hapter 7: Toys/Gender, Sex and Sexuality, (H) 161-172: Henslin, On Becoming Male by https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6 Gender is the cultural and sociological human behaviors, clothing choices and how a person is supposed to behave while sex is the biological and sociological constructed parts which involve the genitals and chromones. In Becoming Male by James Henslin, we learn that there is a difference between men and women. Men and women envelop social change, men are meant to dominate some social institutions such as business, politics, law, family, relationships, sports, education, and marriage. Women also do have difficult and supportive roles. How James' discussion of male development and how socialization experiences places boys in the world for dominance can be related to current conditions is becoming a man is not easy neither is becoming a woman easy but I feel like as much as It would be hard for someone to become a man is the same as it is going to be hard to become a woman. Becoming a man is hard especially in this current generation because, the roles of men has changed as compared to the 90's and 50's because they world is more civilized. In this generation men face a lot of issues trying to adapt the society and masculinity. An example am going to use to show how James' discussion of the difficulties of becoming a man can be related to current condition is relationships. In relationships, men are often portrayed as unemotional, unaffectionate and nonchalant. But what I have learned from different experiences is men often have emotions and sometimes they just don't show females the emotions because the society consider that as being week and, they wouldn't want any female to see them at their week points. When i found out this was one of the reason to why boys never showed emotions, it really saddened me because, I feel like regardless of our gender we should be able to show emotions without feeling judged because we all our humans and go through hard times. I feel like the society also really affects masculinity for example when it comes to different social activities such as sports music taste and body shape all that. If you a boy and you don't listen to a certain artist or play a certain sport or don't have tats or ear piercing or don't have abs, then you considered lame, nerd, boring, dry and even unattractive because you don't participate in some certain type of things that everyone does and this goes the same for females to and it is really frustrating and that's why a lot of men and women tend to be insecure because of how the society these days identifies masculinity or femininity. How i have seen this discussion play out in my life is, I remember my guy best friend was dating this girl and the relationship was really good till she started complaining about everything he was doing for example like if he ate a lot she would rudely tell him like "oh don't you think that's a lot of food you eating for a man that's trying to stay in shape" and at first, he didn't take it personal because he believed she didn't mean no harm but she kept on saying other disrespectful things to him about his looks and would compare him to his other friends and as soon as he tried communicating his feelings with her, she told him he was just being insecure and a "cry baby" and that he should grow up and accept simple facts. He really felt disrespected, and he just ended things with her because the disrespect was to much to him. This had a huge affect on him because this was his first relationship and it just gave him a really different point of view towards females and learnt to just never open up about his feelings to a girl cause then he is doesn't want to be seen as "disrespectful, insecure and a cry baby" However after that situation he focused on him worked on his body and learnt to love himself regardless. How his Discussion of becoming a male challenges the world is becoming a man is not easy and the society and it's norms definitely make it more harder so instead of trying to judge a man or comparing to another man because of his body type, music type, and physical looks, its better we accept our men for who they are and help them become a better version of themselves that they would like to be. en-us 2022-04-05 17:39:02 UTC 2025-10-25 14:43:54 UTC hello@padlet.com 180-191: Thorne & Luria, Sexuality and Gender.... megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2141684649 In Sexuality and Gender, the author examines the implication between men and women and how their childhood memories can affect their adult gender roles. When girls grow up, they often tend to be more concerned about intimacy, emotions, romance, beauty, physical appearance and self-love while boys are more concerned on independence and sexuality. How Thorne's discussion of difference between the relationship between men and women can be related to current conditions is, girls are very different from boys like we care about every single thing around us and we always want to make sure that we are perfect and sometimes  we do this for ourselves but some other times we do it to please others while as compared to boys. Boys don't really care like that I mean yeah they would definitely care for what they want and need but that's just pretty much it. An example I would use to portray the difference between boys and girls is appearance and sexuality. We girls care so much about our appearance because we were raised in such way like for example girls start being more worried about their appearance while in kindergarten because we start getting into maturity and some certain insecurities start developing in us which may sometimes make us compare ourselves to other girls in school and this insecurities causes us to want to change things about ourselves just because we feel like we are not good enough. Sometimes I just feel like girls get envious of other girls because of their appearance because for example the other girl might be attracting more boys than her maybe because she has a bigger bum or bigger boobs and sometimes that may make a girl look down on herself and question her appearances. While boys  don't care about their looks i mean like they do, but not as compared to us females because for them they raised up with the mindset that it's not always about looks but more about a females heart. Even though some boys do think that way, a lot of others boys are just more of a am just trying to get laid type of people like for example I have a lot of male friends and I see what they do to females everyday and i remember I was talking one of them like you know like what do you guys really want in a girl or what do you look for and he just straight up told me like " aye man life is to short like why have one girl when you can have a lot of different girls and get laid anytime you want and wish to" and to me I was like WHAT!!!!! because I always seen how he spoke with this girls but I guess his intentions were not genuine because he just wanted to get laid. At the end of the day, is till know and believe that they are genuine men out there that would love a female regardless of her looks, appearance and body shape but they are very rare to find these days. But sometimes I just feel like it all depends on home training, how the were raised from scratch and experiences like some boys behave in such ways because they have had bad dating experiences and they turn to put their anger and revenge on other females and they do this by hurting other females just because they were hurt or betrayed in their past relationship. Again that's not an excuse to play with other peoples feelings and emotions because at the end of the day this are just life lessons that make us stronger and smarter. How I have seen this discussion play out in my life is, growing up as a kid, i remember my parents would always tell me like you can't wear such type of outfits because only boys are allowed to dress like that and now i look back I just think that was so wrong  and kind of sexist because women have being always told what to do, what not to do and even how to dress which i think is unfair because we should be allowed to do what makes us comfortable and let us wear what makes us feel comfortable regardless. Another example on how I have seen this topic play out in my life is I have siblings and my little brother is very emotional and stubborn like whenever he is asked to do something or yelled at he does this tantrums and then after some time he starts crying and my mom usually says this phrase "stop crying, you are not a girl and shouldn't always cry over everything because only girls act like that" and to me it cracks me up cause am like what??? so, he shouldn't feel sad because only girls are suppose to cry but at the end of the day I just feel like this are just believes that the society makes us believe. How Thorne's discussion of difference between women and men challenge my world view is it's really frustrating that kids have to go through this things of what not to do and to do because I know a lot of these things start at a young age where kids start feeling insecure and looking down on their selves and rather than our parents telling us what to do and not do because of our gender, it's better they advice us and give us positive critics than just telling us that is wrong to feel, act, or do something and act a certain way because of our gender. How this reading can be related to other things i have learned in this class is, gender separation doesn't does not only involve sexuality, appearance, emotions or romance but education is also included. While watching the videos i learned that boy are often encouraged to shop classes, science courses and math classes while women are encouraged to take classes like arts, nutrition and home economics. I didn't know counselors still did such things because right now am taking women in history and lately we were talking about how women were being treated in the 50's and i learned that a lot of women we meant to stay at home and take care of their husbands and kids and do house chores and if they were allowed to go to school, they were only permitted to take classes such as home economics and other classes that would encourage and teach them how to be stay home moms and i found it really disturbing that such things still exist till date. As a woman, I wouldn't be told what to do and not do because of my gender as long what am doing makes me happy, that's what i might do regardless of what people thing because at the end of the day, people would always have something to say about other peoples life. I encourage a lot of other young teens to fight for what they want and not let they society determine their happiness because of their gender. And parents should train the kids right from elementary so do won't have to compare or compete with others for certain things in life.]]> 2022-04-13 01:02:07 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2141684649 On Becoming a female by Donna Eder, we learn how girl's experiences in peer groups may influence how they view themselves and how peer interactions focus on the superficialities of appearance and how society and peers play a role in the formation and development of identity in girls. How Mills discussion of becoming female maybe related to the current condition is, we live in a society where women are expected look a certain way, dress a certain act a certain and even talk in a certain in other to get to a certain point in life. I feel like as a woman we face more issues in the society as compared to men especially when in our teenage years. Am not saying boys don't face problems too, I know they do but i just believe it's not as compared to what we as women go through to be able to adapt, feel comfortable and feminine in ourselves. I feel like it is harder for us to be ourselves when we in a teenage year's cause that's when maturity starts, we start experiencing new things such as periods, body change, relationships, sexual development, high pigmentation etc. Some of these things might often make us insecure of ourselves such as high pigmentation (acne). I say this from experience because, growing up as a kid I never had acne and I believed that i would never get it because i got to certain point of my teenage years and it never even got to me but, after sometime out of nowhere I started getting a lot of acne and at the beginning it would really make me feel so insecure and make me not want to go out but, after some time after realizing that it wasn't going to go any sooner or later i just accepted and dealt with it. Some other aspects that cause us a lot to go through when becoming females are insecurities, appearance, body and peer pressure. An aspect I am going to use as an example to show how Donna's discussion of becoming a female can be related to current conditions is appearance. Females we go through a lot because we are trying to feet in the societies view of a "perfect beautiful" girl. Why i say this is because I remember my cousin once had this modelling interview and she was so nervous and scared. She has been doing modeling for over 2 years now and this deal was pretty big and popular. So I was curious cause i had never seen her so nervous for a modelling interview considering the fact that she has being doing this for a long time now. so I asked why she felt that way and she told me "oh it's because this is not just any ordinary brand and they are obviously going to be more prettier girls than me". When she told me this I was