SA-K Mga Unang Hakbang Tungo sa Tao: Scenarios and Reminders by Sergio Andre Gerardo F. Gabriel

If I lose wifi, I will do my best to join back using LTE. However, if the LTE is weak, I will schedule another make-up session through my facilitator and teacher.

sgabriel2 — 2021-02-11 09:03:04 UTC

Matuto kang tumimbang ng lahat, ng mali at matuwid; at hanapin mo ang pinakaugat na siyang sanhi ng kanilang paghihirap sa buhay at sa diwa. Ngunit tiyakin mo muna sa pamamagitan ng mga naunang hakbang, na nauunawaan mo na ang kanilang kalagayan. Tingnan mo ang lahat sa pamamagitan ng mata ng Maykapal.

ANALYZE WHAT YOU OBSERVE.

Learn to weigh all things, both what is wrong and right; and find the very core of the struggles that affect their lives. But you can only do this through the first few steps, only if you truly understand how they are feeling and what they are going through. Look at everything you observe and experience in the eyes of faith.

IMMERSE YOURSELF IN THE EXPERIENCE.

sgabriel2 — 2021-02-11 09:03:04 UTC

Do not judge based on just what you see and hear in the call. Don’t come to a decision based on just your logic. Immerse yourself in their way of life and experiences, in what they hold closest to their hearts, into their very selves. Open up yourself so you can understand them much deeper. This asks from you a deep sense of humility, compassion, patience, and inner strength to face the difficulties that you will encounter. This asks you to share your life deeply. Makipagkwentuhan ka.

PRAY.

sgabriel2 — 2021-02-11 09:03:04 UTC

Don’t rely solely on your own strength. You need God/love and spiritual guidance as you go through the engagement more than anything, more than you can ever fathom. What we are “doing” “[being with other people] does not mean you already fully understand all of this before you do it. What matters most is when you are finally and actually there, person-to-person, ready to learn and share yourself.

GO WHERE THE PEOPLE ARE

sgabriel2 — 2021-02-11 09:03:04 UTC

Your intention to engage with the people in your Binhi area must be sincere. If you engage with the area simply because you want to, nothing is bound to come out of the experience. Also, if you engage with the area out of the belief that the people there need you, you are mistaken. You are not, by any means, a Messiah or Saviour of sorts. You are simply a person, a human being, just like the members of the community you will be engaging with.

sgabriel2 — 2021-02-11 09:03:04 UTC

LOOK (CLOSELY).
“Looking” entails not just seeing with your eyes, but also with your entire being. Keep your eyes open, don’t dream, don’t fall asleep. The truth is in front of you! You are in the middle of a mystery, don’t faint or be afraid! Look at their eyes; look if their smiles are sweet or bitter. Feel what they are feeling. (Are their hearts still beating?) Look at their very being as people but don’t just examine them. You need to sharpen your ability to feel. Look at the things surrounding their lives and experiences. Try to comprehend their hearts’ deepest longings, their hopes, aspirations as well as frustrations.

LISTEN (INTENTLY).

sgabriel2 — 2021-02-11 09:03:04 UTC

Don’t be too investigative, the goal is not to interrogate. Be careful with the words you use, lest you offend anyone in the area. In fact, it would be better if you do not say anything at all first, especially if you are uncertain of what to say. Listen to the people first – listen to what they are saying and beyond this, strive to listen to what they are NOT saying. It is only then when you can say to them that you understand them. There lies the possibility that they will be ready to speak and tell you what they cannot say. You allow their very self humanity to open up with your own self and humanity.

If I do not feel well, but still think I can attend the session, I will go. However, if I really cannot, I will message the facilitator and teacher and schedule a make-up session.

sgabriel2 — 2021-02-11 09:03:04 UTC

I would react to their personal stories by making them feel they are heard and understood. This entails me to acknowledge what they said and show compassion and empathy to their experiences..

sgabriel2 — 2021-02-11 09:03:04 UTC

In a situation like this, at first, I would ask them if it is okay for them to share their story. Secondly, I would listen and respect their story in order for them to feel accepted or understood. And lastly, I would make it confidential to the both of us because a sensitive topic needs a consent before sharing it to others.

Pumunta ka sa Tao

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 05:31:23 UTC

This section of Nero's essay rings a familiar to me. It is very reminiscent of the writings of Emman Lacaba — an Atenean activist and poet that I have looked up to for over a year now — and all of his other co-activists during his time. The quote is: down from the Hill.

In my political organizations, a lot of people say that most Atenean activists, or even those that try to do community work, or komyu, tend to have a messianistic outlook whenever they visit the communities. And, I admittedly see it in myself too — as most private, premium, Catholic high schools have rooted us with this paradigm.

But after being in said organization, my outlook has changed. Privilege is faux power. The real power for social change lies within the masses (connecting it to a line in one of Lacaba's poems, "Mulat — ang masa ang messias.").

Now this begs the question, why was there a Hill in the first place?

We answer like how we normally answer people —

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 05:55:00 UTC

"We want to get to know you..." or rather, "Gusto po namin kayong makilala!"

Tips from when I did Komyu work for my NatDem!

