https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p List 2 different adult behaviors and 1 student behaviors that push your buttons and negatively impact your environment and/or learning community. Identify the feelings that you have when adults exhibit these behaviors. Identify the impact that those feelings have on your relationship with these adults. How do you manage the emotions or behaviors? en-us 2018-01-10 16:47:27 UTC 2025-11-08 12:22:25 UTC hello@padlet.com jamesnevarez3 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/374998261 1. disrespect
2. Failure to give best effort



]]> 2019-08-16 12:48:23 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/374998261 jamesnevarez3 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375000207 1. I get angry and i don't trust that individual anymore
2. I get frustrated and don't necessarily understand how people don't give their all]]> 2019-08-16 12:58:26 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375000207 jamesnevarez3 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375001606 1. I am withdrawn and circumvent those people
2. I will not delegate to those individuals]]> 2019-08-16 13:05:08 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375001606 jamesnevarez3 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375001931 1. I have to realize that not everyone jokes like I do or has a filter.  This doesn't excuse the behavior.  In addition, I cannot take things personal.]]> 2019-08-16 13:06:42 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375001931 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375091802 Adults: 
1. Complaining about decisions I've made instead of talking to me and being open to solving the issue together.
2. Using my space as storage.

Students:
1. Blurting comments]]> 2019-08-16 18:26:58 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375091802 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375091875 1.  When they want me to stop everything to fix something that I've already told them how to fix/put in a workorder for.  
2.  People who are never happy/satisfied with anything...they don't like anything they never have anything nice to say.

Kids: When they won't try.]]> 2019-08-16 18:27:14 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375091875 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375091905 Adults
1. Laziness
2. Being inconsiderate of others

Student
1. apathy/lack of effort]]> 2019-08-16 18:27:18 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375091905 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092094 Adult
1. Helplessness
2. Unwillingness to do what is necessary

Student
1. Uncompromising]]> 2019-08-16 18:27:53 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092094 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092302 Adults
1. Not considerate of time
2. Not listening

Students
1. Disrespect]]> 2019-08-16 18:28:41 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092302 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092509 1. I get aggravated and annoyed with people that I perceive as lazy or unwilling to pull their own weight.
2. I get frustrated with people are inconsiderate. It makes me feel like I am not valued or important.]]> 2019-08-16 18:29:16 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092509 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092572 Adult
1. Unreliability
2. Untrustworthiness

Student
1. Showing little to no effort]]> 2019-08-16 18:29:26 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092572 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092913 1.Disregard for others’ efforts
2. Rudeness
1.  Insubordination ]]> 2019-08-16 18:30:25 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092913 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092991 It makes me not want to help them.
Anger]]> 2019-08-16 18:30:39 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375092991 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093037 I have next to zero desire to attempt to help someone who is not even willing to meet me part way.]]> 2019-08-16 18:30:48 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093037 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093160 I find it harder to talk with them or give 100% to helping them fix their issues]]> 2019-08-16 18:31:12 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093160 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093399 1.  I don't want to help people that are lazy if they aren't willing to work hard and at least meet me halfway. I tend to lose respect for them and avoid them.

2. I find it difficult to develop a meaningful relationship with people that are inconsiderate. I am less willing to help them. ]]> 2019-08-16 18:32:00 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093399 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093409 1.  Makes me feel that they think they and their needs trump anything I am doing and that aside from serving them I have no value. It also makes me less responsive when they really have issues because I'm already annoyed.
2.  I get frustrated with constant negativity.  If you don't like EVERYTHING MAYBE IT'S YOU!

Kids: Super frustrated...I can help you learn if you make an effort.  Effort is everything.]]> 2019-08-16 18:32:02 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093409 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093523 Adults
1. Standing around when I'm working diligently
2. Not using common sense
Kids
1. Being mean to other kids]]> 2019-08-16 18:32:28 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093523 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093567 1. My feelings toward that person change and I decide I don’t want to really associate with that person unless I really need to.

2. I don’t trust that person has my best interest ]]> 2019-08-16 18:32:38 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093567 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093626 Don't gossip about them. Think about their students and work hard to help them. Have a face-to-face conversation if necessary.]]> 2019-08-16 18:32:51 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093626 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093782 Adult
1.  I get angry and become impatient.
2.  I get angry and hurt.

