a) I am quite shy when trying to communicate with different gender

b) Quite grumpy I must say

c) Like to do some low IQ jokes with friends

d) Like to be straightforward even if the truth hurts

e) HARD to approach guy due to my resting face that rarely smile

 

After a thorough checking and asking people who I met, this is apparently quite accurate and few view me differently

 

Yes, I do. I am a student, a brother, a clown and mischievous person.

 

Mainly it is because of my parents. Everything good that people saw me do, its from the education that I get from my parents. Well, the bad side of me is due to my experience during my diploma. I have a trust issue regarding people. There are lots of backstabbing people out there. BEWARE !!!

 

Depends on the situation itself. If it prone to good things, I will treat them nicely and vice versa if it is bad.

 

a) I panic easily especially when dealing with large groups of people / strangers

b) Can be quite competitive (kiasu if you must haha)

c) Makes quality jokes

d) Has the tendency to be stubborn

e) Patient but doesn’t show affection right off the bat

After checking I found that the way others view me both differ and are similar in how I view myself. People seems to think that I am calm and composed however this is far from the truth as Sharon and Lingeswary know how worked up I can get over small tasks to which they have encouraged me to slowly overcome.  Many also think that I am reserved when it is only because I open up around the right company. However, in terms of being funny and patient people agree that I do possess these traits as a person. 

 

Yes, I do as a student, a sister, a daughter, a friend and as the vice secretary of the English Language Society Council 

 

I have been influenced by my parents mainly who have instilled in me the same values they were brought up with. However, my identities are also shaped by my surroundings as I often shift to adapt in different social groups. 

 

Depends on the social context and the people I am with to determine whether to compromise my views to ensure a mutual understanding and also whether to show my true self. 

 

a. People might think I’m the most polite person when we know each other for the first time, but when they are in my close friends, I’m the craziest person who loves to make stupid jokes.

b. I’m the person who wants to win in anything, whether when we fight or in anything else. 

c. Sometimes, I have my ‘bad mood’ side, which is I don’t have the mood to talk to anyone until they start talking to me first.

d. I hate it when people touch my things without my permission. 

e. I’m the person who usually loves to share stories or my secret to my close friends because it would make me stress if I keep it to myself. 

After I asked some of my close friends, I can conclude that the way others view me is the same as the way I see myself.

Yes, of course. As a sister, a daughter, a student and as a friend. 

Mostly, the surrounding that will shape my identities which is the way I will react when I’m with people that I’m not close to or when I’m with my close friends or with my families.

I always show my good side to the people who are kind to me or to the person that I know for the first time. But if you are that kind of person who makes me annoyed or I can sense the ‘negative vibes’ between us, I will try to avoid you or pretend that you never exist at that time.

 

I think I am a very sensitive and emotional person sometimes. I tend to react emotionally. For instance, when someone offended me, I will get really sulky and make a long face. I would not talk to that person and wait until my anger subsided. Other than that, I believe that I am very clumsy and careless. There were timeless time that I almost lost my purse and my phone but my friend would always be there to save me from that trouble. Next, I am a socially awkward girl. When I first meet anyone, I find it very hard for me to start and really stay in that conversation. The fact that I do not look that friendly is not helpful either. But if you start to get to know me better, I am quite an amiable and entertaining friend. I am quite relaxed and laid-back. Whenever things happen, I do not really overthink and stress on about it.   Finally, I think I am a reliable person. My friends can definitely rely on me to listen to their concerns and help them whenever they need me. 

 

I have checked with my housemates and my friends and all of them agreed that I do possess those identities.

 

 

I think the biggest factor would be my experiences dealing with people. I have met with many kinds of people and they have might intentionally or unintentionally ‘force’ me to behave in a certain way.

I guess it depends on the situation. Most of the times, I keep my own opinion to myself as I do not want my personal thoughts end up offending other people. But if I feel like that person can really accept criticism then I would try to be honest. 

 

2. Check whether if they are similar as to how others view you
I have checked with my housemates and close friends. Most of them agree on how I view myself.

Yes. As the only daughter in my family, a sister, a student and a friend.

