https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo Made with no regrets, whatsoever en-us 2018-05-14 17:45:42 UTC 2018-05-21 15:02:22 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/icons/Bigthunderstorm.png gwynethfiggs1 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261456822 The author explains how what we want to say and what we really say are different as when we say "yes" just because its easier than explaining 'why not' although our body language says differently. ]]> 2018-05-17 04:52:45 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261456822 gwynethfiggs1 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261457815 It got me that women didn't back out in the middle of it (called "'the place of no return"')just because the let fear, shame, and guilt take over.]]> 2018-05-17 05:02:10 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261457815 gwynethfiggs1 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261459506 Evidence that the author had was a personal experience of "' no return"' when she was 19 with a guy in his 30s and let it happen cause she wasn't able to back out. The article was convincing because it had examples and facts to back it all up.]]> 2018-05-17 05:17:34 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261459506 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261654054 The girls have problem saying no. when girls say yes somethings they mean no. There a thing they say in the article and it named place of no return this mean when it to late for a girls to say no. ]]> 2018-05-17 16:24:03 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261654054 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261655977 The point of this article is girls saying yes when it mean no. This does not challenge my beliefs because it sounds truth of yes means no, but sometime yes can mean yes.]]> 2018-05-17 16:28:40 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261655977 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261657881 2018-05-17 16:33:22 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261657881 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261657990 male use to inforce women to have sex.]]> 2018-05-17 16:33:40 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261657990 jailinejaquez https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261658099 The author said people said there is a lot of dont understand  Sexual assault  and how it being brushed off for some kind of attention because no one knows whats hidden in closed doors and neither the victim will tell anyone about it.]]> 2018-05-17 16:33:55 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261658099 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261658341 That girls should stand up to men]]> 2018-05-17 16:34:31 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261658341 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261775384
1. The author explains how in situations, it is easier to sometimes say yest than no, when you are in the middle of something. As they call it the "No return". She then later goes on discussing how what yes really means no, and if it is not voiced directly, and she is trying to say no, she means no.
2. "the situation you thought you wanted, or maybe you actually never wanted, but somehow here you are and it’s happening and you desperately want out, but you know that at this point exiting the situation would be more difficult than simply lying there and waiting for it to be over." (Bennett, 1). I relate to this in real life school situations. An example being, in a situation when a group of friends want to hang out with you, but you really want to be alone. At the same time you don't want to seem like a downer so you think "might as well hang out with them it wont be forever" kind of situation, so your no becomes a yes.
3. A paragraph in Bennetts article explains such situations, "Sometimes “yes” means “no,” simply because it is easier to go through with it than explain our way out of the situation. Sometimes “no” means “yes,” because you actually do want to do it, but you know you’re not supposed to lest you be labeled a slut. And if you’re a man, that “no” often means “just try harder” — because, you know, persuasion is part of the game" (Bennett, 6). This paragraph gives a god insight in the minds of women and how people can sometimes misinterpret things. How we are wired without knowing to sometimes not be outspoken or not be understanding.  -Lennon ]]> 2018-05-18 00:45:40 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261775384 hieb_makayla https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261776130 1. Marche's overall opinion of sexual harassment is that it stems from men's lack of understanding surrounding equality and sexual desire.
2. I disagreed with some of the points in this article because they seemed to make men out to be horribly ignorant individuals who are not capable of empathy. With that said, I did agree with the idea that, in order for a problem to be solved, we must actually address it and learn from it. 
3. I honestly do not think this article contains enough evidence to be "credible" per say, but I do think that the opinions can be very valuable to the discussion around sexual harassment. ]]> 2018-05-18 00:51:10 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261776130 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261777289 1. In this article, Goleman explains how rape is used in a form of fear, and argues that fear is a source of power towards someone. He then later goes on saying that men would sometimes feel intimidated by a female co-worker, because she is seen as not the typical "female". In a way he explains is a way he asserts his dominance in these situations. 
2. What resonates with me is that I can understand the women in these situations. They don't want to come off as rude, and don't wish to lose their jobs. Often times people think they are making these situations up. As Goleman states "Another reason most women who are sexually harassed remain silent is that "women feel a responsibility to be emotional managers of relationships and often want to keep things friendly," said Antonio Abbey, a psychologist at Wayne State University" (Goleman, 26). 
3. "We find that close to 90 percent of women who have been sexually harassed want to leave, but can't because they need their job," said Dr. Paludi" (Goleman, 24). This quote pretty much sums up the way women deal and feel controlled in these situations. Either complain and lose your jobs, or "suck it up" to keep it. -Lennon ]]> 2018-05-18 01:00:06 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261777289 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261777413 leo
