https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh Think back to a time when you received messages about race. How old were you? Who said it? What did they say? Was the message +/-/~? en-us 2020-06-09 21:35:39 UTC 2025-12-09 17:33:22 UTC hello@padlet.com rebbykern https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619620944 That as a white girl, I was 'different' for wanting to have dark skinned babydolls. I remember family members making comments that I always had my two dark skinned babydolls with me -- they couldn't believe my mom would buy them for me.]]> 2020-06-09 21:36:18 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619620944 rebbykern https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619621169 I had very close friends who were POC, yet I would sit at my very racist grandfather's house and have to "shut up and listen" as he spewed hate. 

]]> 2020-06-09 21:36:31 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619621169 rebbykern https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619621347 My peers as early as elementary school questioned my race and skin color, though I was adopted and didn't ever know I was black and white until age 28. 
Negative.]]> 2020-06-09 21:36:44 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619621347 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665603 When I was in high school, I wanted to go on a date to the movies with a POC. I was told that I could not go by my mom because "of how it would to others." She stated she didn't care but that it would look bad to others. Clearly an excuse.]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:45 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665603 diosawellness https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665667 I remember my parents telling us how much they struggle and sacrifice to make sure that as immigrants we always lived in the "good neighborhoods" so that we went to the good white schools. ]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:50 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665667 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665691 When I was in elementary school and at a baseball field with my Mom, a girl my age asked why I was brown and my Mom was peach. I knew I was adopted from a very young age so was very proud to tell her I was adopted from Colombia. It was positive but very easily could have been negative had her reaction been different. ]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:52 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665691 alsacedickerson https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665694 When in 5th grade I remember scantron tests.  and particularly having to select race. feeling very uncomfortable just selecting "Black/African American" because I felt it discounted my mothers heritage as a pacific islander and asian american woman. Refusing to select one answer I received mt scantron back and my teacher had selected Black/african american rather than accepting my answer. I was so Frustrated to have somone else Label me.
When growing up in Rural Virginia and being multiracial (non white) it was very interesting being the only "black person" in classes then when leaving classes not being "black enough" to hang out/be accepted by other black students.]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:52 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665694 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665719 Negative. 

]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:54 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665719 sarahcfaircloth https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665749 I had friends of color when really young, then moved to area with no BIPOC. When I moved back to FL, I would hear one of my favorite aunts degrade BIPOC. There would be segregated tables in the cafeteria once we hit middle school.]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:56 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665749 sarahmychal88 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665762  I went to a Montessori school that was extremely diverse/multicultural. I remember having days attributed to celebrating differences and learning about others. Then, for my freshman year, I went to a public school in rural NC. The divide between groups of people almost exclusively based on race was new to me. My initial learnings about race and differences were positive, my understanding at about 14 that this wasn't how the world would always be, was negative. 

]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:57 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665762 hunter77 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665767 I have two half brothers that are POC and one of my earliest memories  is someone telling me that they couldn't be my brothers because we didn't look a like. I was only 6, so I didn't understand that they were my half-brothers, not just my brothers, let alone a different race. I am remember feeling very confused and upset. Negative.]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:58 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665767 kylehall3 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665772 I had a friend who was a POC in kindergarten and he asked to spend the night. Every day after that he always asked if he could come home with me from school. I didn't understand that there could be such a difference in peoples lives at that time, based only on the color of skin.

]]> 2020-06-09 22:25:58 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665772 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665787 Living with white grandparents and friends asked why I didn't "LooK" like them. Being chased around the playground with people making hand over mouth "indian" sound to make fun of me. Negative

]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:00 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665787 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665795 My earliest memory of having been taught racist beliefs was about 4 or 5 years old.  I was at a friends house and there was a photo of her sister with a Black boy at a dance.  I vividly remember questioning my friend why her sister was allowed to go to a dance with him because I had been taught interracial dating / marriage wasn't acceptable.  ]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:00 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665795 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665798 my first boyfriend was a black boy name James and I adored him.  I didn't 'see' the issue going out with him.  and i remember comments made by people around me 'well as long as you don't marry him' and it was triggering for me.  I remember feeling confused.  There are many positive memories but also negative emotions. 

]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:01 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665798 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665803 When I was in elementary school (maybe 1st grade?) I was really good friends with my bus driver and her daughter who were black. I spent the night at their house and became close to their family. One day her mom pulled me aside and emphasized that although we are friends we are very different because of race and I need to understand that. First time my eyes were opened to that no matter how close we will be friends, we will always have inherent differences.  ]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:01 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665803 yogawithvivian https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665804 I was five years old ]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:01 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665804 jennycore704 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665870 When I was in middle school, I remember a conversation with some girlfriends about dating and I brought up that I was attracted to the black boys and I can still picture the looks on their faces of disapproval as if I wasn't supposed to have those feelings, which broke my heart :(]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:07 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665870 hanelisrich https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665874 I remember in elementary school, one of the only Black kids in my class was from Nigeria. Other kids joked around with him about his name and I remember feeling discomfort around it but not knowing what to do with that confusion.]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:07 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665874 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665887 The most notable message I got was when I came home with my boyfriend and his Black friend. My dad left the house and my mom told me to leave because my dad might have a heart attack. I felt so abandoned.
I remember my relatives and friends saying things like monkeys to refer to Black people. 
NEGATIVE]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:08 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665887 holliilderton https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665894 I remember being a child (maybe 10) visiting my grandparents at the beach when my grandmother made a negative comment about there being a lot of black people at the beach we were visiting. I knew then, that she was wrong, but I din't know how to speak up to her. Negative.]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:08 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665894 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665966 I do not recall my earliest interactions as a child. It was my late teens. When I moved from a predominantly white neighborhood to Queens, NY where it was incredibly diverse. This was on some level culture shock. I had known very few if any BIPOC. ]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:13 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619665966 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666023 I was dating a POC in middle school and his ex-gf who was also a POC harassed me so much until I broke up with him. She did not think he should be dating a white girl.