    

One of the factors would be the experience that I have gone through during my childhood and teenage years. Apart from that, the society that I grew up in also influence me to behave in certain ways.

 

Depends on the context and the person that I am dealing with. Usually, I would observe their behaviour first before vocalizing my thoughts and carefully choose my words because I do not want to offend others.

 

a)      I would say I’m somewhat shy.

b)      I live in my own world.

c)       Socially awkward (depends on place, time, etc)

d)      Quite fussy about cleanliness.

e)      I’m a good listener (because I don’t talk too much)

Most people agree with the 5 significant characteristics about myself, although some would doubt that I’m a good listener just because I barely comment on anything people say. But hey, I was just trying to be nice. 

Yes, I’m also a son, a brother, a student, and a friend.

Well, mostly my surroundings. And my childhood too. All the good and bad things that happened in my life also affect my identities. 

Most of the time, I just shut my mouth and smile. Trying to tolerate whatever is happening because I hate violence. 

>I am a quiet person, I prefer to be quiet and I only speak when there’s a need of it.

> I am an observant person; I notice things and watch things happen around me. 

>I love reading books, novels to be specific.

> I am a shy person and at the same time, a grumpy person. I get annoyed pretty easily but I always keep my annoyance to myself. 

>I get panic very easily too (especially during presentation/ infront of crowds) but sometimes I can the bravest among my friends. 

>I am very good at over thinking.

> If you’re a close friend of mine, you’d notice that I have a great sense of humour. 

 

>I asked a few friends (close friends) of mine, and I can say that they viewed me just like how I view myself. However, few might view me differently.

 
 3) Do you have multiple identities in your lives?

>Yes, I do as a daughter, a sister, a student and a friend.

 4) What are among the factors which shape your identities?

>I can say that my family shape my identities. I grew up with my family, and there are so many things that they have taught me and the lesson shape me to who I am today. Other than that, my circumstances of life also contributed in shaping my identity. The kind of friends, society and situation around me shaped my “other” identity.

 5) How do you negotiate the self and the otherness?

>I would say that I depend on the situation and the people that I need to deal with. I choose words wisely, behave nicely, and try to avoid from doing things that I don’t want people do to me. 

B)    I am a shy person, that’s why I barely talk to some people

C)    Awkward kind of guy.

D)    Love adrenaline-rushing activities, like riding bike

E)     Pc enthusiast. Sometimes i help out some people with their computer related problems.
 2. I don’t know how they will perceive me anyway.
 
 3. yeahh, I do. A friend, a brother and a student.
 4. The factors that shape my identities would be my past
experience, especially during my school days.
 5. It depends on the situations and the person that I interact
with. 

 

a)      I love psychology and reading human behavioural patterns, and the science behind it. Fascinating. Makes me happy

b)      I am an ambivert, not an extrovert. 

c)      I sleep (hibernate is what I call) to solve all of my problems. It does solve some of it, I guess.

d)      I am stubborn. Extremely. And sometimes, I kinda hate it.

e)      I love pretty things, making me quite materialistic. (I buy almost everything that looks nice, and of course if its within my budget)

f)       I am grumpy without my morning coffee.
 2) Check whether if they are similar as to how others view you

 

I guess. Some have different opinions and thoughts over who am I as a person. My close friends and family know the real me, hopefully.

Yes, I do. As a daughter, as a younger sibling, as a friend, and therapist to some of my pals, as a student and many others.

 4) What are among the factors which shape your identities?

My parents, siblings, friends and the circumstances I’m in. I always try to adapt and accommodate to certain needs (depending on the circumstances and priorities). 
 
 

 

It depends on whom and what I am dealing with. I can only compromise to certain extent. If people can’t accept me for who I am and the beliefs I carry, I can’t do much. Each to their own.
 
 

-I am an introvert person but if you get to know me, maybe you will just hope that I will shut my mouth up.

-I am actually a very sensitive, but I tend to not show it to others if I am hurting.

-I am a stubborn person, but it depends on who I have to deal with.

-I am an extremely patient person.

-I do not care much with what others think about me. I choose to be ignorant about it but if someone advises me, I will accept his/her advice openly.

