https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2 Think about an example in your own life when you were either impacted by one of those toxic rain clouds or when you unknowingly perpetuated one of those clouds. (at home, school, church, organization, etc.) What happened? Where? How did you feel? en-us 2021-06-25 21:51:45 UTC 2025-10-06 23:29:35 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/2601.png brennick https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627219910 My grandmother would always offer food to my father first at dinner. When I asked her why she said because he's the man of the house and he deserves to eat first. I hated that and never forgot it.]]> 2021-06-27 19:45:19 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627219910 carolholland https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220153 Family is mixed my Great Grandmother was KhoiSan in Africa a nomadic tribal people with belief that land was for all to care for - colonialism came forced her people off their "lands" - she married a white welsh man - and our family adopted the ways of the white man losing our language, religion, land and identity along the way. As a child one of my key stone memories was being kicked off a whites only beach while my very white grandfather argued with the police officer who had just dragged me a 6 year old by my ponytail off the beach and called me a halfbreed/picaninny (a slur).  My mother keeping me out of the sun so we can pass as white - but knowing the secret - never speaking of it until recently - Feeling trapped or lost between two worlds the guilt and betrayal 

]]> 2021-06-27 19:45:48 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220153 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220250 2021-06-27 19:45:54 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220250 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220317 When accepted into a fellowship in Boston, I had to find affordable housing. All of the ads for roommates posted age younger than 35. Felt excluded, misunderstood and judged. ]]> 2021-06-27 19:45:57 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220317 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220481 2021-06-27 19:46:06 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220481 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220521 2021-06-27 19:46:12 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220521 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220629 2021-06-27 19:46:26 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220629 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220754 When deciding to go to art school.  My parents accepted my choice by qualifying it to themselves that it was ok, because I was a girl and would probably get married anyway.]]> 2021-06-27 19:46:43 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220754 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220885 Anti-Micronesian hate in Hawaii. 
I have witnessed this for over a decade, and I usually am able to try to address and question the prejudices when they arrise. However there have been times when I have not interrupted. Once was by a teller a Costco to an old lady. I was in such shock I was paralysed and failed to act. 
 ]]> 2021-06-27 19:46:58 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220885 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220924 I do not.]]> 2021-06-27 19:47:04 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627220924 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221043 A husband reinforcing and telling his wife that house cleaning, dish washing, taking care of the children, are womens work. His job is to earn money.

]]> 2021-06-27 19:47:21 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221043 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221114 2021-06-27 19:47:30 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221114 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221160 by Moira]]> 2021-06-27 19:47:35 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221160 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221194 I am in a loving hetero relationship, but I am bi.  Very few people know that. (My partner does.) I feel I would be accepted by those around me, but I've never been open about it.  ]]> 2021-06-27 19:47:40 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221194 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221329 When I was nomadic, a shop owner fed my dog but would not feed me. She made me wait outside in the cold November rain.   That one instance had tremendous impact]]> 2021-06-27 19:47:56 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221329 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221417 2021-06-27 19:48:09 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221417 amy_rautiainen https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221541 Sitting in an IEP meeting, listening to my son's teacher predict that he would "fall flat on his face" in high school. Just typing this makes it hard to breathe.

 ]]> 2021-06-27 19:48:21 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221541 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221585 I did not know if we would have lights on in our house when I would come home from school.]]> 2021-06-27 19:48:26 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221585 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221631 2021-06-27 19:48:30 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221631 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221645 Quit without notice, after the owner of a pizza shop referred to customers as the N word after hanging up on them on the phone.

This man’s character was revealed to me, and I couldn’t help but wonder what he thought of me, and the rest of our diverse crew.