1. The author claims that the root causes for sexual harassment are the faded borders between "yes" and "no". "Sometimes “yes” means “no,” simply because it is easier to go through with it than explain our way out of the situation. Sometimes “no” means “yes,” because you actually do want to do it, but you know you’re not supposed to lest you be labeled a slut."
2. The points that I resonated with  were the following:
-The border between "yes" and "no" is faded in some situations
-Consent is something that should happen naturally
3. "And most of what society tells us — when it comes to women and sex, anyway — is wrapped in dangerously outdated gender norms." This argument claims that the expectation and perception of ourselves is highly influenced by people around us, and therefore the border between "yes" and "no" is faded.]]> 2018-05-18 01:01:10 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261777413 hieb_makayla https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261778177 1. The author did not make any explicit remarks about the connection between gender roles and sexual harassment, but it can be assumed by the stance of the author that objectifying behaviors on the part of males is the "cause" of sexual harassment.
2. Seeing all of the statistics about gender roles and gender expression based on societal expectations really resonated with me. When I work with my preschoolers, we are trained to give each student an equal opportunity. Each child should have an equal number of experiences that help them to develop their emotional intelligence and problem solving skills. It really saddens me to see and hear that not all people are receiving these opportunities. 
3. The author provided several credible research studies and statistics to support their argument about gender-based inequalities and similarities (in fact, I think it was a little too statistic-heavy.) This article is definitely credible for this reason.]]> 2018-05-18 01:06:59 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261778177 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261779044
1. This article ties in with the "Its about power not lust" theme. Both discuss how sex is used as a form of control and power. It also ties in the article "When saying yes is easier than saying no" in the sense that things can be misinterpreted. 
2. There is no one response to sexual assault. A trauma victim can as easily appear calm or flat as distraught or overtly angry" (Dewan 11). It annoys me that people assume that if a women does not fight back she is seen as someone who was not involved in an sexual act, she is faking her situation. I especially hate the term when "she asked for it" when the rapist bases it off the clothes she is wearing. It does not make it acceptable to do these acts to anyone. 
3. "Offenders encourage confusion and shame and exploit people’s reluctance to identify themselves as victims" (Dewan). At this point the accusation of rape is always targeted on the victim. making it seem like it was their fault, thus not allowing them to speak out. After being through such a traumatic event, it is hard to relive the past and they start to develop these conclusions that they deserved being sexually embarrassed, abused and raped. -Lennon ]]> 2018-05-18 01:12:26 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261779044 hieb_makayla https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261780802 1. The author makes the claim that sexual assault and harassment can often stem from unclear boundaries between "yes" and "no" and the serious misconceptions many people have surrounding consent.
2.  I am so glad someone finally wrote this article. Boy, oh, boy, this article spoke so much truth, in my opinion. I can not even begin to describe how passionate I am about this because I have seen girl after girl regret her encounters with partners (specifically with males) because they were too scared to say "no". I also think it is important to note, though, that women also tend to assume that all men are consenting to sexual behaviors even though they have not consented either. As a whole society and culture, we must become more communicative and respectful of one another. Body language is a mind-maze, and assumptions "make an ass out of you and me", as my mom says, so verbal consent is the way to go. Always. 
3. This article really resonated with me, so I am a bit biased. I think this article contained enough substantial evidence to be deemed credible.]]> 2018-05-18 01:23:01 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261780802 alyssabackus https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261782985 This article talks about how a lot of women are taken disadvantage of in male dominated work offices.]]> 2018-05-18 01:36:57 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261782985 alyssabackus https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261784551 This article was about how women were talked about when they were not around so they didn't know that men were talking about them. Also it talked about how women were treated on wall street because it was male dominate]]> 2018-05-18 01:48:35 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261784551 alyssabackus https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261785028 This article talks about all the sexual harassment cases against Hollywood actors like Harvey Weinstein. Also how women were the first people to accuse actors of harassment.]]> 2018-05-18 01:51:55 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261785028 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261786733 Leo
1.  The author claims that the root cause of sexual harassment is power. Furthermore, the reason why men don't participate in changing anything about that is because "it feels really good to be the in-crowd". "Men have been inculcated by dads and coaches with an ideal of masculinity and male bonding that includes, and even revolves around, the objectification of women."
2. "When we dehumanize people in conversation, we give permission for them to be degraded in other ways as well. "
We have to be aware of the sexism that is going on in our life and speak up against it. I highly agree with the author because he says that we all have to do our part in order to fix this problem. No more objectification, no more exploitation of power, and especially, no more actions based on social expectations.
3."What we need is something simpler: individuals speaking up and challenging norms, especially when it’s uncomfortable. So far, women have done the heavy lifting. They’ve written the articles, filed the lawsuits and raised awareness. Men rarely do or say anything. Why not? Because it feels really good to be in the in-crowd." The authors evidence is substantial because it describes exactly what is going on. I can confirm all his claims by just observing the world around me.