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 05:55:48 UTC

1) Talk about anything under the sun! Ask them what food they had, and if it was nice.
(Usually, you could ask them to teach you how to cook their favorite meal :0 But it's an online set-up :<<< )
2) Prioritize their story. You can add on to it with your own anecdotes, but don't make it the Late-Late Show with James Corden, and you're James Corden. If they have trouble opening up, you can share a few anecdotes, and ask if they can relate to it in a sense.
3) Get attached. It's fine — just make sure you still talk to them, and maintain boundaries.

Oh!

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 06:00:20 UTC

I will simply apologize and do my best to keep up! Also, I won't be afraid to ask questions, if necessary.

cc: blockmates

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 06:00:59 UTC

I will tell my blockmates beforehand, and ask my profs if I can be scheduled for a new time.

cc: blockmates (2)

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 06:02:08 UTC

I will text my blockmate about my situation, and tell them I will do my best to make habol. I will also take this chance to go to my crush's house to ask if I can use their wifi.

Honestly

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 06:06:46 UTC

I will do my best not to bring it up too early! It might be a topic that might evade their privacy. But if its recurring already — meaning I've seen the person more than five times — I can ask them who the person is, and their connection with our kakwentuhan! Who knows, we might get to meet a new friend.

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 06:13:53 UTC

If and only if they consent to telling their story, I would wholeheartedly agree to be sensitive and keep things only to us! If ever I relate to it, I will only share a vague idea of what happened, and shed some encouraging words as well!

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 06:15:13 UTC

I will ask if they themselves, are feeling well in general, and ask them to stay safe.

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 06:16:10 UTC

I will become proactive and think of topics to talk about with them! I can also use the FORD or CATS conversation starters

annetteandal — 2021-02-12 06:17:06 UTC

I will simply say thank you and not expound any further, whether it be through denial or showing off.

Tips for myself

2021-02-15 13:54:27 UTC

-Attend the preparatory session

-I will have my own prayer minutes before. It really helps me calm down.

-I would do an advanced checking of our connection and the gadgets I would use for the session, and to make sure my phone has its own data in case our internet goes down.
-Bea

Maybe I can answer like this?

2021-02-15 14:08:57 UTC

I agree with Ani, that we can answer them bluntly- “We want to get to know you” or “learn more about you.” And if I’d be asked “Why?”, I’d say because I want to know about the stories of others, and take the opportunity to learn from them and let them affect me, and if possible affect them positively in this interaction.
-Bea

Prevention

2021-02-15 14:10:11 UTC

To prevent this, I would pick a schedule where I know I can wake up on time and be available. But if this really happens, I'll sincerely apologize and try to catch up with the session.

Beadle and Proctor

2021-02-15 14:11:54 UTC

I would message our class beadle to assist me and delivering the message to our profs (and send a message to our proctor as well) if I really can't make it. If I can, I would push through and try my best not to look sick :)
-Bea

Data

2021-02-15 14:14:39 UTC

My data rarely fails me so I would load my phone just in case our internet fails. If this won't work, I'll try to go to a different place (probably a nearby relative's) so I can use their internet- Bea

Conversation Starter?

2021-02-15 14:16:40 UTC

I would try my best not to react to that if the person did not do anything signficant that would take my or the other party's attention. But I can ask them who that person is and maybe start a talk from there. -Bea

n s

2021-02-15 14:19:15 UTC

2021-02-15 14:19:28 UTC

I will ask them about the severity and if they are doing okay and are safe. Then I would try my best to send my sincere regards on their safety -Bea

2021-02-15 14:21:40 UTC

I will prepare conversation starters beforehand and maybe ask them about their day. I can also try to share my own stories related to what they've already shared so I can prolong the conversation. -Bea

2021-02-15 14:23:12 UTC

I will thank her for the compliment and move on to a different topic. But I could also share the fact that we are four people sharing the room (it's true). But maybe I won't. - Bea

To personally connect

2021-02-16 10:34:31 UTC

We want to know them more, their core, their values, etc.
- Jacob

Be sensitive.

2021-02-16 10:37:09 UTC

Attend the preparatory session. Be there to listen. It's not about us, it's about them.
- Jacob

2021-02-16 10:38:26 UTC

Contact the facilitator.
- Jacob

The body achieves what the mind believes.

2021-02-16 10:39:02 UTC

I'll probably shrug it off unless it's real bad.
- Jacob

I'll use my data.

2021-02-16 10:40:15 UTC

LTE works but if it cannot be talaga, I'll contact my blockmates and the facilitator.
- Jacob

Depends

2021-02-16 10:42:18 UTC

If it's harmless I'll probably just shrug it off but if the person waves to the camera or try to squeeze in the video, I'll say "hi" back and maybe ask Nanay for a little kwento.

Kamustahin

2021-02-16 10:44:06 UTC

I'll ask them how they are and remind them to be extra cautious.

I will do what was taught to us.

2021-02-16 10:46:05 UTC

I'll ask the FORD and CATS.

Simply say thank you.

