https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj en-us 2018-01-04 05:24:19 UTC 2023-02-19 20:48:03 UTC hello@padlet.com 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218673568 There are lots and lots of ways to know you are in a strong relationship and some of them are: you think about each other when you’re not with them; you respond positively to each others good news; you spend some time apart with your own friends; you have a similar sense of humor; you try new things together; you know how to recover from a fight. ]]> 2018-01-04 05:30:28 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218673568 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218673693 Relationships take work, so to keep them going you and your partner both have to be willing to put in the work.  You can’t change other people you can only change yourself, so if you want something to change you need to be able to tell them.  To keep the relationship going you need to be able to not fall apart after little fights.  Honoring each other in some way everyday is a small way of showing them you love them and want to keep the relationship going. Being able to deal with your anger, and give yourself some time to calm down before talking it out is another important way to keep a strong relationship.  The best relationships are when the two people act like best friends.  Give in a relationship what you want to get out of it because if you aren't putting anything into it, you wont get anything out of it.  Lastly, COMMUNICATE!  Communication is key because if you and your partner can communicate well, then you can avoid little fights. ]]> 2018-01-04 05:33:06 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218673693 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218873198 If you both really like each other and understand the struggles of a long distance relationship, go ahead and try it out.  Another reason to stay in the relationship would be if you honestly can see and want a future with the person.  Lastly, if you really like them and know that you want to go to the same college as them or one close to them then it would be reasonable to keep the relationship.

]]> 2018-01-05 00:57:10 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218873198 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218873638 According to huffingtonpost.com, you will know if you are in a bad relationship if you feel like you need to change who you are in order to make your partner happy.  Another bad sign is if you have to defend your partner to your family and friends.  If you are constantly being criticized by your partner, and you are always wondering what they are doing when you’re not around that is not a sign of a good relationship either.  Some more red flags are: your partner makes all the big relationship decisions; “you want more ‘me’ time- but your partner wants more ‘we’ time” -Huffingtonpost.com; your partner controls what you see and what you do; you find yourself wondering if you are in the wrong relationship.  One last side-note: if you find yourself doing any of these (not including the last one) you should probably change your behaviors so that your partner doesn’t break up with you.  ]]> 2018-01-05 01:08:08 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218873638 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218875226 It is time to break up when everything they do starts driving you crazy.  It is also time when you are finding other excuses to do things so you don’t have to spend as much time with your partner.  There are many other reasons why you should break up with someone and they are:  if things aren’t moving forward in the relationship, and no one is making an effort to do so; if you’ve broken up and gotten back together more than once; you spend a decent amount of time thinking about who else is out there, and if they might be better for you; you are constantly fighting about anything and everything; their negative personality traits have gotten worse; you are super jealous and suspicious more often than not; one of you still isn’t over an ex; your timelines are just off.  One last point is you should break up if you just don't like them anymore.  You shouldn't feel pressured into staying in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. ]]> 2018-01-05 01:41:54 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218875226 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218875704 There are do's and dont's when you are breaking up with someone and some of the things you should do are: first, think over what you want and why you want it. Next, think not only about what you’re going to say, but also about how the other person is going to react.  While you are actually breaking up with them you should have good intentions, be honest- but not brutal, and lastly, say it in person.  Things you shouldn't do are avoid the other person, or the conversation you need to have, don’t rush into the difficult conversation without thinking it through, and don’t be disrespectful.  When it comes time to actually break up with them, here is how you should do it.  First put out there that you need to talk about something, then find a time that is good for both of you.  When you are finally having the conversation, start by saying something you like or value about the other person.  Then go into telling them why it’s not working, and why you want to break up.  After you are done with what you have to say listen to what the other person has to say.  After everything is all over and you have broken up, the best thing to do is to give them some space. Hey, its a break up, so there will definitely be some hard feelings, but if you give the other person some space and time to cool down you could still potentially end on good terms. ]]> 2018-01-05 01:51:13 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218875704 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218879754 If you, or your significant other, are going to college you might want to consider breaking up.  From your perspective if you are the one that is going to college you might want to consider breaking up if you don’t see any benefits to staying in the relationship, or if you feel like they will hold you back from the college experience, and finding your true self.  If your significant other is the one going to college you might want to break up so you won’t worry about what they are doing all the time, or so that you don’t worry if you are holding them back. Also if you don’t see a future for you two, you might as well break it off before they start theirs. ]]> 2018-01-05 03:08:38 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218879754 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218884287 There are many different ways to know that you are in a good strong friendship and according to huffingtonpost.com, some of them are: they push you to be more accepting of yourself; they call you out when you’re “in the wrong”- when you let someone/something start controlling you and it’s having negative effects on your personality; they are always there for you; they really listen; they keep you humble; they always have your back; they prioritize the friendship; they are forgiving; lastly, they try and make you a better person.]]