surprise cause is like, you have being doing this for years so how is it that all of a sudden you feeling this way for this specific brand and she was just like oh its because some modelling agencies well literally prefer looks over your talents. To me i felt like she was in that mindset of that the other girls would be prettier than her and she wouldn't get chosen because of that which was kind of delusional to me cause i was like why would you want to put yourself in competition with other females just over your looks when you all are there for the same purpose. At the end of the day she did signed by the brand and it was because of her talents and not because of her looks. I feel we females this days, we tend to over look in to ourselves and try to pick and overthink everything about ourselves and that's what sometimes cause us to be insecure because at the end of the day you really are just who you are and i know we all are beautiful and we should never feel like we in competition with other females because of our appearance because God created us different for a reason. I also think that social media plays a very big role in becoming a female. They world has changed so much to the point were u could literally photoshop yourself to look a certain way and all this is because of the internet and social media. We often tend to compare ourselves to other people on the internet, we compare our body, looks and wish to "look like" this social media influencer but, fail to forget that sometimes all the things we see on the internet are sometimes fake. How i have seen this discussion play out in my life is, back in middle school, i was so insecure cause of my skin color. Other girls would always remind me like "omg you to dark and your lips are so thick" and that would make me feel so hurt and insecure of myself. Those comments always made me wished i was lighter skin and i remember at a certain point i even tried using different types of lotion to bleach my skin just because i wanted to adapt and not get called all those names. After sometime, I looked at myself in the mirror and started noticing some parts of my skin were getting brighter than they others. I mean I was happy about it since I felt like maybe from there, I wouldn't be called all those mean names but, however it didn't stop people started saying how uneven my skin was like how am I darker in some spots and lighter in some spots and from those different comments, I got even more hurt then later looked at myself and felt so disappointed. I realized that even though this people are just judging because of my looks appearance and skin color, they don't even know me or know the story of my ancestors, what we had to go through back in they days just cause of our skin color and it made me realize that regardless of what you do in life trying to change your looks because he or she said this and that, people will still have an opinion on your appearance so at the end of the day just be you, love yourself and surround yourself with people that love and appreciate you for you and that's what i did. Stopped caring about what the other girls at school said about my looks, skin color and lips and accepted myself for who i was. And now that am older I have learned to love myself and appearance regardless of my acne and big lips and I love my lips because they same people that had so much to say about my lips are they same ones paying a lot of money to go get lip injections. How this discussion challenges the world is, i feel we females try to grow before our age like try doing things at a young age and tend to affect us at an early age just because of peer groups or peer pressure for example we face so much challenges sometimes trying to look beautiful like wearing makeup and it sucks because halve of the time, we don't even wear it cause we trying to please anyone. We wear it because we want to show our creativity and just be us but then here comes the men judging us she wears so much makeup, she is a catfish, she is a whole different person without that makeup. Imagine being in middle school and hearing some random boy or even a girl like you saying that. This are challenges we face everyday. I just think this generation they kids are forcing growth on themselves like rather than trying all this things let's learn to teach our young ones to love themselves, be confident in themselves, feel good in their bodies, skin color, hair, body shape before letting them rush themselves into such things just because of peer pressure. How this discussion relates to the other things i learned in this course is becoming a female is not an easy task because we go through competition, peer pressure, insecurities, judgement of our body shape and skin color. At the end of the day I learn that you have to love yourself for you because if you don't, then no one would do it for you and at the end of they day no matter how you might compare yourself or wish to be like someone else, you are never going to be like them so, it's better we start accepting ourselves for who we are, loving ourselves and be happy with our appearance because we all are different and unique megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2142631535 2022-04-13 16:02:28 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2142631535 192-198: Tannen, But What Do You Mean? megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2144209765 In what do you mean by Deborah we realize that social interaction between men and women may often come across as difficult and communication between two different genders maybe different and confusing based on the social values that surround this conversation such as, apologies, criticism, fighting, jokes and complaints. How Deborahs conversation of difference between social interaction between men and women can be related to current conditions is men and women have totally different ideas and mindset like some females would be fully in support of certain type of things while women would fully disagree, and the situation may also go vise versal. For example, I was watching this interview and the females basically asked the guys how the felt about a female with a higher body count then they guys explained that if they are dating a female and her body count is higher than 3 then she is considered a hoe and then a female asked them like oh ok, how about a dude having a higher body count, and they guys were like ok that only goes to show that he is a man. When I finished watching the interview, I asked my friends what their thoughts were concerning the interview and my girlfriends thought it was totally unfair and the totally disagreed with it because at the end of day it still doesn't change the fact the both have a higher body count but my guy friends were like of course I totally agree and to me I was like why do guys thing this way and I felt like that was really disrespectful. At the end of the day, I just had to realize that it is their different ways of complaints concerning that topic but again, it doesn't justify the disrespect towards us females and I just feel like they should be a better approach regarding this topic. How I have seen this discussion play out in my life is, Us women we are always ready to accept our mistakes, work on becoming better and not repeating the same mistakes and apologizing when we wrong but, however men have such a huge ego, and they just can't bring it down to apologize. For example, I know a friend and whenever her and her boyfriend would get into an argument, she would always be the first to apologize and she always felt bad even when he was at fault. One time they had gotten into a big argument, and she decided that she wouldn't say anything to him to see his reaction. He didn't do anything about it and acted so unbothered towards the situation. After some time, he reached out to me considering the fact that I was closer to her and he was just basically telling me to talk to her on his behave concerning the situation and how sorry he was. I found it so weird like that's your girl if you guys have being together for a long period of time, you should be able to own your mistakes and be bold enough and apologize in her face like she always does to you. To him his excuse was he didn't want to bring his ego down or made it seem like he was chasing her and I was like that's not bad because if you like her that's what you should be doing and he said it's not manly of him and his friends had told him that, he was not at fault and he should not feel bad for her and just let the situation go if she doesn't apologize. And from that situation I just learned that it's not always about saying things it's how we say things and our actions regarding such things we say. for example, You can't be professing love to someone but then on the other hand you find it so difficult to apologize to her when you are wrong because you and your friends think it's not "manly" of you. How this discussion challenges the worlds point of view is there is a lot of difference between male and female communications a mans mindset is totally different from a womans mindset because we all have different experiences when it comes to different life situations regardless of our gender. This challenges the world in a way that, some of experiences tend to be negative while some are positive and due to different norms that are associated with such experiences, it may automatically change our perspective towards something. There are no right or wrong ways to talk, the important thing is to know your audience and know how to spread a message regardless of what gender you are and the tongue carries a lot of power so people should be mindful of what the say and how the say things to people.]]> 2022-04-14 18:12:48 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2144209765 How My Social Class has Affected my Life megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2144388566 Am a female and growing up as a young black girl in the U.S has never been easy. I have dealt with critics, both positive and negative but that didn't change who I was. How I describe my manner of socializing myself in my gender is just by pretty much being myself and being around people that I know and believe that genuinely love me. For example, growing up as a kid, i was insecure like I just didn't like the fact that I was black going to an all-white school so, with that came along with me trying to fit it, adapt to the system, and it always getting picked on because I was different. This made me really insecure and made me always be to myself because during my first years of high school, i always had this void in me that would make me feel like am not enough and I forcedly needed someone to vent to, or someone to complete me it was just like I just need someone in my life but mind you I did have family I feel like it was that thirst for friendship because my classmates had "perfect" friendships with their friend group then there was me with barely any friends and going to school where you can't be yourself because they are not enough people to match your energy or share your ideas with didn't even help me at all so that always meet a shy and quite girl. During my junior that was in 2020, when we were going through a pandemic and schools were close and we all were in quarantine. During this period of time, staying home and just meditating and really just being to myself and not having a reason to complain about having to go somewhere that i wouldn't fit in really helped me. Like I said in my padlet before this one rather than comparing yourself to others or wanting to be like others because they have something that you don't have and you would like to have, instead work on yourself, fix that thing, change it or force yourself to adapt to the thing and love yourself regardless of what it is and that's what I did. The reason to why I couldn't socialize myself to my gender at that time was because I wasn't in the right environment for that so after that time of quarantine i changed schools and transferred to a different school. While transferring I promised myself that I wouldn't have no expectation or high hopes of making the best friends or "perfect" friendship but instead, I learn to adapt, socialize, be myself and not depend on no one except my family. And just keeping that mindset made me genuinely happy in that school I did make friends and even though after high school, we fell of, it didn't bother me because we had great and fun memories at the time. So the lesson behind this story is trying to socialize myself based on my gender was not an easy task especially in high school but still did it and rather than just stressing myself, i learned and built myself love. Socialization with different genders come with a lot of things regardless of girls or boys. I am going to speak from my point of view for example with us girls we are always trying compere with some other girl like it's always something with us and sometimes it might affect the friendship because of jealousy but as long as you learn the fact you are beautiful regardless of who you around and that it should never be about who is more prettier because we all different and have different qualities regardless of looks and appearances, then you would never feel they need to be jealous of your friend because of something. It hasn't always being easy for me to socialize myself with my gender but I always made it possible by being myself, doing thinks that make me happy and surrounding around people that match my energy and love me for me.