2) Check whether if they are similar as to how others view you

Some of my friends fully agreed with my points.

3) Do you have multiple identity is your lives?

Yes, of course! As a girl, as a daughter, as a student and as a friend.

4) What are among the factors which shape your identities?

One of the factors is society as I live in the rural area which is the sentence,‘what will people say?’ is very important so I am rebelling all sort of this by ignore them as I am a grown-up now. The other factor is I think because I am the third child in my family so I always relent to others.

5) How do you negotiate the self and the otherness?

I choose to deal with people in the professional way but if I can’t stand their annoying traits, I would prefer to ignore them. That is the best way for me to avoid misunderstanding.

 

a) I could say I am a friendly person. I love to start a conversation with people, make a friend and mingle around with everyone. I learn about people really quick like what are the do’s and don’t for them just to maintain the social goods between us. Your first hi to me would be counted so you are considered to be in my circle.

 

b) I'm a good listener. I don’t know when it starts but I have been an adviser to people since in primary school. I think I give people a vibe that they feel comfortable to talk to me either personal matter or just their daily life activities. Believe it or not, I always give love advice to my friend and even someone who just know me. They tend to ask me for an opinion about their relationship. Do not ask me why people just open up to me naturally and I am happy if I could help them by listening to them. Well said, sometimes ones just wanted to be heard.

 

c) I always prioritize others feeling more than I care about my own. For me what other see in me would reflect my personality. My close friend said that I care about too many hearts until I forgot that I also have one to protect. I love to maintain social goods with people especially if they are someone I know. I would choose my word carefully before I utter it out just because I don’t want they feel offended of it. People also say that I am too kind to people even they don’t deserve it but for me, I always stick to my principle which I'm going to treat people the same as how I want to be treated and whether they are offering the same attitude or not, it is up to them. 

 

d) They say I'm an overthinking person but in my view, they are just ignorant. Sorry about that. Sometimes I always think how a person could be to ignorance over someone feeling and only care about theirs but after I learn sociolinguistics I have my answer because if it is important or sensitive to you it can be otherwise to other. We just two different people. I often being called overthinking because I always care about ones feeling. If I greet someone and they just ignore me I would think back whether have I hurt their feeling? Did my words offend them even I did not talk to them yet? Do they react that way because of me? These are the question I always ask my self so I just ask for forgiveness first even it is not my fault and they don’t get angry at me.

 

e) I'm a cry baby. I easily tear up over a little thing. I tend to cry for others, yes you could say I'm a little bit weird but it is because of my empathy I guess. This is why I always say to my circle of friends ‘do not cry if you don’t want to see me cry too’ but for this kind of personality, I don’t show it to everyone because people always see me as someone really strong. I rarely shed tears in front of others. People around me say that I am too motherly even my housemate called me bunda. The truth is I heard of that since primary school and I am happy because people find me reliable and can open up to me.

I am a person who likes to ask people ‘how do you think of me as a person?’ and the answer I received are 90% accurate to those I listed above.

I do, as a daughter, I would be really sensitive with my parent. Each of their words I take into the count and for that reason, my eldest sister always said that my parent will talk nicely to me because I'm the easy offended second daughter. As a sister, I'm the type of I can't offer you wealth but I have a lot of love so rely on me. As a student, here the other side of me will appear. I do take the assignment seriously because it is my marks and will affect my pointer so let's just do our work to the fullest and get an A’s. As a debater and speaker, I talk a lot so you are allowed to argue with me but please do speak with fact or just we are only wasting time

 

As for me, I think my parent occupation that shapes my identities. Being raised in the family of an educator make me always to act clean (read as a polite, sweet and nicest girl ever existed). There are a lot of don’t then do’s which I question it countless time back then but I am grateful that it shapes me as to how I am today.

 

Back then I'm a person who only keeps how I feel alone and just bear whatever people doing. I tend to comfort myself saying let just forgive and forget since I'm not always good to people too but now I will confront the person and have a talk to settle the misunderstanding between us because communication is the keys to every relationship.