2021-02-16 10:46:51 UTC

- Jacob

I'd avoid beating around the bush

2021-02-20 11:25:55 UTC

I'd rather not fill them in with sugar-coated phrases to win them over, I'd be straight-forward and respectful by telling them that we wanna get to know them and that rest assured, we wouldn't be biased/ judgmental of whatever they'd feel comfortable enough to share -Marj

I'm ready as I'll ever be

2021-02-20 11:29:19 UTC

I'd prepare by attending preparatory sessions, asking tips from my teacher and formator, and discuss possible ways to tackle our task with my classmates. -Marj

take responsibility

2021-02-20 11:32:39 UTC

I'd inform my teacher and formator right away through email and canvas (just in case) to let them know why I was late and I'd ask if there was something I could do to make-up for it, I'd inform my classmates as well as they too deserve an explanation for my absence. -Marj

Same as the last question

2021-02-20 11:34:20 UTC

I'd inform my facilitators and classmates, better let them know late than never to avoid on-the-spot complications -Marj

Data

2021-02-20 13:30:38 UTC

I've encountered this issue many times before. We don't have signal in my house so I'd have to go outside if I were to use my mobile data. Though it was very weak and caused many complications, it was better than nothing -Marj

Context Clues

2021-02-20 13:34:12 UTC

It may be difficult but I'd like to try and see how the person I'm interacting with would react as that person passed by. If their expression didn't change, said passer-by's presence probably won't interfere so I'd pay them no mind (in the beginning at least, hopefully I'd get to ask about it in the future), but if the person I'm interacting with shows signs of discomfort, I'd ask them about things they could be interested in just to lighten the mood and make them feel better, as a bit of timer passes, hopefully they'd be comfortable enough to open up about the person later. -Marj

be sensitive to the matter and hopefully not worsen how they're feeling by poking into it too much (past what they're comfortable with)

2021-02-20 13:40:50 UTC

Every detail of their experience matters as even the tiniest bits affected them to become who they are now, I'd make sure that they knew they were in a safe space with no judgement even if they were to talk about something very deep and personal. If I find the matter somewhat troubling, I wouldn't show it on my face/through actions/words as it could only affect just how comfortable they'd be with sharing. -Marj

Safety check

2021-02-20 13:44:50 UTC

It's good that they are aware of the presence of the virus in their community, basing off of that, I'd ask if they were doing alright despite it, if they have access to proper care and goods, and if they'd like to share some stories or experiences in her community that she knows of regarding the matter as it could help in assessing if they'd need other forms of help and advice. Aside from physical health related questions, I'd like to know as well how they're doing mentally and emotionally. The taal situation and the pandemic both forced us into harsh conditions and isolation, so there could be a chance that their mental health deteriorated even just a little bit because of it. Though there's a chance they could be safe in their house, home isn't exactly a safe space for many people, so I'd make it a point to them that no matter what, we'd make sure we can be their safe space. -Marj

FORD and CATS

2021-02-20 13:54:13 UTC

This may happen quite often especially if the person is quick to answer or spares details and all, so the FORD and CATS methods should do the trick. The whole session is about them so the conversation can direct to their interests, for example, we can talk about their dreams and from that I can ask why said dream or what they'd do when they achieved it, maybe even future goals they'd like to achieve after that, etc. -Marj

Thank you

2021-02-20 13:59:33 UTC

it would be rude of me to say something like "oh, it's not that big/ It's nothing" as it would put them in a position where it'd look as if they were below me when in reality we're just equals, so I'd say thank you and move on to a topic that would interest them. -Marj

Honesty

2021-02-23 01:58:28 UTC

In this scenario, the honest answer would be the most appropriate one. We're all here to learn through these interactions. - Brent

I'll let them know about my intentions

2021-02-23 15:26:56 UTC

Sasabihin ko na gusto ko silang makilala at gusto kong matuto mula sa kanila. Sasabihin ko rin na gusto kong mapakinggan ang mga kwento nila.

Tips based on my previous experience

2021-02-23 15:28:26 UTC

1.) Listen -- sobrang importante na makinig muna sa mga kwento nila bago magkwento tungkol sa sarili o bumanat ng joke. Hintayin na maging mas comfortable yung atmosphere and yung mga kausap mo sayo
2.) Makisama -- I found this so important during my immersion with Nanay Liliane and her community in Manila North Cemetery. Yung ibang kasamahan namin, nagt-take down ng notes tapos parang hindi sila 100% present kasi iniisip nila yung requirement imbis na pakisamahan yung pamilyang kasama nila. Super duper important na makisama kasi hindi lang naman academic yung benefits na makukuha natin dito eh.

2021-02-23 15:31:49 UTC

I'll contact the facilitator and if I can still attend the Online Kwentuhan despite being late, I will make up for my being late by asking questions and trying to catch up to all that I missed.

2021-02-23 15:33:19 UTC

Papakiramdaman ko muna kung hindi ko talaga kaya at kung hindi talaga, sasabihan ko ang beadle at ang facilitator.

2021-02-23 15:34:08 UTC

Mabilisan akong magpapaload at susubukang sumali nang gamit lang ay data pero kung hindi kaya ng data ko, sasabihan ko ang facilitator para makapagreschedule nalang ako.

Depende

2021-02-23 15:35:56 UTC

Kung hindi nagsasalita si Nanay o hindi siya nainterrupt sa pagkukwento niya, tatanungin ko kung sino 'yon kung hindi niya pa nasabi beforehand.

2021-02-23 15:37:21 UTC

Tatanungin ko kung kumusta sila at paaalahanan na mag-ingat sila para hindi sila magkasakit.

2021-02-23 15:37:59 UTC

I'll make use of FORD and CATS that was taught to us before.

2021-02-23 15:38:33 UTC

I would simply say thank you.