]]> 2022-04-14 22:10:11 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2144388566 341-348: Katz, The importance of being Beautiful megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2144519691 Beauty van be used as a term that refers to a group's system of ranking and it characterizes social stratification. In importance of being beautiful by Sidney Katz we learn that society may rank us by speech, our walk, things we own or display, the car we drive, our hairstyles, appearance and even the clothing we wear. How Sidney's discussion of importance of beauty can be related to current condition is beauty has caused people to get higher positions in life, made some people lose their jobs and social class, caused people to judge others, made people feel insecure, made people compete with other, caused jealousy, make people become fake or turn themselves to who they are not and pretend to be who 
they are not just so society ranks them in a  certain type of way. An example i would like to use to show how beauty is important in our current society is that beauty has made people portray themselves for someone that they are not just so they could get a lover or attention. For example there is a show called catfish where the producers help people who are emotionally entangled with someone they have never met before and in this show it;s different people that portray themselves  as someone else just so they can get attention from someone else because they feel like they are not "beautiful enough" and for them lying about their looks may make them easily find a lover. At the end of every episode of the show we tend to find out that one of the people were lying about their personalities or looks which it sucks for the other person cause is like why would pretend to be a whole different person just for male validation or because you want people to see in a certain type of way. It's a lot of other things people do just because of appearance and looks and it sucks because a lot of people that tend to look down on their selves, the are mostly being influenced by the internet, social media, peer pressure, early life experiences and many other social aspects. I feel like people should never see or use social media as a means to look down on themselves because most of the things we see on social media are fake. I know girls that would always want to compare themselves to a certain social media influencer because she is wealthier and has a better body shape and wished to be like them. I i would always tell them like that's their life and let them live their live, you live your life according to your levels and don't compare yourself to other people because you don't know what they did or what they had to go through to achieve a certain body shape. Another example  I  would use to relate to how beauty is influencing the society is recently a girl had posted a video basically saying that when making friends, it is important to choose pretty friends because it may offer more life opportunities and open more doors for you because one of her friend who she usually goes to the club with always get's free entrances because of her looks while when she goes with her other friends they have to pay so she always prefer going out with the other
 friends. I and a couple of other friends were discussing on the video and we just saying that people shouldn't be friends with someone because they are pretty or wealthy or famous i mean it's not the point but there are just examples. We shouldn't choose our friends because of their looks because at the end of the day looks and appearance does not determine who a person is because they logic says that show me your friends and i might tell you who you are which is totally true. for example yeah your home girl might be pretty or hot and get you free passes but what if she is know for being a scammer or a robber and, as soon as others see you  with her their first thought would be oh yeah that's her partner in crime but on the other hand you don't even know this because you are more focus on the fact she is pretty and get's your free passes instead and getting to know her and get the reason to why she get's those free pass easily. Now you have people thinking you are a scammer when you have no clue about that lifestyle. At the end of the day we shouldn't entertain or get into friendships or even relationships because of someone's appearance or looks because that doesn't determine who the person is. How I have seen this discussion of beauty play out in my life is when i was in high school, there were this group of girls and there were known for being like "prettiest" girls in school just because of how the carried their selves around school they were the mean girls like yes they were pretty and all but they would always disrespect others and talk down on other females because they had a lot of attention and felt like they could manipulate others. But it was really bad for them because even though they were pretty and all, they couldn't get keep up with their grades because they were busy trying to always make other girls compete with them or make other females feel like they are not pretty  enough. So then time came and it was time to graduate and unfortunately for them, they weren't able to graduate with their other friends because their grades were so down. My point is like we get that you want to be that girl, but again you have to understand that we in school not even college but high school and before anything a GED is very important because that's the least degree you can have that can help someone get a tangible job in the U.S and your purpose of being in school is to get that degree so to me i was like why not focus on getting that degree before choosing to portray yourself as the baddest in school when no one  even cares and at the end of the day, there were they ones that got made fun of by their other class mates. How  Sidney's discussion of beauty challenges my world view is, while reading her points, she talks about how beauty has influenced peoples life, in school, college years, marriage, careers and even old age and her points are basically saying that even though a lot of people won't agree to it, beauty plays a very important role in our social lives regardless of our gender, qualifications, abilities and capabilities. And i totally agree with her because at the end of the day people won't see others for who they are but instead they choose to see and accept people for how they look, or what they can do to satisfy their needs. I know they are genuine people that don't care about those things and for they people who choose to base their relationship or friendship on those things are they naive ones that always end up suffering and regretting their actions. Its sad that society is building this model of  leaving where beauty is such an important aspect of leaving because our kids and siblings are growing up and they world is changing everyday and kids this days are very smart and active like i remember couple of days ago i was at the mall and this little girl was shopping with her mom and brought this dress and was insisting on getting the dress and her mom was like why do you want the dress so bad, and she was told her mom she wanted the dress because she seen her friend at school where it and she got a lot of attention from boys and she wanted to have the same experience. Her mom was shocked but didn't advise on anything like that she just got the dress for her.  I was minding my business but in my head i was just like it's such things that make us girls become insecure of ourselves and compete with other girls. She was not getting the dress because she thought it was cute and all but she was getting it specifically because her friend whore it and was getting a lot attention and her mom couldn't say nothing about it Am not judging or anything like that am just using it as an example to prove my point of how beauty is affecting this generation. I  think all these insecurities start from a young age because if you are raised to think that you are beautiful regardless of what you wear, or how you look, you won't always want to compete with other just to get a certain rank in society. I am not perfect i also   struggle with insecurities because sometimes i feel like I am not beautiful enough or i don't fit with my peers because of my looks. but, i trained myself to believe that we are all humans and we are all different in a lot of different ways and different things make us unique, beautiful and special. Regardless of how much you might wish to be like someone, because they are your role model, they are beautiful, or they are  highly ranked in the society because they have more suitors, it's still never going to change the fact that you are NEVER going to be like them or look like them so if they are things about yourself
that you don't like, change it, work on it, or accept those things about yourself and love them. I feel like something that helped me build my self love is I learned that beauty can't only be determined from appearance and looks but beauty can also  be determines from a persons attitudes or habits, the characteristics and things that make them unique from other people and how positive they are to someone others. So rather than focusing on looks, and appearances to determine the good in people, in people, it's better we focus more on peoples actions , attitudes, habits and positive habits that they portray towards  others and that's what people should use to determine the real beauty in others.]]> 2022-04-15 01:43:27 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2144519691 518-534: Miller, Women in the Military megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2147970900 In Women in the Military by Laura Miller we learn about women in the military and how men react to the presence of women in military and other jobs. Miller discusses the fact that, gender roles have a lot of affects when it comes to occupation because men may often get jealous of their female coworker because she may be doing a better job than him and he would try to sabotage her or spread false rumors about a female coworker just to make her look bad and on the other hand some people use their greater power to demonstrate fear and negative sanctions on others. How Laura's discussion of women in military and how gender roles may affect occupations can be related to current conditions is when it comes to gender, it's meant to be said that women should be responsible of they home as in taking care of the kids, cooking for the husbands while men should work and provide for the family and when it comes to occupation women should be more focused on being fashion designers, make up artist, event planners, flight attendant child care workers while men should be the lawyers, doctors, police officers or be in the military. This believes were more practiced in the 90's because a lot of women didn't have a say in whatever decision that were made by the men however, in present conditions, a lot of women have stood of themselves and choose to do carriers that make them happy regardless if it's meant for them or not. Even though times have changed, women still go through a lot of discriminations when it comes to certain type of jobs because they men feel like we not good enough or strong enough to handle a certain type of job but the whole time it's the same women that carry a whole other human in them for 9 month and sometimes get their body cut out just to give birth to this babies. Considering all this pain women have to go through and many other pains,  I just think it's delusional and wrong for a men to think that  women cant do certain jobs such as being a mechanic, barber or even be in the military just because the feel like she won't be good enough. An example I would like to use to show how women are treated in the military because of their gender is, I remember watching this documentary  couple of months and ago and it was basically showing how women face both gender and  sexual harassment while in the military. The documentary mentioned that a lot of women were being discriminated and disrespected by they men in the military and this was because their supervisors would always show more appreciation too the women than the men and it would often make the men feel  inadequate and insufficient so, some men would take it upon themselves to brutalize and bully the quite females just to make them feel insecure or make them feel like they were not good enough for the job and quit military. Some women would be sexually harassed by some of this men and whenever they would tell their supervisors about this behaviors they supervisors would reassure them that it wasn't a big deal and they can always leave if they don't feel comfortable while in the military because the roles are to harsh for them to handle so they can always leave and do what's more suitable for them. But after a lot of struggles, some women were able to stand up for themselves and took the situation to court. Even though it wasn't easy for them considering the fact that they were women and the lawyers were sexist, with a lot of hard work they were able to provide some good evidence to prove the fact that they faced gender harassment and sex harassment while in the military. The fact that harassment and discrimination is still occurring in the military till present dates is a national disappointment because the fight for inequality, gender harassment and sexual harassment towards women is a continuing fight because when it comes to cases with women facing injustice in the military, it often gets to be ignored  which is totally wrong because women deserve fair treatment, non-hostile environment and a chance to further their carriers on an equal level as men. Another example I would like to use to relate to current conditions to show how women are often being judged by men by their carrier choice and how they also face discrimination when it comes to their carrier choice is I recently watched this movie and it was about this female who was a barber. Her boyfriend was supportive about it but however he would always judge for doing it and compare her to her best friend who was an accountant. Her main problem was she really had passion for barbing but however she didn't have an income to elevate her business. Some men would always look down on her but after their cut, they would be in so much shock and congratulate her while others would mock her and try to hit on her. She almost got raped by one of her clients because he thought that since she was poor, she would just want to have sex with him to get more money. Whenever she would go out with her boyfriend and his friends and their girlfriends, they girls would ask her what she did for a leaving and considering they fact that she was very proud of her job she would tell them she was a barber and they would mock her and her boyfriend would never defend her cause he felt embarrassed of her carrier choice. Infact he would always get jealous whenever she would have any male friends because he felt like she was doing something behind his back and his friends would always influence him about the fact that she could be definitely having affairs with her clients. At some point she met this guy, and they became really good friends and he was wealthy. He want didn't anything to do with her and explained that to her but her boyfriend got so jealous to the point were he asked her to make a choice over her job and him. So she ended choosing her carrier because regardless of how much people made fun of her because to her, this was not just any job this was her passion, it was something she wanted to do everyday without feeling judged, discriminated and harassed by others. However after sometime he ended by apologizing to her. With the help of the friend she met, she was able to get a loan from the bank and with the loan, she was able to open her own barber shop and it was known as one of the biggest and best barber shop in the area. After that she was invited in different associations and most of the time she would often just talk about her life, struggles, experiences and just encouraged the young generation to never give up on their dreams regardless of their gender and what people would say about their carrier choice because nothing is more satisfying in life than doing a job that makes you happy and makes you want to do it everyday and forever. I know this is a pretty long story but my point was just to say that gender discrimination in carrier choices is really frustrating because women get looked down on even men to go through this issues. We should let people do what makes them happy regardless of their gender because at the end of the day, it's their life and they  should be allowed to do what's makes them happy. How I have seen Laura's discussion of women being judged by men regarding their carrier choice played out in my life is, I have a friend and her dad is very strict and he's the type of person that still believes the norms of our ancestors where women are suppose to be at home or do only jobs that are main for them while they men are suppose to be the provider and do the main jobs. He forced her to get married at a young age to someone, she had never met. After sometime in the marriage she decided to continue her college studies and pursue her degree as a nurse. At the beginning he was okay with it but however, he started complaining that she was spending more time on her education than her marriage and would always come back from lectures late. He got so mad and reported her to her dad and instead of her dad supporting her all he said was "as a woman you should listen to your husband and do whatever he wants you to do without imposing". She couldn't deny to her dad's decisions because she had no family in the U.S except for her dad. After so much perseverance I and some other friends were able to comes up with some money so she could go see her mom in India. This experience really had a lot of effect on her because she was surrounded with men that only told her what to do and whatever she did, never made them satisfied she agreed to marry this man just because she wanted to make her dad happy. Never did anything to make herself happy, all she did was for her dad's happiness and her "husbands" happiness and it took her quite a long time to realize that in life you always have to put yourself first and do what makes you happy regardless of your gender. Right now she plans on moving back to the U.S and pursue her nursing degree. How this reading relates to other thinks I have learned in other courses is, I am taking women in history and I learned that women back in the 90's and 50's were living in a labor were men where in power. We were meant to stay home and take care of the kids, do laundry and if we had to do an occupation it would be either, being a tailor or something to do with fashion and even during world war 1 and 2 a lot of women wanted to fight during the war but they weren't allowed to fight in the war because they meant felt like the wouldn't be able to handle to hardship but however during world war 2 some women were able to fight in the military while some such as Marry and Molly had to disguise themselves as men to fight during the civil War. To think that this were things we had to go through during the 90's and we still go through it till present date is really sad. Many of this men tend to judge us because of our carrier choices because they believe that women attempt to claim equality and it has always resulted to favorable treatment. I feel like these men oppose to expanding women's opportunities because they believe that women already enjoy to many advantages in the organization and have not yet met the requirements of the roles the already fill. Nonetheless, we can only make reparations for past injustice, plan to prevent them from occurring again and hope that tomorrow would be better than yesterday.