I believe that I am a happy-go-lucky person. I love to make others feel happy and comfortable when they are with me. It is like I want everybody to feel happy just like I feel. Secondly, I am a funny person. The reason is that I like to make others laugh whenever they are with me so that they can forget about their problem at that particular moment. It feels so good when other people laugh at your jokes and makes them happy. Thirdly, I am a friendly person. It is my behavior to approach people even with strangers. I know it sounds creepy, but that is just how I maintain the social good in me. I want to make everyone feel very comfortable with me as they can share and talk about anything with me so that they will not feel awkward like talking about it with the others. Next, I am a talkative person. I do not know how to stop talking especially when I am with my family and friends. It is because I want to share my enthusiasm with others. Sharing my stories and perhaps my secret to them will not make me stress as I do not keep it just to myself. Lastly, I am also a complex person as I consistently challenge myself. I love to learn and like to prove myself, try new thing and get out of my comfort zone.

Sometimes I like to ask others how they view me and most of the time, the way I see myself is the same as the way they view me.

I do have multiple identities. I am different as a student, a friend, a son and also a young brother.

The people around me shape my identity. I will react according to how other people react and treat me as a person.

It all depends on the situation itself. Most of the time, I will just comfort myself saying that everything is okay even when it is not. When it comes to the problem to other people, I will try my best to talk to settle the problem as I do not want it to be a burden to me.

i. I’m a little bit of an independent person but not when my family is around.

ii. I’m not that talkative and I like to keep things to myself and usually I don’t share my issues or problems even to my family.

iii. I like to cook, bake and do some diy sometimes but I’m not fond of cleaning it.

iv. I’m not the one who’s reaching out first.

v. Sometimes I tend to over think certain things.

 

After asking a few of my friends, they saw the same things as I view myself but some of the identities are new to them and they don’t know that I have that identity.

 

Yes, I do. I am a daughter, a youngest sister, a student, a friend, a fan and an emotional constipated person.

 

I guess my upbringing is one of the crucial factor that shape my identities. As a youngest sister that have a quite noticeable gap between my siblings, it really makes what I am today.

 

I would say it depends on the situation itself but most of the time I will neglect my real identity because to me other people will become more comfortable with it.

Greetings everyone, I am Fakhrul Aiman, and I’m going to expose the 5 significant characteristics about myself in this post.  Honestly saying, some people did let me know that I looked snobbish as their first impression (or perhaps I just have a snobbish resting face) so, here I will prove that it is quite untrue. 1) I am an outgoing person in relationships, doesn’t matter among friends or families. I talks a lot to pretty much everyone I knew (perhaps too much, and, if that’s the case I’m sincerely sorry). Even though I talks too much with people and enjoy making a lot of friends, 2) I sometimes prefer to ‘be’ alone, and I obviously didn’t mean like an introvert in this context. But here’s the deal, while most of my friends enjoys convoy and riding to our hometown together, I actually beg to differ inwardly. For me it feels good to have friends, but I feel great being alone at times, too. Plus if I’m on my own I would get a great time-flexibility for myself. 3) I work well under stress. Manual labor can be pretty vicious at times, especially if you’re working in a food franchise. A food franchise I used to work in has a horrifying peak hour However, a senior colleague of mine once told me that he’s somewhat impressed by how I managed to still get things done, even if I just got a few days of workplace exposure.  4) I am a cat person.  I think I develop that trait thanks to my mother’s side of the family because I personally do not know whether my dad starts loving cats before or after he met my mum. And the last one is, 5) I am terribly stubborn, once I’ve set my mind on something. While some says it’s a good thing to have a stand, but for me, who usually let others win in basically everything, I felt like it’s something I should mend before it turns into a lifetime habit.

I went all the way to ask some of my past time friends since they were all closer to me before and still did, and most of them agreed with everything above except for the second point. They said they never noticed this at all on me. Well if they did notice it wouldn’t be considered as ‘being alone’ am I right?

 3) Do you have multiple identity in your lives?

Yes for sure I do, I am the oldest grandson, a student, a brother, a masseur and many more. To me having multiple identities are common, in fact I never knew that mono-identity is actually a thing before I look it up on the internet. I interact with different peoples differently depends on the situation, but not in a bad way. What I meant is, you can’t possibly treat your uncles and aunts like how you talk to your friends can you?

