Key statement: 

1.     every education system on earth has the same hierarchy of subjects.

·      At the top are mathematics and languages, then the humanities. At the bottom are the arts. 

·      They all came into being to meet the needs of industrialism

·      most useful subjects for work are at the top. 

2.     you need an MA where the previous job required a BA, and now you need a PhD for the other. 

3.      the whole system of public education around the world is a protracted process of university entrance.

4.     We know three things about intelligence. 

·      Diverse

·      Dynamic

·      Distinct

 

Area of interest: Body Language of other people

 

Nonverbal behaviour = body language for social scientists

 

Communication, interaction.

 

Effect of body language on judgement

 

By watching the body language of the physician, it can successfully predict whether this physician would be sued in the future. It’s not about how he do his job, it’s about how he interact with his patients.

 We are affected by our own body language.

 

Do our nonverbal govern how we think and feel about ourselves

 

People in MBA class comes in with the same qualification but eventually walks out with gender grade gap. This is mainly due to the lower participation rate woman has. Given the fact that 50% of the grade based on participation.

 

High-power people have more testosterone and less cortisol. 

 

Interview 

1.    Presence

2.    Passionate

3.    Enthusiastic

4.    Confident

5.    Authentic

6.    Captivating

 

Fake yourself to be a high-power people until you become one.

 

Area of Interest: Human voice

 

Human voice – most powerful sound in the world. Can declare a war or say I love you

 

Habits to move away from

1.    Gossip

2.    Judging

3.    Negativity

4.    Complaining

5.    Excuses

6.    penultimate

7.    Dogmatism

 

 

“HAIL” stands for:

Honesty be clear and straight

Authenticity be yourself

Integrity by your word

Love wish them well

 

Toolbox

-       Register

-       Timbre

-       Prosody

-       Pace

-       Silence

-       Pitch

- Volume 

-       Use 72 hours to write a 90 pages essay, very bad.

 

Head of procrastinator 

-       Brain of non- procrastinator: 

o  rational decision maker

o  long term plan, each step make sense

-       Brian of a procrastinator

o  Easy and fun

o  Dark playground

§  Guilt, nervous, not the time to take the rest

o  Panic master, wake up when deadline is come 

 

Procrastinator

-       Frustration 

-       Better of the tings had deadline, since panic monster will come at the end.

-       What happen if no deadline, example: self-starter, Working relationship

-       Most people are procrastinating of something

 

-       Solution

o  Life calendar

o  One box for a week

o  90 years of life

o  We already use some the box

 

 

 

Question: Ask audience who had experienced relatively little stress, and moderate stress 

 

●      Kelly, health psychology, mission is to help people happier and healthier

●      Before she believed stress make people sick, and treat stress as enemy 

●      But now she treats stress as friend 

●      People who had a lot of stress in the previous years, 43% increased risk of dying 

●      Amercian people who died early not because stress, but because the thought that stress is harmful for health 

●      But stress can make people healthier, if we changed the minds that stress is bad, once we changed our mind, will change the body's response to stress

●      Example: social stress test 

●      Hormone, oxytocin

○      release when you hug someone, 

○      strength close relationship

○      Enhance empathy 

○      When you feel stress, oxytocin can motivate you to seek support 

○      Also, when someone in your life feel stressful, we can also help 

●      Example 

○      1000 adults in US, age 34-93

○      Asked how much stress have you experienced last year? 

○      Asked again how much time you spend on friends, neighbors, people in the community,

○      Used public record for the next 5 years to know who died 

 

 

Freedom of choice 

-       Maximize freedom is to maximize choice

-       Maximize choice will maximize satisfaction

 

This idea is embedded into our life that almost no one have ever questioned it 

 

Supermarket

175 salad dressing

 

We are able to construct 6.5 million Stereo systems just from one single store.

 

Do you have a phone does do that much?

 

Healthcare in US.

-       We can do A with these benefits and risks or B with these benefits and risks

-       Patient Autonomy shift the responsibility from doctors to patients

-        

Life is a matter of choice

 

All the choice has 2 negative effect

-       Paralysis

-       Opportunity cost (more choice you have, the more opportunity cost u will have) 

 

Adding choices into people’s life will increase the expectation about how good those options will be.