 ]]> 2022-04-19 04:02:04 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2147970900 Required entry: JCB p. 207 Toy Store Observation megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2150971653 I took a trip to a toy store and to my knowledge, how I would describe they ways in which they toys were gendered would be pretty specific meaning they toy's section of the store was clearly separated. There are sections with toys specifically for boys and those that are for girls. However, there is another specifically provided space for boys such as games, blocks, puzzles and educational toys, that could be used by both genders. How the toys were organized was there was a section marketed specifically for girls such as dolls, pretend play toys, arts and crafts, stuff toys and cute little stuff animals with variety of colors such as pink, green, red, yellow, lavender that stand out among other toys. On the other hand, the toys that are marketed specifically for boys are toy cars, robots, electronic toys, Legos, building blocks, and toys for outdoor games. The boy toys were mostly designed in colors blue, gray, brown, green and dark hues intermitted with basic primary colors. How I could tell was to a girl was when closely examining the brands, words and description in the girl toys, and observation I noticed was, the girl toys were usually emphasizing aesthetic qualities such as pretty, beauty, cute, huggable, soft, domestic and colorful. On the other hand, how, I could tell the toys were targeted for boys was, the boy toys were generally described and included terms and words such as undefeatable, tough, strong, fast, and other qualities that are typical to masculine characteristics and traits. Yes, they were gender-neutral toys which were in the general toys section that displayed non-gender-specific toys which were mostly educational toys such as board games, puzzles, painting and drawing materials, clays and zoo animals. One specific educationally board game I found known as the flip and link money game that was specified for ages 8 years and above for two players. This section showcases neutral toys which are not indicated on the packaging the specific sex of the child. Finding this section of toys was not really difficult since they store had a whole section devoted to gender-neutral toys. After my observation at the toy store, i noticed that toys are a means of gender socialization and a factor use to influence gender typed toys which include selective choices, televised commercials and early educational interventions. males and females beave in different ways, they learn in different social roles through diverse means including the selection of toys to be played with respective children. I feel like technology and parents encourage boys and girls to participate in sex-typed activities, including doll playing and engaging in housekeeping activities for girls and playing with trucks engaging in sports activities for boys. Children's toy preferences have significantly related to parental sex-typing, with parents providing gender differentiated toys and rewarding play behavior that is gender stereotyped. ]]> 2022-04-20 20:29:08 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2150971653 Required entry: JCB p. 330 Counting Beauty megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2152961797 My observation was on a U.K magazine and is basically a magazine made up off beauty and fashion products which celebrates, admires and appreciates individuality amongst all ages, race, culture and gender. To my knowledge I would say the magazine was pretty diverse it wasn't just one specific race, body shape or skin color. They had different and multiple fashion options for different skin colors, body shape, and gender which i loved about the magazines. Skin care, hair, fragrance, bath and body and all wellbeing are offered as a part of their beauty collection. Another thing I observed while reviewing the magazine was, their different collection inspires a new modern approach to beauty through different collections and creative inspirations. I noticed that they had a section specifically for the men and which had different colors such as blue, black, white and they also had a section for women in which expressed colors such as pink, brown, yellow and red. Then they also had a neutral section in the magazine for both genders and it was in likes a his and hers design where they clothes were mostly design for couples of all sexuality. A conclusion i can draw from this mini-content analysis is they world is becoming more open and developed when it comes to aspects of beauty. A lot of magazines these days are very bias but however I admire the fact that some magazines let people show their beauty through their creativity and i also like the fact that magazines a learning to be more open and accept different body type, skin color, hair type and height. When it comes to beauty people are so ready to judge and segregate others based of their looks however it's important to be yourself, stand out for yourself and love yourself regardless of what are being portrayed in magazines, the internet or blogs because at the end of the day, you know whom you are.




]]> 2022-04-22 02:20:49 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2152961797 425-431: Coontz, The American Family megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2159359268 In the American Family by Stephanie Coontz, argues that American families are falling apart, and it's causing and effect on the kids. Husbands and wives are fighting and the tear at each other. She argues that marriages before were way more different as compared to marriages now because before couples spent more time with each other and their children but now couples are focused on letting the smallest things get between their marriage and this is affecting the young generation and discouraging them from wanting to get married. How Stephanie's discussion of American families falling apart can be related to current condition is, In my opinion I think a lot of things might cause a family to fall apart from cheating, abuse, disrespect, disagreement and lack of communication. Some couples fall out of love for each other because of their partners actions towards them and this can sometimes cause them to be distance from each other and during this distance, the other person may find someone else and that's how he or sure tends to get a divorce. Overall I feel like every family is different regardless of our backgrounds or race. A lot of men are still very naive for example they find it very intriguing when the woman tends to do better than them again because of all this gender roles we talked about before where the man is meant to be the main provider and that's why a lot of men tend to be insecure when their women do better which may cause arguments and frustration in a family while with women sometimes they let their assumptions and thoughts come between their marriages. An example I will like to use to relate to how Stephanie's discussion can be related to current condition is the situation between Kim Kardashian and Kanye. Kim recently filled a divorce ending her marriage with Kanye seeking a custody of her children. She mentioned that she did what she did for her happiness. I don't know the full story behind the break up but however i respect their both relationship. I use this family as a example to relate to this topic because in this chapter we learn that when a parents choose to get a divorce, it may not only affect one person but also affects the kids if they had any. Recently I know they were going back and forth because their daughter was exploring and started doing tik toks and her mom was in support of it but, however her dad was not in support of it because he felt like she was to young to be on such app considering how tik tok and be distracting and over-influential on kids sometimes. And a lot of people where just coming for them like you would have never gotten a divorce in the first place because you both are unable to make decisions for yours kids and they are being misguided. To me, when I read they comments, I felt like that was just wrong because they were coming for her and making it seem like she was a bad parent. In my opinion I know divorce is not always the best solution to problems in a marriage but we don't know what was happening behind close doors and I just personally feel like kids should be an excuse to stay in an unhappy marriage because at the end of the day if you guys are together just for the kids, it doesn't just affect the marriage but it affects the kids because kids are very observant too so there's no point to force yourself in the marriage because of kids. At the end of the day i feel like divorce is not always the first option there's always therapy but again we don't know what happened behind close doors. How I have seen this discussion play out in my life is, I come from a nuclear family but however my parents are not divorced but again that doesn't mean that they have a perfect marriage. I parent get in arguments and say a lot of hurtful things to each other. In the beginning it would just mentally frustrate me and it still does cause it scares me because I know one day I would have to leave my parents house to start a family of my own and seeing all these different misunderstanding the go through scares me and makes me realize that maybe marriage not for everyone. I know all marriages are different and I know am young and still have time to explore but as of right now considering the different experiences i have had from my family to aunties, i just feel like marriage not for me maybe with time my mind might change. How Stephanie's concept of an American Family challenges my world view is I think keeping a family is can be sometimes very frustrating and stressful but at the end of the day people shouldn't just be so quick to get divorce especially when you know how difficult it is to find a potential partner but again that people shouldn't tie themselves down because of a man or a woman because at the end of the day, if it isn't meant to be, no matter how much love you have for each other, the marriage would always come to and end. How this topic may also challenge my world's view is, I know people grow up in different families. Some of us grew up in families were everyone was supportive and loved us and just gave us everything we wanted while others had to work hard and suffer just to be able to find themselves. At the end of the day, i feel like our actions towards people sometimes be it, in relationships or friendships sometimes may be because of how we were raised in different families. ]]> 2022-04-26 23:05:43 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2159359268 Required entry: JCB p. 243 Wedding Dreams megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2163106888 I think weddings and marriage is such an amazing thing. I know it comes with a lot of hard times, patience, collaboration and many other things. I and my friends fantasize over weddings all the time like sometimes we would see different weddings and we would just be like omg we trying to be like that someday and we would always make this joke of how if our husbands don't cry when he sees us walking down the hall, then his family won't eat. I mean it's quite delusional but it's just the principal of things but overall, it's just little jokes we make. Marriage is difficult because I feel like the society is so developed now and civilized like everyone wants to have an opinion on whatever you do with your partner I mean at the end of the day, it doesn't matter because you know the truth about yourself and your marriage. I think finding the right one these days is so frustrating because men don't even try anymore like it's just bare minimum for me and they just want us to settle for that and that doesn't even sit right for me. I have fantasized about my wedding several times because i think white wedding is such a beautiful thing and it should be the most memorable and most enjoyable day in a woman's life. I wouldn't have big expectations when it came to fantasizing over my wedding like I just want to have fun with my both families and then I would like to travel out the country for my honeymoon am not sure what country but I know i would like to just go to a different country for my honeymoon. I would say i started fantasizing over weddings when I was like 17 but, after sometime I would ask myself like is it even relevant? cause you end up spending all that money just for a man to end up treating you some type of way because he things your his property. I don't think I have gotten to the point of my life were I would say "white wedding" dream appeals to me because am so scared to get married like I know the white wedding is all fun and all that but what is life going to be like after 2 months or 2-5 years. I think extravagant white weddings are just unnecessary like it's just to please other people don't get me wrong I think it's an amazing thing and it should be the most amazing day in a woman's life but it shouldn't be an obligatory. I know recently there was this lady that got married and she said she spent less than $500 on her wedding. She mentions that she paid the dress for $47 because she didn't want to spend so much money on a dress just for one day and her location was right of the free-way which was free and her guest paid for the reception and paid for their food as well and they guest were understanding about their plan. And that's what am a talking about like rather than investing a huge amount of money to make a fancy wedding just to show off, it's better to just invest that money on something that would assist your marriage or kids in the future because life don't get easy after all that extravagant wedding it only gets challenging and difficult. In my opinion I would say am not fantasizing over my wedding and that's if I get one. Am just more focus on pursuing my degree, making my own money and be dependent or not being able to count on a man for nothing and just be financial stable, be happy and satisfied with what God blesses me with.]]