Jake Williams by https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake Life with Jake en-us 2020-03-27 15:06:15 UTC 2025-11-17 20:28:09 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/1f355.png JAKE https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/478599565 Jake is a 26-year-old male living in Chicago, IL, and is a single father of an infant child.  Jake is currently employed as a pizza delivery driver and struggles with alcohol abuse.  
- In general, parental acceptance and psychological control in childhood and adolescence predicted all aspects of well-being during the transition to adulthood. Substance use during this transition was linked with being male, White, and heightened parental psychological control.
(Plummer Lee, C., Beckert, T., & Marsee, I. 2018)]]> 2020-03-27 15:13:28 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/478599565 Self-Concept & Self Discrepancy mhillman0320 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491272047 -Jake desires to be a father that's present and provides/cares for his son, but he knows his alcohol abuse hinders that

-Is aware of the self-discrepancy between who he is and who he wants to be; the stark difference affects his self-esteem
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-04-03 14:47:40 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491272047 Self-Esteem mhillman0320 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491287980 -Big gap in self-discrepancy makes Jake feel worthless and like there is no hope; he repeatedly turns to alcohol when feelings of worthlessness and failure as a father plague him
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-04-03 14:53:56 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491287980 Coping Process kmartinez0720 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491289457 Due to Jake having hangovers, he starts to become late to work. Realizing that it is harming him financially, he begins the process of improving his time management.

Jake in this case is present oriented, he is focused on the now and not worried about the future consequences. 

(Weiten, Dunn, & Hammer,  2018)]]> 2020-04-03 14:54:35 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491289457 Physical Health cwilliams0802 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491316504 -Drinks heavily every day after work; consumes 5 or more alcoholic drinks each day; his drinking causes impaired judgement even though he does not see it at the time of drinking. 

-Heavy drinking causes short-term health issues such as hangovers daily. Hangovers cause Jake to be irritable, tired, and have frequent headaches.

-Heavy, continuous drinking causes blackouts; they cause Jake to not remember things from the night before. In turn, causes Jake to be a neglectful parent to his infant son. 
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)
]]> 2020-04-03 15:05:30 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491316504 References mhillman0320 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491347888 -Plummer Lee, C., Beckert, T., & Marsee, I. (2018). Well-being and Substance Use in Emerging Adulthood: The Role of Individual and Family Factors in Childhood and Adolescence. Journal of Child & Family Studies, 27(12), 3853–3865. https://doi-org.proxygsu-gamc.galileo.usg.edu/10.1007/s10826-018-1227-9
-Robson, S., & Salcedo, N. (2014). Alcohol and Drug Use. In Behavioral Fitness and Resilience: A Review of Relevant Constructs, Measures, and Links to Well-Being (pp. 13-20). RAND Corporation. Retrieved from www.jstor.org/stable/10.7249/j.ctt14bs379. 10
-Weiten, W., Dunn, D.S., & Hammer, E.Y. (2018). Psychology applied to modern life:
Adjustment in the 21st century. Boston: Cengage

]]> 2020-04-03 15:18:05 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491347888 Personality cwilliams0802 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491362376 Jake’s Personality is more along the lines of a A-. This is because while Jake is not an angry person or impatient, he does have strong competitive behaviors toward himself. He is very much driven by this own personal self-doubt. This gets in the way of him leading the life desires to have and has caused him to have a substance abuse problem. 
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-04-03 15:24:01 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491362376 Stress & Behavioral Response mwittrock0804 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491579666 Jake’s dual responsibilities as breadwinner and caregiver of his son have become increasingly stressful. Although Jake has conformed to his position as a pizza delivery driver, the long hours and low pay have influenced his internal fears and anxieties.  Jake’s demands of parenting exceed his availability to be with his son which contributes to higher levels of psychological stress.  Jake disassociates himself by using alcohol as a coping mechanism, indulging himself in denial and self-blame.

