• Stephanie McCrea 07929831246

• Lorna Barfield 07870569509

  
  

Chaplaincy Department

• Stoke Mandeville Hospital 01296 316675

• Wycombe Hospital 01494 425072

  
  

Obstetric & Gynaecology Secretaries 

Stoke Mandeville Hospital 01296 315000

Wycombe Hospital 01494 526161

Ask for either Obstetric or Gynaecology Secretaries 

Registrar’s Office 

County Hall, Walton Street 

Aylesbury HP20 1XF 01296 383005 

29 Windsor End, 

Beaconsfield, Bucks 

HP9 2JJ 

01494 475205 

Baby Loss Certificate Request (GOV.UK)

www.gov.uk/request-baby-loss-certificate

Birth Reflections www.buckshealthcare.nhs.uk/birthchoices/pifs/birth-reflections/ 

Bucks Maternity Voices Partnership maternityvoicesbucks@gmail.com www.bucksmaternityvoices.co.uk 

Remember My Baby Photography

www.remembermybaby.org.uk

0808 189 2345

• On the day of your admission contact the Labour ward co-ordinator 01296 316102 and a member of staff will come and meet you and take you to Primrose room.

• The Primrose room is a private space designed specifically to provide comfort, privacy and support.

• Bring comfortable clothes, nightwear and toiletries

• Bring something special for your baby to wear but the hospital can also provide a selection of outfits and blankets

  
  

Blessing your baby

• You may have your baby named and blessed by the Hospital Chaplain or a Minister of your own choice. This blessing can occur either with or without you being present. A blessing card will then be given to you. 

• Book of Remembrance and Remembrance Service 

• You may wish to enter your baby’s name in the hospital Baby Book of Remembrance, which is kept in the Prayer Room. If you would like to, you can also write a personal message, reflection or special poem. 

• You will be given a Book of Remembrance form when you leave the hospital. There is no time limit for completing this. When you feel ready, you can return the form using the address provided. 

• If your baby is over 24 weeks the law requires you register the stillbirth within 6 weeks. If your baby has died after the birth at any gestation the law requires you to register the birth and death within 5 days. If your baby is less than 24 weeks you can request a baby loss certificate - Request a baby loss certificate - GOV.UK

Arrangements for your baby's funeral

• When you feel ready, you can begin planning your baby’s funeral with the support of a Funeral Director.

• The hospital can provide a list of local services. Please ask your midwife if this would help.

• A Hospital Chaplain may be able to lead or support the service, or we can help you find a non-religious celebrant.

• The Bereavement Support Midwife is also here to guide and support you through this personal time.

Blood tests

• You will be offered a variety of blood tests which may help to determine why your baby has died and these will be reviewed by the doctor and discussed with you at your debrief appointment.

Post mortem examinations

• A post-mortem examination may help provide information about why your baby died, and can sometimes guide future care.

• This is entirely your choice. You will be given clear information and time to decide, and you will be fully supported whatever you choose.

• If you consent, the examination is carried out by specialists, and results are usually discussed at your follow-up appointment. These can take up to 16 weeks.

After Care

• Please contact your GP to arrange a postnatal check, usually around 6 weeks after your baby’s birth.

• Bleeding can continue for a few weeks. Use sanitary towels (not tampons) and avoid sex until bleeding has stopped. Contact your GP if you have heavy bleeding, unusual discharge, a temperature, or pain when passing urine.

• Your milk may come in a few days after birth. This can be distressing, but support and medication are available. Wearing a supportive bra and using simple pain relief may help.

• If you have any concerns, including breast discomfort or flu-like symptoms, please seek medical advice. Ongoing support is available from the Bereavement Support Midwife.

You may be entitled to maternity leave or benefits. It is a good idea to check the GOV.UK website for the most up-to-date information about rights and benefits.

Returning to work is an individual choice depending on your emotional and physical wellbeing; be guided by professionals, family and friends. 

Aching Arms

The charity bringing comfort after pregnancy and baby loss.

www.achingarms.co.uk

 07464 508994      support@achingarms.co.uk

Antiphonal Ltd (Funeral Celebrants) www.funeralcelebrants.org.uk 

ARC (Antenatal Results and Choices) 

Helping parents and professionals through antenatal screening 

0207 713 7486 www.arc-uk.org 

British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists 

The BACP can provide details of registered counsellors in your area 

01455 883300 www.bacp.co.uk 

Child Bereavement UK 0800 028 8840 www.childbereavement.org.uk  

Cruse Bereavement Support 

Help with bereavement support and information 

0808 808 1677 www.cruse.org.uk 

Ellie's Gift - A simple and secure way to access specialist resources during baby loss on your computer, smartphone or tablet

https://www.ellies.gift

Freddie’s Wish 

Registered charity with love at its heart, wanting to help those who have lost a 

child of any age and offer support and care when needed www.freddieswish.org

Humanist UK 

Support for non-religious families 

020 7324 3060 www.humanists.uk 

Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society (SANDS) 0808 164 3332 (SANDS helpline) support@uk-sands.org www.uk-sands.org 

West Herts and Bucks SANDS 0808 164 3332 www.whbsands.org.uk 

The Skye High Foundation (Foundation to support families during and after the loss of a twin, triplet or multiples) 

 www.theskyehighfoundation.co.uk 

Baby Loss Awareness Alliance - Find support that's right for you

https://babyloss-awareness.org/support/

Talking therapies - NHS - Talking therapies (psychological therapies) involve talking to a trained professional about your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

https://nhs.uk/test-and-treatments/talking-therapies/

Teddy’s Wish 

Provide care and support for families grieving the loss of a baby and fund vital research into the causes of SIDS, stillbirth and neonatal death www.teddyswish.org.uk 

Tommy's The pregnancy and baby charity. Tommy's Helpline in partnership with Five X More for Black and Black Mixed-Heritage women. Tommy's Helpline in partnership with Five X More for Black and Black Mixed-Heritage women | Tommy's

Twins and Multiple Births Association Bereavement Support Group 

(TAMBA BSG) 

0800 138 0509 (helpline) 

10.00-13.00 hours and 19.00-22.00 hours daily www.tamba.org.uk/bsg 

Baby Loss Support - Kara Clinical Psychologist in Sussex