https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf Please type your quote sandwich paragraph. en-us 2017-11-14 18:18:48 UTC 2019-05-28 14:23:08 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883676 The article "Affairs Are Only Humans, Which Is No Excuse To Have One." Luscombe discusses the relationships be hide lovers and there cheating affairs. She talks about Ester Perel's argument that cheating is bad, and that people should not judge one another if they are trying to fix their relationship. According to Perel "Is breaking up an otherwise happy family because its creators are sexually incompatible really better for everyone than having a side lover?"  (Perel,18) She is asking do you think cheating is the way to go? Will it effect you're love one, and how bad? Monogamy is impossibly some say, but if you truly love this person then it's easier then ever. If you truly love this person you'll find another way to work out you'll relationship problems without having to cheat.]]> 2017-11-14 18:21:35 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883676 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883728 In Belinda Luscombe Article “Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One,” she talks about the act of cheating on one's significant other and sights Esther Pearl on  weather it's okay to do so or not if they're willing to still put in the work to fix the relationship. In the article Luscombe states, “ As parents tell their kids, whether you hit your friend by accident or deliberately, it still stings pretty much the same.”(Luscombe, 18.). This sentence is stating a warning  to teach that whether your attempts were on purpose or if it was a subtle accident they can hurt all the same in the end. This goes the same for cheating whether you did it to hurt the other or not it stings the same, but monogamy doesn't happen by accident this is the effect of one person putting their thoughts above the others and doing what they want ignoring the consequence that will follow their bad decision.

]]> 2017-11-14 18:21:39 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883728 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883851 In Belinda Luscombe’s article “Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One,” Luscombe discusses why humans have affairs. She discusses Esther Perel’s claim that being married to someone is correct, people should not judge one another if they are trying to save their relationship with their loved one.  According to Luscombe, "The simple question at the heart of committing to somebody till death is whether you can value that person's needs ahead of your own" (Luscombe, 18). In Luscombe’s overthinking mind, maybe being married to someone is not what others want or see for themselves in the future and that all people need to think of themselves. If one person truly wanted to be who they were with in the first place of love, they would put all their effort into staying together or finding another way into solving the relationship without having to cheat. ]]> 2017-11-14 18:21:54 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883851 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883858 The Article "Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One" is written by Belinda Luscombe , is about why some people feel the need to have an affair. While Luscombe talks about the betrayal of an affair she raises some questions about some peoples morals and how they feel after they have an affair. According to Luscombe "Sometimes when we seek the gaze of another, its not our partner we are turning away from, but the person we have become." ( Luscombe,18). Maybe she is trying to say you are not only betraying our partner but also yourself. You are betraying your beliefs and what you stand for, and that might even be worse than the affair itself. Be true to yourself, your partner, and believe in your morals to stop something like that from happening. Having an affair doesn't solve your marriage problems, so why do it?

]]> 2017-11-14 18:21:55 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883858 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883859 In Belinda Luscombe' s article "Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One," the author is discussing why people cheat on others. Esther Perel's claims on having an affair with someone other than one partner is ok. People shouldn't judge other people that have cheated on another person in their life while putting in effort to save their relationship. Those who cheat may think that it's OK, but someone who is with that person; may think that it's not OK. "No, monogamy is not natural. But neither is decoding the genome or auto racing, and nobody thinks we should abandon those endeavors." ( Luscombe, 18.) The way that the she thinks of monogamy; is the fact that that people do it all the time. The reason being that nobody is perfect, but they are different. Her statement, "A failure of fidelity can be less an opportunity,"  stands out to me. Not all mistakes are forgiven, so choose your actions very carefully.]]> 2017-11-14 18:21:55 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883859 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883903 In Luscombe's article "Affairs are only Human, Which is No Excuse to have one ," Luscombe discusses about marriages and affairs and on how affairs causes divorces. She state in her article "In the intervening  quarter century the number of people who think it should be easier to divorce rose by a third." Shows that having affairs is wrong no matter if it's human nature or not. Luscombe does prove some good points about it in her article she wrote "Most couples therapists encourage  more interpersonal honesty and harmony as a way to juice up boudoir ardor." But this also prove that if a person have to do this to keep a marriage alive shows that they aren't right for each other and need to go and find someone else that is the right one. Instead of going out and "juicing up boudoir ardor." 