Rafael Cuejilo

2021-02-28 02:45:56 UTC

I agree with the other answers. We're here to learn and to connect with each other through sharing stories and interactions. Also, we're here to have a good time. During this pandemic, our social life was limited, so talking and chatting with people will provide us happiness and fun, which is good for our mental health. It's something we all need.

Rafael Cuejilo

2021-02-28 02:50:43 UTC

We should attend the preparatory sessions to further learn what we need to do. During the Online Kwentuhan itself, we should entertain the people so that it will be a good experience for everyone.

Rafael Cuejilo

2021-02-28 03:01:53 UTC

I will ask if they are doing well and I will tell them to stay safe. If she or anyone she knows has contracted the virus and they decide to share it, I will be attentive and I will remind them to take care of herself. They should also do things to keep them occupied to also take care of their mental health.

Rafael Cuejilo

2021-02-28 03:11:49 UTC

I'm good at this (haha). I don't like awkward silence so when we run out of things to talk about I will immediately think of anything to keep the flow going. I'd say I'm good at this because sometimes I talk to people I'm not close with and while we're talking I'm already thinking of the next topic so it won't get awkward and it's actually fun because we get to know more about each other.

Rafael Cuejilo

2021-02-28 03:19:13 UTC

To be honest, I haven't thought about this, and I wouldn't know what to reply, so I'm thankful for this scenario activity. Like the other answers, I think I will just say thank you and continue with another topic.

Apology

2021-02-28 07:43:38 UTC

I will contact and apologize to the facilitator due to my irresponsibility to keep up.
-Gerard Matthew Burnos

SMS

2021-03-01 05:59:32 UTC

With the session already underway, I'll have to use SMS to contact the facilitator if it's still possible for me to join the session.
- Enzo Abatayo

Pocket Wifi

2021-03-01 06:02:49 UTC

Gagamitin ko ulit ang pocket wifi namin. Noong simula ng lockdown, nawalan din kami ng internet nang isang buwan. Pero dahil kailangan ng pamilya ko ng internet para sa trabaho o sa school, bumili kami ng prepaid pocket wifi. Mas mahal siya kaysa sa lined connection, pero mayroon siyang mga daily-renewed data packages na pwede sa Messenger Calls, GMeet, etc..
- Enzo Abatayo

I-ayon sa Kausap

2021-03-01 06:07:32 UTC

Sang-ayon ako sa mga sagot sa taas na depende ito sa mga reaksyon ng mga kausap ko. Kung hindi nila pinapansin ang mga naglalakad sa likuran nila, marahil hindi ko na kailangang tanungin ko sino sila. Kung kinausap nila ang mga kakwentuhan ko at sumali rin sa mga usapan, doon lang din ako magtatanong at makikikamusta sa kanila.
- Enzo Abatayo

Say Less

2021-03-01 06:21:45 UTC

I'm not good at handling personal topics, so I would rather remain quiet and let them share what they want to share. I'd ask them a question or two whenever I get the chance to, but the fact that they're sharing sensitive things about themselves might mean that they just want someone to listen to them.
- Enzo Abatayo

Cars + Animals

2021-03-01 06:26:34 UTC

I don't know what to do in an awkward silence, and sometimes I get so anxious that the silence passes and the conversation just dies. FORD and CATS seems like my best bet to avoid this scenario.
- Enzo Abatayo

Appreciation

2021-03-01 06:28:16 UTC

I agree that a simple "thank you" suffices in this scenario. It's hard to comment on the statement, especially considering its latter half, so appreciation of these words is key.
- Enzo Abatayo

An Hour Before

2021-03-01 06:31:56 UTC

I agree that I should first double check if I really cannot join because of my sickness, so I'll make sure to message my facilitator at least an hour before the session. It's unlikely that I'll miraculously recover in an hour, and it's far enough from my time slot that my facilitator would have enough time to properly respond.
- Enzo Abatayo

Settings Question Goals

2021-03-01 06:35:50 UTC

Much like the Entrance Ticket, I need to consider the most important questions to ask. Even simple questions like family members and jobs can be considered important in my book; it's only the matter of priorities.
- Enzo Abatayo

Kuwentuhan

2021-03-01 06:40:30 UTC

It's as our activity is called: it's time for kuwentuhan. I agree that there's no need to give fancy or cerebral reasons for it - it's simply a time to get to know people who we wouldn't ordinarily get the chance to meet.

Life in Covid

2021-03-01 06:42:32 UTC

Like the other answers, I'd ask them how they are after a year in lockdown, if they and their families are doing well, and what they've been up to to prevent getting Covid themselves.

A Chance To Get To Know You

2021-03-01 06:42:54 UTC

I would say that I wish to understand and connect with them. It is important for me, and all of us in the kwentuhan, to do this so we can become better as both individuals and members of society.