> 2022-04-28 18:03:11 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2163106888 (H) 277-286: Henslin, Eating Your Friends is the Hardest megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2164646233 In eating your friends is the hardest by James Henslin, we learn that each culture provides guidelines for how to view the world and even the right to determine the right from the wrong. He discusses the fact that, the world is constructed of a lot of people who have a lot in common but however come from different societies and have different believes based of their culture and community guidelines. An example he uses to support his points is the fact that the world thinks that eating human flesh is wrong but however there are some people that don't find any problem in doing such things. How this discussion can be related to current conditions is, the author mention that some people find it so hard to accept the fact that some people consume human flesh. This fact can be related to current situations because I know that they are some countries in Africa that consume raw meat but however if you mention that to some people, they will think your lying or think it's a joke but however it's not. To the people consuming this raw meat, they are used to eating in that way and that's how their culture is but, others don't believe it because they were not raised in such ways or to believe such things so is so shocking and unbelievable to them. How this discussion of how culture provides guidelines on how we view the world can be related to current conditions is, you would think that in the black community, since we all black you know, our cultures and people would be most likely to be the same but however, it's some people that don't like Africans because of some certain reasons. I feel like this is a discussion that has being going on for a long time now. Some black people would get really offensive and defensive when you call them African Americans and I never understood the meaning behind that and i still don't because at the end of the day, studies have discovered most of black Americans have a certain African ancestral blood in them, that's why for some black Americans they tend to have different countries in their DNA so sometimes I don't get while some people get so aggressive and annoyed when people call them African Americans. I think is their culture and believes that influence such mindset. How this discussion can also be related to current conditions is when it comes to sexual orientation. In some cultures, such as African's culture, being homosexual or bisexual, even being a part of the LGBTQ, supporting them or knowing anyone that's part of that community can literally make your parents disown you or get you in trouble with your parents. A lot of African parents are very homophobic, and I know because my parents are one of them like just the idea of this act literally makes them very mad, but however if you go to other black families, they totally are in full support of it. I just think is the mentality that our parents were raised with. In their generation and their culture, it was never seen for a man to be with a man or a woman to be with a woman so when they come to the United States and see such things, they get so disappointed cause they believe that a man is supposed to be with a woman or a woman with a man and not the same sex together causes to them that's violating the disrespecting God. I think this mentality or culture towards to LGBTQ community comes from the fact that a lot of Africans are very religious and even though they might not live by the roles of the bible every day, it's just something about accepting the LGBTQ community as a thing to them that would never be real for them as compared to how other cultures may view the LGBTQ community. At the end of the day, I just think this feeling towards to LGBTQ community is just because of how they were raised in their culture and their believes make adapting to the new society quite is difficult and challenging for them. How I have seen this discussion play out in my life is, I usually would ask my friends like how do your parents feel about dating because growing up with African parents in the United States isn't quite easy. Usually, I would ask my friends to just see how their parents feel about it. Most of my friends told me that their parents didn't have a problem with them dating as long as it's not distracting them from their education and just their life in general. Most of them also mentioned the fact that their parents told them that they age they could start dating was 16. When my friends told me that I was so shocked because I was raised in a way that, a female shouldn't even be friends with male because he always wants something from her and dating should be allowed at the age of 21ish. When my friends told me their parents said they could start dating at the age of 16, I was so in shocked. I was so curious cause my some of my friends were black while others were Asian and Mexicans and over all I was like regardless of the race there is definitely a reason to this different point of views. So proceeded to asking my friends mom the reason to why she thinks it was okay for her kids to start dating at the age of 16 and she told me that when she was young, her parents were very difficult on her when it came to dating and she made so much mistakes and wish that her parents talked to her about such things at a younger age and she didn't like how secretive she was with her parents when it came to her dating life and due to those experiences, it change her worlds view and she didn't want her kids to have the same experiences because at the end of the day, kids would always do it their way regardless of what age they are meant to not date or date. She also mentioned that she feels like even though her kids don't make the best decisions she's happy because she knows what her daughter is doing be it good or bad and she is able to advise her and when it comes to her dating life, she trusts her daughter and she doesn't regret making that decision of letting her explore the dating world from the age of 16. To me I was like dam ok like I agree to her point of view because considering how I am, I would definitely say strict parents raise the sneakiest kids. I moved on to ask my parents and I was scared that they would be interrogative, and I didn't want that. I asked my parents like why they think that us teens shouldn't date till the age of 21ish. My parents just started yelling my mom's point was because we can't be trusted because ones we are given those free rights we might go astray and my dad was like he was raised that, a woman should only have one man in her life and when she start's dating at a young age, she starts getting multiple sex partner then he went on to compare his marriage life and was talking about look at your mom and I, I was her only boyfriend and now only husband and the same goes so me she was my only girlfriend and wife now. I was like okay I see. Their point of views was both very different and specific but at the end of the day it just goes to show us that people's culture and how they were raised can make a huge impact on their decisions. How Henslin conception of culture can influence how people view the world challenges my world view is; I feel like society has different norms and we all have different perspective when it comes a lot of life experiences and decisions for example in a lot of situations, everyone is always going to have a different point of view. Some would be highly supported while some while some would be highly disagreed with but at the end of the day, there is always going to be that one specific thing that separate their ideas and believes. For example, when it comes to tattoos, a lot of people get skeptical about such things but then with other people they tend not care about such things because to them it's just something special towards them but for some people, you have to belong to a cult or you are such a bad influence on the society for drawing on your body the same goes for body surgery. A lot of people hate on females when they decide to get their body done because to them is like while wouldn't you appreciate the body God gave you while for some people, it don't bother them as long as they not the one paying for it. I think the world has elevated in a lot of different ways and our different cultures and believes play and important pact in our daily life. Sometimes it might be a positive impact while sometimes it might be a negative impact overall our opinions are always going to be different. How this reading relates to other things I have learn in this class is, earlier in this class we talked about race and gender roles. I think society view towards the world based on people's culture can be related to race in a lot of different ways. For example, in an African home most kids have to marry someone from their race and not otherwise and I know it's the same to for a lot of other cultures and this is because their parents raised them to think in such way. In some families they sons are more outgoing than the daughters because they parents are meant to believe that, they girls are meant to stay home and take care of the siblings or help the mom in the kitchen while the boys go out and play basketball or hang out with friends. For example, one my friends her parents are so dedicated in teaching her brother on how to drive before teaching her but she's in college and goes to school every day while he is in high school where he can literally walk to school and whenever she asked her mom, she said it's because in her family she was the only girl and her parents always did the same to her and she liked it so, she feels like she should do the same for her kids. I think that these principles are fundamental to human life. They develop our human society and makes us different from other cultures but however it shouldn't be used as an excuse to judge other people or determine what people should and should not do with their lives. ]]> 2022-04-29 17:15:17 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2164646233 315-321: Zimbardo, The Pathology of Imprisonment megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2168738390 In the Pathology of imprisonment Philip G, discusses the fact that prisoners are often labelled as criminals, violent and antisocial while the guards tend to be often brutal and violent to the prisoners. All these different behaviors between the prisoners and guards lays the foundation for prison brutality and violence. He also discusses the fact that because someone is a prisoner does not mean that they are automatically a bad person or criminal. Philip G proceeds on his evaluation by researching on how prisons could be improved in order to minimize violence. How this discussion can be related to the current conditions is, in our society people are so quick to judge someone if they were ex-convicts without even knowing their story. According to these people, because a person was an ex-convict it automatically means they are bad person, and they should be left in prison. Sometimes, these prisoners are often detainees who have not been convicted. Many of them are waiting for their cases