https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292632 2022-08-03 17:26:44 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292632 How to heal after going through conflict https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292655 2022-08-03 17:26:46 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292655 it is an invitation https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292671 2022-08-03 17:26:48 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292671 How to engage in conflict from a space of choice rather than a space of anger https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292714 2022-08-03 17:26:53 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292714 Conflict is unsettling/upsetting https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292724 2022-08-03 17:26:54 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292724 Holding things in, especially with microaggressions https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292735 2022-08-03 17:26:55 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292735 To avoid conflict and be silent https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292770 2022-08-03 17:27:00 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292770 brittanycastellanos https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292846 Being loudest means your being heard.]]> 2022-08-03 17:27:06 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292846 Conflict is dangerous https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292851 2022-08-03 17:27:07 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292851 I'd like unlearn being ok with lacking repair. I'd like to be able to state more clearly why and how repair would be helpful to my own growth. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292887 2022-08-03 17:27:10 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292887 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292927 I've been taught that I am the peacemaker in my family. It leaves room for others to be in conflict around me, but doesn't leave room for me to be in conflict. Or to have others support me.]]> 2022-08-03 17:27:14 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254292927 conflict should be avoided at all costs https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293004 2022-08-03 17:27:21 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293004 unlearn urgency...wanting to find the peace in honoring the process of repair and others' pace https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293161 2022-08-03 17:27:37 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293161 conflict is scary both at home and in the workplace https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293227 2022-08-03 17:27:45 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293227 learn to listen with the intention to understand another person's point of view. continue to learn to end intentionally harmful conversation instead of remaining silent. lisamsg01 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293266 2022-08-03 17:27:49 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293266 sarcasm https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293308 2022-08-03 17:27:52 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293308 Conflict = rupture that requires repair https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293316 2022-08-03 17:27:53 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293316 I want to normalize that speaking up and engaging in conflict isnt aggressive, but rather staying quiet can present as abuse https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293399 2022-08-03 17:28:02 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293399 the negative/avoiding feeling in my body when I hear "conflict" https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293407 2022-08-03 17:28:02 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293407 scariaga https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293411 white folks, men are given more permission to be angry, activate and name conflict; BIPOC/women are not. 
conflict is something to ignore, brush off. a kind of false peace. ]]> 2022-08-03 17:28:03 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293411 conflict = drama; unnecessary https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293436 2022-08-03 17:28:07 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293436 to be able to sit in conflict and not just jump to try and "solve" it https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293441 2022-08-03 17:28:08 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293441 conflict is ugly/shameful and we don't talk about it after ekyte2 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293453 2022-08-03 17:28:10 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293453 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293462 increase my comfort with nonclosure

]]> 2022-08-03 17:28:11 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293462 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293522 I want to unlearn being defensive when I am accused of doing the wrong thing or harming others.]]> 2022-08-03 17:28:20 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293522 I want to undo the teaching that males need to engage in conflict to have self value/worth https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293595 2022-08-03 17:28:30 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293595 To have language of verbalizing my feelings without attacking another https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293600 2022-08-03 17:28:30 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293600 direct communication does not equal disrespect https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293619 2022-08-03 17:28:32 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293619 feeling like I'm over-reacting https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293624 2022-08-03 17:28:33 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293624 Conflict causes loss - of relationships, of credibility, of respect, of value to others. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293674 2022-08-03 17:28:38 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293674 learn--patience, tools to listen well and address conflict. To avoid fight, flight, freeze responses. How to stay in the moment and in my body. https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293695 2022-08-03 17:28:40 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293695 brittanycastellanos https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293701 Challenging my freeze response during conflict that involves me or a situation where I don't feel confident.]]> 2022-08-03 17:28:41 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293701 swallowing hurt to move on rather than confronting it https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293725 2022-08-03 17:28:44 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293725 that conflict means the end, I want to see it as an opportunity for growth through repair ekyte2 https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293756 2022-08-03 17:28:49 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293756 to create space to engage in conflict without judgement and shame https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293881 2022-08-03 17:29:08 UTC https://padlet.com/RRC2021/88omhf2pumxa2nm2/wish/2254293881