Remember My Past Experiences

2021-03-01 06:47:38 UTC

The only new real challenge here is that unlike my previous activities similar to this, this IS online. But, other than that I just keep telling myself to be kind and true.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:17:30 UTC

My answer would simply be that I would want to get to know them and also learn from them. This is because I believe that every person that we meet or interact with has a lesson that you can learn from and that's something we can always bring with for the rest of our lives.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:21:08 UTC

I can say that I am somehow ready, but of course I would feel more prepared once I get the Binhi preparatory session. Anyway, if I were to prepare myself for the online kwentuhan session I would simply do the following:
- Make sure I have stable internet connection on the day of the kwentuhan.
- Think of possible conversation topics to talk about.
- Be attentive and polite.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:26:29 UTC

I will immediately contact my teacher and facilitator and apologize regarding this matter and take accountability for my actions. From there on, I will wait for their instructions on what I shall do to make up for it.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:29:00 UTC

If I am not feeling well but I find it tolerable, I'll still push through with the online kwentuhan. However, if I really can't tolerate it, I will inform my teacher and facilitator on what I can do about it.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:32:22 UTC

I will use my data instead, to make sure that I will still be able to make it to my scheduled online kwentuhan.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:34:47 UTC

I would simply acknowledge their presence by greeting them with a smile and waving at them if it seems as though they are also trying to join the kwentuhan.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:39:17 UTC

I would simply tell them to be extra careful since there are cases in their community and ask them how they have been since the pandemic happened.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:42:23 UTC

I think it's normal to feel this way but in spite of this we must remain positive that things will turn out fine and knowing that I am a very chatty person, I think I will be able to come up with things to talk about with them.

Jennifer Delos Santos

2021-03-01 07:44:30 UTC

I would just smile and thank them for their compliment, but I would most likely change the topic as it isn't relevant.

Brent Chua

2021-03-01 09:24:11 UTC

I am quite excited to find out what's in store. One specific tip would be to remember what talking to strangers is like. It can be easy to forget after being locked up at home for so long.

Brent Chua

2021-03-01 09:26:02 UTC

I would own up to my mistake and try to catch up.

Brent Chua

2021-03-01 09:27:27 UTC

I would say that I am someone who can function decently well when I am not feeling feel, so I would try to attend. If I really did feel terribly sick, I would contact our formator about it.

Brent Chua

2021-03-01 09:29:19 UTC

Contact our formator and then try to make it work!

Brent Chua

2021-03-01 09:30:02 UTC

I probably would not make a big deal out of it.

Brent Chua

2021-03-01 09:31:16 UTC

I would give them my regards. Ingat po kayo!

Brent Chua

2021-03-01 09:32:25 UTC

Prepare beforehand, practice facilitating conversations

Brent Chua

2021-03-01 09:33:05 UTC

Accept it as a compliment!

2021-03-01 13:25:11 UTC

First, I'll tell them that it's simply because I'd like to meet and connect with new people. But, I want to be honest with them so I would also let them know that it's for an academic requirement. - Via

2021-03-01 13:34:53 UTC

Personally, I will mentally prepare myself. I'm going to keep in mind that I need to be open to what the group is going to talk about. I'd also remind myself to act/speak politely. Likewise, I would prepare the gadgets that I need (e.g., laptop, phone, etc.) in advance, since the 'kwentuhan' will be held online. - Via

Connect

2021-03-01 13:41:36 UTC

Truthfully, I would tell them that I want to take the time to connect, meet, and have a meaningful time with other people. Loneliness is a common emotion these days, I just genuinely enjoy the idea of having an online kwentuhan to listen to and maybe share stories of my own.

-Marius

2021-03-01 13:42:49 UTC

I will sincerely apologize and notify the facilitator about my situation. At the same time, I'll quickly get ready so that I could join the session as soon as possible. - Via

Approach it naturally and be open

2021-03-01 13:44:58 UTC

I will personally just be candid about it, minus the awkwardness. The online kwentuhan is most likely to be a good and effective experience if you face it hoping to have a good, but meaningful and productive time. It's important to be natural and not be too nervous about it.

-Marius

Apologize, ask if I can stay, catch up

2021-03-01 13:46:52 UTC

Politely, but genuinely apologize, followed by asking if I would still be allowed to be a part of it, and then catch up if I am allowed. If I were to be told that I can no longer attend, I should be professional about it, understand, politely apologize once more, and move on.
-Marius

It depends if I can still physically attend and contribute

2021-03-01 13:49:12 UTC

If Im too sick to be doing anything other than rest, then i would let them know in advance or on the spot and do what is best for my body: recover.
Otherwise, I would still attend if I am able to.
-Marius

2021-03-01 13:50:16 UTC

I would notify my fellow group members, beadle, and the facilitator about my condition before the session. If I can still join, I will. But if my condition won't allow me to join, I won't push it anymore. Instead, I'll just update the facilitator about my decision and wait for further instructions. - Via

Data or wifi somewhere else

2021-03-01 13:51:53 UTC

I could always use my mobile data. If my mobile data doesn't work, then I could use wifi from a coffee shop or internet cafe. The only thing that would stop me for good would be an electrical outage that's atleast city-wide.
-Marius

Tell them to take care

2021-03-01 13:56:33 UTC

I would simply tell them to take care, and pray for their safety as well afterwards.
-Marius

Small talk

2021-03-01 13:57:45 UTC

Small talk always works to get a conversation going. If not, you could always just make a weird noise to get people confused and start talking about it, and then you can work from there.
-Marius

2021-03-01 13:59:55 UTC

If available/possible, I will use my mobile data for the mean time. But if I can't really join the 'kwentuhan', when the internet connection returns, I'll contact the facilitator immediately and explain my situation. - Via

Short thanks and smile

2021-03-01 13:59:58 UTC

Just a short thank you and a smile will do. If I can, I'll redirect the conversation, maybe compliment them about something too.
-Marius