> 2018-01-05 04:39:45 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218884287 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218884463 Sean Covey, in the book The Six Most Important Decisions You Will Ever Make, He talks about the "relationship bank account." Basically how it works is the more nice things you do for someone, the higher the balance in your bank account is. For example a good way to maintain a friendship is to make time to see them. If you make time during your busy week to see them, your balance goes up. On the flip side, if you are frequently blowing your friend off and not seeing them at all, the balance will go down. If you are in the positive you are doing good but if you have a negative balance you need to check your priorities. Another specific thing to do to maintain your friendship is to not let little fights ruin the relationship. Being able to work out your problems is a skill you will need for the rest of your life, and if you can figure it out when you are younger then you will make many strong relationships in the future. ]]> 2018-01-05 04:44:04 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218884463 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218885107 Relationships aren't one sided,  your friend shouldn't be the only person that puts in all the work.  If you do any of the things on the list then you are a good friend.  You are critical to your friend but only to a certain point; you are genuinely happy for your friend when they are in a relationship especially when you’re not; you can compromise with them; you tell them the truth even if you know they don’t want to hear it; you aren’t just using them for your benefit; when you are upset with them you don’t get passive aggressive with them; you do nice things for them just because; you always are there for them and don’t push them away when you are going through things. ]]> 2018-01-05 04:58:19 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218885107 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218885845 Life after high school is a big transition for many people.  Some people go to college, some people get jobs right out of high school, some join the military, and who knows what else people do.  No matter what you choose to do, there are always ways to stay in touch with some of you close high school friends.  We live in a world of technology and so most of the ways to keep in contact with your former high school buddies are video chat, texting, talking on the phone, and Snapchat or any other social media platforms.  If you want to go old school that is cool too.  You can always be pen pals and write to each other.  Lastly, breaks from college are also a good time to visit old friends while you are all at home.     ]]> 2018-01-05 05:23:18 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218885845 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886090 You can tell that you are in a bad friendship if the other person doesn't respect your time; tries to change you; asks too much of you; never returns favors; never follows through on anything; makes you feel guilty; ignores you while in a group; doesn't listen; uses you for their own benefit. ]]> 2018-01-05 05:32:50 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886090 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886214 The first thing you should do is give it some thought, and make sure you really don’t want to be their friend anymore.  After you have made your decision, think about what you are going to say and how you say it.  Don’t get mutual friends, or anyone else for that matter, involved because that will make it an even messier situation. When you do it, it’s better to do it in person or over the phone so they can’t show other people what you say, and so they can’t use what you say against you.

]]> 2018-01-05 05:39:52 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886214 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886260 Everyone is different so what is about to be listed might be good for some people, while it might be not so good for others.  Some ways to get over the break up are taking some time to mourn; deleting old texts and conversations over social media; unfollowing them on social media; writing down how you feel; getting rid of things that remind you of them or old pictures you have. Some things to keep in mind are that you will find new friends and you shouldn't blame yourself because people change and as they change, so do their interests. You really should look on the bright side of thing, and get out of the house and go do something. ]]> 2018-01-05 05:41:54 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886260 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886357 As mentioned previously, friendships aren't only one sided.  Here are some ways to show appreciation for your friend an be an even better friend than you already are.  Give thanks and make sure they know you really appreciate all that you do for them; do them favors; apologize; reach out to them if you haven't heard from them in a while; share happy memories with them; give them compliments; listen to their problems and ask questions. If you are doing these things, keep it up. If you are not doing these things then maybe you should start. ]]> 2018-01-05 05:48:13 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886357 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886459 This topic is important to me because I will have so many relationships throughout my life weather they are boyfriends or just friends it’s good to know that I can identify when things are going well or if I should cut it off and move on.  I believe that it is very important to have friends in your life, and I don’t even want to imagine what it would be like to live in a world without friends.  The more the better but it’s also really nice to have a few close friends too that you can have a strong relationship with and there will be setbacks and fights but as long as both people are willing to and can get through it, that is what’s important.]]> 2018-01-05 05:54:39 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218886459 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218887443 2018-01-05 06:26:50 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/218887443 17657 https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/219020101 2018-01-05 19:16:24 UTC https://padlet.com/17657/26pwblwn7ikj/wish/219020101