Student
1.  I get impatient and frustrated.]]> 2019-08-16 18:33:27 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093782 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093803 1. I tend to try to stay away from people that I perceive as lazy or inconsiderate.
2. When I am unable to avoid them, I keep in mind that I am a professional, and I treat them with respect. 
3. I have also worked on being more assertive by expressing how their behaviors made me feel.]]> 2019-08-16 18:33:32 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093803 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093962 Adults
1. frustration (i.e. I feel overworked and they have time to stand around)
2. frustration 
Kids
1. angry/sorrowful--depends on situation]]> 2019-08-16 18:34:05 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375093962 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094006 1. It can be uncomfortable to be around them and makes talking to them or working with them not seem genuine ]]> 2019-08-16 18:34:15 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094006 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094063 Adults
1. rudeness
2. laziness

Students
1. Ignoring adults talking to them]]> 2019-08-16 18:34:28 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094063 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094136 1. when people disregard the procedures I have put in place in the library 
2. Laziness

1. disrespect]]> 2019-08-16 18:34:45 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094136 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094312 I make assumptions about people's prerogatives which impacts my willingness to offer help or assistance. ]]> 2019-08-16 18:35:35 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094312 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094484 Adults
1. rudeness--makes me feel like angry
2.  laziness--frustration

Students
Ignoring--confrontational]]> 2019-08-16 18:36:12 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094484 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094497 1.  Weaker collaborative efforts.
2.  I avoid them.

3. At first I work harder to win over students who won't try, but after a while I get worn down and don't go the extra mile.]]> 2019-08-16 18:36:16 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094497 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094557 Assume best intentions as often as possible. Understand that people have bad days and get frustrated. Also I personally know how relieving 'giving up' on something can be.]]> 2019-08-16 18:36:28 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094557 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094577 It makes me question why I spend so much of my own time trying to organize and prepare for others.
If someone is totally rude, it makes me feel  like I don’t want to help them.
With kids who are insubordinate, I have a tendency to lose my patience.]]> 2019-08-16 18:36:32 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094577 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094602 Adults
1. don't want them around if I am busy
2. try to help
Kids
1. makes me step in usually and intervene...because the way we treat others is THE important thing]]> 2019-08-16 18:36:36 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094602 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094627 1. I feel frustrated that my efforts at organization are disregarded
2. I feel appalled that people feel like it's ok to spend a day at work without doing any actual work ]]> 2019-08-16 18:36:41 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094627 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094918 I tend to act like it doesn’t matter that much in front of that particular person that are causing my frustrations and will still act “normal” and later will tell a trusted person my true feelings... but if it’s a constant feeling and I will need to work/see this person on the regular then I will ask to have a convo with them and see what’s going on and if we can resolve issues ]]> 2019-08-16 18:37:44 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094918 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094924 Adult
1.  I stop asking them for help and take on the task myself.
2.  I avoid the person and harbor bad feelings about them. 

Student
1. I try to get closer to the student to try to figure out the reason he/she is unmotivated.]]> 2019-08-16 18:37:46 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375094924 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095083 1.  I have emails that are prewritten when I'm not irritated to send out to people to remind them how to do what they want me to do that I can't/won't do for them, that keeps me from becoming defensive and irritated.
2. I try to leave the situation or point out the sunshine in their situation.  I don't mean that I never complain (ha ha) but there's a time and a place and time to focus on the good.

Kids: I try to find what will make them want to try with positive attention, then with negative attention. Mostly I try to find what will motivate them.]]> 2019-08-16 18:38:18 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095083 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095193 1. sometimes i just brush it off and sometimes I will confront the person  
2. I distance myself from lazy people]]> 2019-08-16 18:38:43 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095193 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095544 Adults
1. Take a break
2. breathe/channel patience
Kids
1. I try to calm my anger and intervene]]> 2019-08-16 18:40:02 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095544 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095557 1.  Xanax
2. I have learned how to keep my cool over the years.

]]> 2019-08-16 18:40:04 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095557 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095621 1.  Rudeness--I may not be as helpful as I normally am.
2.  Laziness--Passive agressiveness kicks in

Students
Ignoring--Confrontational]]> 2019-08-16 18:40:18 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095621 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095864 Adult
1. I take deep breaths and try not to talk to them like a child.
2.  I stew and overthink the situation.  Sometimes I cry.

Student
1. I take deep breaths and reflect before saying anything.]]> 2019-08-16 18:41:16 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375095864 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375096033 With rude adults I try to remember that they may be having a bad day. Depending on the situation I may ask if they ned to talk.
With kids I  have to remind myself to have more patience with them. I don’t necessarily know what they are going through.]]> 2019-08-16 18:41:58 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375096033 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375096372 Try to take a step back and think about what I should say or not say.]]> 2019-08-16 18:43:23 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375096372 https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375096927 I tend to stay away from the rude people or if I must deal with them , it is short and sweet.
The lazy people tend to get more work or passive aggressive attention.

I tend to stay away from the kids who ignore me.]]> 2019-08-16 18:45:53 UTC https://padlet.com/jamesnevarez3/5ow016odk62p/wish/375096927