2021-03-01 14:02:20 UTC

As much as possible, I won't react to the people who are passing by. I would like to focus more on the person who is currently speaking and/or to my fellow group members. - Via

2021-03-01 14:07:23 UTC

I will listen intently to the speaker. If I know how to respond to the situation, I'd ask them first if it is okay to share my thoughts and if they would allow me, then I will try my best to respond in a clear, calm, and empathetic manner. But if I don't know how, I'll just simply listen. - Via

2021-03-01 14:12:41 UTC

I would ask nanay first, if she and her family are okay. I'd also tell her to take care. - Via

2021-03-01 14:17:40 UTC

I'll start asking nanay about simple things; e.g., how is her day, what keeps her busy nowadays, etc. I might also ask questions using the FORD and CATS method that was taught to us. - Via

2021-03-01 14:20:28 UTC

I will simply say thank you to nanay :) - Via

2021-03-01 15:34:22 UTC

What everyone has said so far is correct. We simply want to know more about each other, the entire goal of a kuwentuhan. That means shedding other obligations for the moment and just listening.
- Ralph

2021-03-01 15:37:23 UTC

I've had other interactions through Ateneo involvement programs before, but never online.

- Regardless of whether it's online or not, do not take away too much attention from them. You're not the spotlight here, their stories and your interaction together are what counts.
- Preparing one's devices and internet is vital for good online interaction. Remove as much distractions as possible.

- Ralph

2021-03-01 15:42:32 UTC

1. You must first notify the facilitator and apologise and explain truthfully why you are late and ask if you can still be allowed to join the session.

2. If you can are permitted to still the session, explain your being late to everyone in the kuwentuhan since they deserve an answer for your tardiness and honesty is the first step for you to regain (or gain, rather) trust with them.

- Ralph

2021-03-01 15:46:38 UTC

I should inform the facilitator and my group as soon as possible about my condition and explain if I can go or not so they know what to expect. It is also important that I update them when condition worsens or improves for the same reason.

- Ralph

2021-03-01 15:51:59 UTC

It of course depends on the circumstance as mentioned by the others. Remaining focused on the kuwentuhan is key to fostering understanding. If an emergency or something awry is happening that is clearly seen on someone else's camera, I think we must raise it up and alert necessary authorities as soon as possible.

- Ralph

2021-03-01 15:54:33 UTC

I should contact the facilitator and possibly even the group through phone or text as soon as possible and update them constantly on my internet situation. If other means of internet are available, I must use it.

- Ralph

Secrecy and Respect

2021-03-01 15:56:55 UTC

I should treat sensitive information with utmost seriousness and secrecy. It's also important to talk less and not jump to certain assumptions unless one has a good understanding with nanay already. Trust is vital.

- Ralph

2021-03-01 16:00:11 UTC

If it's not an off-limits topic for them, I would honestly want to ask them more about it, especially how they are doing. I believe that everyone has been affected by this pandemic in one way or another, even this Binhi program. An atmosphere of respect must still be maintained.

- Ralph

2021-03-01 16:03:04 UTC

I haven't really had difficulty in this sort of field before in my other involvement programs like CSIP in Ateneo. I have dealt with many people over the years and usually ask a lot of questions about their family's living conditions and their area. The only thing I foresee failing me is my grasp of language as I do not speak Filipino as often.

- Ralph

2021-03-01 16:07:01 UTC

A simple thank you would suffice. Just like the others, I would not expound on it much if I can since my house is not the primary topic I'm there to talk about. I'd even argue that people living in simple homes are more worthy of admiration than I am.

- Ralph

Adding my thoughts

2021-03-01 17:24:06 UTC

I think it's nice to be straightforward because it makes it easier to loosen up and be more genuine afterwards. Telling them that we want to know about our area partners as well as adding our honest thoughts like the importance of meeting people in the circumstances that we're in at the moment would make for more sincere interaction.
- Leo

Respect

2021-03-01 17:29:34 UTC

It's not easy to talk to just anyone about sensitive topics, so hearing about these sorts of things demands a level of caution- especially being careful with the right words to say, empathy, and respect for the fact that people trust you enough to give details about their lives. I will listen intently and remember what they tell me, as it's the greatest form of respect to value their stories.
- Leo

Besides FORD and CATS

2021-03-01 17:33:19 UTC

In case we've already used up FORD and CATS, having related topics to bring up that can be fun for everyone to discuss could be timely topics or even memes to keep the conversation interesting and enjoyable for everyone.
- Leo

Building Personal Connections Through Virtual Means

2021-03-01 19:19:05 UTC

My response to this would be similar to what others have said here previously. With full honesty, I do genuinely want to connect with others through these sessions not only because I want to (or because it was required of the school), rather to prove a point that amidst our current crisis of the COVID-19 situation we've been having, we can still build connections with each other amidst our distances and maintain a virtual relationship with others. Engaging with others in these times of crisis helps our brain realize that we truly aren't alone in these problems and that we should reach out to those as well who may need our guidance.