]]> 2017-11-14 18:21:59 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883903 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883918 In Belinda Luscombe's article "Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One". Luscombe describes people who cheat may need a second chance with their ex cause it was a mistake, as she discusses Esther Perel's statement that while monogamy is morally correct, people should not judge one who cheated on another and if they still put the effort in on that relationship. If you truly loved one another, they would stay committed to that man or woman and not cheat on them. In my mind if someone cheats on you once they will do it again so it is most likely best to let that person go. " A tigers stripes never change " which is stating that the person you are with the will never change .]]> 2017-11-14 18:22:01 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206883918 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206884096 In Belinda Luscombe's Article "Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One," Luscombe discuses the definition of marriage and the importance of being married. The true definition of marriage has changed. People should not judge someone for cheating if they are putting in the effort to save the marriage. If one person truly loved their significant other, they would try to pick up the broken pieces and put them back together to save the marriage.  This is what Esther Perel believes however, if you truly loved your partner in the first place there should be no reason for you to cheat on your significant other. As in the essay it states "Whether you hit your friend on accident or deliberately, it still stings pretty much the same." (Luscombe, 18). This is stating that whether you wanted to cheat or didn't want to it's still going to hurt your partner. It will sting no matter the circumstance but, it's whether you can show how much you love them and care for them after that matters. ]]> 2017-11-14 18:22:17 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206884096 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206884109 In Belinda Luscombe's atricle, "affairs are only human which is not excuse to have one" , she discusses infedelity. Many couples cheat on each other. This doesn't mean you should do the same. Esther Perel says "that satisfying one's sexual hungers is understandable. This implies that it's OK to cheat on your spouse. It's not OK. It goes against all morals. Imagine how that would make your spouse feel. Imagine how you should feel, you just internationally sinned. This concept is wrong on every level]]> 2017-11-14 18:22:18 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206884109 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206884639 According to Belinda Luscome, most people Avoid a question. " The simple question at heart of committing to somebody till death is weather you can value that persons needs ahead of your own." As said by Belinda on page 18 in her article The View, she is she is defining the issue of peoples ability to handle someone else's needs before your own? In a relationship, it take two people to make a happy, working relationship. But in a affair it leads to not trusting the one whom did the affair. It is not fair for the one who was cheated on to deal with the pain that the other is caused over their own needs. Affairs is not something that shouldn't be forgiven. ]]> 2017-11-14 18:23:10 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206884639 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206886186 In Luscombe's article "Affairs Are Only Human, Which is No Excuse to Have One", she talks about what leads up to affairs and puts a boundary between people in a relationship. Of course not all the situations are the same, but usually the person who commits the affair, never started out wanting it to happen. Esther Perel says "Sometimes we seek the gaze of another, it's not our partner we are turning away from, but the person we have become". So who is the person that we have become? Have we become selfish? Luscombe states "The simple question at the heart of committing to somebody till death is whether you can value that persons needs ahead of your own."(Perel,18). For many the answer is no. However there will be times when we will "spin out...but decide to keep aiming for the checkered flag." (Luscombe,18). Once we learn to put others needs ahead of our own, and respect yourself and your partner. Then you will be able to live a long and prosperous relationship with a spouse.]]> 2017-11-14 18:25:49 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206886186 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206886305 In the Time Magazine Article, "Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One"  Linda Luscombe discusses Ester Perel's claim about  how it is not okay to cheat on your partner especially if you wanted to work the relationship out with said partner, even though being with one person isn't for everyone.She said that three quarters of Americans believed to have sex with someone other than their marriage partner" (Luscombe,17) But, no matter what you shouldn't cheat on the person you are supposed to be with forever.But If you end up cheating, you should have the chance to get the partner's trust back. But you should you really though? Because, if you feel like you have to cheat on someone whom who you are with and supposed to be with until death do you part just to satisfy your own sexual needs, then why be with that said person?  If you truly loved someone you wouldn't of hurt them no matter the circumstances.]]> 2017-11-14 18:26:05 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206886305 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206886416 " In Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One."Having an affair is something that is by choice. No you should not do it because of the fact that it could ruin family's and or the relationship. Luscombe says " Is breaking up an otherwise happy family because its creators are sexually incompatible really better for everyone than having a secret side lover." (Luscombe 18)Then why do it if they know something will happen to break up the connection within the family? Is it really worth it? Most people who have an affair don't usually have affairs but occasionally do betray their families, but betray themselves.]]> 2017-11-14 18:26:15 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206886416 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206905150 In Belinda Luscombe's Article, "Affairs Are Only Human, Which is no Excuse to Have one," she explains human affairs. It is said that it is not ok to cheat on your partner. Luscombe stated that " No, monogamy is not natural, but neither is decoding genomes or auto racing, and nobody thinks we should abandon these endeavors." ]]> 2017-11-14 18:55:46 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206905150 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206905861 In the article “Affairs Are Only Which Is No Excuse To Have One” the author Belinda Luscomb tries to compare a child hitting their friend to monogamy. She states “ As parents tell their kids,weather you hit your friend by accident or deliberately it still stings pretty much the same” (Luscomb 18) . In this quote Luscomb is trying to say that monogamy can be an committed on accident, and even though it’s an accident it can still hurt the same. Monogamy does not happen by accident. When monogamy happens the person committing is not thinking about their family or partner in that moment he only cares about themselves.

]]> 2017-11-14 18:57:07 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206905861 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206916052 In Belinda Luscombes article “Affairs Are Only Human,Which is no excuse to have one,” Luscombe discusses Esther perel’s claims that monogamy is the right option,judging someone who has committed adultery when most people try to work harder at keeping their relationships happy and healthy. According to Luscombe,”as parents tell their kids whether you hit your friend by accident or deliberately,it still stings the same”(Luscombe,18). In her mind she is saying that even if you committed infidelity on accident or deliberately it’s still going to hurt the person just the same. However if one person truly loved another they would stay committed to who they are suppose to be with no matter the circumstances.