I was 19]]> 2021-06-27 19:48:31 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221645 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221685 2021-06-27 19:48:37 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221685 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221708 Fired from gigs because I was too old.]]> 2021-06-27 19:48:40 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221708 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221716  Moira]]> 2021-06-27 19:48:41 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221716 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221924 My dance director would often make comments and stereotype members of the LGBTQ community. It was hurtful to those dancers in my team who did identify as Gay to have to hear that. 
 ]]> 2021-06-27 19:49:07 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627221924 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222108 At US immigration border control my husband has been harassed, I saw a group of travelers of Asian decent singled out and intimidated by large dogs and loud military type voices. I felt shame and anger at my country. I felt powerless. ]]> 2021-06-27 19:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222108 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222277 2021-06-27 19:49:32 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222277 lucypotter1 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222331 Grew up playing sports, was always told I was never going to be as good as the boys no matter how hard I worked, they would always be bigger, stronger, faster

]]> 2021-06-27 19:49:42 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222331 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222344 Told to lighten my skin so I didn’t clash with costume. Dumped by partner(s) once I met the rest of the family.  Received lower pay and provided less opportunities within organizations. All experiences left me feeling defeated and defensive. ]]> 2021-06-27 19:49:43 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222344 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222454 Watching the boys try to dominate and belittle girls in my class of 4th thru 6th grade summer fun students during an outdoor game touched off feeling of frustration from domineering men in the jobs I had in my 20s and 30s. ]]> 2021-06-27 19:49:54 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222454 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222490 When I moved to Hawaii my husband and I had bottles thrown at us while looking at the gulches on Hilo side.]]> 2021-06-27 19:49:59 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222490 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222541 Years ago when I was a child my family and I went to Disneyland. Being from here and going to the mainland we were often mistaken as Mexican. I remember waiting in a restaurant and my mom putting our last name down (also sounds Hispanic but Portuguese) and we watched white families that came well after us get seated well before we did. I asked my mom why that was happening because we’d gotten there first and she explained racism in that moment and then confronted the host about the situation. They finally sat us down.]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:05 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222541 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222568 2021-06-27 19:50:09 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222568 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222655

]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:20 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222655 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222670 For students who spoke little to no English, I’ve left them out of the lessons because
So much of the lessons use the English language. I suppose I’ve kinda just cut my losses in those situations by acknowledging the student and using some encouraging Gestures. However, there is no way the these students could glean any richness without being able to listen and express themselves in their own language. ]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:22 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222670 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222702

]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:27 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222702 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222726 Most of my life , men have a hard time dealing with my ability to express my emotions and my appreciation. Constant humiliation by peers and authority figures as a kid]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:31 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222726 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222751
Being born In Hawai’i, this is my home; I am kama’aina.
Racism is real to me as evidence during ‘Kill Haole Day’ at school growing up and being overlooked by counter/ store clerks, or ignored as the Mainlander. Why is it I still get asked ‘Are you in the military?’ at stores - discounts are great but really the racial profiling is painful.
This has created in me a sense of deep empathy for others. ]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:35 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222751 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222764 the pressure of my placement]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:36 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222764 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222805 Going to visit my grandmother when I was about 10 years old on the mainland who is German/ Irish. I am also 1/2 Hawaiian. We walked into a store and the people kept looking at me funny, one lady asked my grandmother where she got her help from. We left the store very quickly.]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:43 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627222805 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223166 I was the only haole kid on several sports teams (and I was bad at sports.)  I have fou]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:51 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223166 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223217 I AM the descendant of colonizers who came by boat
IAM the descendant if the colonized - raped, punished, oppressed until they said yes to the enslavers ideaologies and dominations and forgot the rest. 
IAM often afraid to speak in fear of how what may come out of my fair skinned mouth may further injure or enrage 
IAM a woman who dislikes to be called white despite my skin tone, with the Kuleana to observe, listen, learn and help hold the hands of others and be held and move forward together]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:58 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223217 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223222 groups who were in similar circumstances.]]> 2021-06-27 19:50:59 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223222 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223269 2021-06-27 19:51:06 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223269 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223317 I was passed up for even a talk about a promotion despite credentials and experience. If I'd been a man, wonder if I could have gotten that meeting with my supervisor.]]> 2021-06-27 19:51:12 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223317 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223378 The stupid way guys out each other down with no respect for each other. I hate it.]]> 2021-06-27 19:51:19 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223378 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223439 In Hawaii and even in the PI, our culture is being lost in  “Americanization”]]> 2021-06-27 19:51:25 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223439 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223463 I was mistaken for a Spanish speaker, by someone who was themself a native speaker. I was chastised for refusing to speak my language.


