Dare to Lead - SCOE Leadership Book Study by Erin Cross https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead Made with courage and vulnerability en-us 2021-08-26 15:30:09 UTC 2026-03-24 02:13:28 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1707802545 To hear from peers what was helped and not helped them become better leaders.]]> 2021-08-31 18:24:13 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1707802545 https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1707820545 The first 15 pages reminded me of what we do with our children. We want them to be the best they can, so we help them, discipline them and guide them in their path through childhood (and hopefully allow for a two way conversation). I took the reading of how we should lead our subordinates in the same manner, that we should be at a level where they feel comfortable coming to us for help, guidance and even corrections (which are always the harder conversations to have). ]]> 2021-08-31 18:33:11 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1707820545 Daring Leadership Assessment ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726081295 2021-09-08 21:16:48 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726081295 Dare to Lead Podcast ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726082421 2021-09-08 21:17:40 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726082421 Intro pdf ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726095303 2021-09-08 21:27:15 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726095303 ckeckler1 https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726279920 To begin putting into practice that I have read (or heard by listening to the audible book)]]> 2021-09-08 23:49:58 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726279920 Workbook ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726286662 2021-09-08 23:54:09 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1726286662 ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1728567625 To get to know everyone better, and to have great conversations that support our leadership roles. ]]> 2021-09-09 16:07:23 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1728567625 To learn new tools for leading a large, diverse group of educators effectively while increasing their buy in, cooperation and enthusiasm. https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1731289430 2021-09-10 15:51:24 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1731289430 Find balance with leading with compassion and understanding, while still holding staff accountable and teaching them to take pride in being a responsible employee. kzapien https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1731301042 2021-09-10 15:55:56 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1731301042 "The true underlying obstacle to brave leadership is how we respond to our fear...our armor - the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that we use to project ourselves" ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1758311492 Brene will unpack this in the chapters to come. It's worth it to learn to recognize what it feels like in the moment we are "armoring up," and what are the triggers that cause us to do so.]]> 2021-09-21 20:09:56 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1758311492 Permission for Self ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1758585393 What do you need to give yourself permission to do, feel, or not do to show up for the reading group?]]> 2021-09-21 23:49:49 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1758585393 Permission for Others ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1758600572 2021-09-22 00:02:43 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1758600572 Rumble https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760853690 It was very thought provoking to reframe a real conversation as a rumble. I really need to process that term differently- not as a fight with someone else, but a fight with myself to prevent those barriers from getting in the way of truly identifying problems and working through them in a collaborative and creative manner. Open heart and open mind.]]> 2021-09-22 18:14:08 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760853690 To have high level, intelligent discussions about book content. https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760887902 2021-09-22 18:28:47 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760887902 Intro concepts https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760917604 Almost all books on leadership talk about taking responsibility, being willing to have the hard conversations in productive manners, and developing potential in ourselves and those we lead. I have found this to be true: "The barriers and obstacles to daring leadership are real and sometimes fierce "(p 5). Dare I make this next statement? I have found this to be true at SCOE because often people in upper leadership seem highly defensive and even threatened when questioned or challenged. ]]> 2021-09-22 18:41:51 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760917604 What stands in the way... https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760922403 Strong leaders need to lose all defensiveposturing.]]> 2021-09-22 18:44:02 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760922403 Errors https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760944375 Page 9, "When something goes wrong...rush onto ineffective or unsustainable solutions..." It is important for effective leaders to understand that when you dictate a solution and it goes south, you have to take full responsibility. If you involve your team in identifying good solutions, you have the benefit of more perspectives, more ideas, and better outcomes. Good leaders draw on strength and experience of those around them.]]> 2021-09-22 18:53:15 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760944375 The Heart of Leadership https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760958299 Very reminiscent of Scott's book, Fierce Leadership. We are charged with creating safe paces for ourselves, our team members, and our students. Safe space can encourage leadership when taking chances is encouraged. We must shift from holding others accountable to holding ourselves accountable and having others do the same.]]> 2021-09-22 19:00:12 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1760958299 Tami's permission https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761004558 I am giving myself permission to attend these meetings and engage about topics that may be uncomfortable for myself or others.]]> 2021-09-22 19:22:45 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761004558 Permission to not have the answers and ask for guidance from this group. In addition, to have fun and not think of this as another task, but rather a tool for success. https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761007499 From Lety ]]> 2021-09-22 19:24:22 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761007499 Permission for Karen https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761007845 1. To have the courage of my convictions
2. To keep an open mind that there might be something innovative in this book
3.To appreciate that we all come from different environments and have different responsibilities in terms of leadership; therefore we all have different leadership developmental strengths and needs ]]> 2021-09-22 19:24:35 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761007845 Permission for others (Karen) https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761033738 Being prepared
Asking insightful questions
Being truly interested in others' ideas and in learning

]]> 2021-09-22 19:38:49 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761033738 KUDOS bschut https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761072209 Kudos to Deb and Erin for leading this book study! Way to go!!!! 🤩]]> 2021-09-22 20:01:16 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1761072209 Clarity bschut https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1790517887 The section "Not getting clear with a colleague about your expectations because it feels too hard, yet holding them accountable or blaming them for not delivering is unkind" (p.48) hit home with me. I struggle with this as I expect people to be adults and just get stuff done. Understanding people cannot read my mind or expecting them to have my exact same skills/experiences, though, is unkind and something I need to work on.]]> 2021-10-04 18:10:56 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1790517887 https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1790541587 Love the Square Squad idea allowing 1" by 1" really makes you have to think!  (Lisa Henry)]]> 2021-10-04 18:20:41 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1790541587 Rumbling with Vulnerability (Karen) https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1790606975 "trust is earned in the smallest of moments": paying attention and listening

Know whose opinions matter and pay attention to those. The square squad is a nice little exercise to focus on those whose opinions matter. Others (who are quick to judge, condem, etc.) can and should be ignored or put into a compartment with those other things in life that you should not allow to take up time and energy. I have found that people who jump on the judgement wagon usually do not have the courage of their convictions, are often ill- informed, and frequently criticize by circumvention.