]]> 2017-11-14 19:12:56 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206916052 18konrde https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206971215 Affairs have been a part of human nature for as long as history. Despite this, there is still widespread debate as to whether or not they are moral. Belinda Luscombe takes an interesting look at this controversial subject in her The View article, “Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One.” She compares monogamy to other aspects of human life, saying “No, monogamy is not natural. But neither is decoding the genome or auto racing, and nobody thinks we should abandon those endeavors” (Luscombe, 18). She’s saying that even though many dismiss the idea of monogamy as being unnatural, many other things that we do and see everyday fall into that same category. Despite monogamy being unnatural, it is a goal that we should all strive to achieve. It being unnatural does not inherently make it a bad thing.]]> 2017-11-14 21:02:28 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206971215 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206988714 In Belinda Ludcombes Article " affairs are only human, which is no excuse to have one," luscombe discuses the definition of marriage and the importance of being married. according to Luscombe, " as parents tell their kids whether you hit your friend by accident or deliberately, it still stings the same" (liscombe, 18). either way your cheating meaning to do it or not it still hurts the same. cheating is cheating no matter what side you see it from.]]> 2017-11-14 22:03:18 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/206988714 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207041732 In “Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One,” Belinda Luscombe discusses human affairs and Esther Perel’s view. Esther Perel argues that while infidelity is a betrayal, it ignores whether or not we are being realistic about our most intimate relationships. Luscombe stated “No, monogamy is not natural. But neither is decoding genomes or auto racing, and nobody thinks we should abandon these endeavors.” (2017, Luscombe, 18). To her, monogamy is wrong, but so are other things we do as humans. We abandon behaviors that are considered unacceptable by some, but we repeatedly do the ones that are wrong to most of society. Maybe Luscombe was stating that we need to re-evaluate what we as humans think of as right and wrong in terms of relationships.]]> 2017-11-15 03:33:40 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207041732 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207267853 In Belinda Luscombe's Article, "Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One", Belinda discusses her view on Esther Perel's thoughts of monogamy being morally correct. While Esther believes monogamy is morally correct, Belinda states “No, monogamy is not natural. But neither is decoding the genome or auto racing, and nobody thinks we should abandon those endeavors” (Luscombe, 18). Belinda also talks about if a person cheats it is perfectly fine to do as long as you put in the effort to try to save the relationship. No matter what you should not cheat on someone you love.]]> 2017-11-15 16:01:26 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207267853 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207330602 In Belinda Luscombe's article "Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One," she discusses her thoughts on monogamy.  Luscombe says "Moreover, Perel doesn't acknowledge that people who love their partners and still cheat don't just betray their families. They betray themselves," (Luscombe, 18). Luscombe is saying that when people cheat the hurt their family and themself. The person who cheats hurts themselves because they became something the thought they never would have when they made those vows. They knew it is wrong to cheat but they still did it.]]> 2017-11-15 17:35:24 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207330602 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207359297 In Belinda Luscombe’s article “Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse to Have One,” Luscombe discusses the humanity behind infidelity. She discusses Esther Perel’s claims that while monogamy is morally correct, people should not judge someone who has cheated on another. According to Luscombe, “The simple question at the heart of committing to somebody till death is whether you can value that person’s needs ahead of your own. The answer is no. because we're only human. But to love is to attempt.” (2017, Luscombe, 18.) The answer is no. Mistakes are always forgivable, but it’s the effort you put in after the mistake that matters.

]]> 2017-11-15 18:20:44 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207359297 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207359447 In Belinda Luscombe's article "Affairs are only human, which is no excuse to have one" Belinda discusses how Esther Perel's claim of monogamy being right. "Is watching internet porn equivalent to paying for personalized online performance?" (Luscombe, 18). I disagree with that question because a website based on cheating on your spouse is cheating because you are in contact with another person whose purpose is to help cheat on your spouse, where as a pornographic website is just looking and no contact with another person or transactions involved.

]]> 2017-11-15 18:21:01 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207359447 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207373112 In “Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse To Have One,” it states that three-quarters of Americans believed that it is wrong to have sexual relations with someone that is not your partner by marriage. Esther Perel, a couples therapist, encourages more interpersonal honesty and harmony as a way to enhance their relationships. Perel also states, that it is not the person you are turning from, but the person you are becoming. Her solutions to bedroom betrayal are often just cuckoo. She suggests that one wife builds an alter to her husband’s paramour to remind her of how the other woman reinvigorated her marriage. So it’s brave women who will stick up for the adulterer, suggest that satisfying one’s sexual hungers- even at great cost to a loved one-is understandable and advance the notion of a “no-fault affair.” (2017, Luscombe, 17). Affairs should not be an option and you should have respect for your partner. ]]> 2017-11-15 18:43:41 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207373112 https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207385448 In Belinda Luscombe's Time article, "Affairs Are Only Human,Which is no excuse to have one." She explains that having an affair is all by choice. Belinda explains that an affair is completely unfair and unacceptable. She also explains however, if the other partner is trying to fix the relationship, try to work with it, and she can't  blame them.]]> 2017-11-15 19:02:29 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/5l1cjonxdprf/wish/207385448