]]> 2021-06-27 19:51:28 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223463 bethmarcil https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223467 Grew up in the South during the 1960’s. Witnessed, but never understood in my heart why black people were treated with such disrespect. This injustice greatly impacted and informed my development. I always wondered how these beautiful, spirited people kept their souls intact.]]> 2021-06-27 19:51:29 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223467 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223543 2021-06-27 19:51:38 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223543 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223665 Being told by darker skinned children many negative things including, “You think you’re better than us,” because I was light skinned growing up in VA]]> 2021-06-27 19:51:54 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223665 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223734 Getting looked down upon from a colleague for not being a "real" teacher. Getting overlooked during decision making and not taking my requests seriously. Repeatedly getting talked over in front of my students. ]]> 2021-06-27 19:52:02 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223734 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223740 My spouse was harassed by a male military member who asked aggressively “Where are you from?” Repeatable to try to provoke a fight. I felt scared and powerless. ]]> 2021-06-27 19:52:03 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627223740 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627224125 I unfortunately joked with female students about how they might look when they were older.  Insensitive, for sure.]]> 2021-06-27 19:52:50 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627224125 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627224162 2021-06-27 19:52:54 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627224162 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627224282 Grew up as a food stamp kid in private school... 

]]> 2021-06-27 19:53:10 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627224282 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627225214 Growing up in colonized places. Teaching in indigenous cummunities within colonized systems ]]> 2021-06-27 19:54:56 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627225214 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627225817 Not feeling safe catching the bus at night

]]> 2021-06-27 19:55:56 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627225817 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627227877 2021-06-27 20:00:11 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627227877 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627227952 Farrignton Highschool's history text book (when I saw it in 2013) was STILL prepetuating completely false propaganda about Queen Lili'uokalani! (about her "violence"). ]]> 2021-06-27 20:00:22 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627227952 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627228178 I had been the only haole on my bloick for the past 17 years. Recently, a white family rented the house across the street. To keep the story short, over the course of six months, three individuals from families in our neighborhood "visited me" and asked me to "talk" to the guy across the street to let him know that he needed to adjust his behavior: too loud, don't like their music, don't like their cars, up too late, and to clean their yard, etc. I did speak to the guy, but only to say hello and welcome him to the neighborhood. No joke, the next day he cut his grass! I never said anything about this. But certainly, making connections is more effective than building walls with others that we may perceive as different than ourselves! ]]> 2021-06-27 20:00:53 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627228178 carolholland https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627228779 2021-06-27 20:02:23 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627228779 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627229213 My husband was thrown into "airport prison" when he arrived in Hawaii from our international flight returning from our wedding because his visitor visa was no longer valid. "You aren't doing anything illegal, you just cannot enter with this visa now that you're married" so he withdrew his request to enter. "You will stay in our facility until the next flight back... it's a lovely facility". He was handcuffed, given a medical shot (injection) without his consent, spent hours in a freezing room, and days in a cell. And even escorted to his flight days later in handcuffs. When I sought out an immigration attorney for help with his greencard application the attorney said there was NO LEGAL REASON not to allow my husband to come home with me in Honolulu and return back for that flight. The attorney had one question "... by any chance, is your husband brown?"  Yes. He is. 

]]> 2021-06-27 20:03:17 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627229213 https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627233639 Growing up as a rare white kid in brown communities, my white privilage was ALWAYS very apparent to me. Even though that wasn't a 'term' yet, I recognized how I was treated differently than many of my friends and it felt wrong.    ]]> 2021-06-27 20:12:41 UTC https://padlet.com/missv81/5kjzxye4krf19sb2/wish/1627233639