 

I picked up the behavior of treating others differently since I was younger, so I guess it just occurs to me like “oh it’s somebody’s parents I should talk appropriately like this…”, “oh it’s just my buddy I can just be cool with him…” I don’t really see negotiation between myself and my otherness as a problem for me. 

1.   Hard to show emotion.

2.   Always want to be better.

3.   Patient.

4.   Tend to overthink stuff.

5.   Either it is too anxious or too unbothered. There’s no in between.

 

2) Check whether if they are similar as to how others view you

·         Most of my friends view me just like what I stated but some of them saying “I thought you were...” 

 3) Do you have multiple identity is your lives?

 4) What are among the factors which shape your identities?

 5) How do you negotiate the self and the otherness?

1.       Hard to show emotion.

2.       Always want to be better.

3.       Patient.

4.       Tend to overthink stuff.

5.       Either it is too anxious or too unbothered. There’s no in between.

 

2) Check whether if they are similar as to how others view you

 3) Do you have multiple identity is your lives?

 4) What are among the factors which shape your identities?

 5) How do you negotiate the self and the otherness?

 

a) I always talk sarcastically, sometimes people don’t know if I’m serious or not.

b) I overthink about things too much, especially about my family and personal life.

c) I’m more ambivert kind of person, sometimes I loud, sometimes I just stay quite. Depends on the energy from the social situation and also my energy.

d) I’m quite independent, I can go anywhere and do things/chores/errands alone because it’s better like that. Sometimes I feel stuffy when there are so many people.

e) I’m a caring person to people that I love, especially my family and friends.

I asked my friends a lot about my characteristics, and they said I have all the characteristics that I have listed. Also, they add another phrase for my characteristics which is “weird and random”. They said I love to say the weird thoughts and do the random things. I’m not sure about that but I don’t know, haha.

 3) Do you have multiple
identity in your lives?

Yes. Of course I do. Everyone does. I am different when I’m with my high school friends, I’m different with my university friends, lecturers, my parents, my sister, my family and etc. I will act accordingly to the situation and the people whom I interact with. Especially with lecturers or teachers, I will tend to be more discreet and well behaved. When I’m with elderly, I will be more courteous and ladylike. I will be more of myself when I’m with my family and closest friends.

My parents, obviously. They are the first people that will teach you about how to deal with worlds. So, my mom and dad told me about how to behave as a person, as a daughter, as the eldest child to one and only little sister, as the first grandchild, as a niece, and as a neighbour. Another factor is school environment. Teachers and friends have moulded on how to be a good student and a good friend. Other identities are shaped through other social interaction such as weddings, events and etc.

Some people just choose to be themselves no matter what the situation is. As for me, I will think of the consequences if I’m being totatlly myself. What if I talk to elderly with the way I talk to my closest friends? What if talk to my mom with the way I talk to my teachers?  I always thought of that, so basically that is how I avoid social awkwardness and uncomfortable interaction. I cannot bare to breath the cringeworthy air.

After checking the characteristics with my friends, I could see that people do see me as an introvert and a shy person. However, those traits are only applicable when I am encountering people that I am not comfortable with. Meaning to say that I am not an introvert and a shy person among my friends but only for people that are not close to me. My friends also stated that I am actually reliable although it seems that I am too relying on other people. They told me that I am a good listener and tend to give good advices when they are having problems. Other than that, one of my friends also stated that I am a cheerful person. I do have the boring side in me but they told me that I am cheerful as I will try to cheer up my friends when they are not in a good mood. 

 

Yes, I do have multiple identities. I am a student, the youngest daughter to my parents, the youngest sister to my siblings, a singer and a friend.

 

In my opinion, the factors that shape my identity is the acceptance of certain groups of people. This is because my identity will differ according to which group of people I am currently dealing with. A simple example would be I would act differently with my parents, siblings and friends in terms of politeness. Other than that, of course my family are the ones that shaped my identity as they thought me how to deal with things according to situations and also the way they treat me in my entire life had shaped the present me. 
 