go to federal court, some are waiting for sentences, some are unable to contact their lawyers all this time while waiting in prison they are being tortured but the society never considers all these different reasons to while a prisoner might be kept in prison for long period of time instead the prefer to take it on them to assume that there are bad people. I believe that not everyone that's in jail is a bad person or deserves to be mistreated. People have made bad decisions that they very much regret and sometimes this is because they were mis-led by friends to make these bad decisions and rather for the society just being quick to judge them, let's instead try to give them opportunities to correct their wrongs. Such as having these prisoners go to therapy, more community involvement in rehabilitation centers, more encouragement between family and friends, and more educational opportunities to prepare them for returning to their communities so they may be more valuable members then they were before they were in prison. How I have seen this language play out in my life is, I have an uncle who recently moved to Dubai but, considering the situations and standards of leaving out there, things were quite difficult for him. In the beginning he was doing construction jobs and according to him they pay was quite low and insufficient for him but however he still stuck through. After some time, he made some friends, but these friends were apparently drug dealers. So, one day he was hanging out with them, and they police caught all of them and sadly since he was hanging out with them and they police found drugs on them and not him, the police assumed that he was one of the gang members that was selling drugs. He is currently in prison, and he has been in there for over 3 months now. Considering the fact that he has no finances and no family in Dubai and not even a Citizen of Dubai, the court has not come to no final judgment considering his case. He's in there with other criminals we not even sure how he's doing or if he's eating or not. This takes me back to my point of some of these prisoners often be left in jail for a long period of time just because there are waiting for their sentences and during this time, they are being maltreated and is very unfair. I feel bad because he wasn't even selling the drugs, he was just hanging out with them, but police just concluded that because the found drugs on the friends, he probably sells the drugs too. Even though the sentence is taking a long time, I know if by God's grace he gets sentenced for a short period of time, when he comes out of prison, he would be repatriated to his country of origin because he is not a citizen of that country, and the government is going to assume that he's not a good person and doesn't deserve to be a citizen of the country considering the fact that he was hanging out people that sell drugs. I also think other family members are going to just start looking at him in a different way and a lot parents won't want to let their teenage sons be around him because they might think "oh he was selling drugs, he might influence my kids to start doing such illegal things". I think it's unfair because at the end of the day, even though he was grown enough to know they type of people to surround himself around, again it's life different things happen to different people and rather than other family members adding to his problems, it's just better we as a family help him improve and do better so he can become a better and healthier person and so he doesn't repeat the same mistakes twice. How Philip's discussions challenged the world view is, people tend to just put labels on different things that others do in their life. For some people, life was never easy for them but, you have people on the other hand that have everything given to them on a plate of gold and still they are very unappreciative. For example, some girls have to sell their body just so they can get money to feed their families and younger siblings. I know they are way more other ways in which you can make money rather prostitution but some people in our society fail to understand that, everywhere is not America. In the United States, they are a lot of job opportunities that does not involve prostitution, but some people fail to understand that other countries are not like the U.S. In some countries with really low economy, people have to struggle so hard just to get something to eat or keep up with their health and rather than doing little side jobs that only pay them an equivalent to $5 an hour, is better they just do something that is going to give them a lot of money straight up. But the community would never understand these different lifestyles. The society is so quick to judge others based on their lifestyle regardless of knowing their background story and all these because of the labels society has placed on this different lifestyle and experiences. As a society we really have to work on jumping into conclusion about other peoples life because i feel like that really challenges us and we should sometimes just learn to mind our business and not always have so much so say about people based on their life conditions. How Philip's conception of prisoners being treated brutally may challenge my world view is, I think race may sometimes influenced how people are being treated in prison and the community is so quick to judge and call black and Mexican people different names if they had some experienced in prison which I think is very unfair because it may often influence other kids and make them avoid the other race and may make others feel unwanted. How these reading relates to other things I have learned in this course is while watching the videos i learned that the labeling theory plays and a big role in how society might view a criminal. For example people just tend to label prisoners and just assume that because they were in jail or prison, that entirely makes them a bad person or a criminal and this often tends to affect this prisoners because every decision they choose to make after that prison experience may affect their life in many different way as in occupation choice and social standards in life. This can also be related to other things I learned in this course is in the videos the teacher mentions that labels may sometime cause people to engage in these behaviors they are labelled to and how this can be related to this discussion is they author also mentions the fact hat guards are often brutal to prisoners and sometimes this might be false information and due to this false information it may cause the guards to actually become brutal and arrogant to the prisoners. Finally it's important that we don't always jump to conclusion about other peoples lifestyle based on their experiences because we don't know what conditions people go through so sometimes rather than judging it's better we care about the well-being of others. Also we shouldn't always jump to conclusion that because someone spent a long time in prison, that automatically makes them a violent, brutal or difficult person instead we should help these people so they become better people in the community.]]> 2022-05-03 17:55:52 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2168738390 322-334: Rosenhan, On Being Sane in Insane Places megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2170954784
In being sane in Insane places the author discusses the points that removing people's freedom can cause them to volatile situations and people who violate implicit rules can find themselves caught up in a system that involves passing judgement on their fitness to remain in society. How this discussion can be related to current conditions is, when you abstract people from a lot of things it might sometimes frustrate them cause them to act it different ways. For example, we leave in a society where a lot of assumptions are being made about someone just because of their looks, body type and many other things. A girl might be the type to be more into crop tops and shorts and to her is just her outfit preferences but to some people she's just trying to show of her body because she wants attention and male validation and this leads them to thinking that if this type of clothes were being out of sale or banned, she would not feel comfortable in wearing any other thing which is wrong. Also, when it comes to technology a lot of kids these days are obsessed with their phones and the internet so when a kid does a little mistake first thing a parent would do is deprive them from their different techs be it PlayStation, computers, phones or different video games. This action would often make the kid to be so mad and halve of the time he or she is going to tell you "Am bored" but there are a lot of books he or she could read to educate themselves but as soon as you deprive them from their phone you just become mean to them and they feel like they are missing something in their life. How this discussion can be related to my life is I have a friend and during the summer her parents usually sent her and her brothers to camp where they basically learn how to do different activities such as painting, poetry, fashion and many other things. She often goes to camp with her siblings every summer but her mom never had complained until after sometime she started complaining that her daughter changed and she as doing things that she didn't use to do such as makeup, her style of dressing and her music choices. To her mom it was like her daughter had become a new different person just because she was doing things that every other girl at her age normally do. I mean to her mom it was strange because i guess she was not use to seeing her daughter do such things. However, she stopped sending her to camp because she felt like camp was teaching her things that she wasn't supposed to be doing at her age and mind you she was 18. One time during the summer, my mom was talking to her because she wanted us her kids to try different things rather than just having us stay home and be adamant. So, she confronted this friend of hers and asked about camp in which she used to send her kids to. Her friend's response was all negative like camp is going to bring out the different side of your kids especially for the girls that you won't ever believe they had in them. So, my mom asked her like you have being sending your kids to camp for over 5 years not how is it that you are noticing these changes in your daughter's life just right now? She had to response to the question which proceeded my mom to asking her like don't you think your daughter is just getting mature like she is just becoming more open to the real world and rather from depriving her from something that educates her on feminism, and how a woman should take care of herself it's better you support her and lead her on the right part rather than just making her feel like everything she is doing is wrong and camp is influencing this decision. Just from her daughter starting to wear makeup and changing her style of dressing, her mom concluded and labelled camp as a bad place that is not meant for kids especially girls. That goes to show you that sometimes people just tend to put labels on different conditions which sometimes it may just be false news and they are just misinterpreting the condition and jumping into conclusion. I ended going to camp for me it was a little weird because that was my first time being somewhere in which every day is a new lifestyle routine but however, I liked it because I was able to learn a lot of new things that I didn't know about. How this discussion challenges the world view is the society tends to have so much to say when it comes to a lot of different things that include deviant behaviors. For example, when it comes to homosexuality, people would say people like that are either cursed or the have being bewitched, when kids become truant, it directly goes to the fact that they were not well raised up and their parents are being blamed. These deviant behaviors are often choice made by people on their own. People just don't like girls because their friends are into girls. These choices that are being made by one's self but then parents don't tend to understand such aspects to them is that their child is being bewitched. I think they are a lot of ways in which different conditions in life can be referred to. Having so much to say about someone's life when you don't know nothing about them or saying that someone is mentally ill just because of their actions is not okay because you don't know what people go through so as a society, we should learn to help people through their different conditions and advise them from a positive point of view. 