My Personal Tips for Online Kwentuhan : Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:25:17 UTC

Though I've never really had that much of proper online kwentuhan before, some tips I know may come in handy during these sessions go as follows:
- Make sure you know when to speak and when not to speak. Taking turns is essential when you want to have a good conversation with someone. The main goal of these sessions is to engage and get to know more about the people around you than people knowing about you. But not to a point where you forbid yourself to speak at all and let them do the talking, it is always important to have your own share in the conversation after all.
- Attentiveness is key. For the sake of them and for the sake of you. In the end of it all, you get to know more about the person who was sharing their stories, whilst they on the other hand feel good and comfortable sharing their own thoughts and stories during the session.
- Relax and be natural. Forcing yourself at times would further increase the tension in your brain, hence making you feel awkward and thus--making it harder for you to communicate. Think of talking to others as like your close friends or family members, just through virtual screens. Keeping your pace and tone natural will also affect those around you, so if you feel relaxed, people around you will reciprocate the same vibe you give off.
- Don't be afraid to share. This is an open space of kwentuhan where we get the chance to learn more about the other, so if ever you tend to fuss up, all would be well since nervousy can really get the best of us. Just know you got this and we got you covered as well.

Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:33:29 UTC

Upon finding out I'm late for online kwentuha, I will immediately contact the facilitator about my mishap through means of Canvas or Gmail. Additionally, I will apologize to them for my tardiness and provide the reason as to why I've been so. In order to prevent this in the future, I would make sure to wake up at least one-two hours earlier before my session and make sure everything is good and set up for online kamustahan.

Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:36:10 UTC

Upon finding out I've become ill before the day of online kwentuhan, I would push myself (If I can still handle it of course) to attend the session. If ever comes the case I really can't do so, I will immediately notify my profesors via Canvas and Gmail and also tell my blockmates about the inconvenience for good measure.

Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:38:13 UTC

Being someone with really bad wifi at home, I've developed ways to cope with these kinds of situations many times before. One of my many solutions for these kinds of mishaps is that I would rely on my parent's hotspot (they don't mind), or if I have, my own personal hotspot. If the internet continues to falter, I would connect to our back-up router which is Globe (our main provider is PLDT) and try my best to reconnect. If ever any sources of trying to reconnect fails, I will immediately try to contact the profesor or my blockmates about such mishap via Canvas or Gmail once my internet comes back.

K

2021-03-01 19:41:28 UTC

Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:46:04 UTC

If ever I encounter this kind of event, I would simply ignore whatever is happening on the background (unless its bad of course) and continue listening to the person sharing. Getting distracted by whomever is passing by behind them might embarrass them, so I personally would just keep my focus on the person sharing rather than being distracted by whomever’s at the background.

Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:48:35 UTC

This is honestly a hard question to answer, as I’m friends with people who also go through these kinds of things. Though honestly, even if it may be a bit too personal or sensitive for me, I will continue to listen to what they have to say and acknowledge their words. If ever it bothers me until after the session, I can inform the professor about the sharing and tell them about topics that make me uncomfortable.

Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:50:42 UTC

Given that scenario, I would immediately ask if they’re okay or if anyone in their family is okay. Additionally, I would check up on them and advise them to be twice more safe at times like this especially if said sharer was currently in an area with high cases of COVID.

Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:53:53 UTC

Given that kind of scenario, I would come up with improvised sets of questions or comments that would most likely strike up a conversation. Though I’m not particularly a good conversation starter, a conversation usually tends to develop when an interesting topic comes up or a common ground is found. That being said, again, I would improvise my way out of the awkwardness and strike up a conversation to ease the silent awkward tension.

Keisa Limdico

2021-03-01 19:55:38 UTC

I personally wouldn’t mind this at all, and would simply smile and say “Thank you!” For so. Though if this kind of scenario happens when I’m sharing my own piece or someone else is, I would try to direct the conversation’s attention back to where we really are.

Connections

2021-03-04 10:11:24 UTC

I think all the things that have been said here already are things that I agree with: I personally want to know more about as many people as possible regardless of where they come from, and so I would tell the area partner that I am taking part in this because I want to learn about people. I want to understand their daily struggles, and I want to feel connected to them even if we live completely different lives.
- Paolo

Be yourself!

2021-03-04 10:13:35 UTC

I personally feel that I am not prepared, but this is normal because I approach everything new by understanding that I'm not fully prepared and that learning is part of the experience.

The only tip I can give for moments like this is a simple one: be yourself. To take a term from SocSci, there is no need to put on a mask here. All that extra effort that you pour into trying to be something that is greater than you or basically something that you're not, is effort that can be better put into making sure that you are composed. Being yourself and letting the word and thoughts flow (with kindness, of course) are things that I feel have helped me most during activities like this.
- Paolo

Apologize and Do what you have to do.

