https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17 Do parents have different hopes and standards for their sons than for their daughters? en-us 2016-10-24 16:13:20 UTC 2023-02-25 16:14:17 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/icons/Babyhead.png https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780613 yes, my parents push having kids and starting a family. They tell me I need to marry rich and that my husband should support me. Also when I told my parents I wanted to be an OBGYN my parents told me I wasn't smart enough and I should just marry one. My parents don't promote being in power as a women but my mom is at her job. They also tell me things like I shouldn't wear wedding bands to job interviews and that I shouldn't go out late. They also have a lot more to say about wardrobe.]]> 2016-10-24 17:08:10 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780613 sftahernezhadi https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780890 Yes, in some families, the parents do not allow their daughters to date or they try to avoid it, but if they have a son they do not mind as much. Also, many dads push for their sons to be involved in sports and more hands on activities, but for girls their moms expect them to go shopping or engage in more "feminine" activities. Also, boys are often given more freedom, and parents do not worry about their sons as they do their daughters. This is because boys are viewed and being stronger and able to protect themselves, whereas girls are viewed as fragile. ]]> 2016-10-24 17:08:43 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780890 nkshaw https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780912 Yes, I believe that usually boys feel that they have to make their dad proud by becoming involved in sports. I also feel that boys are expected to fulfill more hands on activities and become involved with more physically demanding activities. Also, in terms of dating I feel like families hold boys and girls up to different standards. As a boy, it's not that big of a deal as long as your mother knows you're treating the girl right. As a girl, your family is much more involved in your relationship and demanding of your whereabouts, how the boy is treating you, etc.]]> 2016-10-24 17:08:45 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780912 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780945 Yes, I feel that even though most of the time their goals for their kids are similar, there are some differences as well. For some activities that their parents signup for it might be different for the other. One might take a self defense class to learn how to fight if needed and the other might take ballet. It might not be meant in a negative way, but their goals are different for the other genders.]]> 2016-10-24 17:08:49 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780945 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780983 yes they are less careful with their sons than the daughters. My parents let my brother do so many more things (stay out later, drink, go places they wouldn't let me, etc.) because he is a guy and I am a girl. My parents are more protective over me than they are over my brother. ]]> 2016-10-24 17:08:53 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780983 arpizzi https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780994 Yes, generally fathers don't care as much about their sons dating, but when it comes to their daughters they are super protective and it is seen as okay to threaten their daughters boyfriend. Also, a the sons wedding day is special, but not as much compared to the daughters wedding day where its very emotional because the dad is seen as "losing" his daughter and he has to give her away.]]> 2016-10-24 17:08:54 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132780994 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781020 2016-10-24 17:08:59 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781020 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781034 For the most part, yes, families have different expectations. They often encourage boys to do sports more often then girls. An example of this is the image of a father throwing a football to his son in their backyard. I feel that girls are expected to excel in school and grades, and also given really strict limitations on how much money they can spend and when they are going out with friends (trips to the mall, etc.).  ]]> 2016-10-24 17:09:01 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781034 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781057 Yes, personally I have a brother and I can definitely see ways that my parents treat me and my brother differently. With chores around the house, I usually wash the dishes and sweep the floor while my brother gets to do chores outside, such as mowing the lawn. Apparently boys are supposed to be more "hands on" and active than girls, who are supposed to be "domestic". My mom is also always telling me how I need to find a nice boyfriend/husband who can support me when we're older. We also talk about boys, and what we like in them. My mom says she likes how my dad gives her a sense of security, because he's taller and fairly strong. ]]> 2016-10-24 17:09:05 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781057 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781075 However I think it depends on the parents. I feel as those who are more traditional expects their sons to be lawyers and bankers and doctors and make a lot of money, whereas they dont expect as much from the women. There are no standards for people who are less traditional in my opinion.]]> 2016-10-24 17:09:07 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781075 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781102 2016-10-24 17:09:10 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781102 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781224 I have never heard of a dad giving the "talk" to his sons new girlfriend or having to "scare some sense into her". Usually its a high five for him and then when his daughter finds a boyfriends it's all about protecting his little girl
Oh and also, the whole "daddies little girl" doesn't really apply to boys ]]> 2016-10-24 17:09:26 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781224 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781318 yes, I think parents expect there sons to be strong a more of a boss or more leadership role, while they expect there daughters to marry and be a good mom or house wife]]> 2016-10-24 17:09:35 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781318 agutierrez21 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781410 2016-10-24 17:09:46 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781410 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781419 2016-10-24 17:09:47 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781419 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781540 2016-10-24 17:10:01 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781540 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781596 Yes a perfect example would be what they expect out of their school work. girls are supposed to be smarter so they will expect more but guys are kinda just there, they will most likely expect less]]> 2016-10-24 17:10:08 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781596 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781902 Parents seem to be more protective of daughters. There is the stereotypical father that threatens the boyfriend before the first date. With boys they just kind of throw them out into the world and expect a lot of them. More men go into hands on jobs then women because some families encourage either holding back the women or pushing the men to do more "difficult" jobs. With current rape statistics, of course families are going to be more protective of their daughters.]]> 2016-10-24 17:10:45 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781902 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781978 I believe there is a same of arcing goal, but there are different subgoals depending on the kid.]]> 2016-10-24 17:10:55 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132781978 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782057 Yes, sons are seen as someone that a father can pass down his knowledge to, whereas daughters are seen as someone that a mother can teach about femininity. Girls are taught what's proper and polite, and boys are taught whatever their fathers want to teach them. As an only child, I received knowledge about makeup and manners from my mother, however, I also learned about nature, music, and economics from my father.]]> 2016-10-24 17:11:05 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782057 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782588 Yes parents seem to be more protective of the girls and let the boys kind of do whatever. Also from a young age I think that the parents set different types of standards for the boys and the girls]]> 2016-10-24 17:12:13 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782588 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782629 2016-10-24 17:12:19 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782629 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782696 Usually, although it depends on the parent. In most cases, boys are expected to go outside and play in the dirt or something, and girls are expected to look nice 

]]> 2016-10-24 17:12:28 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782696 https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782781 Sometimes parents try to make the kids they want. An example is when there isn't a masculine boy in the family, the girl, or one of them, kind of takes after her father or maybe even takes into some masculine tendencies. My brother isn't too much of a boys boy, so once my dad wrote in a letter that he had always treated me like he would want to treat a son and he thanked me for being the son he never really had. (I was and am very outdoorsy and boyish) ]]> 2016-10-24 17:12:34 UTC https://padlet.com/ssullivan13/6e6nwu5eoa17/wish/132782781