(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)

]]> 2020-04-03 17:01:10 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/491579666 Ending Relationships mhillman0320 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/528539757 -Relationship with girlfriend ended on bad terms (girlfriend initiated); girlfriend was dissatisfied (breakdown process) and left him with their child

-After break up, Jake became insecure in himself

-Few years later, Jake hasn't moved on; still cannot fathom finding another partner
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-04-24 14:44:27 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/528539757 Inadequate Communication kmartinez0720 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/528587997 After Jake and his girlfriend had their first child, their communication with each other began to lack more and more as time went on. This was a big factor of the break up between the two.
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-04-24 15:01:22 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/528587997 Why Relationships End..... mwittrock0804 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/528824164 Jake’s attempts to acknowledge his initial breakup with his girlfriend come to fruition as he attempts to regain parental communication with her.  Jake recognizes their ineffective communication style by acknowledging the poor conflict management skills which ultimately ended their relationship.  With the lack of commitment from his girlfriend coupled with her withdrawal, Jake's hopes for communication on a salubrious level have diminished.]]> 2020-04-24 16:31:09 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/528824164 Gender Expectations mhillman0320 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/544186658 -Being an only father reinforces Jake's need to be achievement oriented; he feels the need to make sure he and his child have everything they need in life; his productivity should bear fruit

-Suffers emotionally due to constant pressure to live a better life; lacks the ability to express emotion due to "men don't cry" expectation, even though he has every right to be stressed and frustrated
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-05-01 14:48:22 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/544186658 Sex and Dating cwilliams0802 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/544206511 Due to the lack of communication Jake had with his girlfriend, this caused lots of disparities within their sexual relationship. Some of those were, fear, Jake being concerned about pleasing his partner. The girlfriend not responding to Jake's advances.   
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-05-01 14:56:58 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/544206511 Communicating about Sex kmartinez0720 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/544209580 One of the factors in Jake's relationship downfall was the lack of communication about sex. Him and his partner at the time did not communicate about their sex drives.  
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-05-01 14:58:17 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/544209580 Self-Esteem & Emotional Expression mwittrock0804 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/544573066 Parenting alone can be a thankless job and filled with overwhelming responsibility.  Jake's lack of self-esteem seems apparent at times.  Jake realizes the resilience involved in being a single parent and is learning to identify his psychological wounds which include his emotional expressions in front of his child.  Jake is working towards a purposeful way of living that will incorporate daily rituals that are self-affirming.
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-05-01 17:43:13 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/544573066 Mindfulness kmartinez0720 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/559953906 Even though Jake gets intoxicated every now and then, he keeps in mind that what he does in his life will impact his child's life as well.

Jake realizes he must keep a positive surrounding in order for his child to grow up in a positive environment.
(Weitan, Dunn, & Hammer, 2018)  ]]> 2020-05-08 14:40:10 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/559953906 Career vs. Job mhillman0320 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/559966145 -Since Jake is a single father trying to make ends meet, he isn't occupied with having a career that meets his personality and strengths.

-Jake is more concerned with bringing in some form of income, even if that means the work environment doesn't fit his capabilities
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-05-08 14:44:49 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/559966145 Education and Earnings cwilliams0802 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/560147470 While Jake is a high school graduate due to his drinking and being a single father he hasn't been able to attain a college education.  Therefore, Jake struggles with his employment choices. He knows if he had a better education and better life choices he would be able to attain more satisfying employment. 
(Weitan, Dunn, Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-05-08 15:55:02 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/560147470 Positive Moods mwittrock0804 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/560424760 Jake's positive moods seem to promote a positive influence on the health and development of his child.  Jake's new insights seem to provide critical both in his survival and prosperity of his overall well-being.  
(Weitan, Dunn, & Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-05-08 17:55:09 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/560424760 Effects of Alcohol mhillman0320 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/575280702 -Coping with alcohol doesn't come without effects...

-When alcohol is abused (used as coping mechanism) it further impairs one's ability to cope in a healthy manner

-Also aids in development of anxiety if not already present
(Robson, Salcedo, 2014)]]> 2020-05-15 14:47:18 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/575280702 Psychotherapy cwilliams0802 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/575304966 Jake understands that his drinking is affecting his ability to gain better employment and providing a better outcome for his infant son. Therefore, Jake reaches out to his doctor for help. Jake's doctor prescribes him medication for his drinking and helps him find a therapist to assist with working through his struggles. 
(Weitan, Dunn, & Hammer, 2018)]]> 2020-05-15 14:55:56 UTC https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/575304966 Conclusion mwittrock0804 https://padlet.com/cwilliams0802/lifewithjake/wish/575729024 Jake's therapy sessions have put Jake in a better place.  Jake has learned that addiction is a choice; if he continues down this path, the predisposition to his child could be detrimental.  Jake is embracing his recovery journey through psychotherapy and his new self-esteem and mindfulness voyage has led him to where he is now.  

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