Brown frequently writes about what to do to "feel safe" in a conversation.  I think we need to accept that we may not always feel "safe"  in the sense that all parties will come out of a difficult conversation unscathed. ("Safe" proably needs to be defined differently than we typically think about that word. ("Psychological safety does not suggest an absence of pressure of problems.") We still need to pursue those fierce conversations and do that in the most compassionate and ethical way possible. 
I have long struggled with trying to take care of others' emotions- wanting to fix difficult situations. It is very freeing to have learned how NOT to do that and to focus on setting boundaries around behaviors.

]]> 2021-10-04 18:36:41 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1790606975 Bringing your whole self to work ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1811510817 Page 73 addresses the belief that "if we sever the heart (vulnerability and other emotions) from our work, we'll be more productive, efficient, ...easier to manage.  Or, at the very least, we'll be less messy..."
Personally, I'm not a fan of messy. I like tidy. But the assertion that armored cultures kill courage gives me pause. What else do we lose when we kill courage?]]> 2021-10-12 17:22:59 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1811510817 Driving perfectionism and fostering fear of failure and Leading for compliance and control. https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1812085135 I definitely need to work on not feeling disappointed when I make a mistake. Even though I am OK when my staff make an error, they feel "afraid" because they see how hard I am on myself. 
Because our funding is so heavily regulated, I tend to lead my team based on compliance and control; often my staff feel that I scrutinize them.  I need to be cognizant of it to change my style.
Ramona]]> 2021-10-12 21:49:56 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1812085135 vgarnica1 https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1812087887 In the reading for this week, I reflected on the power that words of encouragement and celebration have had in my personal growth and accomplishments. Sometimes we just need a little bit of gratitude and recognition from our leaders to find the courage to put ourselves in vulnerable situations that can add to our success and even challenge us to accomplish tasks we didn't think we were capable of accomplishing.]]> 2021-10-12 21:51:40 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1812087887 Blame (QUICK VIDEO) ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1846113571 When we BLAME, we miss opportunities for EMPATHY.]]> 2021-10-26 19:34:32 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1846113571 I feel really confident in working through issues with staff without blame, but my head jumps straight to blame when my boss calls me in and wants to know what happened. It is not that I want to point fingers, but when fingers are pointed at you, it can be difficult to maintain the strength of character to refrain. https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1849389655 Tami Cervantes]]> 2021-10-27 20:24:41 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1849389655 Understanding how other are feeling and accurately identifying them can be a very tricky task. People manifest their feelings in so many ways, so being patient and really listening is vital to understanding what is happening. https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1849395076 Tami Cervantes]]> 2021-10-27 20:27:45 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1849395076 “We have to cultivate a culture in which brave work, tough conversations, and whole hearts are the expectation, and armor is not necessary or rewarded.” ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1849403963 What is a benefit of cultivating such a culture?  OR

What is a challenge?


]]> 2021-10-27 20:32:15 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1849403963 Benefits and challenges to cultivating a brave culture https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1849513138 A challenge is when you are not able to have a complete trust in your boss/superior/person who has control over your professional life and so you have no faith that if you are honest and brave you will be understood or heard.  So the default position is playing their
game smarter and better.]]> 2021-10-27 21:43:39 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1849513138 Values to Behaviors (self-reflection) ecrossmath https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1877352133 2021-11-09 05:51:52 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1877352133 Which Element of Trust and aligned behavior are you willing to commit to? drowe44 https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1898068452 2021-11-17 22:09:01 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1898068452 I am willing to commit to generosity. While I always try and think the best of people's intentions, I do let those sneaky negative thoughts in and question motives. I will make a concerted effort to stay non-judgemental and generous with my thoughts! https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1898250824 Tami ]]> 2021-11-18 00:45:51 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1898250824 THE DELTA drowe44 https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1921056408 p. 267
"The difference between what we make up about our experiences and the truth we discover through the process of rumbling is where the meaning and wisdom of this experience live."

Oh to be courageous enough to live in bravery and fear simultaneously! When I am on the ledge of great fear I am at the start of something wonderful, keep on walking forward. We got this!]]> 2021-11-30 17:56:26 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1921056408 Words of Wisdom I loved lmendoza97 https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1923589051 "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek"

This hits home to me, as I find myself using the SFD theory and fill in gaps to complete a story.  I must face the fears of the unknown and feel safe that the outcome will be a delight. 
Lety Mendoza]]> 2021-12-01 19:02:31 UTC https://padlet.com/ecrossmath/SCOE_DaretoLead/wish/1923589051