You should focus on persuade your dreams, you will have to make a lot adjustments on your life, so you can get the best outcome of all your effort.  I see you could study and that is something that many people can’t do, it’s possible that the society you were raised is really getting to your bones.  You may be uptight that’s why I think you must relax a little bit and start going out more often, remember you are in Europe where you must have to follow some rules but not as strict as in Iran.  You shall insist in the social relations, look for clubs in your neighborhood or in the university, there you might find nice people and if you believe in yourself, the girl of your dreams will get to you as magic on the air.  Life isn’t difficult but you will learn that not everything is easy as looks like; sometimes you will be forced to embrace the environment you are into, and other times you will be able to enjoy the freedom you dream on. There is a small line between you and the things you can conquer, the love will be allowed into your heart if your desire is strong.


by Rubistela Castaño flórez

R/ Appreciated Student:

Good afternoon:

 with respect to your daughter's boyfriend who is twice her age, you should talk to her and let her see the things that could happen and the circumstances that the relationship would bring, in that he has a wife and two more children, that is to say, a would have responsibility already taken, to make him understand what it would imply for his life, for the inexperience in the subject of the relations and obvious it would give him to understand my total disagreement but if same how much I love her and that therefore I would not want that they made him suffer in this way, on the other hand I, as a father, looked for the way to talk with his daughter's boyfriend, since they are almost the same age as his, and to let him know my relationship with the relationship, since the he has a wife and two more children under his responsibility so he could not offer a welfare and emotional security to his daughter and would ask her for the love of God to set her free and not harm her life when she was so young, because could be affected too n for his children that he has under his responsibility and for which he must give an example to his family, so that later his children do not go through the same situation that he is going through today, so sir, speak first with his daughter and then I could talk to her boyfriend, because with communication it could be a happy ending to a complex situation for both parties.i know that you Will be able to do it

 

I hope this advice gives you the necessary arguments for the solution of the situation with your daughter.

By Claudia Victoria Oviedo

Good afternoon
Well, in this situation I consider that you can have a friendship from teacher to student. You know that she is a little older than you ; Just before your head keeps fantasizing about a possible relationship, answer the following question: Are you of legal age? If the answer is no, you must stop immediately here. Do not think for a moment about having a relationship with your teacher while you are a minor. Why? Well because in our country and in many countries it is illegal and it won't be allowed. In case you really love her, the last thing you want is to cause her problems, and much less, with justice. Can you imagine your feeling of guilt? , you must not do anything about it until you are of legal age.

In these moments I advise you that you should think with the head and not with the heart; Only then can you reach the correct conclusion; You are a very young student and by the age may arise feelings accelerated by the prototype of the couple you want or it is simply a whim of wanting to know what it feels like to go out with an older person and experiment. Although I believe that you need a time to think alone about it.

 Regarding the age difference can not say whether it is important or not the years that the teacher takes more depends on you but if the teacher is aware of this situation will not take you into account for a relationship by professional ethics or restrictions institutional On the other hand it is better that you finish studying in the place where the teacher works. Then you could look for an opportunity to talk and determine if that relationship is possible or not. I know that you will be able to do that, you should also talk to your parents and tell them that who better than them to advise you; since they are older they have more experience and surely they will know how to help you. I think that could have someone of your generation if that or that teacher overcomes your age in too many years.

If with the advice that I have given you ;you decide or you have reached the conclusion that it is better to forget about this situation I advise you to begin to see the qualities of your teacher in a person of your age, stop fantasizing and fill your free time in do activities that you like for example you could: do some sport, go to watch movies with your friends, share more with your parents among others.

To conclude, it is better that you do not obsess with impossible loves; since they can cause emotional damage and hurt you, you may even be failing to take other possibilities which are more appropriate to your age, experiences that fill you and enjoy them.

 Well I hope I have been able to solve all your doubts and help you to solve this situation.
                                     Take care 

By Raquel Bautista