2021-03-04 10:15:47 UTC

If I were to be the person to wake up late for my Online Kwentuhan session, the first thing I would do is to inform both my classmates and my facilitator, so that they are aware and calmed of whatever worries may have come up regarding my presence. After this, I would simply join the Online Kwentuhan and try my best to catch up on the things that I missed.
- Paolo

Connection

2021-03-04 10:23:13 UTC

As someone who loves writing about people, I think I have always been fascinated in just how different we each can be. I say this, and I say this with the fullest of honesty, but I truly want to learn about people. Different backgrounds make for different stories, which make for beautiful experiences. I want to be able to have as much of these beautiful experiences as possible, because it makes life so much more colorful.
- Paolo

Take Off The Mask

2021-03-04 10:24:40 UTC

If I were to be honest, I don't ever think I'm ready for things like this. Even after having multiple exposure trips in Claret, it still feels new every time because of just how different the living situations can be.
To take from our SocSci lessons, we should drop the masks that we carry for moments like this. The extra effort that we are putting into maintaining a persona or a character that isn't of our own true self can be used so much more effectively in preparing ourselves and calming ourselves down. As someone that is easily made anxious by things that go on around me, this is a helpful step that can remind me that I don't have to be anyone else but myself.
- Paolo

Apologize and Carry On

2021-03-04 10:27:58 UTC

If I end up waking up late for my Online Kwentuhan, I would immediately message my blockmates and facilitator in order to ease any worries that they may have had about my presence. After this, I would see if I can catch up with the session that I was assigned to and hopefully be able to still meet the Area Partners and form an adequate connection despite having less time.
- Paolo

Monitor

2021-03-04 10:29:42 UTC

If I know that I don't feel well the day before my Online Kwentuhan, I will immediately let both my blockmates and facilitator know, so that they understand the possible chance of me not being able to tag along with the activity. Then, I will continue to monitor myself to see whether my state is improving or not. If it's improving or if my condition didn't feel so grave in the first place, I will join and carry on with the Online Kwentuhan. However, if I really feel bad, I don't see the need to push through. This event may be important, but so is my health. If I feel bad, I will rest up and make sure that I will be able to join the next session.
- Paolo

Inform and Check

2021-03-04 10:34:04 UTC

The first thing I'll do is to, of course, inform both my blockmates and facilitator. Then, I will use my data for the Online Kwentuhan as I know that my data plan can handle it. The purpose, in this case, of informing my blockmates and facilitator, is so that whenever I suddenly disconnect, there will be reason as to why and they can see that it wasn't a purposeful disconnection.
- Paolo

Mostly Ignore

2021-03-04 10:38:10 UTC

This is a situation that I understand since I usually do my Zoom classes in a shared space, where all of my family and pets are able to roam around in the background. If I were the one on the receiving end of something like that, I wouldn't bring it up or try to start a conversation about it, except if they're the ones to bring it up, or if someone else brings it up and they seem comfortable in talking about it.
- Paolo

Be Sincere

2021-03-04 10:41:17 UTC

If the person that is telling his story consents to it being told, I would be quiet during the entirety of the story and let them finish. Afterwards, if there are things that I relate to in the story, I would share some words of sympathy and give some supportive words to let them know that what they did was good, and that what they shared was touching.
- Paolo

Check In

2021-03-04 10:42:43 UTC

With that information being brought up, I would ask her if she and anyone that she knew was feeling alright after the fact. And if they seem comfortable, I would also ask about the effect of Covid on their community as a conversation starter, but once again: IF AND ONLY IF THEY ARE COMFORTABLE. The last thing I would want to do is to force them to remember the bad things that have happened to them during this past year under lockdown.
- Paolo

Everybody has Something in Common

2021-03-04 10:55:46 UTC

The title of this padlet post is something that I live by whenever meeting new people. There are a bunch of things that, when brought up to a person, will elicit some sort of reaction because of familiarity. Everyone is somewhat familiar with at least the following things:
- Family
- Friends
- Relationships
- Hobbies, Jobs, Aspirations
- Pop Culture

These things are sure to get a reaction out of people, and so I feel like if ever I felt lost without a conversation starter, I would fall on some of these.
- Paolo

Say Thank You

2021-03-04 10:57:56 UTC

As the title says. There is no need to 'flex' or try and compliment nanay's own living space, as it will come off as ingenuine. The most genuine thing to do is say thank you, move on, and only talk about your room again if it is something that is somehow prompted in the conversation.
- Paolo

2021-03-05 08:10:31 UTC

I would simply contact my groupmates and join the call as soon as possible and not make too much of a fuss.

Pie Gonzaga

Act Natural

2021-03-05 08:12:14 UTC

While it IS important to prepare (this is what this Padlet is for), I think being yourself is the most important thing to do in the kwentuhan because we're trying to achieve a natural and free-flowing conversation.

Pie Gonzaga

Get Better :)

2021-03-05 08:14:31 UTC

I'm actually sick right now, so the best thing to do is try to get better. It's also good to give my groupmates and facilitator a heads up if I get sick on the day of the kwentuhan.

Pie Gonzaga

2021-03-05 08:17:24 UTC

I'll have to let my groupmates know through Messenger and find a way to get an internet connection. If I can't, I'll reschedule.

Pie Gonzaga

2021-03-05 08:20:25 UTC

It's best not to bring it up. Doing so might agitate or make our ka-kwentuhan nervous.

Pie Gonzaga

2021-03-05 08:24:10 UTC

I will not pry any further and instead let them know that we are listening. Often, when people impart on us these sensitive stories, they're looking for someone to listen to them. I would also avoid "bola."

2021-03-05 08:28:09 UTC

I'd ask how they're doing and if there's anything else they'd like to say. I would also avoid making use of overly positive sentiments that will make their feelings invalid.

Pie Gonzaga

2021-03-12 07:36:35 UTC

Keep calm and do not panic, knowing that my facilitators, the students, and the people I will talk to during the Online Kwentuhan will understand. Once internet is restored, immediately inform the Binhi Facilitator and schedule a make-up session.
-JR Alvarez