]]> 2018-05-18 02:02:33 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261786733 kaila_trujillo https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261803127 1. The writer has made the point that the idea of consent from both genders is a bit of a grey area, and thing can either be misinterpreted or, true feelings are not truly spoken.
2. Whay I find really challenging is the fact that, it is still a hard thing to "understand" the difference between yes and no. As children we all learned this stuff, also to ask before taking so I don't get why it's such huge misunderstanding about it being consent or not, just ask. 
3." Which seems to make a lot of sense, given the fact that, in heterosexual relationships, anyway, men and women have wildly different understanding of consent." ]]> 2018-05-18 04:05:07 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261803127 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261809084 1. The women in this pretty much say they think its easier to just say yes and that it is way more complicated to say the reason why you said no.
2. the part that challenged my beliefs is that there is never a place of no return because if you arent comfortable you should and can always say something.
3.the author kind of used her own experiences for everything and since its her experiences its credible.
-Jacob Martinez

]]> 2018-05-18 05:11:25 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261809084 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261810222 1.the authors explanation was pretty much how the reason that sexual harassment is that men do not understand the  equality and urge for sexual activities.
2. The points in this article are disagreeable to my opinions because this article just makes it seem like men are worse than they actually are and it seems very biased. 
3. the article doesnt really have a lot of evidence to be creditable at all but maybe if you are looking for something to connect with.
-Jacob Martinez]]> 2018-05-18 05:29:22 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261810222 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261812043 1. The article talks about mostly how men feel the need to be dominant in the workplace and they have to dominate over the women co workers so they seem the most powerful.
2. I agree with this article because it is true. sexual harassment does happen a lot in office work spaces and it is not okay at all and is still a bad issue.
3. This is a credible article just because this thing is common in the work place and that is a very bad thing because it should not even be a thing.
-Jacob Martinez ]]> 2018-05-18 05:51:54 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261812043 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261813101 1. In this article, the other speaks about the issues she has as a professional in a world that is dominated by men, and not just any men, men that are motivated by two things: money, and power. 

2. Many of these points resinate heavily with me, as I am aspiring to go into this industry (either prop. trading, managing investment portfolios, analysis for a hedge-fund, etc.) , and the facts brought up in this article is part of the reason I'm very hesitant to get into this industry. Although I'm not a women, I couldn't imagine being in an environment where this isn't only "normal", but encouraged. 

3. In this text, the author cites several real world experiences she had with higher ups in her field, the author is very credible because she is a first person source. 