]]> 2022-05-05 05:52:46 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2170954784 (H) 470-480: Hunt, Police Accounts of Normal Force megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2173062210 In police accounts of normal force, the author discusses how citizens are being treated by the police. He mentions that police violence is no random matter instead it is a part of the occupation and when the police tend to recruit people, is often based on their culture, occupation, race, behaviors and attitudes. How this discussion can be related to current conditions is, the police are required to handle variety of peacekeeping and law enforcement task including settling disputes, removing drunks from the street, aiding the sick, controlling, and pursuing criminals. Even though sometimes these different activities may be required to use force, some police officers tend to over-use force. And according to these officers, they don't ever see the use of violence as a bad thing instead for them is a normal, legal and important aspect of their job. Sometimes these officers don't understand that this force can cause actual harm to their carrier and the victims in such situations. Some of these police officers just apply force on people based of their hatred towards certain races. There are a lot of current situations and conditions that the country has faced caused by police force and police brutality example, the George Floyd case. He was arrested outside a shop by a white police officer. This officer pinned him on the ground, knelt on his neck and while saying he couldn't breathe, the police kept on using force on him and after that he ended up running out of breath which led to his death. His murder spark protest against police brutality across the world, movement followed remembering the black woman Breana Taylor who had died in the hands of the police. She was shot by the police while in her sleep, Elijah McClain arrested while walking down the street. He was physically restrained; told officers he couldn't breathe and vomited several times while asking for help and later was injected with ketamine and died of cardiac arrest, Tamir Rice, 12 years old shot and killed while playing with a toy gun. I could go on and on for hours and hours just talking about different cases that involve police brutality. These brutalities don't only happen to black people a lot of Mexicans and other races face all these different police force and brutality, and this has affected a lot of families in different ways. It's really disturbing that the people that are meant to protect us, make us feel save, prevent us from unwanted attacks or death are the same ones killing us and making our kids and younger ones not feel safe in the community. For example I know a lot of people who would never go to Stockton or Oakland considering the high risk and bad experiences they have had from family members to friends just from being pulled over and mistreated by these police officers that are meant to protect us. All these different experiences is having a huge affect on the young generation. Social media is exposing all these police mistreatment on people and our kids our siblings and young ones are seeing these different violent and it's not good for them because it scares them and shadows their aspects of leaving in the United States but however it's important that they see what the real world it's like out there so whatever way the choose to leave their life, they would know that it might have a huge impact on them and their love ones. What I mean when I say this is, kids are easy to be mis-led these days they would get their license drink and drive and just do many other dangerous things. But when they see how people of color and just other people in general are being treated it's going to make them aware of what to expect when they drink and drive and get pulled over. Even though sometimes it can be very traumatizing for the teens, its important we face the reality and show them they real world we live in so they can be able to prevent any form of police force against them. How this discussion has played out in my life is growing up, my little brother has always wanted to be a police officer because he just admired their work and how they rescue people from a lot of different situation and to him he just thought that was amazing and he definitely feel like it's something he would be passionate about, but after seeing and watching the news on the George Floyd case, he became so frustrated and even scared to pursue this carrier and I had over heard him mention to his friends that he wouldn't want to be a police officer anymore. I asked him like what made you change your mind on being a police officer? and he told me because he has been watching the news and with everything he has seen, he doesn't think being a police officer would be something he would like to do anymore because he doesn't want to force brutality on people, and he doesn't want the community to dislike him just because of his job preference. I felt so bad, cause i even try telling him like it's the reality of life but you don't have to let what other people do make you not want to pursue your dreams because at the end of the day if you have respect for people and yourself there are some certain things you should be aware of doing to others regardless of their race, occupation or even behaviors. I tried convincing him like every occupation comes along with different difficulties, but he just wouldn't get my point and was stuck of his decision of pursuing a different occupation. At the end of the day, he still didn't get my point, and this takes me back to what I was saying of parents to educate kids at a younger age so they know what to and not to expect when in a situation with the police.   How this discussion challenged my world view is, it’s really disappointing that people have to lose their families in such ways, kids have to give up their dreams just because they don't want to be seen in the society as bad people and the people who are supposed to be protecting us are the main ones killing us. It's depressing because sometimes in our society this police officers would use force on people based on their occupation for example like if it was lawyer that was being pulled over, they would never talk to him in some certain type of way or use any force on him regardless of how hard he tries  replicate towards the police but, if it was just a young black man being pulled over, then it's definitely going to be something held against him like if he reaches his car to get his ID, he can be shot because the police would think he was reaching for a gun and this challenges my view in the world because when it comes to cases with police force, justice is not always fairly appointed and even when it is, it takes forever. People have to fight, protest, go to jail and sometimes lose their lives just for justice to be rightfully appointed to these police officers. Police force and brutality also challenges my world view in a way like, I think some of these officers are often not well trained and miss their points of being officers and I also think gender and racism within the policing institution are major challenges for the police because there is a quite difference between male and female police officers and also between white and ethnic minority police officers. We need to all fight together to stop police force. I still believe that they are genuine good police officers out there that are understanding and have a good sense of humor and a good way of approach. Am not saying that people shouldn't be held accountable for their wrong decisions and actions but instead, they should be a better way of approach towards such people in such situations and I think that's what a lot of police officers need to work on in general. We need to all fight together to stop police force. I know it's not going to be and easy fight and it's never going to stop but it's important to educate our kids so they don't get in any complications with officers and even when they do, they would know how to act towards such situations. Government and justice should work on making more commitment and devotion to cases that involve police force so that further mistakes won't be repeated.

]]> 2022-05-06 15:29:13 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2173062210 Required entry: (Adapted from an assignment by Joyce Johnson) megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2176416741 A time when I found myself thinking someone was weird was when a close friend of mine lied to me. Before I explain the situation, I know we all lie but to me I think when you get caught up in your lies and you are being approached about it, rather than just being honest at this point you choose to play games and still keep the lie going. To me I just find it weird because, now you are taking me for a fool and playing with my thoughts and emotions and I just think that's weird and delusional because if we two grown adults in a friendship or relationship, just be upfront with me regarding some situations. I know am probably not making sense but when I explain the situation, I think anyone will get where am coming from. I might be wrong or maybe just overthinking the situation but at the end of the day, for me I just thought her action of lying even when she knew that I knew was sup was weird. The situation was basically between brother and one of my closest friends. She all of sudden started talking to my brother and I didn't have no problem with and still don't have a problem with it. At the beginning I didn't know because we would always hang out together and she always said nice things about him but however I didn't overthink about her compliments. After some time, she started getting closer to my brother as in they would hang out together and whenever have a conversation, she would always ask about him if he's around and just asked questions about him. At this point I thought it was weird because she started coming to my house without letting me know and would tell me she told my brother to inform me but then to her she was coming to see me. Which I also thought was weird because if you coming to my house to see me as you claim, why do you have to go through my brother to inform me that you coming to pay me a visit knowing fully well you have my number. At a certain point, she made it so obvious that they had something going because she would post certain things on her Instagram or snap making seem like it was a private relationship. It was funny to me because I was like that's my brother, I know his features and no matter how private you make it I will find out. So at this point am like ok I might as well just confront her about the situation because regardless sneaking around, she is a really good friend of mind and I would like to see with my brother so, there's no point sneaking around when everything is so obvious. Before confronting her I talked to my brother because I just felt like he wouldn't lie to me which he didn't. He told me they have being seeing each all and he really likes her and he thought I knew about it considering how close we are so, she probably might have told me. So I told him she didn't tell but, maybe she just wanted to make it a surprise for me. So I confronted her about the situation and she told me they weren't seeing each other like it's not even serious like that and that they were only friends. I asked her several times like are you sure like is there nothing more to just being friends and she told me that was it "just friends". At this point am confused like those this girl take me for a fool or like who does she think I am. So now am like ok that's cool. I let her be because maybe she's not sure about her feelings and she is not trying to jinx anything because I know that feeling. Recently my brother asked her out and she said yes. He told me about it but she didn't tell me. At this point I asked her again about it and she told me the same thing how they are "just friends". At this point am so annoyed because babes my brother already told me everything but you still lying to me. I ended up telling her that I know that she's dating my brother and she started acting so surprised and started stuttering. At this point am done going back and forth with her about the situation because according to her she thought my brother had already told me about it considering the fact that he tells me everything which I also thought was weird because why do you still choose to lie if you know that I know the truth. At the end of the day, I didn't tell my brother about the situation, I just took my distance from her and he noticed it and asked me why I have being distanced from her and I just told him I've being busy. The norms that were being violated by this person was respect, honesty, loyalty, and self awareness. I say this because I just think she didn't respect our friendship and she was not honest to me regardless of the amount of times I confronted her about it. I knew they norms were there, because it was so obvious and my brother had already confirmed it to me all I needed was just for her to come to me as a friends and even if she didn't want to do that, she should have at least just be honest with me. How the norms were specific to her social status is, she is girl, she is African American like me and she's the same age as me. I feel like her social status has nothing to do with the situation because it's all about the principles. I just think if she had respect for our friendship or even for me as her friend, then she wouldn't have lied to me over some think that was so obvious. I don't think her behaviors was rational to the situation because she had no reason to lie to when to her she knew my brother already told me. This takes me back to the beginning of what I was saying about the fact that there is no point of lying in some certain situation when we both adults and already know was sup. To me I just think the significance of her actions just means that she doesn't respect our friendship or neither does she respects me and to me I just have an it is what it is mindset because at the end of the day everything happens for a reasons. I can't say I can recall of a moment in which I did a similar action because to me I feel like if am lying in a situation and it's so obvious and I end up getting confronted about the situation, I rather just say the truth and call it a day because to me I don't see any point lying anymore cause at that point I have a sense of self-awareness to know that they person just ones the truth and goes on about their day. How this label of weird affect how I perceived the situation and her as a person was, I was so surprised because I didn't expect her to be able to lie to me like that considering how long we have being friends for. She has brothers and she get's so bothered whenever I talk to her brothers and I choose to keep my distance for them not because I don't like talking to them I do it because, I noticed that it bothered her so anytime we go out and I know her brothers will be around, I always come up with an excuses to not go just because I want to avoid her brothers just because I don't want her to be bothered or betrayed so, to me when she lied to me in such way, I was so shocked and disappointed and I told her. How this interaction affected my interactions with my feelings about her is, it just made me lost trust in her. She apologized and accepted the fact that she was wrong and she didn't have to lie but I told her it's going to be hard to trust her again. ]]> 2022-05-09 20:34:56 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2176416741 (H) 446-460: Gracey, Kindergarten as Academic Boot Camp megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2178341986 In Kindergarten as Academic Boot Camo, Harry discusses about the importance of education and how a person's educational institution can represent an essential nature of training into conformity in one's social life. How this discussion can be related to current conditions is the world today is very developed and education plays such an important role in society today. In current conditions, having an education is very important because with a good education, people are far better to prevent diseases and use health services effectively, higher wages and good economy, education supports the growth of civil society, democracy, political stability, allowing people to know their rights and acquire the skills and knowledge necessary to exercise these different skills. Overall, one's education plays a very important role in their life especially in our current conditions because in our society now, to get a good paying job to keep up to ones needs, a good level of education is very much required especially now with the covid situation, things have gotten expensive and to keep up with the current lifestyle a well-paying job would be very much required and currently in the United States, to get one of those you have to be educated. The author also talks about how someone's institution of education can represent their actions in their social life and how this conversation can also be related to current conditions is a lot of the times, kids learn things from school because a lot of these kids copy actions and behaviors from their classmates and depending on whether these actions and behaviors are positive or negative, it may affect they kids interaction in the society. For example, my little sister came home from school a couple of days ago and just started cursing and I was surprised cause she's only in kindergarten so, i asked her like where you heard that from?  and she told me she heard one of her classmates say that during recess and now she can't stop saying it. I had to scold her and tell her to not say such words regardless of who says it. There are a lot of other different behaviors that kids do that are based on their educational institution which usually starts at a very young age like in kindergarten so it's important parents educate their kids at a young age before it's to late for them. How this discussion of important of education and how a person's learning institution can affect their social life has played in my life is, I would to start with how the important of education has played out in my life so far. I come from a very strict African house hold and my parents went through a lot to accomplish what they have accomplish for my siblings and I. My mom's level of education is up to a high school diploma and my dad is barely at a high school diploma stage. My parents went through a lot trying to move to the United States. They had to struggle a lot to come here. When they got here, they gave birth to my siblings and I and things started getting more harder. My dad had to go to France while my mom lived in United States by herself. Things were really hard for them when the both left Cameroon and moved to different countries out of their own country not knowing a lot of people in this different countries. When my mom got here she started working at Dillard's and the minimum wage could barely keep up to her needs and our needs.  