ARACNE C.2.2. Active - Constructive Response (Collective) by ARACNE https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro Return to home page: https://padlet.com/alallaf/wvv7nd2s0d01 en-us 2016-07-17 05:19:03 UTC 2025-11-23 14:51:26 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/icons/Thunder.png METHODOLOGICAL DESCRIPTION alallaf https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505633 Step 1
The trainer explains the four field scheme of communication using the foure quadrant grid (See under RESOURCES NEEDED).
A couple living together is having dinner. She tells him that she is very pleased aconversation she had today with her boss as she got a salary rise.
Following the communication model, the man has got four ways to reply to the woman he loves. And if he is interested in having a long lasting happy relationship with this woman, he should answer in an active and constructive way as studies have proven that couples who communicate in such a way have a much more fulfilling and joyful relationship than those who don’t do so. But let’s go through all possibilities he has to answer:

Active – destructive:
Oh my God! Look what you have done with your stupid conversation you had with your boss today! Now we have to pay more tax as you are only interested in money! And by the way, you will have to work more for this money, won’t you? So you won’t have enough time to do your housework! And do you think that I will do the housework? But I will tell you something: I will do nothing…

Passive – destructive:
Where is my beer and is dinner ready now?

Passive – constructive:
Fine, my dear! Congratulations!

Active – constructive:
Oh wonderful my darling! I am so happy that you have got this salary rise as you told me that you have worked so hard in the last few months. Now please tell me exactly what you said to your boss! And what did he answer? I am really interested to hear more about it as you were not sure you would get the salary increase. Yesterday you told me that you were a little bit anxious as you …

Step 2
The trainer discusses with the group the specific features of each communication style. Communicating in an active and constructive way is based on the following points:
  • showing real interest by asking questions to get more information
  • being able to listen closely to the person who is talking to you
  • being able to express feelings in an empathetic way
  • being interested in the feelings the other person has

Step 3
The trainees practise the active – constructive way of communicating in small groups. Person A talks about a problem or tells the other person about a nice event she or he has experienced. Person B is trying to react in an active and constructive way. Two or three people are listening. After this session these people give feedback to person A and B. Then another person from the group takes the part of person A and another one the part of Person B and the exercise starts from the beginning. One session is about 10 minutes, feedback forabout 5 minutes.
]]> 2016-07-16 14:23:32 UTC https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505633 ASSESSMENT INDICATORS alallaf https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505634 The person  has learned how to improve and to maintain prosperous relationships with other people.]]> 2016-07-16 14:29:59 UTC https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505634 DESCRIPTION OF THE ACTIVITY alallaf https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505635 Showing authentic interest elaborates the experience that a person feels validated and understood. Learn to respond to others to build strong relationships and praise to build mastery and winning streaks.

Source: Shelly GableShelly Gable et al (2004) called Active Constructive Responding (ACR).
 
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]]> 2016-07-16 14:18:40 UTC https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505635 RESOURCES NEEDED alallaf https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505636 Four quadrant grid]]> 2016-07-16 14:26:55 UTC https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505636 INTERVENTION IN THE CONTEXT? alallaf https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505637 No]]> 2016-07-16 14:22:46 UTC https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505637 COMPETENCES TO BE DEVELOPED alallaf https://padlet.com/alallaf/3osx6tnn8sro/wish/116505638 At the end of the exercise individuals will:
  • put more awareness on communication
  • have the knowhow to communicate in an active and constructive way
  • be able to improve and to maintain prosperous relationships with other people
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