- Elliot M. Davis]]> 2018-05-18 06:04:25 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261813101 kaila_trujillo https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261815311 1. They talk about how sexual harassment/ assault can be a misconception.
2.i don't agree, yet with all of the reports that are coming out, it may seem like it's just a publicity stunt. 
3." The public and the police vastly overestimated the incidence of false reports: the most solid, case-by-case examination say the only 5 to 7% of sexual assault reports are false".]]> 2018-05-18 06:20:30 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261815311 kaila_trujillo https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261818048 1. They didn't give an explicit example of why sexual harassment/assault may happen. Other when they had spoken about the pressure of their higher ups doing it, a study had said that they felt like they had to do it as well. 
2. They had made it seem like us as humans are not able to control yourself, and that 'monkey see, monkey do' type of scenario.
3." The workplace is the one area in which a majority of men and women said the sexes we're more alike than different in terms of what they were good at: 63% of respondents said men and women excelled at the same things at work, while 37% said they were good at different things. 
The survey results also shed light on some root causes of sexual harassment and discrimination. Nearly half of men, and 57% of men ages 18 to 36, said they felt pressure to join in when other men talk about women in a sexual way."]]> 2018-05-18 06:35:06 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261818048 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261834706 roger
1. The authors overall argument for how sexual harassment in wall street undermines and prevents women to rising up higher in the company and how this will always be as long as we allow it to happen.
2. The article gave a lot insight to what happens in the stock market and how discouraging it must be to work in an environment like that, she describes a work place with no boundaries ]]> 2018-05-18 08:00:19 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261834706 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261940025 1. This article states that men sexually harass women partially to "assert" their dominance over the women that are working for/with them. 

2. The author brings up many good points in this article, but one that resonated with me is the fact that men feel insecure that women are "taking over" their work place, so, they offset that insecurity by sexually abusing said women.

3. The author brings up first person sources, she interviewed people about their experiences. It would've been better (for credibility's sake) if she was the first person source, but this is the next best thing. 

- Elliot M. Davis ]]> 2018-05-18 14:37:15 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261940025 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261941568 1) society makes so when women are in a sexual situation that they may not want, saying yes to having sex with them poses less problems than saying no would.
2) at the end of the article, talks about what some of her male friends say about the topic and they basically say that men in this country are groomed to think that "no is negotiable"
3) the author mostly gives personal evidence, but to most women its pretty clear that all of us deal with some kind of "gray area sex" at some point in our lives. ]]> 2018-05-18 14:40:56 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261941568 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261942233 In How wall street bro talk keeps women down I read  that this perspective is from a women and when she was righting it you could tell that she was disgusted like she felt that she did not was to be by these type of men but it was work so she had to.  ]]> 2018-05-18 14:42:33 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261942233 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261947412 1) the author says that harassment in the work place is rooted in a power structure in which women are not invited so they are seen as invading a masculine space
2) i think that it makes a lot of sense that men feel like they need to show their dominance to women by sexually harassing them
3) the author gives a lot of statistics and she quotes psychologists who are experts on the topic ]]> 2018-05-18 14:55:14 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/261947412 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/262022947 1. The author's overall argument about the root causes of sexual harassment is that by continuing to allow men to degrade women and allowing young boys to learn from these men, we are doing nothing to help the issue of sexual harassment.
2. The point that resonates with me the most is what men are saying behind closed doors, because I am worried that myself or my other women friends may have been the subject in conversation. What challenges my beliefs is that the author is basically putting all men into this category and I don't believe that all men are the way the author describes.
3. The evidence that the author gives is their own personal experiences in the subject in question. I don't know if the info is credible because it is from their own life experiences, however it is very eye opening into how women are talked about on a daily basis.]]> 2018-05-18 18:29:45 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/262022947 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/262031545 1. The author's overall argument about the root causes of sexual harassment are that if someone wants to engage in sex with someone they must first confirm with their partner that they give complete consent before  actually engaging in sex.
2. What resonate with me the most id that so many women just have sex even if they don't want to just because it is easier than saying "no". Nothing in this article really challenges my beliefs because consent, especially in sexual situations is extremely important.
3. The evidence that the author gives about consent are from people that are experts on the subject, therefore the evidence is reliable and credible.]]> 2018-05-18 18:57:35 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/262031545 https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/262038156 1. The author's overall argument about the root causes of sexual harassment is that some men in the work force use threats against their women coworkers in order get the women to have sex with them or to get sexual favors out of them. The threats may be to fire them, or make work more difficult for them.
2. The point that resonates with me the most is that, men with often ask women out to lunch or dinner to "discuss work", but that doesn't end up being the case. He ends up trying to talk about her personal life rather than work. Nothing challenges my beliefs in this article.
3. The author uses studies and statistics to support their argument. The studies seemed to be from reliable sources making this article credible.]]> 2018-05-18 19:26:25 UTC https://padlet.com/mstobie/metoo/wish/262038156