Considering the fact that she left her country with degree equivalent to a high school diploma, it was quite difficult for her to get a good paying job at that time. She was able to take some evening classes to get  a job as a CNA which she succeeded in doing so. However my dad while in France was still having a hard time and he didn't want to move to the United States at that time cause he didn't know how to speak English since he was raced in a French family but for my mom it was easy for her because her family was a bilingual family so they spoke both English and French so it was easy for her to adapt to the system here. After so much hard work, my mom was able to save up some money to move my dad to United States. When he got here things still weren't easy but however things got better cause he could help my mom take care of the kids while she was at work. While being unable to speak English, he tried getting a job and he really wanted a good paying job but considering the fact that he didn't have a degree from his country, he was unable to really get any good job but, after some time he got a job as a truck driver. My dad has always wanted to go to school, it's just for him it was so hard cause he didn't speak or really understood English at that time so he just had to do what he had to do at the moment to get money so he could help support my mom. Both of my parents worked so hard, doing doubles every other day and after some time they were able to buy a house together in a really good and clean city. I would definitely say things have gotten so much better now my parents make sure my siblings and I never lack anything, and they are doing really good for themselves now. From this story, you can already tell that my parents don't play when it comes to education because they have gone through a lot of hard times just to make my siblings and I happy and they don't want us to struggle the way they did. My parents strongly believe that if you are not a doctor, nurse or some type of engineer in technology then you can't be successful enough to keep up with the lifestyle in the United States. I think this is a really strong norm in which if you go to 90% of African parents, 80% of them will tell you that's the best occupation for their kids. My parents don't play when it comes to education because to them that's they key to leaving a happy and less stressful life in the United States considering how high the lifestyle status is in the United States. I kind of understand where they coming from because my dad would always tell me that if he had the opportunity to go to school and if his parent had the income to pay for his school fees and needs then he would have paid attention and pursue a good carrier so he won't have to work so hard to make much money and face different disrespect from people at his work. My parents encourage my siblings and I everyday on the importance of education because at the end of the day, they don't want us to do jobs like them even after we got the opportunity that they never got because that will be very disappointing. When I was in high school, I didn't really know what I wanted as an occupation in life. I've always had passion for modelling but my parents made me realize that even though it's a good thing it's not a suitable job. So I thought of being a psychologist because advising people was something that always made me happy so, in thought that would be a good job carrier for me. So after graduating my dad asked me again what i wanted to do and I told him I would like to pursue a degree as a psychologist. He told me that psychology wasn't really a dependable job and even though people go for therapy, I should consider myself. He told me that it's a good job but at the end of the day, I have to know who I am in United and he was asked me like as a black woman how many people do you think will want to come and sit and share their problems with you? I felt really offended cause i felt like he was doubting me but after doing some research, i realized that even though he was to honest, he was right though. It took me quite sometime to come conclusion and just choosing to pursue a carrier as a nurse because my parents told me like in the United States, people get sick everyday and they are always going to need nurses or doctors regardless of the state you go, regardless of your race or gender as a nurse, you can always get a good paying job. After so much stress, I was just like ok whatever I just do it. I started pursuing my degree as a nurse just for my parents but all of a sudden I don't know what happened to me but I just got this urge to want to actually really pursue a degree in nursing and like I've being working so hard with my different classes, trying to keep up straight A's and B's so I can get into the nursing program without having to go through a lot of stress. I really work hard to keep up with my different grades especially in this class because am not sure if am writing the right or wrong things and either ways I can't  be immediately  corrected for a better grade and even though I understand that college teachers have different ways of teaching but it has being really hard for me adapt to this learning method because I never did this before. I really do hope that I get a better grade in this assignment because I think I have done a really better job as compared to my other pallets and my padlets I think my times are really good because am frequently on here. I might take a couple of days to complete a post but that's just because I work on assignments that are due at a specific time of the week. How this discussion challenges my world view is I think that education is very important but however people should be let to go and discover the world so they could realize the important of education. I understand that my parents don't want me to go through what they went through and I have accepted they job option for me but I just for some other people school just not their thing and rather than forcing it on them let them go out and explore the world and if they find what makes them happy other than having a good carrier then they can do but if not, let them explore the world, see how hard it i for people out there and then come back and try getting their education back together. I feel like this discussion also challenges the world in ways like, sometimes people get frustrated with school because they see the society they leave in. In the United if you a lawyer or have a degree in a good or qualified job like nursing, IT and etc, then you can easily get a job but let's not forget the fact that there are countries in which societies literally make people not even want to accomplish an education regardless of the job title considering the fact that a lot of this people become jobless after all those years of hard work just to get a degree and end up with no job. I think these challenges the world because these kids get so frustrated and tired of being jobless after so many years of hard work to the point that some of them surrender themselves to low class jobs such babysitters, security guards, cooks etc while some surrender themselves to low class but fast illegal and fast making money jobs such as robbing, scamming, selling drugs and prostitution. A lot of citizens in different countries go through this hard times that's why a lot of kids tend to not have any passion in education and I just think it's big challenge in the world when it comes to education. At the end of the day I believe what's meant for someone is meant for them we all, have our journey on earth whatever God has planned for you would happen so people should be patient, work hard, never give-up and just believe in their dreams. How this discussion of importance of education can be related to other things I have learned in this class is earlier in this class we talked about gender and sexuality. I am not trying to be feminist or anything like that but, I think as women, we should pursue and education and even if we don't want to do so we should at least get good paying jobs that will help us be independent on our own with or without a man because in my history class I learned that during the 1950's and 90's women were very much mistreated by men and their role was just to be stay home wife's and men would use this as an opportunity to disrespect some women and cheat on them because they women couldn't fight for themselves and they didn't have any finances or they weren't really educated to get a good job to look out for themselves without the help of their husbands. I know they world has changed, and a lot of women are now able to do things that make them happy and pursue a good education based on their social class to help them be independent by themselves which I think it's important for every woman to be in that way before getting into a marriage with someone or sometimes even relationship depending on the age limit. Again, am not trying to sound all feminist but I just believe that in our society today women who are independent on their own get way may respect from men or anyone in the society not because these men want to be beneficial of that wealth or prosperity, but it gives them a limit and a manner of awareness to know how to treat and talk to these women. At the end of the day, from all my different studies of gender and women in history, I think is really important women be successful financially with good paying jobs regardless of education of no education. Just have a good decent and paying job that can make you independent of your own with or without a man. And notice how I say women and not girls because society tend put so much pressure on young females these days on their job options. Like I mentioned before I think education is very important but however it's not for everybody that's why I think it is very important to find your purpose in life even if it can be hard sometimes to do so because at the end of the day what is meant for you would be for you and what's not meant for you, regardless of how much you try to achieve that thing you won't achieve cause it wasn't meant for.]]> 2022-05-10 21:40:57 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2178341986 JCB 8 White Wedding/Marriage and the Family megantemgo https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2180206039 In JCB 8 we learn about weddings and family. The chapter mainly focuses on white wedding, luxuries weddings, and honeymoon. The chapter tells us about the norm and behaviors that influences different marriages including same sex marriages. We also learn that gender also has an influence between romantic ideas and consumption standards. It also considers the life after marriage, family, and reproduction. I think marriage is very important aspect of life because a man is meant to get married and reproduce and make a family. A lot of women dream of their weddings and want it to be one of the best days of their life. A lot of people growing up expecting to get married but for some people they don't really care about such thing they just want to make money and be happy. Some people have the biggest expectation when it comes to celebrating their weddings but at the end of the sometimes it's really pointless spending so much money just to please people and show off it's better to inverse that money in after marriage projects because i feel like all that fanciness for a white wedding is just for one day but marriage is everyday thing so it's important to not only focus on that one day but also focus and what other days would be like after that one day. One thing I would like to talk about from this chapter related to other thinks i have learn in this class during this course is in the lecture videos, it talks about how women are meant to preserve their bodies till marriage while men are free of charge to do whatever pleases them with their bodies and it's totally ok for a man to have higher body count but if a woman does that then she is consider a hoe. I think that's really wrong because women should not be told what to do and not do when it comes to their bodies and a man should never judge a woman based of her body count because at the end of the day that does not define who she is as a person. I would like to use this topic of luxurious white wedding to relate to my life because growing up as a kid, I always wanted a luxurious wedding because i always watched shows where people will literally compete just to see who could organize a better luxurious wedding to the taste of the couples and I always thought that's amazing but after some time I realize that having a luxurious wedding does not lead to having a happy marriage. Like you can always do a white wedding without spending all that plenty money because I feel like people often want luxurious wedding just to prove something or show off to others but growing up I just realize that, that's not what life is about and it's better to invest that money for projects. Another thing I would like to share concerning this chapter is in this chapter we learn about same sex marriages. In my family we don't believe in same sex marriage probably of how my culture is and in this class but in another lesson we learn that people have different cultures that influence their thoughts and ideas towards different situations which I think is true because I know some members of my family don't have any problem with same sex marriage when it comes to other people but maybe when it comes to a member of their family, i know they would never accept that. I feel like same sex marriage is often portrayed as completed but I just think it's all about what's in the heart and how two people feel for each other because at the end of the day, if two people are meant to be together, regardless of their gender, they are going to be together. I know there is a lot to marriage just than organizing luxurious weddings. Marriage comes with a lot of things, perseverance, happiness, joy, commitment, family endurance patients, love and many other aspects but the important is to not rush take your time before getting into such commitment and what's meant for you would definitely come your way regardless of how long it takes.]]> 2022-05-11 23:09:36 UTC https://padlet.com/megantemgo/32vetqv33ml1pvi6/wish/2180206039