]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:19 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666023 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666031 I can't access memories of race from an early age, but a close friend in high school dated a Black person and her parents found out and made them break up.  It was confusing and 

]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:20 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666031 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666248 2020-06-09 22:26:32 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666248 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666317 Growing up with close friends that were POC and having your relatives make comments like, "You better not bring a black boyfriend home." Yet my family was friendly to my friends on a surface level, apparently. ]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:38 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666317 susanne151 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666513 Was one of the only black children in my school in Tacoma Washington and he was killed accidentally by a younger cousin playing with a loaded gun in their house.  This was during the Vietnam war.  He was a very close friend of my older sisters.  There was a lot in the silence that he died because he was black.]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:52 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666513 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666611 I went to Catholic school in south Charlotte growing up and there were very few people of color in my classes/grades almost every year and I always felt like they must feel lonely or left out.]]> 2020-06-09 22:26:59 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666611 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666682 In 4th grade, my friends and I were taking a picture at school (with a disposable camera) on the playground and my friend Alexa didn't want our classmate Simone in the picture with us because she was black. We didn't understand and she told us her parents said "black people are bad". We didn't say anything when Alexa told Simone to get out of the picture.]]> 2020-06-09 22:27:05 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666682 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666696 My best friend in elementary school was African American and my mother wouldn’t let her sleep over because she wasn’t white]]> 2020-06-09 22:27:06 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666696 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666855 From a very young age, probably elementary school age my grandparents told me the Bible said not to mix races. When I grew up to have interracial relationships, they still insisted that the Bible stated this and that I should not marry the POC I was dating at the time

]]> 2020-06-09 22:27:19 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619666855 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619667810 2020-06-09 22:27:48 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619667810 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619667838 My parents were always accepting of my black friends in high school and middle school, and they always had black friends.  When it came to dating, they were "iffy" about it.  I was also afraid to date black boys in school, because the black girls did not like it when they liked a white girl.]]> 2020-06-09 22:27:51 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619667838 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668004 My parents said if I watched BLACK RAP on MTV that the police would come to the house and I'd be in trouble ]]> 2020-06-09 22:28:05 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668004 hunter77 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668081 I was ou  ]]> 2020-06-09 22:28:12 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668081 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668100 My cousins would tease me because of my lighter complexion.  I'm lighter than most in my family.

]]> 2020-06-09 22:28:13 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668100 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668175 It wasn’t until I moved to USA that I experienced this. In Ecuador most people are dark complexion but everyone gets along without seen color of the skin. In USA I’m too white for my own people. I experience Hispanic people being racist towards me when they think I’m white but when they hear my name or my accent everything changes and they are nice. It’s WILD  this is the first time I have actually shared this. I’ve never typed it or said it to anyone... it’s weird. ]]> 2020-06-09 22:28:20 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668175 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668201 My grandmother always tells the story about her parents first meeting with my grandfather. He has darker skin and gets very tan in the summertime. Her parents would not allow her to see him at first because they believed he was black. When my grandparents decided to get married, they were not allowed to have a formal wedding because her parents did not approve. I first heard this story when I was very young — I’ve always been aware of it. NEGATIVE]]> 2020-06-09 22:28:22 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668201 meghanbullock1 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668497 Sometime in middle/high school my father Said something about not going in certain stores because “those stores are ethnic if you know what I mean”]]> 2020-06-09 22:28:42 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668497 yogawithvivian https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668522 It was when I went to school (first grade) that I first saw anyone who was different outside of white people. 

]]> 2020-06-09 22:28:44 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619668522 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619669278 I never experienced racism until I moved to the south for college - there, they had a separate white bar vs the POC bar, it was shocking ]]> 2020-06-09 22:29:42 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619669278 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619669638 i grew up in a small town with only 3 black families - i was one of the few white friends their kids had - i grew up hearing stories of my father marching, shutting down campuses & striking for equal rights in his past. i never understood that i was supposed to be doing something instead of just being there. ]]> 2020-06-09 22:30:10 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619669638 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619680729 2020-06-09 22:42:50 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/619680729 small63 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/622879535 - I remember being told I could only play in the backyard due to the riots in DC after Dr. King was assassinated.
- I remember in HS, the division and bias was more about socio-economics than color. ]]> 2020-06-11 17:34:39 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/622879535 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/629054771 I lived in a town with only 2 black families.  During my sophomore/ junior year of high school our town started busing in BIPOC from other districts to help with our diversity numbers.  I remember the students that were bused in were treated differently/ looked down upon.]]> 2020-06-16 14:36:33 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/1m4rx1gmyyu1z7fh/wish/629054771