Less satisfactions

 

Everything was better back when everything was worse

·      But we still have problem

o   Women are not making it to the top of any profession anywhere in the world

o   190 heads of state only 9 are women 

o   of all the people in parliament in the world, 13% is women 

o    corporate sector à women at the top only 15, 16% 

o   these number have not moved since 2002 

·      we still have another problem

o   women face harder choices between professional success and personal fulfillment 

o   study in the US, married senior mangers, 2/3 of the married men had children and only 1/3 married women had children 

·      Question: how are we going to fix this? 

o   Solution: keep women in the workplace 

o   Because women are dropping out from fortune 500 CEO jobs 

·      Three messages if you do want to stay in the workforce 

o   Sit at the table 

§  Sit at the table, not sit on the side of the room 

o   Make your partner a real partner 

§  If a women and a man fork full time and have a child, the women does 2 the amount of housework the men does, and the women does 3 times the amount of childcare the men 

§  As a society, we put more pressure on our boys to success than we do on on girls

o   Don’t leave before you leave 

§  Keep your foot on the gas pedal, until the very day you need to leave to take a break for a child, and then make your decision 

§  Don’t make decision too far in advance, particularly ones you are not even conscious you are making 

·      Women underestimate their own abilities 

o   Women do not negotiate for themselves in the workforce 

§  57% boys entering are negotiating their first salary, but only 7% percent of women 

o   men attribute their success to themselves, and women attribute it to other external factors 

·      Presenter: organizational psychologist 

·      Found Paranoia everywhere 

o   Paranoia is caused by people that I call taker 

o   Takers are self-serving in their interactions 

o   It is all about what can you do for me 

o   The opposite is a giver: what can I do for you 

·      Surveyed over 30000 people across industries around the world’s cultures 

o   Found most people are right in the middle between giving and taking 

o   Known as third style called “matching” 

o   Matcher: try do keep an even balance of give and take, I do something for you if you do something for me 

 

·      Givers 

o   Often sacrificing themselves, but they make their organizations better 

o   More often people are helping and sharing their knowledge and providing mentoring, the better organization, higher profits, customers satisfaction, employee retention, lower operating expenses 

o   Givers spend lots of time trying to help other people and improve the team 

 

·      Instead of saying successful is all about winning a competition 

·      People will realize success is really more about contribution 

·      Most meaningful way to success is to help other people succeed 

·      If we can spread that belief, paranoia can turn upside down 

o   Pronoia -> delusional belief that other people are plotting your well-being

·      They are going around behind your back and saying exceptionally glowing things about you 

·      Great thing about a culture of giver is not a delusion, it is a reality 

·      Want to live in a world where givers succeed, hope you will help me create that world 

 

 

·      sitting in 1D in a plane

o   only one who could talk to the flight attendants 

o   he looked at them, and they said “we probably hit some birds, no problem” 

·      pilot already turned the plane around 

·      2 minutes later, 3 things happened at the same time 

·      pilot lines up the plane that usually not the route, turned off the engine, and he said” brace for impact” 

·      see flight attendant’s eye with terror, life was over

 

Three things I learned about myself that day 

1.     all changes in an instant 

o   no longer want to postpone anything in life 

o   do all the experiences I wanted to have and I never did 

2.     choose happiness 

o   regretted the time I wasted on things that did not matter with people that matter

o   decided to eliminate negative energy from my life 

o   even it is not perfect, but it is a lot better

3.     love our life’s 

o   with for one thing, wish he would see his kid grow up 

 

·      He is bawling, and crying, 

·      Realized at that point, by connecting those two dots, that the only thing that matters is my life is being a great dad 

·      Was given the gift of a miracle

o   not dying that day 

·      Another gift 

o   To be able to see into the future and come back and live differently 

·      Challenge us that are flying today, imagine the same things happens on plane, how would us change? 

·      How would you get done that you are waiting to get done because you thing you will be here forever 

·      How would you change your relationship and the negative energy 

·      Are you being the best parent you can 

 

2.     Decide what is important

3.     Be an active listener/reader

4.     Use symbols and abbreviations

5.     Use colours

6.     Revise your notes as soon as possible

7.     Be consistent

8.     Improve your handwriting

9.     Forget spelling and grammar (as long as your meaning is clear)!

10.  How to avoid plagiarism and use paraphrasing instead