 

I would say that it depends on the situation itself. I would always put priority to others view to achieve what is best for a particular situation. However, if the views of others would give lots of disadvantages to myself, I would definitely choose to follow my ways.

·         I am that type of person that don’t like other people to touch or borrow my belonging without my permission.

·         I am an overthinking person. In terms of assignment, if I were chosen as a leader, I will make sure we will complete it before the due date. This allows us to have time for any changes and correction.

·         I am quite a grumpy person. If things are not according to my plan, I will either hold the grudgers or confront the person’s action. Depending on the situation.

·         Imaginative and ambitious. I always create a scenario in my head during my leisure time or while waiting for the bus. This allows me to create and plan ideas on my future. If the idea is good, I will jot down the idea in my notebook and consider it in the future. I mainly imagine things that could help me generate money and save the environment. 

·         Shy person. I am a very shy person. This is due to my lack of self-confidence and constantly thinking of what others will say about me. But when people starts to know me better, I can communicate and cooperate well In a group discussion.

 

My group mate and friends who know me agreed with the identities that I had state.

 3) Do you have multiple identity is your lives?

Yes I do. As a friend, brother, child and student.

The factors that shape my identities are depending on the situation, surrounding and the person that I am interacting with. If I find the person have common things with me, I will change my identity into someone that can interact casually, friendly and in a playful setting regardless of the gender. But if the person that I am interacting with is someone older or someone that I just meet, I will change my identity into someone that is polite and soft spoken.

I always try to give a good first impression to others. I always remind myself to treat others like how you would want to be treated. As I grow up, I tend to avoid any conflicts, but if other people treat me with disrespect and when my patience reached the limit, surely my otherness will take place.

a.       I stressed for nothing every day.

b.       Sometimes I likely to have conversation with everyone sometimes not.

c.       I am happy to meet my friends unintentionally.

d.       Easily gets tired.

e.       Addicted to games.

I am pretty sure that most of my friends claimed I don’t have any problem but I’m not. That’s all I could say. Dealing with personal problems tiring me.

Yes. I’m students, a friend, a son. Only my friends know my real identity.

I could say that my friends shape most my identities as I always spend time with them and stayed in hostel for many years. Yeah, I didn’t blame them for what I am right now.

Of course, it depends on the situation and people I am dealing with. Most of it I don’t have any problem with everyone. Just use your words nicely and always smile when you’re making eye contact with someone and greet them if you know them. Having a nice and healthy conversation could help on maintaining your relationship with everybody. Just try to avoid using harsh word and behave aggressively toward others. 

-          I get panic easily especially when it comes to deal with a group of people that I rarely know

-          Some might think that I look unapproachable and arrogant but deep down I would love to socialize with everyone

-          I don’t really talk with someone that I just knew, but once I get used to you, I can be so talkative.

-          I’m that kind of person who will keep quiet whenever I’m not in the mood 

2. Check whether if they are similar as to how others view you
-          Some of the characteristics about me are similar to how others view me but some aren’t  

3. Do you have multiple identity is your lives?
-          Of course, I do. As the youngest daughter in my family, as a student and as a friend as well.

4. What are among the factors which shape your identities?
- I would say that the surrounding is one of the factors that shape my identities. Only my family and close friends know me well. 

5. How do you negotiate the self and the otherness?
- It is actually depending on how those people treat me. If they treat me nicely, I would do the same to them. But if they don’t, I would turn and go away. 

(a) The first impression of others towards me would be that I am a very composed person. 

(b) An adventurous person who loves to discover new things. 

(c) Very committed person towards my responsibilities. 

(d) Always gives out the best in whatever I do. 

(e)Hates to be judgmental and do not easily share my emotions with people.

 

 

(a) Yes, they are similar to how others view me. 

(a)Yes, I do. 

(a) Upbringing of an individual. 

(b) Based on the society that we live in.

(c) Past events or tragedy that happens in an individual’s life.

(a) By certain instinct in particular situations. 

(b) I would prioritize any one of it at a time. 

(c) Solely depending on other people’s attitude. In other word, it is based on the other party or individual who communicates with me.