https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s Reflect on a time you felt heard and a time when you did not feel heard. What were the indicators of each one? en-us 2021-07-22 01:13:54 UTC 2021-08-26 18:41:24 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/1f442.png https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699063814 I knew I was being heard when the person I was talking to asked me thoughtful questions about what I'd said. I knew I wasn't being heard when the person asked me to repeat myself, twice. 

]]> 2021-08-26 18:35:33 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699063814 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699064727 An indicator of a time I felt heard vs not felt heard: whether action was taken. if I was given resources I needed or if I just kept being told they would get back to me.]]> 2021-08-26 18:36:06 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699064727 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699064996 The times when I have felt heard generally result in some kind of change coming from the interaction, and the times I have not felt heard things stay the same.]]> 2021-08-26 18:36:17 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699064996 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699065734 A time when I know i was being heard, was when I received an email form the person i was mentoring thanking me for what I was teaching them and how they applied it to their practice.]]> 2021-08-26 18:36:44 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699065734 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699065883 Being heard felt like the person cared, especially when they asked questions.  Not being heard, the person continued with their behavior.

]]> 2021-08-26 18:36:49 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699065883 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699066256 An example of when I did not feel heard is when I repeatedly share the same experience with someone in power, and it does not change at all.

]]> 2021-08-26 18:37:03 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699066256 dpardee1 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699066452 When I felt heard: the other person directly addressed the question or concern I raised and didn't dance around it or be vague, even if it wasn't the resolution I was hoping for.

When I did not feel heard: when given a perfunctory "thanks for that" and then it is never addressed again.]]> 2021-08-26 18:37:10 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699066452 chrisviveiros https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699066518 When Fenway went through a leadership change after a scandal a few years ago, I did not feel heard by the Board of Directors members at the listening session I attended.

And more generally, I know I am being heard when people offer genuine sympathy or ideas in response to issues or problems in my life rather than just general platitudes. ]]> 2021-08-26 18:37:13 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699066518 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067019 Heard- reflected listening, repeating back with similar language, and being asked clarifying questions
Not heard-having to ask/advocate for things multiple times without any actionable follow up or solution

]]> 2021-08-26 18:37:31 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067019 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067102 Not being heard, argument ensued.
Being heard, good day ensued.

]]> 2021-08-26 18:37:35 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067102 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067113 Feeling Heard Indicators: 
 - The listener summarized what I said or expanded on it with additional comments/questions

Feeling Unheard Indicator: 
- Rapidly changing the subject, felt like my contribution was glossed over]]> 2021-08-26 18:37:35 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067113 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067250 I feel heard when the questions are open ended and curious. I do not feel heard when I feel like people are asking in a way to get the answer they want.

]]> 2021-08-26 18:37:40 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067250 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067597 2021-08-26 18:37:47 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067597 ebrackett2 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067877 I am not heard when my ideas or input is dismissed or responded to with sarcasm. My input was not valued. 

]]> 2021-08-26 18:37:54 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699067877 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699068081 I feel heard when the person I am talking to has eye contact and is engaged. I did not feel heard when I see the person's eyes are elsewhere and I'm getting "uh huh" and "okay" (when communicating via video).]]> 2021-08-26 18:38:01 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699068081 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699068615 Having what you say reflected back is validating.

]]> 2021-08-26 18:38:22 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699068615 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699068908 I feel heard when I have someone's full attention and they are engaged in what I am telling them. The other person doesn't have to necessarily fully understand what I'm sharing or offer much dialogue, but their attention lets me know they are listening. I feel unheard when someone tries to talk over me or offer solutions when I haven't asked for that. ]]> 2021-08-26 18:38:33 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699068908 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699069756 I knew I was being heard when my ideas were put in place. I knew I wasn't being hear when i was told in a meeting "I don't understand can you say that again"

]]> 2021-08-26 18:38:48 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699069756 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699069793 I feel heard when people take my thoughts and ideas into consideration. I feel seen when people do some thing for me without having to ask! I feel known and taken care of. I dont feel heard when I have to ask several times, have to explain my self over again, ... or worse, other try to explain me NOT using my words... and do it poorly.]]> 2021-08-26 18:38:49 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699069793 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699070277 Feeling heard - person nodding or relating to me with a similar story

Not Heard -  Asking me about something that we had already discussed (or at least I spoke about it... they didn't hear).]]> 2021-08-26 18:39:03 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699070277 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699070297 ON the flip side we still need to evaluate our time off policies because of COVID and some folks feel that we have done enough and its over. Which is frustrating


]]> 2021-08-26 18:39:04 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699070297 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699070315 A time I felt heard was when my idea was acted upon and acknowledged


A time when I did not felt heard was when my idea was repeated by someone else and they received the credit]]> 2021-08-26 18:39:05 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699070315 ebrackett2 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699070386 Publicly thanked for the contribution/idea. Final product that has evidence of my input.

]]> 2021-08-26 18:39:07 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699070386 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699071773 when I have felt unheard, there was misunderstanding, hurt feelings or feeling dismissed or disregarded.]]> 2021-08-26 18:40:00 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699071773 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699071779 I felt heard when the person I was talking too was asking questions.

I felt not heard when the person I was talking too kept talking over me.]]> 2021-08-26 18:40:00 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699071779 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699071931 I feel heard when someone listens to me and responds in a way that indicates they understood what I said.

When I did not feel heard, after speaking the person would say something back that indicated they did not understand what I said and did not allow me an opportunity to explain further.]]> 2021-08-26 18:40:06 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699071931 https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699072616 A time that I felt heard was when the issue that I brought up was addressed.

A time that I felt not being listened is when the issue I raised not being addressed.]]> 2021-08-26 18:40:33 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699072616 ywboston https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699074145 Times that I felt heard was to have meaningful conversation around what I said so that there is clarity]]> 2021-08-26 18:41:19 UTC https://padlet.com/ywboston/3dtbagbta7gf21s/wish/1699074145