https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx Better Conversations Book Study: Chapter 2 en-us 2016-09-30 13:17:33 UTC 2018-10-13 17:40:01 UTC hello@padlet.com kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127524822 I see conversation partners as equals]]> 2016-09-30 13:49:20 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127524822 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525028 I want to hear what others have to say]]> 2016-09-30 13:49:56 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525028 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525203 I believe people should have a lot of autonomy.]]> 2016-09-30 13:50:31 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525203 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525306 I don't judge others.

]]> 2016-09-30 13:50:47 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525306 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525382 Conversation should be back and forth.]]> 2016-09-30 13:51:02 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525382 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525467 Conversation should be life-giving.]]> 2016-09-30 13:51:17 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127525467 https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127604661 We should act like they are doing us a favor by talking with us AND THEY REALLY ARE BECAUSE THEY ARE SO CRUNCHED FOR TIME. We have to show that we value them as a person.]]> 2016-09-30 17:37:21 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127604661 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127604667 closed questions are judgements in disguise ]]> 2016-09-30 17:37:22 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127604667 https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127604680 People are rarely motivated by other people's plans for them.

When a professional has no voice in the plan and are told what to do, they are unlikely to be motivated to embrace the plan.

Top-down directives=half-hearted compliance and little commitment to meaningful change.

"When you insist, they will resist."

-Autonomy allows:
-Freedom to choose
The opportunity to be authentic.
-One to feel complete
-One to draw her own conclusions
-One to have control over his own life
-One to differentiate herself]]> 2016-09-30 17:37:23 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127604680 https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127605150 My Voice Survey (6-12 students): 46% feel students have a voice in decision making; 52% believe teachers are willing to listen to students- teachers feel the same way ]]> 2016-09-30 17:38:15 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127605150 debora_hodler https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127605253 -Arguing for change
-Assuming the Expert Role
-Criticizing, Shaming, or Blaming
-Labeling
-Being in a Hurry
-Claiming Preeminence

]]> 2016-09-30 17:38:27 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127605253 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127605458 Seeing conversation as a two-way interaction is to live out our true respect for other people whom which we communicate with. ]]> 2016-09-30 17:38:33 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127605458 https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127605938 Survey given to all different professions (150,000 people) included question, "At work, do my opinions seem to count?"

Teachers at bottom of the list - less than construction workers and service workers
Implication- we need to keep this in mind as coaches]]> 2016-09-30 17:40:04 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127605938 https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606108 Communication Trust-the willingness to share information, tell the truth, admit mistakes, maintain confidentiality, give and receive constructive feedback, and speak with good purpose.]]> 2016-09-30 17:40:41 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606108 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606446 I will leave conversations feeling more alive for having experienced them]]> 2016-09-30 17:41:46 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606446 debora_hodler https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606677 2016-09-30 17:42:37 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606677 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606693 When people come together to set goals, a real bond can develop, a deep affection can grow, and important life-long friendships can take root.]]> 2016-09-30 17:42:42 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606693 https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606976 To be nonjudgemental does not mean we ignore reality. It means we don't share our perceptions in a way that diminishes others.]]> 2016-09-30 17:43:35 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127606976 https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127607074 Connected this belief to Covey's habit: "See first to understand, then be understood."]]> 2016-09-30 17:43:53 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127607074 kayla_miller https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127607633 -never impose
-focus on the positive]]> 2016-09-30 17:45:30 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127607633 debora_hodler https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127607649 2016-09-30 17:45:32 UTC https://padlet.com/kayla_miller/49xt53mlixkx/wish/127607649